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I havnent been able to sleep very well for the past week, and when I do it's maybe 5 hours a night with me waking up every 45 minutes in that time span. What should I do to get some sleep? (link)
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First thing's first...
You can try Melatonin. It's over the counter, and totally natural. It's secreted by your system to make you sleep anyway.
If that fails... Try Zquil, by the makers of Nyquil.
If THAT fails... see your doctor. It doesn't seem that important, but an irregular sleep pattern that doesn't respond to over the counter aids can lead back to all kinds of problems... Both ones it causes and ones it's a symptom of.
The doc will either prescribe you something, or ask you to try a sleep study for a night, so they can run tests.
If they give you sleeping pills, be sure to take as prescribed, cuz those things can definitely kill you.
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You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre. (link)
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It's less bizarre than you'd think. Lol.
So... the way hiring works... I used to do all the hiring at my job, and I still act as a consult for the new hires.
First they look at your qualifications and how much you want. Based on qualifications, they decide if you're being reasonable, or how far over or under you're asking. If you're asking for an acceptable compensation for your paper qualification level, by their standards, then they make you a job offer.
What you don't often know is that while they're making that decision, they're also calculating other things... If they find you via headhunter, they add in that cost to their figures. They have to know you're worth it. They also calculate how much they're paying people in similar positions, and even related positions, because they want as little salary cost as they can manage.
So... it sounds like they liked you and you're qualified... but whatever you offered didn't fit into their figures and they think they can get similar quality for less money and hassle.
Sometimes, also, companies and hiring managers will say something like that to see if you'll drop your price. Because they want you... they just want to see exactly how cheaply they can get you.
If you think you'd be happy at the job, you can do a couple of things in response.
A, you can ask to talk to the hiring management for a real job proposal, because you'd like to work there. If they agree, you go in willing to negotiate. If they don't, that's just the end.
2, you can just call in with a lower wage. If they're interested, they should call you back fairly quickly because they'll think you're being a little desperate and want to snag you up before you discover you could make more money.
D, you can send a thank you letter. All it should say is that you thank them for the opportunity, express that you were really interested in working for them, and mention that if they're interested in you in the future to contact you.
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ok, so thats me, the one with the girl hating my guts. I couldnt log into my account, so i had to reset amd i just used a quick account, but, the girl (L) will crumple up my notes when i send them to her, and shes been pissed now for about 4 months. And is anerexsia really that serious? She needs professional help? :0 (link)
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If she hates you, just don't talk to her anymore. Obviously she doesn't value you enough to get over it, so just leave her alone and find someone new.
Also, anorexia is very serious, and she could die... but it's not your problem. If you are concerned enough, you can tell a school counselor, or even her parents... but neither action is going make her hate you any less. In fact, she will probably hate you MORE for it, but that's the risk you have to take if you care enough.
When push comes to shove with that, though, unless the person in question is willing to get help, most places where she could get help don't want her there. I had a friend whose parents checked her into eating disorder facilities over and over... and they'd kick her out.
Still, though. If she hates you, F*ck her. Let her starve herself to death. Not your problem.
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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You can't save this friendship. You should just come to terms with that, right out of the box.
Here's what you're going to hear...
Be up front with him and tell him it's over and to stop romanticizing you.
He won't do that, but you run the risk of turning his blind affection into blind hatred.
Be blunt and tell him he's in the friendzone.
Same thing... or you'll end up with him trying HARDER to get out of the friendzone... and it can get weird...
If you want a last ditch effort at saving your friendship, you have two options... both with a high chance of backfiring in your face...
A, you tell him that if he doesn't stop acting this way, and act like a friend, then you guys can't be friends anymore, and that's it. That's the end.
B, you stop being feeling bad about his affection for you and just let him have that feeling. It makes him happy. You enjoy the compliments. It could lead to a potential escalation in his affections, which will make things weird, but that's the consequence of your actions.
