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jumadel
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well im 16/f
and well you see my brother is 19 but has friends that are 17. well my best friend liked one of my brothers old friends and they are now going out but before it was two of my brothers friends and then me and my best friend. well my friend and one of my brothers friend (jeff) were together and watchin a movie and then it was me and my other brothers friend (aaron) well i didnt like aaron i barely knew him so it was awkward..we were spread out when watching the movie when my friend and jeff were cuddling. so then aaron left for a sec and i was bored by myself and i was sitting on his bed trying on his hats and stuff and then aaron comes back and we start flirting like he grabs me we start wrestling im laying in his arms and im thinking this is kinda weird...me and one of my brothers friends? well i think he tried to kiss me but i kinda ignored it because i didnt want to kiss him..i mean it was my brothers friend!!! i barely knew him. he was singing let it burn by usher to me too lol. when we got home that night he told my friend on the computer that he was starting to like me and asked what i thought about him. but one time i was at my grandmas and i came in and then he was swimming with my brother and cousin and he told my cousin..oh my wife is here! hahaa. and tonight we had some texas hold em party and then like..it was my brother aaron and then my cousin downstairs and then my other cousin and my best friend upstairs. well they call me downstairs and aaron is like i told you not to wear those pants! im like what i dont get it? and my brother is like he thinks your his wife..or thats what he calls you because you two are gonna get married when you get older like joking but i kinda think aaron still likes me? my aunt says that one night he was over he stared at me everytime i came in the room he was in. hes not that attractive but hes SOO NICE AND FUNNY. its unbelieveable and my parents love him since they see him all the time because of my brother. tonight he also was like hey ...have you ever had a boyfriend before? and sadly i was like nope...and hes like why not and i just walked out the door i was really embarassed because ive never been asked out before and didnt feel like talking about it!! do you think aaron likes me? or what..or just likes kidding around with me. im unsure about him because i always hear him talking about other girls and everything so i dont know if he just sees me and my brothers little sis or as someone he could have a relationship with. because he liked me before but now my cousin thinks he still likes me? what do you think. my brother doesnt mind either i guess??? since aaron said that to my friend when she was talkin to him that one night because i said it would be weird with my brother and all. my brother finds it funny somehow. i dont want to ask my brother either because then he will be like OooOh why you like aaron? im telling him. my brother..is just a brother you know how they are.
well thank you! (link)
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i think he really likes you, no guy would go to all that trouble for a girl for no reason. besides if he's your brother's friend he can't be all that bad can he? your brother doesn't seem to mind but if you still think he may be just playing with you go ask your brother and suss him out before you make up your mind about him. i mean really if he's going into the 'she's my wife' no matter how joking it seems at that time i don't really think any guy would say that unless he was really serious about a girl. relax, i really think he geuninely likes you but in the event that he hurts you emotionally or physically remember you have your brother. no one in their right minds would mess with their friend's younger sister unless they are asking for a death scentence. hope that helps and good luck!
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I just turned 13, and I've been beging my mother to get my hair dyed black since I was 11. Since it's summer I also want blue highlights (temorary!)She still hasen't given in. How should I convince her? (link)
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have you asked your mother why she has refused to let you dye your hair? and dying your hair black doesn't usually work very well with many people, perhaps your mother fears that if she lets you dye your hair black you may regret the decision? what ever her reasons not to let you dye your hair you need to know before you try to convince her of anything. hope that helps! and go talk to your mother about why she is refusing to let you dye your hair - before that you can't do anything really because you've got nothing to bargain on, or to argue on at any rate.
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My friends birthday is coming up. She's turning 12. She plays the drums and loves anime but she's alergic to make up. My other friend and I want to take her some where special. I also need to buy her a gift, but my friend bought exectly what I was going to buy her (a pair of drumsticks and some thing else.) It's my job to choose where to take her, but it can't be expincive. Where should I take her? What should I buy her? Any thing will help
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how about a manga?(mangas are like anime only that it's a comic book) something that your friend needs (as the drumsticks suggestion was taken up how about something else that she might need? anything she needs for school? or any activity your friend likes that requires something that isn't too expensive? or a friendship braclet? something with sentiments work well.) as for a place to take your friend how about the movies? i'm not sure but anywhere where you and your friends regard as a special place ought to do. hope that helps! and wish your friend a happy 12th birthday for me =]
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What can a 13 year old do to get money? I'm almost desperate. I seriously have no money, neither does my family. I just need some ideas to earn some extra money.
