Hello my name is Sarah and my friends always tell me i give good advice so i figured i would give this a try. i hope i can help some people but if you dont like my advice i am sorry but i will try to help the best i can. =]
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i am 13 and i weigh 68-70 pounds, and all my friends talk about how skinny and pretty i am, well i think im too skinny and i have tried sooooo hard to gain weight, i had to go to the childrens hospital and they couldnt figure out why im so skinny, and when i say i've tried to gain weight i really have tried, i eat like a freaking pig, all my friends wander how i can eat so much and still be skinny, any advice?'ve done the mccdonalds diet for getting fat... doesnt work. (link)
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don't eat like a pig. you wont gain wait but you will become unhealthy. try to eat 4 meals a day (breakfast,lunch,afternoon,dinner). do it HEALTHY. i mean a little mcdonalds isn't bad but dont go on a "mcdonalds diet". eat more diary prducts (milk,cheese, etc).
you just have a really fast metabolism (spelling?..). as you get older it will slow down. dont worry to much about your weight unless your doctor says something.
hope that helps =]
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im not talking about the movie "the notebook" im talking about the actually BOOK "the notebook"... where do i buy it? is it at any bookstore or do i have to order it? thanks. (link)
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i saw it at Waldenbooks yesterday. and that means Borders and Barnes and Nobles must have it because they are a MUCH bigger and popular book store. hope that helps.
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okay im 14/f.
i started babysitting at the beginning of the school year. the lady who hired me said that she needed someone she would be able to rely on. she pays really good money but recently her hours got changed and i'm working 3:30 to 6:00 when usually i only did 3:30 to 5:00. i don't even get to eat with my family. and when i get home all i wanna do is just go to bed.
the kids are fucked up. they get disciplined but their mother just laughs when she yells at them. they're really spoiled and get their way all the time.
the other day i was watching them and i was swinging on this swing. well their dog attacked me for no reason. when i told the mother she said "oh sometimes you just need to hit him" he even ripped my pants! there's a small hole in the pants and there's a HUGE bruise on my leg from where he bit me.
when i got my paycheck their was no money for the pants that the dog ripped. i'm really sick of them and i wanna quit but i don't know how to say it. if the dog bites me again i'll have no problem but what should i do in the mean time? i was thinking of giving her my two weeks notice but chickened out. what do i say?
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well you could just tell her....but i know thats not easy....i'm not sure if this is good advice but i would probably say something like:
"my grades are slipping at school and i need to focus" or "my parents want me home more for ::insert reason here::"
hope that helps!
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I'm going on holiday with my friend in the summer and I am a very picky eater!!! I have given her a basic list of what I really don't like and like, totally won't eat, but Iunno, there's obviously going to be other stuff they feed me that I don't like. So I'm gonna take a bit of food in my suitcase just in case. I've already thought of cereal bars and crisps but is there anything else I could take? Ignore the fact that I'm a picky eater, just say anything you can think of. If it's a good idea but I don't like the food then I'll still rate high because you tried. (link)
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try snack pack things like mini bags of cheez-its, cookies, fruit snacks, chips, (pre popped) popcorn, granola bars, etc
or you can buy one of those cold lunch box/ mini cooler things put in an ice pack healthy food in it like: baby carrots, cucumber, green beans, lettuce, apples, oranges, cheese sticks, etc.
hope that helped
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I've been wanting to ask, what's emo? I've heard it a lot, but don't have a clue as to what it is, and nobody would tell me because they are such teases. (link)
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emo means emotional. usually refering to the type of music.
dont listen to people who say "all emo kids cut, are depressed, wear black, cry all the time, etc" because thats not true. emo is my favorite type of music. my favorite color is purple and i wear pink alot. i dont have depression and i have NEVER cut.
hope that helped.
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hey! im doing a project for school and i need to collect some data about things some teens do that they realy dont want to just to fit in. if u could tell me all the things that u did just to fit in, it would help. thanx
ps: annyone who ansers will get a 5 rateing unless they r joking or being rood or whatever (link)
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Well i stopped doing most of these but i used to:
-buy clothes and sneakers i didnt like but everyone else did
-cut my hair the way my friends did
-listened to rap/hip hop (which i now hate)
-talked about someone just because everyone else did (jeez i was mean in elementary school...)
