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I really do not want anyone to tell me that life is great, you can live more, don't do it, or any of that crap. I simply want to die. Period. And quick, painless, easy, cheap death. Please do not try to help me. I really want to go. That way I truly will be at peace, and I will not have to go on anymore. PLease PLEASE PLEASE don't tell me not to. I have my mind made up. If you do try to talk me out of it, i am scared that i will be futherly depressed knowing that i could not and would not follow your healing advice... I simply want a way out, and that's it. Please help me (link)
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yea, as much as i wanna link u to a website, i dont wanna get banned. but thing is, you obviously can't wanna kill yourself, because you are on here, asking for attention. if you are hoping to get responses like 'im here for u 2!', then it won't help you. therapists are shit. and people here only answer your question, not knowing your life situtations. personally i knwo that being depressed, makes doing the basic human fuctions a huge pain. i couldn't even talk to people at all for like 3 months. im still looking, but i'll try and find a suicide/ depressed forum so you can actually talk to human people, not stupid guidance counsellors. and as for suicide methods, do reasearch. since many are EXETREMELY painful and don't work in the end, so you don't wanna put your self through that. check mortality rates. happy dying! or not... you know. if you change your mind..
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does anyone know where i can watch fame, couples retreat, or i hope the serve beer in hell online? oh and it has to be free. (link)
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try surfthechannel.com it works all the time 4 me
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Recently, my friend has been talking about how "hot" he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and "jerk off" (masturbate) at any pictures of her in them. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to molest him he'd be all for it. Its kind of funny but its also kind of creepy to me. II always thought a teacher is someone you respect, not look at in that way. Is this normal (link)
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well, i can't be sure, but i've read of something called a rape fantasy, which is harmless, and very common. so if he is serious, then thats the obvious answer. about the appropiateness of it, thenit's totally normal for people to have crushes, regardless of it being a teacher or not. its only weird, he he tries to act on it, because he should have enough common sense to realise it is wrong. yea, a teacher is someoneyou respect, but think of it as an ordinary crush. it ill pass. you should realise that being around someone in close quarters is bound to make them seem more appealing. plus he's a guy, and they think that talking about women in that objectifying kinda way, makes them seem cool and mature. just laugh and ignore it, but he he does something, then tell the teacher hat you think, privateley, because your teacher hasn't done anything rong, and you don't wanna ruin her reputation around the school, because you your friend.
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okay so i really really like this guy.
he is 18 and im 14 (about to be 15 in october 20). last night he went to my towns football game and he said the night before that he is going to ME! well last night when he came, like after 5 minutes or so he said that he will be right back. so when he left, me and my friend left where he was going because we were sitting on the visitors side. so we sat on our home side and he saw us but he never came back. and then he went to his friends and everytime girls came in the group and talked to him. and yeah i got jealous and madd. well after like 20 minutes he still ddidnt come. so my friend texted him saying that he is fucked up because he left me and that im fixing to leave. but then he came and after five minutes he left again so i was like going to my friends and it went on like that for a while. but then we just didnt hang out at all for the rest of the game. im like yea sure he came for me when he just leaves me. and then after the game, it was me and my other friend and him, we walked to the gas station and on the way there they were flirting and they just like left me. like they were like 10 feet infront of me and they didnt even look behind them for me. so i was tickkkeedd! and then later that night he texted me when i left saying "this isnt gonna work". so i almost started crying. and he said that he never flirted with her or whatever. so idk what to do anymore. i really like him but idk! please help me.
(he thinks im 15) (link)
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you r probably gonna rate me low, but honestly, if he doesn't wanna go out with you, then there's no point trying to force him. i mean, he's a lot older than you, and i don't have a problem with that, but he sounds, like he's just playing you. i know you like hium, but its just a crush, and he doesn't sound that bothered, to be honest. it's a lot of drama over nothing really. im sure he hot and stuff, but he's not really worth it.