If I were you... and this made me REALLY uncomfortable, I would tell him that it needs to stop or we can't be friends... actually I'd just cut him off all together... but that's me. I don't have patience for puppy dogs.
If it doesn't make you that uncomfortable, then just let it go and let him have this. I have guy friends I've shot down, and they treat me quite similarly. They know it's not gonna happen, but I don't mind their adoration. It's nice to be appreciated, and so long as they know I'm not going to change my mind, then it's harmless.
You can't change people. They're going to be who they're going to be. He's going to love you, and there's nothing you can do about it. He's going to treat his gfs like crap because he loves you, and there's nothing you can do about that, either. Your guilt comes from you, not from him. Don't feel guilty anymore. This isn't your problem, in the end.
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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
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She's gone. A year away means this relationship is over. She's not going to come back and want you. Her life will have moved on, and thank god for that.
You're so judgmental. Kissing. Kissing is what bothers you? That's just sad. Or maybe you're just sad she didn't blow you and somehow that makes you less than the guys she did.
You have no right to judge her and what she does with your body. How many girls have you kissed?
Slut shaming is wrong. Calling her a virgin slut is wrong. You should work on not being this person. That's the best advice I could give you.
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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A, you're not a whore. I'm 25 and I've had more sex than most 40 year old women I know... Sex can be a lot of fun. Never feel ashamed about it. It's not worth the guilt, I assure you.
The STD tests should just be blood work, but you should have the doctor look at the bumps and boil that you have, for general health reasons. Things like that can be caused by everything from ingrown hairs to severe skin infections. It's not really something you should keep from your doctor. The exam is uncomfortable, sure, but it's better to know you're okay than to worry about it and not know. Also, if you're not doing a papsmear every year, or as advised by a gyno, you should be. It's a major step in catching problems before they're severe.
As for STDs... Chances are very very very high you don't have HIV/AIDS... because that's transmitted through ACTUAL sex or blood. NOT SALIVA. So you can chill on that. Even if you had it, the only person that would need to be informed is the guy that gave it to you. But you don't have that, so relax.
It's good that you're going to get checked out. Chances are high that you have nothing, but two things come to mind that you could have gotten from this, since you didn't use any barriers. In the future, I recommend dental dams and condoms... which guys will be weird about, but it's your body and your health.
1, HPV. HPV is not related to AIDS. It's an independent virus that comes in many many strains. You can have more than one straing at the same time. If you didn't get the HPV vaccine, and you come up with nothing... get the vaccine. Some of the strains do nothing, and just hang out in your system, but some can cause different kinds of cancer, including cervical (which isn't a death sentence these days, either). Some come with warts, herpes, etc. HPV is the most prevalent STD right now, infecting 79 million Americans, most of which are totally oblivious to having it. I, personally, at one time had three different strains of HPV, but they did nothing to me physically. If you either stay with the same partner or don't have any other contact with new strains of the virus for 2 years, the virus goes away on its own.
2, Herpes. The herpes virus never leaves you, ever. It's a very uncomfortable thing to contract, and it can make your sex life very tricky for the rest of your life. I thought of this, because I had an exboyfriend once, that was prone to cold sores. I never let him do anything to me when he had one, because cold sores are a form of herpes, and I don't need that in my life. After we broke up, he ate out his new girlfriend, though, and then had sex with her... and they both ended up with herpes... because mouth herpes can transfer to genital herpes real fast... Still, it's only really irritating during an outbreak, and that's when you're likely to get it from someone else. If he had no cold sores, you're probably fine on that front, too.
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I am more like my grandpa on my fathers side, much more than I am like my mother, my mom has smaller breast, and my grandma has large breast, I am like my grandma in my way, like for example, my mother has a large butt, but I don't, neither does my grandma she never did, her whole life, and I am similar to my grandma in many other ways, I am just wondering if I will get her boobs like I have everything else??