-bought cool glittery pencils and/or gel pens.
- got a screen name
- almost dyed my hair
hope that helped =]
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I have this problem you could say, but whenever I find a neat, original band and I put their song in my info or something, somebody always steals it. Not only that, they think they know all about the band because they know part of one song. I know this is very selfish of me to think one band is labeled "mine", but I can't help it. One of my friends stole 10 bands that I once liked. Every song that I listened to, she went off and downloaded. I know most of you are going to say "well take it as a compliment, she likes your music", but the thing is I don't take it as a compliment at all, it's quiet annoying. Does anyone have any advice on this? Do you think that what I'm doing is as stupid as I think it is? (link)
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it isn't stupid i do the same thing! haha....but it just means you (well and me...) are being a little to possessive/obsessive. if it REALLY bugs you i think you should tell your friend but try to be nice, because i dont think this is worth losing a friend over. if you really dont want someone to know dont talk about the music or write it in your profile or anything.
i hope that helps =]
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I'm 13 and in my undies I find this sorta wet gooey sticky white stuff. I haven't had my first period yet. I feel this gross wetness going into my undies during the day, and i think i'm maybe getting my period. But when i go to the bathroom, its the same wet whitish stuff. What is this stuff and does it mean anything? why do i get it? help! (link)
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what the white gooey stuff is, is just called a discharge.you are probably going to get your period soon! you should carry around a pad with you just in case and if the discharges are a problem you can buy panty liners (but they are NOT pads. dont use them as pads because they wont work lol.).
i hope that helps =]
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ok my friend called me up and told me theres this party like right up the road from me!! it starts at like 8..but im not going to ask my mom if i can go..cuz how would i word it? if you have a good idea on how to word it ..thats an automatic 5 for you guys. I was thinkin..if not to just sneak out later on. (my dad works the night shift and my mom is usually asleep by 10:30)
What would you guys do? I've never really been to a wild party..usually i jus go to small parties or sweet 16's ..that stuff. My parents would want to know if someone is home..and who knows if they would actually want to talk to the parents being that the party is right up the road from me. (link)
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uhhh im not sure if this is the adivce you want but i think you shouldnt go.
"they are breaking into it"...right there is i bad idea....
plus if you DO get caught you will be in big trouble and your parents will most likely lecture you and lose trust in you. plus if you are like me your concience will be killing you......
plus because you posted this some part of you must no its not a very good idea
hope that helped =]
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Hey, first off, let me start off by saying I'm fifteen years old and I'm a freshman in high school. I am involved in local theatre productions. For the longest time, since as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be famous. I wanted to be a model or an actress. I mean, when you really ask "what do you DREAM of doing?" I dream of singing before a crowd or being in magazines modeling or being in a film. It just seems to me that this is so out of reach and that I will never be able to be this. I kind of let it escape my mind and thought of other career options, but I think about this every once and awhile and it's hard to forget this "dream". I wonder if maybe it keeps popping in my mind for a reason? So, I was wondering if anyone could give me any insight as to how they feel about this, and whether or not you think I should pursue this and how to start. ANY sort of comment would be very helpful! (link)
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i have wanted to be a famous actress/singer ever since i was little and i think i am going to pursue it but i am pretty sure i am going to a college of acting or something JUST so i have something to fall back on if i dont make it big.
so my advice: follow your dream but try to have something to fall back on if your dream doesnt come completely true
best of luck
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What should I do if I get bullied a lot by kids at school? I go to a catholic school, too and its still happening. Junior High can definitly be tough. I get picked on by 7th graders and kids my age. What should I do? My parents and I have tried and tried but nothing has worked! I've gotten nasty emails and instant messengers, and rude and harassing phone calls. can you help me?