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okay so i recently just asked a question about this but last night i recieved some more info on it so yeah... okay so this guy (lets call him mike) and i have been talking and hanging out for around a month now. and i really like him. were just friends right now but there has been a lot of flirting and we got a little physical (just a little). well the other night these two girls that im kiiiiiind of friends with came up to me and told me that mike and their friend (their friend likes mike) had been sending naked pics (btw, this girl is like three years older than mike who is fifteen... ew.) but anyway i didnt really believe this and i kind of firgured they were only saying this bcuz their friend likes mike and they want me out of the way... well i asked one of mikes really close friends and he said that this happened like four months ago and he also said from what mikd said, that mike only had his shirt off and that the girl also had some sort of clothing on. but the girls who told me made it sound like he had nothing on... so i dont know what to do. i dont know who to believe (i do trust mikes friend muuuch more) and i dont want to ask mike because its really none of my business seeing as i barely even knew him four months ago and im not his girlfriend or anything, but still. him sending naked pictures would bother me. i think i could handle the no shirt thing, thats not too bad, but still. and mikes friend DID say that mike had gotten a lot better and that he doesnt do stuff like that anymore and i believe him on that but i dont know what to do... (link)
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he a guy. they do dtupid stuff, if it seems sexual. plus, if he is lying about only having his shirt off, then at least you kno he's embarrased about it. don't let it bother you, but don;t feel pressured, to follow her example, i mean she's 3 yrs older than him, which is weird... but he should expect anything from you. hat she sent him, isn't really important. if you like him, just forget about it. its obviously not something he's proud of
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I have been dating my boyfriend for just on fourteen months now. He is perfect. When I say this I mean it. He treats me with more respect I could have ever thought possible there is never a moment he isn't complimenting me or telling me that he loves me. He does everything I ask of him and never ever complains. He never yells at me, has never ever called me a bad name, not even stupid or idiot - nothing. But having him has come at a price, he is so attached and so in love with me that we often spend most of our free time together, this has resulted in me losing the majority of my friends and even had friends present me with an ultimatum, them or him. I'm nearly 20 years old, so immaturity really shouldn't be an excuse for my friends. But I can't round it down to anything else.
But now all I have left in my life is him. I don't know what to do. I have stayed in this relationship mainly for him because he loves me so much and because I know what it would do to him if I were to end it. But I'm not happy. I have grown increasingly depressed over the past year and have found myself conpletely socially isolated overweight and extremely lonely. I was once very socialble I had a large group of friends and was pretty much known for going out and having a good time.
I did love him, but my life has morphed into something I hate and I am starting to resent his love rather than cherish it. EVERYONE says that we are perfect for each other. That we were made for each other. And I used to think that too. When we hug I fit in perfectly, we always agree and have so much in common. But I think its unfair for me to feel like I have to stay with him because he loves me. I need to feel as though I love him too, but all I feel is resentment.
Should I stay with him? He is perfect in every way and i know there are hardly any men out there that would treat me as well as he does. Or is it unfair to both of us if I stay?
Please help, I can't sleep over this. (link)
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don't string him along. tell him you love being with him, but you are young, and feeling trapped and lonely and miserbale. if he's such a good boyfriend, he''l let you hang out with your friends a lot more. also, what about his friends, doesn't he want to hang out with them? that could be part of the problem.