(I am 15 and have had my period for over year, and I am a late bloomer like my grandmother was as well, and my boobs are currently 36B and my moms are 34C and my grandpas boobs are really large.) (link)
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Genetics is a craps shoot. You get what you get and you don't have a real good way of knowing what you get.
By the age of 21, your boobs might grow some more, and you'll be wherever you're going to be for your "prime" years... then around... 30 or so... your body starts to change again, and your boobs might get bigger again... along with parts of your body you didn't know could gain weight.
If you DO NOT want you boobs to get much bigger at any of your stages of life, you should get active and stay that way. The higher your metabolism is, the less your body will store fat, which is what boob is made from.
Look at gymnasts, swimmers, runners, people who are big into cardio... they might have muscle, but they lack boob.
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I'm a freshman , and I've been searching online for good colleges and i just need someone who attended or have seen CUNY : Brooklyn College to tell me is it good or bad ? , and does it have Computer Science ?
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They offer a BA in Computer Science... and the school is accredited... and it has a lovely campus. So it's not a bad choice.
When looking for a college, school advisers say the phrase, "a good fit" a lot. What that means is that you need to see if the college fits you.
I started at a large state school, and it wasn't a good fit. My adviser in high school had told me it probably wouldn't be... and I hate the fact she was correct. Later I did an online college, and that didn't work. I ended up graduating from a small private college. It offered what I wanted academically, as well as socially and financially.
CUNY is great. Go take a campus visit. But have some other options, too. Even a couple you don't think you really want (like the University of Wisconsin or something...) just to see. Pick a couple party schools, a couple acadamia schools... find somewhere you'll be happy for 4+ years. Many schools offer Computer Science...
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I’m 23/female.
I mostly have experience in babysitting children and watching the elderly. I figured I need more experience and volunteered at a local YMCA for 6 months. I helped in the front desk, cleaned, laundry, and daycare. I was friendly to everyone so I have good references.
I have a lot of time in my hands. I took my college summer semester off to look for a job and get some money. I have applied to all of the fast food places in town, which are a lot. I also applied to small and large stores. I applied to different temp agencies. I even went to job fairs.
No one called me back. When they do they would say there are no openings or I’m just not what they’re looking for.
I finally found a job, working part-time at a daycare center but it’s on call. I don’t like that there is no solid schedule and I always have to wait for them to call me. It’s not an ideal schedule because I don’t know when they are going to call me. It is making it difficult for me to make plans for anything. Also, they barely call me. I just started 3 weeks ago and only worked 4 days.
My brother thinks I should join national guard or army, but I don’t have the body or drive for that.
What should I do?
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You can look into preschools. My friend worked at daycares a lot as a teen, and now has a job working at a high class preschool as a teacher, while she's in college. Might also be good since you're intending on going back to school. She's full time with a steady schedule, as well.
Also, we're talking BRAND NAME preschools... like Belles & Beaus...
Also, you could look into elder care. There are a lot of them and they vary in responsibility. Sometimes you're a chauffeur that comes to take them places and hang out with them, sometimes you can make more doing... unpleasant... aspects of elder care that a nurse is often employed to do (like diaper changing, etc). There should be a lot of facilities (retirement homes, nursing homes, and in home care companies) in the area that do that sort of thing, or can recommend you to the companies around that do.
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I was bet friends with this one girl and I switched to online schooling for a month and I didn't like it so I switched back to regular high school. We kind of stopped talking as much when I switched. So when I got back she became friends with this other girl and I didn't mind because I like her a lot. She is very nice to me but since my friend has befriended her, she stopped talking to me. So I guess as a defense mechanism I started being rude to her when I talked to her. I know I am doing it and I hate that I am. I tried to stop but I've talked to her about her not talking to me anymore and she said we'd hang out more and she doesn't make plans to. I'm always the one to make the plans. I know this isn't all her fault but she is doing a lot of stuff that is hard for me to talk to her because I feel like she doesn't want to be friends. I don't know how to stop being rude to her and how to continue our friendship because we used to be best friends and I miss that. Help me please!!! (link)
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It's overwhelmingly rare that you manage to keep a best friend forever... especially in high school. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, is a bi-atch in high school. They're growing, they're changing, and as soon as you're out of sight, you're no longer in mind.
