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I've been rude to a used to be close friend
I was bet friends with this one girl and I switched to online schooling for a month and I didn't like it so I switched back to regular high school. We kind of stopped talking as much when I switched. So when I got back she became friends with this other girl and I didn't mind because I like her a lot. She is very nice to me but since my friend has befriended her, she stopped talking to me. So I guess as a defense mechanism I started being rude to her when I talked to her. I know I am doing it and I hate that I am. I tried to stop but I've talked to her about her not talking to me anymore and she said we'd hang out more and she doesn't make plans to. I'm always the one to make the plans. I know this isn't all her fault but she is doing a lot of stuff that is hard for me to talk to her because I feel like she doesn't want to be friends. I don't know how to stop being rude to her and how to continue our friendship because we used to be best friends and I miss that. Help me please!!!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
It's overwhelmingly rare that you manage to keep a best friend forever... especially in high school. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, is a bi-atch in high school. They're growing, they're changing, and as soon as you're out of sight, you're no longer in mind.
Chances are high that you're never going to be best friends with that girl again. She's moved on to someone else, and that someone is new and interesting and holds different possibilities, and potential adventure, etc.
She's still shiny, is my point. All brand new and out of the box. If you think about it like kids and toys... you're last year's doll and she's this year's new transformer with real movie dialog and moving parts.
You can pull out a friendship, if you just reign yourself in, but you're never gonna be her best friend again. Still, you could be civil, and see how things go. You can't be needy. You can't be upset when she doesn't make plans. You just have to ask her if she wants to hang out and move on if she doesn't that day. Better plan is to ask if she and her new friend wanna come hang out.
All together, you CAN be friends... you probably cannot return to being best friends... and your best bet would be to try and turn their duo into a triplet. But... if you don't want to do that... you might be best off trying to find yourself a new best friend... or just a new group of people to hang out with. Because you're in high school... and everyone in high school is a bi-atch. Everyone.
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