Deceivingxheart (link)
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Hey i am in junior high to and yeah its a rough place to be. Well if they are calling and harrasing you i think that is illegal. if they ever threaten you that is definately wrong and you need to tell someone. but if they are just being rude and immature all you can really do is stand up for yourself and try to make some NICE, TRUE friends. you can block them off your buddy list, and if you have caller I.D. dont pick up if you know it is someone mean. just try to defend yourself and say something like "it's pretty pathectic that you waste away your life trying to hurt someone else" because that is always true. kids/teenagers can be really mean but i hope things get better for you and you have some good close friends to talk to.
hope that helped
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Let me start out by saying that my sister is a nightmare. A big fat nightmare who makes your life turn into serious Hell. She is a thirteen year old snob who gets in everyones business, demands things from my parents who take it even though they don't like it. She has been damaging my life the most by trying to beat the crap out of me in front of her friends when I was severly sick, she didn't beat me up, but she kept trying to, and it made me upset, and I cried because it my body was aching. She has tried to smart mouth me in front of her friends, when my mom tells her not to do something, when shes not around, she will do it anyways, and when I try to stop her, she get up in my face, and says, "What are you gonna do about it?" Now, when things like this happens, I call my mom, and she'll just say, "stop it" even though thats probably about the hundreth time shes done it. She also lies, very bad. My parents know, but not as much, she tries spying on my phone conversations with my boyfriend, she is also known to read my other sisters diary to her friends on the phone, and laugh about it with them. She also told all of her friends something SO personal, I am not going to say, but it was so personal about my older sister. My parents do nothing about this. No matter how many times I try to ask them nicely, or I just slam it in their faces, they go talk to her, and she plays the innocent one. I told my mom tonight that she has made my life a living Hell, and all she said was, "well, she said the same thing about you" That made me so angry, because she looked at me like she believed her over me or she didn't know who to believe, HELLO! I am the innocent one here, everyone always says mean things about her, so they know shes the one whose rude! She is also known to hurt me in front of people, she'll grab underwear with blood in it, and will announce to everyone that its mine! When its really hers! I have dealt with this for a long time, and today, I just couldn't take it, I screamed in my room so loud, and tore all of the posters off of my wall, and scratched my face. I have gone crazy! When I heard somebody pick up the phone while me and my boyfriend were talking, I ran to my mom and yelled, "GET HER OFF THE PHONE NOW I HATE HER SO MUCH SOMEBODY JUST KILL HER!" And then, I went rambling on to my boyfriend how much I just want to kill her, and now I keep day dreaming about ways that I can kill her. I also kept saying, "shes a slut, a whore, a b*tch, a little sh*t, and an a*shole." I know shes a slut, but I will not get into detail about that. But I am asking somebody to please not tell me I need anger management, I know that this behavior is not abnormal, what person would not go crazy after dealing with a lying sister and parents who won't do anything about it? My behavior is scaring me, I've never hated somebody this much, I usually just like everybody, but everytime I think about wanting to kill her and it makes me feel good I get scared! I can't really talk to my parents, I've screamed it in their ears, and I've told them nicely, they don't listen to me.
Also, do not even think about having me talk to my sister, she is greedy, and selfish, all she cares about is herself, seriously, if its not her way, theres no way, shes a spoiled brat. So I guess what I'm asking is does anybody think I might be taking this too far? I know that I'm not, but does anyone think different? I know that this shouldn't get to me, but I have to live with her! I need ways to take my anger and sadness out, because all of my posters are ripped off of my wall. Also, my dad is getting me a therapist, so I can at least have somebody to talk to, but the whole time I'm probably going to ramble on about how much I hate her and wish she was dead, I have truly never felt this deeply of hate. My silly boyfriend wants me to fight her, but I'm not going to. But I hate her enough to. So, could anyone say something about this, like advice because I am in a huge puddle of misery. I just wish somebody would just think, "Maybe Sarah [me] has feelings too" when she makes fun of me, I wish she'd think, "Maybe since Sarah has depression, I shouldn't call her names because she feel pain too" And it makes me cry at night wondering how I'll ever get out of this Hell hole, somebody please give me comfort or anything that could help me. I've told my parents about my misery, so don't think that I havn't told anyone about this. I will rate. (link)
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okay i feel for you. although my brother is NO WHERE near as bad i sort of get the idea. but i think it is good that you see a therapist cause you can yell and scream and say stuff and get it out. i dont really know what to give you advice on because your parents seem pretty oblivious and well your sister...... yeah....
i dont think you should KILL you sister. because i dont believe in killing people but i hope she gets in some serious trouble for what she does to you and your sisters.
hope everything gets better
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This is a VERY long story so bear with me.
