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I straighten my hair with a iron every morning because my hair is naturally curly and I can't anything with it. I've been Straightening it for almost a year. Now, my hair is dry, brittle, fried and i have split ends! I put hair stuff on it before i straighten it but it doesnt seem to work. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i should use to fix it or to put on it before i staighten it. Am i going to have to stop straightening my hair???

yes i would stop before you damage your hair even more. if u dont already use conditioner i would start the sleek adn shine by herbal essences works great cause i had the same problem adn now my hair is slikky smooth and people still cant believe that i straighte my hair every day and its still this soft. ^_^

I've been on birth control pills for over a year now and last night was the last blue pill in the pack. Tonight I am supposed to take the first white pill. Today after school I came home and found I had my period. I remembered to take the pill everyday but I usually dont get my period until two days with out the blue pill. Is something wrong? Will I still be protected when my period is over?

no nothing wrong but you most likely are in need of a stronger dose of birth control sicne you bleed through the pill. just go to your doctor and ask fo ra slightly higher dose adn itll all be ok.

ive been in a relationship for 2 years now. at first everything was great, we even got engaged! since then hes been acting like a jerk! he hates my job and threatens to leave me if i dont quit,everytime we fight the first thing he does is tell me to find another place to live! he puts me down alot and he is getting more controlling. he seems to have little respect for me and when i confront him about it he just turns it around. im emotionally drained! is this the real him?

yes you should leave him cauz you need to have a guy who respecets you, and someone who dnt put you down.
theres way better guys out there than him, if hes actin like this now he'll most likely act like this when ur married.

I am 14 years old girl and i get severe anxiety attacks frequently. I will be sitting in class and have to run out because I can't breath and my heart starts pounding and i feel like i'm going to pass out. I have a counslor i talk to but these panic / anxiety attacks occur regardless. In school they happen almost everyday and I try to go to the bathroom so i don't embarass myself. I have trouble falling asleep at night anticipating an anxiety at school the next day. I used to like school and i am an A+ student but now i am preoccupied with my anxiety. When i have an anxiety attack i feel like im going to die even though i know i won't. I like being around my parents because they give me a sense of comfort. What should i go about these anxiety attacks bc they are really taking over my life. I know i should deep breath / close my eyes when i have these attacks but when it happens i freak out and forget to do this. ADVICE PLEASEE THANKS SOOO MUCH

u say u find comfort around your parents well then your friends should be a comfort to you also while yuor in your classes look to your friends and you can get a sense of comfort there too just like you do wiht your parents.
Every night before you go to sleep, close your eyes and visualise a massive hot air balloon in front of you.Beside you you have lots of sandbags, these sandbags represent your worries. Think about what it is that's making you so upset.Imagine yourself attaching these sand bags to the hot air balloon, and then cut the rope and watch your worries float away - you'll never have to see they again.
if that doesnt work,when I was in middle school I started having panic attacks. They were so scary to me having that awful feeling of dread, heart racing, racing thoughts... I went to the doctor and he put me on Xanax .025 3 times a day...I only take 1 a day and feel fine now...If you do have one just breathe in and out and keep telling yourself it is okay over and over...It helped me...

theres this song & a girl sings it
it goes like:

i wanna be bad be bad
i wanna be bad be bad

wats that song called

WILLA FORD - I Wanna Be Bad

okay well i got my period on the 13 of december and then after i had sexual relationships with my boy friend and one time we didnt use anything we stopped because i got to scared that something might happen so he didnt cum ore anything but the scary cat i amk i decided to take the pill and on the 1st of january i got my period again in the morning i bled a lot only once and then after i hardly bled anything what does that mean???? i know the pil discontrols your period but i mean why do you think i bled a lot only once in the morning and not that much after????

its like you said the pill discontrols your period, adn when you first start takin the pill you have to wait for your period to start then you start takin the pill, you know to see if itll stop your period.
hope this helps ^_^

i have naturaly curly hair... and when i straighten it, it stays straight for a little bit.. but then starts to curl inwards and sson doesnt look straight like i want it to.. what can i do to make it stay straight?

