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How to earn forgiveness?
Hello. I am 21 and male.
I met someone online, and we have been pretty good friends for a while now. We do not want to date or anything, because both of us are married... just friends. I just want to get that out there...
Recently, I have made a series of stupid mistakes and hurt her feelings pretty badly. I suffer from Bipolar Disorder, and am currently seeking help for it. I want her to forgive me for the things I have done, but I'm not sure how. I told her about the disorder before the fight.
I have tried apologizing to her, but I'm not sure if she forgives me or not. She will not talk to me, and only minimal responses are given when I initiate conversations with her.
I really enjoyed being friends with her. She was a good listener, a good source of advice, and really fun to be around. I feel terrible about how I treated her, and I want to make it up.
Is there any way I can mend this friendship, or should I just forget about it and move on?
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She might just need to blow off her steam. You could give her a little room so she can cool down, and when things seem calm you can try apologizing. You still have some response so it's not like she completely doesn't want to talk to you. Good luck.
-Sarah
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Keep doing what you are doing, and give her to time to decide what she is comfortable with.
She might forgive you or have already forgiven you, but decided she simply can't handle the risk that you might behave that way agian.
If you are suffering from a mood disorder this is something you really need to come to terms with: Some people just don't have it inside of themselves to be your friend.
It doesn't make them bad people, but it does make them honest when the scale back thier communication with you. In wanting to be her 'friend' you might be asking for more than she feels she has to give.
Be respectful, be consistant and enjoy your brief conversations without pushing for more. If she realizes you aren't leaning heavily on her for support or asking for more intamacy or effort from her then she feels she can offer, she might come back around. The key is patience and a willingness to allow the friendship to progress according to her wishes, not yours.
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its good that you keep talking to her, dont make her think that you are revolting lol. although they are only minimal responses, at least she is talking to you, which is the first step to gaining forgiveness, and knowing she is not completely leaving you out of her life. Just so you know, when i was reading your question, the part where you said:
I really enjoyed being friends with her. She was a good listener, a good source of advice, and really fun to be around. I feel terrible about how I treated her, and I want to make it up.
was really deep, and you should tell her that.
GoOd LuCk!!!!
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you can definetly mend your relationship, but it might take a while, if you really care about your friendship with her...dont give up!!!! :-)
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you should call her and leave a message or email her and tell her your sorry and even though shes mad right now she'll eventually get over it adn forgive you. good luck <3
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what i think you should do is send her an e-mail she might be mad but i know she will read it. tell her how you feel. tell her how sorry you are and that becuase of your disorder you have those type of outbursts. i know she will forgive you. just give her some time. if it was ment for you guys to be friends then she will forgive you.
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