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Every single time I eat icecream!,a burger or something that is really high in calories I feel guilty,I feel bad I feel FAT!.Im not thin!and thats the problem!I don't have the weight that I want !and I had tried everything {all types of diet and exercices!}but they don't work! Im really short:im 5'1 and my weight is 123 what can I do to be 110-115tell new diets or exercices or something even pills but help!Im tired of looking in the mirror and dont like what I see! (link)
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i was like this for years, up until very recently. you have to really want it and really make healthy choices. also walking helps. it's easy and it it's on of the most healthy things you can do for your body.
try out new foods you know are healthier and see if you like them. i understand your want for good flavor, i'm the same way, but there's so many things that are better for you and it makes your body feel healther when you eat them, too. fruits and vegetables are delicious and they really help.
just remember to have high protein and low fat and sugar. if youre at a fast food place get the grilled chicken. if youre getting a sub get no cheese and light mayo or just 1 square of cheese if they usually give you two. get used to diet drinks. diet drinks are delicious and there are no calories or sugar. regular soda is really really high sugar, all it is is basically sugar water. if there is too much sugar in your body your body can't use it so it is stored away as fat. high sugar is basically high fat. just from reducing that intake alone can make you lose a lot of weight if you usually drink a lot of regular soda.
just always think about the "healthier" choice. it'll make your body feel better because it's not greasy and it'll make everything else happy because if you get into the habit of reducing your fat intake and focusing on high protein (soy, tofu, chicken and fish are both lean meats that are good protein an dlow fat). pay attention to the way things are cooked too. if it is fried then it has a lot of fat. try to get grilled or boiled or broiled, etc. just experiment a lot. i suggest lean cuisine, lean pockets, etc. lean cuisine has these panini sandwiches that are absolutely amazing and have more than half less the fat of a greasy cheeseburger.
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Everytime im sad !!I cut myself !Everytime is stress I cut myself!!everytime I feel bad about something I do it! is that really bad?cause when I do it I feel much better!!like all my problems dissapear!but I have many marks and thats the only thing I dont like!And some of my friend find out and now they are always calling me things!!I been a cutter since 3 years now!my mom saw some of the marks and cuz im a little bit o f a tomboy I told her I got them playing soccer!and volleyball! (link)
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it may feel good at the time when you do it, but it's very unhealthy for you mentally not to mention physically and emotionally.
it is the stress relief and escape you need to get because of some pressure and likely depression you feel in your life. i understand your need for stress relief, and i encourage it, but this isn't healthy for you.
i'd encourage you to try to talk to your school counselor and seek help. they can help you get to the root of your problems and why you choose this as your release. they will show you healthy and
still satisfying and effective methods to channel your energy.
i hope you don't take offense to what i've said, i care for you just like i care for any human being, i don't like to see harm coming to you from your emotions, your surroundings, or from you cutting yourself. there ARE alternatives and i hope you seek them because as it feels like a release, it's still hurting yourself and i don't like to see that.
good luck and i hope you can talk to someone who can help you. who knows they may even help you to feel better about your life as a whole.
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i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year but im starting to have major feelings for an ex boyfriend. i know its very bad of me but my boyfriend now just isnt making me happy anymore and i dont know what to do. my boyfriend lies to me about everything so im to the point i dont know whats real and whats a lie. hes lied about smoking (twice), going to a party, going to school, and to as stupid as how much he spends on something. i just dont understand. he tells me hell change but hes said that since day one and it continues. also on two occasions he didnt go to school once i found an earring and the other time i found an ankle bracelet. i asked whose it was and he told me he didnt know. i told him i thought he was cheating on me and he got all mad and said he wasnt. im just not happy anymore. i love him to death though. but my ex boyfriend and me have been talking the past 3 days and im not sure whats gonna happen but hes making me so happy. ive been smiling nonstop and hes making me feel whole i talked to him yesterday from 1:30 pm all the way til 5 am nonstop. on the internet and phone. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend but in the same sense im not happy. but i dont wanna rush it with my ex boyfriend either. please help me (link)
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sorry for the delay.
it's not bad of you to have negative feelings toward him now. lying is very important and it is completely normal and warranted for you to feel the way you feel.
questioning your feelings for your ex is also normal, but it also means that you're already detaching yourself slightly from your current boyfriend. i know this situation sweetheart, i've been in it. it sounds like you have all the ingredients you need to break up with him or at the very least have a very serious talk about the future of your relationship. also, ask your ex if he's thinking what you're thinking.