Okay well I have naturaly curly hair and I use Quick Heat and I take it peice by peice like I put a hole bunch of it up and do the very bottom then let some down and then do that ect. and then when I get to the very top layer I do it 3 times and that hair do usally lasts me 3-4 days if you keep it brushed and stuff.
if that dont work you can straighten your hair layer by layer but it will take along time. mine does. also, a Chi is the BEST hair straightner. they are expensive but let me tell you, your life will never be the same.

Where can i find (online or at a store) leather boots.
Not cowbow style or fancy.
No heels.

I want black mid-calf round tow (not pointy toe) plain leather (bot not too shiny) boots. I don't want the sole to be super thick either, nor do I want the sole to be wood.

So where can I find them???

New Rocks leather boots are awesome!

Hi! I just got a jacket from Aritzia and it is adorable. I just wanted to know if it was worthy. Anyways should i get uggs with them. What kind of boots would you recommend?

if u like the jacket then it was totally worth it, my friend got some uggs snow boots i dont remember wat theyre called but theyre totally cue theyre tan with tons of fuzzy fur, and they go about to ur knee, theyre way cute.

15/f
to give a bit of a background...me and this guy went out for about a month in 11/06, and then broke up
we grew up a bit and then start going out again in february 07. we were "the perfect couple" according to everyone. and we agreed, we were always happy with eachother. he got to know my entire family, i met his family, we were really close basically, and obviously cared about eachother
earlier in december i broke up with him, not because i didnt love him, but he was doing a lot of things that really bothered me. i tried telling him, i wrote him notes, i said it to his face, i got his friends to talk to him. nothing worked, so i was left no choice but to break up with him.
it was a nasty break, even though i wanted to stay friends with him. theres some other stuff in the middle of this (he cut, smoked, some other forms of self harm, i tried to get him to stop...)

on the last day of school i opened my locker to find a bag of stuff i got him (birthday gift, 6 month gift, all the pictures of us, everything that symbolized us)

they were his things though so i tried to put them back in his locker but he purposely got his combo changed so i couldnt (he admitted to that)

that bag of stuff (besides leaving me in tears) started to make me realize how much i miss him..or what we had at least

and i cant tell if i want to get back together with him, or i just miss what we had.
because i cant picture myself with anyone else because i know it would never be like what i had with him

do i go back to him?

no ypu shouldnt go back to him cauz hes still the same guy who cuts, smoke, adn all the other stuff that u hate about him that made you break up with him in the first place. you only miss him right now since youre still in your emotional state cauz youve only reaciantly broken up with him but when you finsd someone else to make u happy youll forget about him.

Hello. I am 21 and male.

I met someone online, and we have been pretty good friends for a while now. We do not want to date or anything, because both of us are married... just friends. I just want to get that out there...

Recently, I have made a series of stupid mistakes and hurt her feelings pretty badly. I suffer from Bipolar Disorder, and am currently seeking help for it. I want her to forgive me for the things I have done, but I'm not sure how. I told her about the disorder before the fight.

I have tried apologizing to her, but I'm not sure if she forgives me or not. She will not talk to me, and only minimal responses are given when I initiate conversations with her.

I really enjoyed being friends with her. She was a good listener, a good source of advice, and really fun to be around. I feel terrible about how I treated her, and I want to make it up.

Is there any way I can mend this friendship, or should I just forget about it and move on?

you should call her and leave a message or email her and tell her your sorry and even though shes mad right now she'll eventually get over it adn forgive you. good luck

I was at a party last night....
There was this kid there that I didnt actually talk to but I was talking to his friend. The reason I didnt talk to him because I guess I was shy or whatever, I dont know but man I dont know If I should add him on myspace or not. Because the thing is, I havent ever spoken to him before... and maybe he'll think like "who is this girl?" but then again... what's the wrong thing that could happen, right? I keep trying to tell myself that but I can't seem to get the courage to do so. He goes to my school and he's older and stuff, and I definately don't talk to him there because one, I barely see him and two, Im shy :/

talk to him, make random conversation with him, just get him to talk to ya, make small talk, ask about music, find a common interest or something
you should add him, ad get to knw him cuz its easier to get to know ppl on myspace since you dont have to deal with the akward silence. hope this helps

ok so im 14/f and still TERRIFIED of the dark. every night when i go to sleep i imagine murderers breaking in and killing me. I don't watch scary movies anymore, just a few here and there. the old ones still come back to haunt me, i'll remember any scary thought when it's nighttime. the fact that my house is PITCH BLACK at night doesn't help at all either. i really really desperately need help, i'm scared to go to bed at night. i can't even get up to go pee because im scared the killer with "hear me". i want to use a nightlight, but i don't want my parents to think i'm a wuss, i mean i'm 14!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me find a way to be comfortable in my own house at night.