Chances are high that you're never going to be best friends with that girl again. She's moved on to someone else, and that someone is new and interesting and holds different possibilities, and potential adventure, etc.
She's still shiny, is my point. All brand new and out of the box. If you think about it like kids and toys... you're last year's doll and she's this year's new transformer with real movie dialog and moving parts.
You can pull out a friendship, if you just reign yourself in, but you're never gonna be her best friend again. Still, you could be civil, and see how things go. You can't be needy. You can't be upset when she doesn't make plans. You just have to ask her if she wants to hang out and move on if she doesn't that day. Better plan is to ask if she and her new friend wanna come hang out.
All together, you CAN be friends... you probably cannot return to being best friends... and your best bet would be to try and turn their duo into a triplet. But... if you don't want to do that... you might be best off trying to find yourself a new best friend... or just a new group of people to hang out with. Because you're in high school... and everyone in high school is a bi-atch. Everyone.
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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else? (link)
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I think it would be selfish to ask your husband NOT to be near his mother... You can voice your concerns, of course, but don't try to talk him out of it. Make a plan, instead.
You could live farther out from the area, but close enough he could easily drive to see his mom and aunt... an hour, maybe? Even half an hour out will remove you enough from the area that you have an excuse to NOT see your family, while your husband can still easily see his.
Or perhaps, instead, you need to tell YOUR family to stay away, since they are the problem. Or just don't tell them that you're coming to town, and if/when they find out, you tell them to stay away. I would assume that you don't really speak to them much as it is, given that you're not fond of them.
While it can be very daunting to have to confront people like that, you have to consider the implications to your family. If you don't want your children influenced by them, then you have to take a stand. It's really quite doable. My dad lives 15 minutes from me and we haven't spoken in over a year, now, because he's a stoner, a drunk, and I've never been fond of him.
There are many courses of action, here. Try to see them all and figure out a compromise for you and your husband.
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Its been almost 3 years and they have had there good times and bad times but today i didnt talk to her because I didnt want to fight and when we spoke she kept fighting with me... I feel like dying because she is my life and i am so stressed out, what should I do? (link)
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You could see a couple's counselor. That can be quite helpful in isolating the problem and resolving it. It can also be helpful in isolating the problem and determining if the relationship is worth saving.
Relationships end. It's part of life. It's never easy... and yes, it could be worth saving, but you're going to have to proactively do something to try and save it before it crumbles into nothing.
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I am a 13 year old girl. My height is 5.4 ft and my weight is 135 pounds.I am overweight for my age/height.I want to do the lemon diet because i'm feeling sluggish and tired.I also want to lose weight but i want to lose fat not muscle.should i try the lemon detox for a few days?
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Detoxes are complete crap. Just so you know. They don\'t rip out toxins or anything like that, you just start feeling the effects of hunger and people associate the empty feeling with being cleaned out. It\'s actually pretty unhealthy to go more than a day without eating really real food... and it is a symptom of anorexia.
You\'re not overweight for your height, according to BMI... You\'re at about a 23 on the scale... and normal BMI is between 18.5 & 24.9
If you\'re looking to lose some weight... you should just be more active. That builds muscle, which will in turn burn more fat anyway...
Lifting weights is especially helpful, and you don\'t end up looking like a body builder unless you lift like one... To tone without bulking, you want low weight and high rep.
Also, cardio is good for building muscle and cutting weight.
Seriously, though... detoxes and cleanses and juice fasts aren\'t really good for you. They\'re fads, and any weight you lose on them comes back and brings friends, more often than not.