My father got re-married about three years ago. The woman he married, Karen, was perfectly nice until their wedding day, when she did a total Jekyll and Hyde (sp?) and went totally psycho. She started taking my stuff, hiding it or ripping it up, but never admitting that it was her. For a couple of years now my father's side of the family accused me of making it all up. However, about a year ago now, Karen sent a completely bitchy email, the details of which I won't bother going in to, which meant I stopped seeing her and my father's side of the family. Since then she has sent many more nasty texts and emails accusing me of all sorts and threatening to take the child benefit away from my mother, etc etc etc (I am aware that she couldn't legally do this).
Recently, her 'psycho stuff' has become a lot worse. She started sending odd letters - the address on the envelope disguised as a child's writing and saying on the back of the envelope, 'from Ryan' (Ryan is my younger cousin). Inside would be photographs of me, often cut up so I am the only one in the picture, and stuck onto a background of coloured card or paper. We knew she must be sending these because she is the only one, other than my father, with the access to these particular photographs (me on holiday with my father and Karen).
So, my (paternal) Nan confronted her and Karen has admitted that she sent the letters. She says it is because my father goes to work away a lot and she gets 'bored'. I personally feel that that doens't even qualify as an excuse to do what she has done - for weeks we had been terrified of who these letters were from, and I'm still scared to go out of the house (even into my backgarden) on my own incase she is lurking around.
Karen has since written a letter of apology to my mother's parents. WHY she sent it to them, I have no idea. My grandad doesn't want to take any further action, but there is no way that I am just sitting here and taking 'I was bored' as an excuse for putting my family through all the crap she has over the years (I have only mentioned a small amount of what she has done here). But what can I do?
She begged my grandad to NOT tell me and my mother that it was her who had sent the letters, but of course we know because WE figured it out in the first place. So, I think that if I do do anything, she will think my grandad has told me she did it, or my mother has put me up to doing whatever I would do. That means she might well hurt my grandad or my mother (I wouldn't put it past her - please no-one reply saying 'she wouldn't do that' because you don't know this woman. I do).
My mother thinks that I deserve an apology, not only from Karen but from all of my father's family for not believing me in the first place, but to me, 'sorry' just wouldn't cut it. 'Sorry' isn't a big enough word to make everything she has done go away. But what can I do? I know I could go to the police but my grandad doesn't think I should take any further action and I don't want to hurt or disappoint him. But on the other hand, there is NO WAY I am taking 'I am bored' as her reason.
There is also the problem that she doesn't know that me and my mother know she is the one who sent the letters. My father also doesn't know a THING about the letters yet, and although I don't get on with him, I want him to know - I'd want to know if my wife was doing something like that.
So, in summary, my question is: What can I do? Because there is no way I will do nothing. And how do I let Karen know that I know what she did? What else could I 'get out' of her other than an apology, something I don't want as I know it would mean nothing (she's already apologised to my grandparents, as I said, but that was only to stop them telling my father).
Sorry this was so long, and thanks in advance for any help. I'm fifteen, female, and don't see any of my father's family other than my Nan, if that helps.
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wow that is horrible. i really think this woman is crazy and you should tell your dad AND the police. "i was bored" is NOT an excuse if you were even a little kid! threatening anyone is not right. i want to right more but honestly my brain is just screaming call the cops.
i hope everything works out for you!!!
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My friend and I are good friends and have good times and stuff like that! But she always takes advantage of me. Like she will always ask me for everything and get her things and sometimes i will do it and sometimes i wont! And when im around her friends, she just doesnt talk to me she ignores me. I mean she will talk to me but not like she does when its just me and her. Her friends and I are friends too. What should i do...she does treat me like a friend its just the taking advantage part i dont like!