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i'm not sure when the starting age to work is over there but you could try baby-sitting, or you could offer to clear up some neighbour's yard for money. odd jobs here and there should be able to give you some extra cash in hand. if the legal age to start working over there is 13 you could try and apply for some part time work. however if it's at a higher age such as 16 or 18 i suggest you do odd-jobs for neighbours and such. hope that was helpful!
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I had been into a net relationship with a boy from Aus for the past 4 years. We never heard each others voice or ever saw each other (except thru the net pics we shared).Four years was a long time to me and I could not stand the pain of being away from my loved one for so long.I desperately loved him.There was a time when he took me for granted and stopped being in touch.But then he was sorry and came back.And he really changed. But loving a boy on the net so desperately and knowing that I would not be able to see him for the next few years was a real pain and so I backed off from the relationship. He asked for a reason and I gave it to him. His answer was something like..."Sweetheart, Thank you for replying back and wish you all the success for the future. I like to walk in the rain cuz no one can see me crying... Good Bye. Yours__Michael"
It was a pain to me too but I don't think he thinks so. Its so hurting. I've been a failure in relationships even in the past and I don't feel like going for a relationship ever again.But deep down I secretly long for a person to love me.Though I have a lot of really good friends, I long for someone who'll call me his own.I know I am loved and wanted but the feeling remains.I try to distact myself by engaging myself in activities but nothing helps.And I can just not stop crying and like to stay all alone. Please help me!! (link)
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maybe he took your answer to backing down on your relationship as you wanting to break it off with him? how about meeting someone new? you could go out with a few good friends to look for a new guy? i know this sounds absolutely insensitive right now but it's not really finding someone but to enjoy your friend's company and to enjoy yourself again. i'm sure you won't end up alone but for the time being it sounds like you need several shoulders to cry on and time to heal. Cry all you want and all you need; crying is actually very therephutic. right now it may seem as though the whole world is just crumbing around you but be assured it isn't you just need someone to cry on who would understand the situation and who understands you. in time you'll heal and i'm very sure that you'll find someone. i heard this once and i find it is quite true it says: everyone has the exact love life they want. if you want someone to love you you go and find it! because when you go and find it it'll find you right back =] hope you feel better soon and good luck!
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Okay, tonight, my mom got really mad at me. Like REALLY mad. And it was all over this stupid box of macaroni that she asked me to make for dinner. I read the instructions wrong, and thought that you had to let the water boil for 10 minutes before putting in the macaraoni. So anyway, she flipped out on me. And started screaming. And she slapped me twice. And i really wanted to hit her, but i didn't, i just grabbed her wrist's really hard. So she flipped out on me contiunously, and after i made dinner, she went on to say "i dont even like this crap anyway" and didn't eat all of it.
This isn't the first time she's done stuff like this and i dont know how to deal with it. what do i do? (link)
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why don't you try and talk to your mother? or if that won't work or if she becomes defensive and turns on you again try and seek help from a professional... i really don't think what is happening is right, you should work it out between you and your mother soon. hope that helps =]
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I"m 16 and I've had my period for a year and a 1/2 now, but in the past few months I've experienced what I guess would be called "Spotting" its just a little bit of blood in my underwear but there is none on the tissue when I wipe. What should I do to prevent this? or Is there anything I can do? and Should I mention this to my doctor when I go?
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first off you should go and see a doctor about that, but because you've only started your periods not too long ago i think it may just be some adjustment your body is making however if this persists you really should go and see a doctor. hope that helped =]
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Hi! I'm a big fan of Inkheart and Artemis Fowl. What are some other good fantasy books I might enjoy? I don't like the kind where people or creatures have too weird freaky abilities. I prefer them to be a little more normal. Thanks for suggestions! (link)
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twilight by Stephenie Meyer is really good, how ever it does have some elments of romance in it as well as vampires... i really recomend that book, it's so good. hope that helped =]
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HI, im just wondering if anyone could help me find any of those cute japanese online diary things that people have? Ive searched everywhere and i cant find any.....