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I have nightmares almost every night. And even if I don't have nightmares, I constantly remember my dreams. And it's stressing me out. I know that every person dreams but most people don't remember them. I do. It's like they're happening to me in real life, so I always feel tired after waking up. For example if I dream about taking a long walk, I'll literally feel like I took a long walk when I wake up.
Is there anything I can do about this? I also want to get rid of these constant nightmares :( They're either about people that are really important to me not liking me anymore or about monsters trying to kill me. I know it sounds pretty odd. Help? :( (link)
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Nightmares are a symptom of underlying fears and problems. I\'m not saying you\'re crazy... I\'m saying that statistically depressed and stressed people are more prone to remember dreams, in general. (You can look that up. It\'s true.)
So the really real answer is that you should see a shrink. A Psychologist, not a psychiatrist. The difference being that you probably don\'t want drugs.
You do some talking, work out what\'s bothering you, and the nightmares and dreams will stop.
Conversely, if you see a psychiatrist you CAN potentially get pills to suppress the dreams. You have to be careful with that, though. I took some pills from my psychiatrist once that actually CAUSED really horrible night terrors... but the sleeping pills he gave me (Temazapam, if you wanna name drop to a doctor) don\'t let me dream much, because they\'re benzos.
Either course... it just sounds like something is bothering you, and the sooner you work out what it is that\'s causing your feelings of unease, the sooner you\'ll be able to get a good night\'s sleep.
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So i am friendzoned by this girl and i am leaving to another school forever but i would like to talk to her on facebook not only at school. When i start a conversation its usually about homework or something like i was just at her parents restaurant. But after a while the convo just dies and i dont know what to say to her anymore! Talking to her just makes me happy! Also i fear i am annoying her but im not sure i am..please help! (link)
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A, the friendzone is an imaginary place... You have a shot with any girl, even one that has declared you a brother or friend type... you just have to crack that... it\'s hard, but doable with effort.
But... if you wanna talk to the girl... you have to do research. What does she like? If you don\'t know... you should ask her. Girls love talking about themselves at any age. I love talking about me, still. Once you find out what she likes... books, movies, music, whatever... you investigate the things she mentions... bands, authors, genres... then you can spark conversation with that.
If you\'re looking to escape the friendzone, btw... you need to figure out viable things to investigate. If she watches just chick flicks and listens to female pop singers... interest in those won\'t break you out of the friendzone. Find things you can both enjoy, and invite her to them. THAT is what will break you out of the friendzone.
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i want to ask ...i was rubbing my penis just near her pussy yesterday but my penis was completely dried and her pussy was wet..after rubbing when sperm abot to cum i tuk my penis little far away and sperm cam out in far place..so m asking is dat she will get pragnent??
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If sperm touches the vagina... there\'s chance of pregnancy... Oddly resilient little soldiers... but if you didn\'t get it on or in, there should be no chance of pregnancy at all.
If this continues to worry you, use a condom.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now. I'm 19 and he is 24. When me and him first got together I was 17 and he was 22 and we couldn't keep our hands off each other and he was always texting me and calling me and telling me how beautiful I am and we were always excited to see each other. He is also the only guy I've been with sexually. Now that we live on our own and have a 9 month old son he doesn't do everything he used to and he doesn't seem happy to see me anymore and we only have sex once a month. Is this normal? I feel unwanted and unloved:( I really wanna get back to the way me n him were before:/ please help. (link)
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It\'s pretty normal for a sex life to slow down after a couple of years... it\'s just not exciting anymore. It\'s also relatively normal for a sex life to slow after the birth of a child. That\'s just how it is. Babies aren\'t sexy.
Sex lives, romance, relationships... they take work to keep interest. A couple that\'s been madly in love for 60 years didn\'t manage that without effort. They managed it with a lot of work and knowing each other.
What do you do to make him feel special? He used to remind you how beautiful you are and ravage you... men need reassurance too. Do something he\'d appreciate romantically, like... I dunno. I don\'t know your boyfriend.