I will rate and give feed back :) HeLp mE
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Well, i dont think a real friend would take advantage of you. I think you should straight out ask her about it and see what she says. your only 13 and quite a few friendships dont last at this age but some do! if she keeps taking advantage of you thats just not fair/right and you should start hanging around with your other friends more.
hope i helped!
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ok im confused at school i get made fun of alot because im smart. well normally i just bottle it up and dont do anything because im weak but what i have noticed is sometimes i will get so pissed off that if anyone who hasnt even done anything to me so much as slightly bothers me i blow up at them. i guess i just want to know how can i channel my anger more so at the ppl who piss me off because i hate blowin up at my friends but i cant blow up at the ppl that make fun of me cause im weak as shit and im just confused i dont know wut to do can someone please help me.. (link)
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Hey! i know what thats like. try to tell them to leave you alone and if they really bug you just remind them you will be making lots of money while they are flipping burgers =]!...also what grade are you in? sometimes it gets better as you get older. try to defend yourself or talk to a friend to get out your anger. if someone is REALLY harassing you tell a teacher or guidance councelor.
hope that helps
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ok well im a 13 yr old female and i had my FIRST period on the 7th and now i am having it again on the 28 and i dont no if this is normal please help me and i am a virgin so i no im not pregnat
thx 4 ur help i ll hate 5's to EVERY1! (link)
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dont worry, it's normal. your period wont really have a "schedule" for about 3 years sometimes. sometimes it comes to soon and sometimes it skips a month or 2.
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ok i like this boy and he likes me ..we both like eachother alot! and i want to be his gf like so much....and i no he will totally make a great bf...cause ever since my last b-day ..nov...we have been giving each other gifts...like b-days,christmas,valentines day, and i gave him something from my vacation...he is so sweet..and caring..and always apreciates me..NEVER laughs at me...and he always talks about me to all his friends and my friends(thats how i found out!) but i think the problem might be that i think i am to young. i seriously don't know what to do... please help!!....
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well i dont know how old you are but if you really like him you should just tell him/ask him out!.......i would say your should be AT LEAST 13 if you want a semi-real boyfriend..........but if you feel uncomfortable with it go with your intincts!...if he really likes you and you like him you can both wait =]
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My boyfriend and I have been going out since around..Christmas. Anyway, last night I was home all night & really bored..and usually I'll have such an urge to get on the comp & talk to him, or call him. But last night, something was different..I felt like he just got out of my system. So, I got on the computer real late..like 10 mins before he usually goes to bed, cause I didn't feel like taling long. What's wrong? Am I just losing interest in him? And I don't know why, but the night before this happened I had a dream that he was going out with another girl. Does this mean anything? Why didn't I want to talk to him? :/ It's like..now I don't even think about him, in one day it happened. I'm confused.. (link)
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wait a few days. if this still continues talk to him and see if he feels the same. but maybe you just had a bad day. if you really like him i wish you the best but if its not working i think you should tell him. and about your dream...i think dreams are just extra thoughts in the back of our minds that we think about JUST before we fell asleep? so (im not trying to sound mean..) maybe you were feeling insecure?........but like i said wait at least a few days before doing anything rash.
i hope that helps
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hi, i'm new to this subject, how often do you recommend changing a tampon? and is it okay for ppl who just got their 'aunt flow' visit for the first time recently to wear them? thanks (link)
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okay to be SAFE you should change is every 3-4 hours. the reason is there is a disease called TSS (toxic shock syndrom) and one of the main causes is leaving in a tampon to long. and dont wear them over night even if the box says its okay...
if you have no choice and you have to leave it in for 5 hours you will most likely be fine but dont make a habit of leaving it in long.
i hope that helps =]
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i always have a hard time studing and getting focused does anyone have like any study tips that could help me cuz i get a good grade in all but usualy my mind goes blank...thnx ill rate high! (link)
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okay this seems pretty obvious to me but i hope it helps you:
study in your room or a quite, well lit room in your house
as much as i hate it no TV, radio, etc.
if you have definitions or something read them outloud so you will have to stay focused
ask someone to quiz you to see what you already know and what you need to learn
dont cram. if you have 3 days study for 10 minutes everyday
i hope that works =]
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