good luck, and remember be honest. honesty is one of the most important parts of a successful relationship. it might be hard but it feels good after you do it, trust me. because you're doing the right thing in being true to yourself and true to the state of your relationship. not to mention your maybe-feelings for your ex.
just follow your heart and do what you know is right. maybe you only feel like you're rushing it with your ex because you're still tied down with your current boyfriend.
it really sounds to me like you should end the relationship. it will hurt and you may want some time with your ex just as friends to make sure you're not "on the rebound." but if you want to jump right in and discuss with your ex if you just wanna hook up or actually go out, then go for it.
just feel it out.
good luck, and if you can i'd really like to know if this advice helped you and what becomes of your relationship : )
Louise
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A close friend of mine suffers from Bipolar Disorder, and he refuses to see a psychologist. He is in extremely depressive mood all the time and frequently talks about suicide. This really frightens me because I don't want to lose him. On the other hand, I'm not sure whether his suicidal intention is serious. When a manic-depressive talks about suicide, does he MEAN it? I desperately want to help my friend. I can't see him suffering. I wish I could make him happy but I don't know how. No matter how well his life goes, he is forever buried in his formidable despair. I feel helpless and inadequate every time upon listening his depressive thoughts. I hate myself for not being able to change my friend's condition. So here I am seeking advice from you guys. My friend just told me that he thinks about suicide every waking second and that I "shouldn't have any hope in him because he won't be around much longer". My god, I am so terribly worried about him. What can I do? Please help my friend! (link)
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If he has untreated bipolar disorder, it is very possible that he means it.
You should always treat people talking about suicide as serious because it is a warning sign. A lot of the time it is for the attention, but if he has an untreated disorder it is very easy to succumb to these feelings.
If you honestly care about your friend and really want to help him, you might have to do something that is very hard. Tell your school counselor if you go to school. One way or another you should get a professional involved. It could be a matter of life or death.
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I had quite a sexually active life when I was younger. I broke my virginity at 13 and went on humping anyone I could get my hands on.(Of course, I only have sexual relations with women of my liking. This is not shallow hal here.)
Anyways, the problem came about a few months ago when I finally settled down and got myself into a serious relationship. At first, the sex was its usual. Then, after a few months, I didn't want to do it anymore. I can't seem to get it up for her. I try to avoid sex and it's seems kinda depressing. But here's the thing. I can get it up for any other chick, not for her. -___-
In short, I dont want to break up with her, I just don't want to have sex with her. (link)
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There is something under the surface here. Something about the way you feel about yourself and/or the relationship. It's up to you to figure out what that something is.
A lot of times it's something that is seemingly unrelated, but is indeed the cause. Anxiety about something completely unrelated, for example.
I strongly suggest you seek couples therapy or sex therapy.
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hi there my name is pleasure (a girl)from dade county,florida and i am 15 years old i need advice on first time sex i have many questions?
I would like to know if i would cry when i lose my viginity and how much will it hurt?????(i really need to kno cuz i am very scared and i need to kno how i can get over this fear?????
~Pleasure
dade county,florida (link)
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It depends on how experienced the guy is and how big his penis is. Just make sure you tell him it's important for him to be gentle cuz you don't want it to hurt. It's definitely very important to go very slow and gentle right at the beginning. (and probably troughout)
Just so you know, everyone says it hurts your first time but this is not true. My first time didn't hurt at all, it was enjoyable.
Good luck, and remember, just be really honest with your partner and make sure he's someone who cares about you enough to be gentle. Sometimes, unfortunately, guys don't care what girls want in the bed or otherwhise.
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my boyfriend and i had a fight last night- i was mad at him and this morning i got a text asking: is this it? is this over? wat should i say? i dunno if he wants to im so confuzed plz help! (link)
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Sit down with him and talk in person. There is nothing worse than having painful fight-related talks through IM or cell phones.
Tell him exactly what you like and don't like about the relationship. This may sound silly but it really does work to use "I" statments so he doesn't feel like you are attacking him. For example "I feel ____ when ___ happens."
Being honest in a relationship is the most important thing. If you really want to break up with him, which it sounds like you don't, tell him and tell him why. But when you're in a fight it's actually a perfect time to talk about all aspects of the relationship. Because this way you know what you both can improve on and work on to make it the best relationship it can be.