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UGH! Ok, so one of my best friends and I just got into a HUGE fight. Like, I have never ever ever told her to fuck off and leave me alone. Basically, she was with this guy last christmas for like a month. She broke it off with him because she thought it was really awkward and wasn't working out. Then for about 5 months, she realized she "still loved him" and was like a pathetic little puppy following him around and always begging him to take her back. During these 5 months, he dragged her through hell and back, dating other girls while claiming he liked her, claiming he liked her but "wasn't sure if he wanted to date her". He was like waving hope in front of her face and everytime she was almost happy, he'd snatch it away. It was terrible because I had to hear about it basically every freakin day :/ So, now they're back together even after all the crap he's put her through, and they're just SO strange. She claims that they're "in love" and they're planning all this stuff about their "future together" and stuff :/ keep in mind, we're only sophmores in highschool... I know some highschool couples make it, but they are both just SO incredibly immature. Well, recently, another of our guy friends started to like her. She keeps telling me this over and over and I said "well that's ok, as long as you don't like him back because you're "in love"". She just gave me this blank stare and said "well I kinda like him...only a little..." I was like what?! You can't just be flirting with other guys when you claim to be "so in love" with your boyfriend...So yeah, fast forward to the fight :/ We were texting about how she got really mad at him because she said "bye" just joking around, and he said "bye" seriously and didn't stop her from leaving (yeah, I know :/ really stupid) so, trying to be a caring friend, I brought up a question... all I said is "Hey, are you absolutely sure you love this guy?" and she was like "Yes. Don't ever question that again" so I tried to justify why I asked that and she goes off about how "everyone is always judging her" and how "a real friend wouldn't have asked that" and stuff like that :/ So I kindof got really mad because, in my opinion, she is just really really really far into denial. I mean, I know I cant really feel what she's feeling, but I am not completely clueless. I've been through a lot of my own personal problems, and I have this deep gut-wrenching feeling that she is going to get REALLY hurt. Anyways, I told her I thought she's in denial about something and she's just being stubborn because she NEVER listens to ANY of my advice, even though I am almost always right about it! And then she said "Well maybe I'll just break up with him because you want me too. Will that make you happy?" and I'm just like "I NEVER said you should dump him! I didn't even say anything remotely close to that! Why are you trying to blame it on me?!" then she starts bringing up all this really really emotionally painful stuff that is very hard for me to talk about and is actually none of her business because she won't ever understand the stuff I went through. At that point, I just told her to "Back the F*** off and leave me the hell alone because you are in absolutely NO position to bring up that particular memory." So yeah, I got her to stop talking to me. I seriously am shaking because I am so angry. If she were here, I probably would have punched her in the face a LONG time ago. I really regret even bringing it up, but I honestly didn't know she would freak out that much about it. I just don't know what to do. Any advice is helpfull. I'm going to guess that some of you will say it's partly my fault, so just give me your honest opinion and help me get through this :( thanks... (link)
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I'm in the same situtaion as you!. but i can't help that much, but this collumnist can possibly give you a idea of what to say to your best friend. copy this question and send it to her
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Kkytha
PS: sorry this is happenning to you. try not to lose a best friend over it, but if she pushes you away, then maybe she isn't the best friend for you!
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i really need an advice of how to get over my exboyfrnd i delted him from my phone i do evrything but i dont know why i cant get him out of my head .i remember evrything he does to me kisses ,hugs ... ) i need help >>. (link)
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sorry for not answering this sooner, i didn't realise i had a new one. firstly, i sympathise with you a LOT. it hard to get rid of someone from your life. my advice, is don't. don't feel like you have to close a door on a huge part of your life. im not saying be friends with him, but be civil. get rid of relationshipy stuff, but keep the stuff that seems okay, like a cd he might have given you. if you try to fforget all about him, it will make you have a harder time with relationship issues in the future, and you shouldn't give him the satisfaction of doing that. i know its annoying, but time will get rid of the relation ship mamories. my advice is to think about the bad parts of your relationship, whenever you think about kissing him. and also find a hot guy. can be in your life, or a celeb, and instead try and imagine kissing them. it s a little therapy excercise i found, and it works. its a bit painful at first, but its a healthy way, of moving on, without feeling scared of dating again. hope this helps! xxx
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i like this one guy and i was going to ask him to the dance but since we don't even talk i asked this other guy who is my crush's friend. this is not to make my crush jealous. it's just that i talk more to his friend than i do to him (again not to make anyone jealous)and plus when my crush found out that i liked him, he ignored me and i felt that i was going to make things worse if i asked him. he thought of me as a friend and i didn't want to make him anymore uncomfortable than i already was soo that's why i asked his friend. am i a hyprocrite for this? is my crush going to think i'm a wh*re or something? do you think he'll think bad thoughts about me like i'm trying to make him jealous when i'm not?