Im really scared of the dark too because for some reason in my house whenever it is light or whatever everything is calm and relaxing. BUT when I turn off the lights of course I hear noises that creep me out. But than I just think, 'Everything was fine just two minutes ago when It turned off the lights. The doors are locked and my dogs are by me so I'm safe and just fine, there is nothing to be scared of.' And I can eventually calm myself down. Just think of non-scary things and think of peacful things or what you want to dream about. Good Luck!

ive been talking to this guy for about a month. supposedly he has these deep crazy feelings for me, but im just not feelin it. great guy but yeah you know. anyway hes being WAY clingy and im seriously thinking hes just trying to get to me so he can get him some. how should one go about explaining to this person that while hes cool, he needs to LAY OFF and if hes in hopes of getting some, might as well just go pick someone else, without using those words? =]. i need a way to just kind of ease into to it and say it... but without being.. awkward??

well since he just aint listenin to ur polite explanations youre gonna have to be mean about it adn like totally cut him off if he stilldont understand that you aitn wantin a relationship wiht him.

14f.
155 lbs.
type 1 diabetes / thyroid problems.
i want to lose weight really badly, i want to do that special k diet and i was wondering if anyone knows if it works well.
also, i need way to keep my self motivated, i just don't feel like going to the gym sometimes, and if i go to the gym, i usually end up eating a lot after and gaining all th calories i burned off back.
help please, also i want to know how i can get to a size 3 or 5 in pants.
im like a 9 or 11 now.

a good diet would be only to eat three or four times a day adn each food product you eat should only be a serving size, its on the backof all bozes bags whatever, you can eat whatever you want but only up to 1500 calories a day. adn you know do 50 regular crunches, then 50 more to the right side of your legs, then 50 more to the left side of your legs a day, adn about 50 to 100 pushups a day. adn run about a mile-ish a day. dont try and do all this at once, work ur way up to this.

all you have to do is think how good you'll look afterwards if you keep workin out!

Is there any difference between how a skirt fits on the waist and how pants fit? Because I can fit into size 2 for skirts, but need to go up to a size 4 or 6 for pants (American Eagle). AND, I measured my waist the other day and got 28 inches, but how do I fit into a size 2 which is supposed to fit a 24.5-25.5 inch waist? This makes no sense to me.

american eagle pant are small cuz im like a 5 in other pair of pants then i go to american eagle and ill have to get a 7 its just the way ae does there pant measurments.

i really like this boy but he asked out my sister she said no but i dont know if he has changed his mind about her what do you think i should do i really like him alot

hello uve got ur answer already, ur sister said no which means she aint interested so go for it babe!

does CSUN have a high school ? My sister said that she went there before and saw something like a high school similar to the one in "Zoey 101" And i wanna go there!

i researched and found no evidence that there is one? is CSUN ONLY a college? If theres a high school... Please, .. tell me. :D Thanks!

na sorry there aint a csun highskool

hi. How can I get loose, casual yet elegant curls for an everyday look?? Also, how can I curl my hair really q-u-i-c-k because I am a busy person. I really need to update my look specially my hair! And do you have any tips on how to prevent damaging the hair??

-thanks in advance!!! God Bless!-

after you wash your hair shake it out a bit so it'll be looser on your head, then scrunch it you know like a slinky, just grab some sections of your hair and scrunch it, startin from the bottom adn press it all the way to the top of your head. then uve got to let it dry, not dry totally but damp actually, then uve got to scrunch it again, exactly like you did before exept use gel this time, then spray it wiht hairspray, adn shake ur hair out so you can get a volumized look.

hope this helps ^_^

only answer this if you like stuff like boys like girls, wtk, powerspace, yellowcard, etc. not top 40 stuff. or rap.

thanks :]

never too late -3 days grace
better than me -hinder
shadow of the day -linkin park
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