Thank you very much!! xx (link)
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as in like online blogs such as myspace or bebo or friendster? if it is blogs you are referring to i think you can just use any blogging service and just set up a customised background etc, there are many sites where they offer codes for backgrounds and such. i hope this is what you are referring to and i hope this helps =]
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Hi, my 360 has been giving me the red ring of death whenever I turn it on, and it's only 3 of the 4 corners. I hear that's worse than all four being lit up. It won't go to the dashboard, it won't even turn on. I know it's not the power supply, and I tried everything for troubleshooting on the site. What could it be, and how much could it cost to fix it? (link)
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you could always bring it back to where you bought it from and ask for help from the people who sold you your Xbox360. it could be just a fault at manufacturing, so you probaly could get a refund on that if it's still within the warranty. hope that helps =]
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for over a month. And for the past three weeks, it has been great. We both get on really well and we both have been enjoying eachother's company. But now I feel like he doesn't want to make the effort. Nearly half the time I have to get in touch with him first. He comments other girls on a website called bebo instead of me. I dont want to sound obsessive so I have left this minor detail out from the conovsations i have with him. Many of my friend's say he doesn't realise he's doing it but I dont know. It feels like he doesn't like me as much as he used to. He always wanted to see me everyother day and now its reduced to a week where he hasnt mentioned seeing me at all. A while ago, It felt like he was ashamed of me and so I asked him, and he came back with positive comments saying he's not. I want us to stay in a relationship because I really like him. But I don't how to overcome these insercurities? I've spoken to several of my close friends and they said it's all natural to feel this way. Am I getting too attached to him? Is this the end of our relationship? (link)
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being attached to another person is never a time where one can feel totally secure you can only trust and have enough believe in your boyfriend. love wasnever secure that's probably why it requires so much work. no i don't think it's the end of your relationship, and yes it is natural to feel this way. if it's bugging you to insanity, have a talk with your boyfriend and make sure he knows you are dead serious about this issue. hope this helps! and my best wishes for you =]
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One day before gym this guy Jon was like "Matt likes you." And matt was right there. I turned to him and he must of been really embarrased so he made up a stupid reply: "Uh who are you." He knows who i am it looked like he was just embarrased. I didn't say anything, i just said to this guy Austin to change the subject "Oh you beat me in a basketball game yestrday" That was back in like February. I go to a day camp with Matt and he shows no signs of liking me or anything. Well once some people were sitting on a window ledge at camp and all the spaces were takin up except one between me and his only friend at camp. I can tell he wanted to sit down but he just stood there, so I got up and moved casually somwhere else. What do you think is up with him? (link)
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i think he does like you but he's just too shy to tell you. maybe just try to start a conversation with him and just see where that goes. hope that helps =]
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I have a computer to myself I have dial up internet. I can't seem to get call waiting for it. Whenever I am online, it blocks any phone calls and my whole family complains that they are missing phone calls because of me being online. I don't know if I can get call waiting at all. My dad says we can't for some reason, but we have call waiting otherwise, like on our phone line we have it, so why can't we get it for the computer and being online. I was wondering, does it matter was kind of computer you have or does it matter what ISP you have. Is there any way I can allow it to kick me offline when someone calls? (link)
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dial up (in my exprience) will always holdup the phone line the only way i know you can get rid of your problem is if you get broadband, because broadband uses a different line from your home phone. hope that helped.
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I defentally need some advise!Ok well theres this guy...i really love him and always have, ever since i knew Kimmy. She is 16 and just recentally moved from Mongolia, so obviously her and her family are oriental. The only problem is the guy im madly in love with is her dad, Sanneybobo. I mean its not like hes married or anything. Well he was. It was just a fling, i know he really digs me! Hes 57 and i am 16. Do you think its too much of an age diffrence or will the love we both share for each other shine trough? Please tell me what you think! (link)
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i agree with jumadel the age gap is really too large...