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yeah, i thin the same as mangy momma. it just him probably having an shock to his ego, that you seem to have moved on from him. if he's made it clear he's not interested, then he's still not. if he tries to make a move on you now anyway, don't respond. he's just trying to feed his ego a bit and make himself feel better. you shouldn't feel like a hypocrite. xxx
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Well, in my numerous other questions I stated that I liked my band drum major. I do, still, now I would like to go about this that I can be a good flirt without words, I don't want to be the girl to show a guy I like him with words. So, my friend says he looks at me whenever I look away or at someone else. She said when he looks at me it's like I'm the most important girl on the Earth. She said he just gets this look in his eyes that is unexplainable. When I look away, she looks at him and she also stated that every time I am not looking at him, he looks at me and smiles HUGE. Another thing that makes me think he has a minuscule amount of feelings is, he talks to everyone in the band like his best friends and when it comes to me he doesn't talk to me he is such an outgoing person but when he gets to me, he's so shy, heck maybe that means he doesn't like me, i just don't know! he also doesn't yell at me if I do something wrong (he yells at anyone in the band who is goofing off, except me). I think he likes me, to be honest. It's hard to tell though because both of us are shy kind of people that don't confront the person we like. However, we have so much in common, our favorite number is 8 and our favorite color is green, we are both in band, he's quiet around new people as am I. We both know how to have fun and we both don't care what others think. People, please, don't answer this 'he likes you, talk to him' like I said, I don't want to be the overbearing crush that never leaves the boy alone. Tell me how I can be a better flirt with JUST looks and things from far away. I am never close with him, one on one because he is always on the podium conducting and when he isn't conducting my band director has him doing something else. So, tell me how I can flirt when he's on the podium and I'm on the ground. Also, tell me your take on if he likes me or not.
->thanks to anyone who read this! I appreciate it! (link)
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no expert, but maybe when youre sitting down, look at him occasionally, but the rest of the time look as if you aren't interested. when you look at him, if you cathes your eye, just look slightly amused and look away again. obviously this isn't flirting, but it will get him obsessed about it. if when you look at him, he's already lookng at you or it doesn't take long for him to notcie that you are watching him, then he obviously care whether your'e watching him. i think from the way you described him, it seems like he likes you, but maybe he's just being extra nice to you. to get him to ask you out, it mainly about looking at him in the right way, the kinda way to get him to start thiking about you, and smile often, but not for too long. sort of like, small occasional flirty smiles, but then look away or engross yourself in something else, so he comes to you. i dunno. hope it helps, he sounds like he likes you and vice versa. good luck xxx
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So I liked this guy since about May. We are good friends. It's just the fact that he is 17. So it's like a 2 year difference. So I didn't want to do anything about it.
Then about 2 weeks ago I found out my friend liked him. She is the same age as me. I was fine with it. I'm not the kind of girl to get jealous. Especially if he isn't mine. So she told him. She told me that he said he liked her but didn't want to do anything about it because he is a senior and he is graduating, plus he is on the football team. So he isn't allowed to have a girlfriend. Stupid new rule they made recently. If he gets caught with one then he gets kicked off the team.
I asked him about it. He said he didn't like her but he did tell her that he wanted to wait till he graduated to date.
So pretty much she lied about that. Then I found out he liked me that whole time too. I didn't really put much to that. I know we wouldn't be able to get anywhere anyways. I never go out with guys older than me so it would be weird. I do still like him though.