If you do wanna be with him, tell him why. Explain why you're mad at him but tell him that losing him is not the solution either.
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Just a few little questions.
1.What is the average age that teenage girls get sexually active without seeming like a whore?
2.What do guys think of girls who believe in staying a virgin until they are married? (link)
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The average age is 16.
The majority of guys, especially if they are in their teens-20s (aka most hormonal) don't like girls who stay virgins. In fact, a lot of guys (unfortunately) think it's exciting to devirginize virgins. They see it as a challenge, they think "oh you just haven't met the RIGHT guy."
of course, there is a percentage of them that can respect that decision, especially if it is for religious reasons. This is not a fun reality, but it is true.
If you want to stay a virgin until you're married it's perfectly okay and there ARE guys who respect that, but they are unfortunately hard to find. Also know that there is absolutely no problem with waiting until you're READY which is different than waiting for when you are married. Just make sure you use protection because STDs and early pregnancies are, to put it lightly, not fun. (and of course you know this).
Doing what makes you happy is important. Don't let guys or ANYONE compromise that.
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Hi. 18/F
What are some really cute/sexy things to say to turn a guy on?
What are some really cute/sexy things to do to turn a guy on?
All in ALL, Whats the best way to turn a guy on.
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Keep trying different things and see what his response is.
Grabbing the package is the most effective and works every time. Grab it and smile and say "I like that."
A lot of times what turns people on is if they are not expecting it. You guys could be doing something completely non-sex related and try just taking your shirt off. He probably won't complain or ask why, but if he does just say "I know you like it" or "Don't you like it? I could put my shirt back on if you want."
Nibble his ears, breathe hot breath into them.
Suck his fingers. I have not found one guy that doesn't like this. It feels a little weird to us girls but they imagine that it's their penis and it gets them very excited.
Run your hands on his body. Even with clothes on. Get very close to the top of his pants. Run your fingers a little bit on the inside of the pants/boxers. They love this. It's the anticipation of your hand getting closer. Same thing goes for grabbing his thigh very close to where his penis is.
Ask him to give you a massage. Keep your shirt on at first and then after a bit take it off and tell him it makes you feel more comfortable.
Try these and see if they work! If they don't for some odd reason then send me an email at pseudospork@gmail.com and I'll tell you more if you want.
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ok soo.
me and this guy, Allen, have been i guess "talking" for about a week or so.
and we are ALWAYS together at school.
like, after every single class he waits on me.
and we always write each other notes and stuff.
and he comes up my house all the time and we go to the movies, or go eat or something.
he's told me he lkes me, and he knows i like him. and he calls me like everyday.
but he wont ask me out..... ?
it's killing me. lol
why wont he?
btw, hes a senior. im a freshman.
is that why? (link)
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you could ask him.
or you could just keep doing what you're doing because you're basically dating, there is just no label.
honestly the fact that youre a freshman definitely might have something to do with it. boys are stupid, especially in high school, and they're worried about their image.
you should just talk to him about it.
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im 18 and i need some advice iv been with my boyfriend 2 years now in april 2006 he had a bad bike crash he cant walk we've tryed to have sex he got a hard on but couldnt get it up me what can i do to help and when we do foreplay he always makes me cum but i cant make him cum has anyone got any tips i could use to make him cum HELP PLZ (link)
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IM me at sykochik43 . I'll give you some tips.
or email me at pseudospork@gmail.com
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Ok, this is a really random question but I was just thinking about a scenario today:
Lets say that I made out with a guy who had herpes and I didnt know it because he had no sores or whatever...that means I would get it too right? and how long would it take for me to have sores on my mouth, or how could I tell if I had herpes after making out with some guy I dont really know?
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First of all, there are two types of Herpes. There is Herpes 1 which is oral, and Herpes 2 which is genital. Herpes 2 can still be spread orally. Herpes 1 is better than Herpes 2 because generally you only get one outbreak and therefore it cannot be spread as easily.
If it is Herpes 2 you have a choice of 2 different medications: suppresive which is when you know you are continuously sexually active so you take a pill every day to greatly reduce the chance of ever getting an outbreak. The other kind of medication is when you can feel an outbreak coming on (tingling in the area where you've had one before, redness, painful to the touch) you can get medication and the sores should be gone in 2 to 3 days.
The virus is most spreadable when someone has an outbreak. Since he did not have one (that you know of) you have a good chance of not contracting it, but not a perfect chance.