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I was considering buying some colored eyeliner. But then i started thinking, is that tacky? Is it better to just stick to black and brown liner? Also i was wondering if colored liners come in liquid. I really need to buy some new make-up i have some MAC eyeshadow and i really like it so is there any similar kind of high-end make-up that isn't to expensive.I know that this is a lot of questions in one but, does it look better to line the top thin or thick and line just the top or does it look better to line the top and bottom. Sometimes when i line the bottom of my eye the liquid will get it with my contact.
So just any thoughts on this would be awesome.
Sorry its kind of long. (link)
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its up to you really - wearing coloured eyeliner doesn't look tacky unless you wear it with something off. personally i don't think coloured eye-liner is tacky because well my friends use coloured eyeliner and it looks pretty good. and yes i think coloured eyeliners are also avilable in liquid. but i'm not too sure about another brand of makeup being cheap but good as well... you might be able to get help from a make-up counter in a department store, just ask the lady there about the best kind of make-up for teens that isn't too expensive and you can also ask her to show you if it's better to line the top thin or thick etc. alternativly you could just exprient at home, do all the combinations of make-up you can think of and decide for yourself (or even have a friend over to help you) what suits you the best.
i hope this helps! and sorry if it's too long....
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I get this stuff, like white stuff, by my vagina. & it like smells bad. & i've probaly sprayed myself so much with perfume its like annoying. & like it just comes back like right away! Like in 2 hours. Its like a really strong bad smell. I don't get what it is.? thanks.
one more question..
what is a vibrator? Like sexs wise or something? i hear people say that & i dont get it. (link)
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you might like to see a doctor about that, it could be anything from your vagina producing too much yeast and anti-bactrial stuff or it could be just that you are growing and the hormones are yet to sort theselves out properly but it's best to consult a doctor.
A vibrator (and i hope you are old enough for me to answer this question) is pretty much a sex toy it's masturbation gone high tech pretty much. hope that helped.
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I'm a bit worried. I found a small lump which I think is the color black under the skin of my vagina. It has been there for a while but I have just recently become concerned with it and I thought I should get an opinion before consulting with my mother or doctor. Could you please tell me if this is something I should be concerned about? (link)
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i think you should go and see a doctor about that, there really isn't much we can advice you on except to go and see a doctor... hope you go soon =]
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My brother and I threw this big 4th of July party at our beach house so of course there were some random people there that we didn't know. Well my brother overheard this one girl talking smack about me (I don't get why she'd come to my party if she has a problem with me but whatever) so he went up to her and told her to leave. They started arguing, he called her a bitch for what she was saying and how she was acting so she punched him right in the jaw and it busted his lip. I saw his fist clinch after she hit him but he held back and told her to get the fuck out or he'd make her leave. She left.
I was about to punch her back for punching him but he told me to not get involved. Actually, I kind of wanted him to punch her lol. I mean, I'm all about guys not hitting girls but it really ticks me off when girls hit guys just because they know the guy won't hit him back.
So I was just wondering what you guys would have done in this situation.
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you should just leave it as is. your brother was right not to involve you. you may be angry that she hit him but it was the right thing for your brother not to involve you.
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im trying to translate a few phoenetic chinese phrases, so i cant use babel fish
wo xi huan chi fan.
Ni shi wo de nupengyou ma?
Em nhieu dep!
Zai nar ni de tiao zi?
I managed to break the first one down into "i like chinese food" but i have no idea what the other 3 say. (link)
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i can't make out the 3rd one
Zai nar ni de tiao zi?=where is this address?
Ni jin tian he le niu nai ma? = have you drunk milk today?
Wo yi fu le yo zon zi. = can onluy make out half.. the front says = my shirt/clothes then i can't make it out...
Wo shi ni de zen toe. = i am your pillow (although i don't think a real pillow can say that...)
Sifu. = teacher
hope that helps =]
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hey ok i got my period like umm about a year to a year and a half ago. i dont kno if that is necesarry to know but like now i have it again i got it last wednesday and today is Saturday. it has been really light where as i only need to wear like a really thin pad or whatever. but sometimes it comes out heavy for like an hour or something. now i was wondering like should i expect to have my period a little longer htan normal since its really light? or should i plan on it ending tomorrow like myne normally end? (link)
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for the first 2 days you should wear a regular pad and if it gets lighter as in light enough to wear a liner then do so but if it still bleeds heavily use the regular pads.
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