So he says he doesn't like my friend but he sits with her and all this stuff. He is doing it to be nice. I haven't told anybody about my feelings towards him. His friends kept bringing up everything with us. I don't know what to do about this. If he is really lying about liking her and if he actually does like me and his friends are the ones to lie about that. But yeah, my question is, how do I deal with this? I still like him but my feelings keep building up every time I'm with him and now that my friend likes him, it makes it worse. Thanks. (link)
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esy. spend time with him as a friend. if you sound as cool as you described, then you should be fine with just hanging out, and not obsessing over it. your friend obviously like him. did you tell her u like him? maybe thats why she's upset and he might like you, but if he knows he can't date and won't date till graduation, maybe its a message to you. the fact that he won't date you, or he just won't date you till then. just hang out with him. if you like him, then you should be able to spend fun time with him, without awkwardness.
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I have a best friend that is a year younger than me and we have been friends for 10 years. I am 14 btw. I used to have two other best friends of my own age. One day they just told me that they didn't like me and that my boyfriend had changed my personality. The meaner of the 2 who was doing all the talking, I'll call her Sally told me that I was nothing like I used to be. It has been almost a year, and "sally" and I still talk often. I also talk to the one that wasn't doing much talking "Emily." My best friend and boyfriend both disapprove of me talking to either of themm but I just don't know what to do. Oh and Emily and Sally are quite friendless besides eachother too. Please, help me I can't decide if I should talk to them or not because we were close for soo long. (almost 4 years) Also, Sally is always putting me down, but that's just her personalityy. (link)
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well, they were just telling you what they honestly thought, and they still want to talk to you obviously, they were just trying to help you understand what they were feeling. to be honest, if you best friend and boyfriend are trying to actually force you to stop hanging out with sally and emily, then they aren't ebing supportive. if you have changed, then its not your fault, because all relationships, tend to change people. just keep being friends with them. i don't see a huge problem. you are either letting yourself be pushed around buy your boyfriend and co. or you are making a big fuss about a fight you had a year ago. either get over it, or decide what the real problem is. maybe you just don't like one of them (by that i mean the boyfriend side or the old friends side) and are feeling to guilty to actually tell them what you feel, and are stringing them along. which is bad. Or you are letting yourself be pushed over too much and now you are suffereing. which means, you also need to decide who your friends are. don't feel you have to be friends with some one, but also don't feel that you can't they are your friends, and if your other friends don't respect that, then they aren't your real friends. or maybe they are just a bit too clingy. i find that long time friends, get jealous easily when their friends gain other friends. that alos applies to boyfriends. ooh thats interesting. yeah, maybe those two are just being possesive. in which case, make sure you treat both equally special, and don't talk about your other friend when your with them. so yeah, whichever one applies best to your problem, i guess. gd luck.
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boys at school do not find me attractive,so i need help to make them look at me. (link)
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well, you have to believe you're attractive i know its sound stupid, but if you feel sexy then boys will pick off that vibe from you quickly. the problem with boys at school is that they see you everyday, and it can be hard to see a person differently sometimes. if you want a boyfriend, maybe try meeting guys out of school, unles there's a guy at school you really like. spend time at party's or social meetings outside of school. but spend someime getting ready. get a new outfit that makes you feel sexy, and comfertable. put on some make-up, shave and go out with you friends. just talk normally, but laugh with them, and flirt, but don't overdo it. being yourself is important, but you should show that there's a lot more to you than what they see at school. when you are at party's don't just hang out with your friends, hang out with the guys (play it cool though, like you don't need to follow them to the bathroom or anything!), cos guys can be intimidated by large groups of girls. also don't go straight for the hottest guiy in school. try going for someone you might not have considered before.
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So my boyfriend and I had sex for our first time 2 and a half weeks ago and then we did again a week later. All fully protected and safe, he didn't cum or anything. I just still am paranoid. My 28th day was yesterday and i usually start between 29-32 days, I'm on time usually and I am just paranoid. I want my period to come but I try not to think about it. I've had like alot of wetness in my underwear, well not alot but a good amount and I just wondered if that was normal. Is my period coming? (link)
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i know its easy to be worried, what with all the teen pregnancy's but seriously. 1) he didn't cum. 2) you were fully proctected. 3) you are young, your'e period should come within a few days. it it didn't come to tady, you shouldn't panic. it will probably come tommorrow. you have to understand that you can't tell purley by a period not being exactly on time. it doesn't work like that. just calm down, if you did everything u said you did, you should be just fine. and you don't want ot rush your period, its a natural thing not a thing you can control, as much as you would like to.