The best time to test for herpes is if you yourself have an outbreak. They do a culture of the fluid that is inside the sores- which is the most infectious part of it all. It's still good to alert your doctor or gynocologist that you may have it. They will do a blood test. If the blood test comes up negative you could still have been exposed to it and it can show up later. So as i said, the best time to test is if you are actually exhibiting symptoms.
Here's an excellent site for support and information:
http://racoon.com/herpes/
Good luck.
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Who determines what is polite and what isn't? How does everyone begin to acknowledge these "rules"? (link)
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this is a very complex question. in the grand scheme of things it is learned culture and social norms that tell you what is polite and what isn't. just because they are norms does not mean they are "correct" "moral" or "right."
People acknowledge these rules through what is called identification- which is implicitly understanding a norm through exposure of other people practicing it, and in turn practicing it yourself. When you practice it yourself, you believe it is "right" even if it isn't. This is usually an unconscious thing. This process of identification as culture through learning goes with almost everything we do in our lives, you may not think about how you know what you know or why, but this is why.
To learn more, I suggest you read Van Elst's "Culture as Given, Culture as Choice."
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Im 17 and my sister is 13. Since last year she has had alot of problems dealing with her weight and losing friends. She gets picked on at school but she never does anything about it like tell the guidance counselour the boy(s) names. But she does tell the guidance counselour that boy(s) are picking on her. Last year she told the guidance Counselour she was going to kill herself so the counselour called my parents and they brought her to the hospital. Ver since that day my family can't say anything to her. She doesnt really go any where she just sits her ass in front of the computer all day. If you ask her to clean she gets mad at you. if you ask her if she wants to go to the store with you she says no. You tell her you need to use the computer she tells you to go to the library and use theirs. You ask her to go outside with her brother so he can play she tells you to do it yourself. Now all of this sounds stupid but these simple things cause her to flip out and hate us. She recently has started cutting. I have never known anyone that has cut. My sister is proud of cutting. She post away messages about cutting. Who can be proud of this? And she does it because she gets made at us for asking and telling her to do these simple things.
Now my stepdad told me if she didnt feel ike cleaning that i have to do the chores for her because she will hurt herself. Now i know this sounds rude but shes gotten to the point where i think shes doing it for ATTENTION and its driving me nuts. Her daily schedule consist of 1. wake up 2. get on the computer 3. get dressed 4. go to school 5. coming home from school 6. do homework 7. get on the computer till 11pm 8. go to bed(this happens every single day) And if you dont realize this but nothing she does is cleaning or spending time with the family.
She is starting to see a therapist or someone starting this thursday and hope fully this person can help her out.
Sorry if i sound like a mean sister but shes driving me crazy by not helping out. I work and i really cant come home and do all the cleaning at home.
thank you. (link)
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i'd say go easy on her.
try to understand that she's sick. it's like having any other kind of sickness, except this is harder to deal with and harder to understand. just take a deep breath and remind yourself she is depressed, she is seeking attention, and she doesn't feel normal.
at the age of 13, feeling normal is a very important thing. it might seem like she feels the opposite because cutting isnt a normal activity, but it is common with someone with low self-esteem to broadcast their shortcomings.
be patient and kind and loving. tell her you love her at least once a week. even if it doesnt seem like it gets through to her, it will. try to think less about how she annoys you and more about what she's going through. try to be calm and patient and it will not only make you stronger as a person, i guarantee you she'll love and appreciate what you'd be doing for her years later or even right away.
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hi, im a 15 year old girl, never had a bf, but have made out with TOONNNS of guys, and have had plenty of admirers.
the problem?
im not happy with life, but i dont think my love life has anything to do with it..
but everyone else seems to, everywhere i go people are always like "life is nothing without love" so i get it, love is important. i belive so too, if i live life for my career or firends, i will not be happy,,i need true love.
but is it realy THAT important? really?
like does my whole happyness depend on love?
and does having a bf realyy matter?
ive heard people who have steady relationships often do better in life, better in school, with friends and s on.. but i dont get it? why does having a bf make life easier??
do you have any experciences of this in your own personal life?? care to share?? thx. (link)
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you're right, your love life doesn't necessarily have to do with your happiness in life.
a lot of people are scared to be alone so the only time they feel comfortable is if theyre in a relationship- even if it's an unfulfilling one.
the important thing is finding what you love about life. if a good relationship happens to come along, great. but life certainly doesnt have to depend on a relationship. don't let people convince you that you can't be happy without a man.
women are beautiful, powerful, intelligent, courageous, intuitive all on their own.
the important thing is to celebrate your strenghs as a person. eventually one of your "admirers" might be a decent guy. but dont worry too much about it.