Examples range, depending on guy. I dated an artist... so I had him cover me in edible paint. I dated a sports junkie... so I came up with a sexy football jersey outfit. I dated a gamer... I took an interest in his gaming and tried it out.
I know that last one doesn\'t sound sexy, but the point is to express interest in him and validate things important to him... even without getting kinky with it, a genuine effort in that area will improve your sex life because it becomes something you two can share, and he will feel a renewed connection to you.
He needs to know he\'s loved as much as anyone, and there\'s a lot of ways to accomplish that. You know your man. You know what he likes. You know what he needs. You should know what attracted him to you in the first place. Hopefully it wasn\'t just that you were 17 and a virgin... but if it was, you can get creative on that front too.
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Ok so I really like this girl for a long time. I always think about her which is kinda sad. We used to talk a lot, now every time I'm around her I freeze up and don't know what to say and I act retarded. And the worse part is, I think she knows that I like her too, so I guess she's always ignoring me. What do I do? (link)
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She probably doesn\'t know you like her... she just thinks you\'re acting weird... and weird is not a good way to be. It weirds girls out.
You should suck up as much courage as you can muster, and then spit out, \"I\'m sorry I\'m acting so weird, I just like you and I dunno if you like me, and it makes me act like an idiot.\"
Then you see what she says.
Chances are high that she\'s going to smile... maybe giggle... this is good. It means she\'s flattered.
At worst, she\'s not interested... in which case you find another girl.
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Thanks for the advice pseudophun. I know it probably shouldn't be a big deal to get beat up by a girl. My neighbor told me the same thing and that does make me feel better.some people tend to still make it a big deal though for some reason, don't Know why? No way I would call her a bitch though if I seen her again lol because I would be dead meat again for sure. She has to know that I'm really afraid of her too. So I don't think she would hesitate to beat me up again. I doubt very much that my friends would help at all either. Fact they would probably be just as scared of her once she starts pounding me. Plus shes usually there with a few other girls as well so we would be outnumbered anyway
Thanks for the info too about the defense classless I should check those out especially if they don't cost much! Thanks again it really feels good to talk about this with other people. Like you! (link)
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No problem kid. ^_^ Lemme know if I can help in any way.
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Hi, I'm 19/F. I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend of almost 2 years now but our relationship has been kind of private due to my parents. They are not allowing me to start dating until I get at least a bachelors degree but I love my boyfriends so much. He wants me to tell my parents about us so do I but I'm scared that they'll get mad and start drama. His mother knows about us and I just want to be able to tell my parents about anything. What should I do? (link)
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It\'s unrealistic to think that you\'re not going to date until after you have a BA... You\'ll be a really real adult by then...
Easiest thing to do, if YOU (not your bf... he doesn\'t matter in this scenario) if YOU want to tell your parents that you\'re seeing him... here\'s a good way...
Tell your parents you\'d like to go to dinner somewhere... drive separate from them and show up with your bf. You introduce him and say, \"I want you to get to know him, because I\'ve been seeing him for two years, and I don\'t like that I\'ve had to hide him from you.\"
You have to be super adult. If they say something that upsets you, you have to hold down the rage and sadness, and just tell them, \"He hasn\'t had any effect my studies yet, so I don\'t see what my BA has to do with our relationship.\"
BUT YOU HAVE TO STAY CALM.
You have to act like an adult. You\'re TELLING THEM that this has been happening and it\'s going to continue... you\'re not ASKING THEM if it\'s okay. You\'ve proven it\'s okay. You\'re showing them how you\'re a responsible adult, but that you also have a life of your own.
The more adult and calm you are, the less you respond to anything negative they might say with rage or upset, and the less nervous you can manage to seem, the more seriously they\'ll take you. They just want what\'s best for you, but you\'re growing up, and they\'ll have to deal with that.
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