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I hate my life right now Im always tired stressed out and lonely. Theirs no one to talk to about my problems I have plenty of friends but they have their own problems to worry about. Most of the time we are all doign our on thing unless we are drinking together. My other friends have boy friends that they are always with I dont trust guys thats why I havnt been close to a guy since my last boy friend who abused me physically and mentally we broke up 7 months ago. I am beautiful and every guy wants me becasue Im hot but they dont take the time our of their day to make a connection with me other than sexually. I am not a whore I have only been with 2 guys the second guy got with me after telling me he wants a relationship but now he doesnt talk to me. How can I find the right guy whos going to have a healthy relationship with me and how do i detect if they just want to get in my pants im stressed becasue im lonely im lonely becasue i dont trust and i dont trust becasue i trusted the wrong people. How am i supposed to find a good guy when guys cant get passed my looks. (link)
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your being stressed and lonely hasn't got much to do with your boyfriend problems. you need to engage yourself with other things than just drinking and guys. you said it yourself, you are beautiful and young, and you should use this opportunity to try new things and meet new people. don't rely on your friends alone.
about your boyfriend issues, i think you maybe choose guys who used you. try to go for guys who honestly like you for you, then go out wiht them. and if so many guys like you, go out with them, they obviusly want to. i have a friend whose really hot and she has lots of sweet guys who adore her but she only goes for the guys who she has to work with to even form any kind of relationship try to go for a guy who maybe you didn't consider at first. you might be suprised. and it can't do any harm to try at least.
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My dads girlfreind! For the past year she has came before everyone in his life! I mean come on now because I didnt get along with her and buy her crap she convinced my dad to make me come live with my mom. And now for the past year me and my dad fight everyday ..over her!
Im so sick of it I love my dad so much and wish we could have a relationship and talk like we used to but its impossible with her. No matter how many times I tell my dad how I feel he defends her. I wish she would die, she took the most important person in my life from me. what can I do? (link)
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god, i know, it sucks like hell, but you have to see it from his point of view, not because you need to be fair, but because its the only way you'll gte back on track with him. imagine you have a boyfriend. you love him like hell, and your parents think he's bad for you, but no one see's the real him like you do. then when your parents criticise him, what will you do? jump to his defence of course. i know you don't like her, but maybe whilst you think your just trying to talk to him, it makes him upset that you don't like her. forget about her. its about your dad. if you think you can get rid of her, you r wrong. just tell him you want to spend time with him alone, cause you miss him, and that way he doesn't have to feel torn between the two people he loves, you and her. i know this situation sucks, i've been there, but if you love your dad, then you have to let his issues go, for a bit. :) good luck xxx
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i'm 19 years old, female. my cousin is 17.
me and him are really close. we hang out all the time and just always have a good time together. the dumb thing is that people think that we are dating! uhm hellooo? he is my COUSIN. people keep telling me, "you need to stop hanging out with him, people are starting to think you two are dating" and tonight my uncle was like youre not dating him are you? and i started laughing because how rediculous is that? and he was like see you cant even look at me and say youre not! i was like honestly, do you think i would ever ever EVER do that? its not like we flirt with each other, thats disgusting. we're just always together. whats so wrong with that? apparently there is something.... (link)
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Don't worry, if they think you're dating then they are insane. i love my cousins to bits, and i understand completely. if someone says that again, just laugh and be like, 'i dunno what you do with you cousins, but thats not how we do it!'. you shouldn't feel strange about being close to your cousin, you should be glad! of all the things to make you feel weird about, that shouldn't be one of them.
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Okay, so I'm 16 years old and just got into my first serious relationship. Yay! :) Happy days.