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Like i've been told I'm not normal because I'm freinds with some of my junior high teachers. I mean I would think it would be normal to talk to them once in a while. You grow a relationship with them and I just happen to like keeping that relationship. Is that normal? (link)
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It's not "normal" because most kids your age don't relate to adults because they're immature.
It is a wonderful thing that you're friends with teachers. I always have been and I still continue to do that in college, where I am right now.
Sometimes doing what's "not normal" is a lot cooler and makes you a smarter, more receptive to life person.
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okay
so i think im pretty popular
alll my friends are popular , our whole group is and stuff.
but like, it doesnt seem like i have that many goooooddd friends and then just friends i know a little bit are just like temperaroy and we dont hangout unless like we are at a party or sitting next to eachother..
how can i like make more GOOOD friends? (link)
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talk to new people. talk to people about your interests and see if they have the same interests. it may seem weird or scary to go outside your group of popular people to talk to new people but i bet the other people in your group will think it's cool that you're brave enough to do your own thing and talk to whoever you want.
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16/F
So.. I havent ever had a boyfriend.
Ever, never been kissed.
I just really want a boyfriend.
I know everyone says, eventually I will find someone, and that I'm young.
Because there are a TON of people that have boyfriends and girlfriends at my age.
I've just been thinking, what is wrong with me?
I look decent, I care about people, I'm creative and artsy. Why cant I find someone?
Is it because my standards are too high?
I dont want to make them too low.
Has anyone ever felt like this?
And - I am quite happy.
I dont need a guy to make me happy,
its never healthy to need,
but to want is another thing.
So whats up?
[thoughtful answers please,
not stubborn arrogant cocky ones.] (link)
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I'm glad that you're happy with yourself and you don't need a guy to make you happy. That's what is most important because guys come and go but you live with yourself forever.
Just keep being yourself and keep it confident. It's proven that the majority of people are attracted to confidence in their partner.
Anyway, just keep going to a lot of social events where you can meet new boys. If the boys around you aren't cutting it, don't try to make it work with them. Meet new ones! If you like music, go to shows. That's a great way to meet people. Go to as many parties and get togethers as possible. Ask your friends to introduce you to new friends, you don't even have to tell them that your intentions are to find a boy.
Just keep loving yourself and you're sure to find someone soon.
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I had sex for the first time on Saturday with my boyfriend. Sunday and Monday we kept having sex but it got really .. intimately to the point of ouch. That night I bled as if I was getting my period, which I can understand.. next day it was like I have my period and i've had it since, but now it hurts when I pee, and i'm peeing alot. I'm also a diabetic .. I don't know if it could be my sugars or if its a STD, or related to sex ? My pelvis area hurts cramp wise and when I pee it feels like it has to pee more, but it hurts too much. Is there anything wrong with me or is this normal? (link)
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i'm sure you figured this out by now but those are the classic symptoms of a urinary tract infection also known as a bladder infection. these CAN be related to sex and also can be related to a lot of non sex things. they are extremely common, especially in women.
easily treated- you just go to the doctor and get some antibiotics.
hope youre feeling better now or soon!
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Everyone wants to be healthy and in good shape, correct? Help a girl out!!!
1. How many calories a day should we take on average for a 14/Girl
2. How many hours should I exercise if I don't do a sport. Should I walk for 30 minutes and do pushups, sit ups, etc. in my room for 30 minutes?
Any more information to keep healthy, tell me! (link)
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It depends on your height and weight.
Here is a link to a calculator that calculates your ideal weight: http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm
Here is a link to a BMI (Body Mass Index) Calculator that calculates if you are overweight or not and how much so:
http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
The way to lose weight is to simply lower your calorie intake to a lower number of calories per day and follow it every day. You should be taking in about 2000 calories. Start paying attention to the calories in main foods.
Always think about "the healthy decision." If you are at a fast food restaurant or diner, instead of a burger have grilled chicken.
If you want a sweet snack get low fat or no fat ice cream, granola bars, etc. There's so many tasty low or no fat low calorie foods.
Also, more fruits and veggies really is a plus.
Usually the recommended exercise is 30 mins 3 times a week.
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