Anyways....when my boyfriend and I make out, I can feel "that area" getting kind of wet. Today when I got home I went into the bathroom to check and there was this whitish clear liquid in my underwear and around my vagina. Is this cum? And is this a result of being aroused? I didn't think you cum-ed until having sex at an orgasm? Because we haven't really gotten hot & heavy or anything like that yet.
Is there such a thing as just getting wet easily? Cause I mean I really haven't felt that urge to just keep pushing further and further, you know? Like that sexual desire. Yet I noticed its kind of a good amount of this liquid stuff because I can feel it there after we've made out and it can be sorta uncomfortable.
Oh, and is that "fireworks" thing during a kiss real? Because I've never really had that firework moment during a kiss. I mean I enjoy it a lot, but I've never felt that fireworks thing with anyone I have kissed.
If anyone could help explain this, I'd appreciate it!
Thank you! (link)
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yeah, it totally normal, and a good sign! but the fireworks thing..well, unles you kiss on the fourth of july, when there are actual fireworks, you'll be waiting for a VERY long time. yeah that's movie crap. but amazing kisses aren't you just have to be more open minded. and the fact that your'e getting wet when you kiss him, seems like you've got that already! :)
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No reason....I completely understand what you are saying, and I would say that this is true for most people...that we should put our differences aside to try to help our son. Believe me when I tell you I have tried on many occasions to do so. Instead of trying to help with my son's drug problem, my ex took me to court to try to prove that I am an unfit mother. I am a very well-educated woman with two college degrees. I have a professional career and many successful relationships including one with my daughter. I was a stay-at-home mother for 15 years. I am not UNFIT. All I wanted from him was help to save this young man's life. Instead I got another trip to court. Children don't always see what happens behind the scenes, and judge thieir parents unfairly. (link)
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i completely understand, and am very sympathetic to you, but the court should see that it's not you fault that he's taking drugs. if anything, what im hearing from you now, tells me that you shouldn't let him stay with his, father anymore. the father is using this as a way of taking u to court, meanwhile, your son is probably hiding away, continuing his drug problem. forget about your husband, and focus on your son. i think he need's a shock. he sounds in many ways like me, and i know myself. he's trying to get attention, and you didn't give it to him, so he avoided you as punishment. you should take him back, but don't coddle him give him a shock. i'm guessing you live the us, where most of the drug rehabilitaion programs will have a youth program. im not saying tosign him up for that, but they often teach kids about the truth of drugs, the truth that schools wont say. you should just say to him that if he wants to be a crackhead, then fine, and heis your son so you will always love him, but you won't like him. you won't respect him. see people think there are many reasons why people start drugs but there are only two. they are either curious and very stupid or they are trying to seek attention, and are too dumb to try and seek it out properly themselves. bring him back to earth, with a painful bump. im sure your are smart, and loving and responsible, but you'll find that u will need a bit more than that you need to remeber that he's not just your son, he's a kid who needs to be taught a lesson. it might be hard for him, and also hard on you, but you have a responsibilty. and the drugs lesson works. its not like the school thing, i had to talk to this woman who was still an addict and i practically cried. it was horrible. she was everyhting i never wanted to be. i didn't talk to anyone for ages, but it was definetly worth it. good luck xxx
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Ever since I was 8 (im 18 now)..I have been dreaming about this guy that i have never seen nor heard of. (there are kinda like relationship dreams)...I dont even know his name....I gavehm one though...I have never been in a relationship, but have always wanted one since I was like 5....Who is this guy?...I meet guys that resemble him(maybe 25-50%), but they dont look like him 100%.... (link)
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my pysch teacher usually says that dreams are a culmination of different aspects of your life, the current issues being most dominant, but also containing bits of your past, your childhood. i think that maybe you've fixated on this person from you dreams, and maybe if you think about, he has probably changed as you ahve grown up, to suit your personality. his image is probably due to a whole variety of things, such as people you have or still find attractive and people from your past.
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