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Please Read Evven Though Long. 14 year old in distress
I have a best friend that is a year younger than me and we have been friends for 10 years. I am 14 btw. I used to have two other best friends of my own age. One day they just told me that they didn't like me and that my boyfriend had changed my personality. The meaner of the 2 who was doing all the talking, I'll call her Sally told me that I was nothing like I used to be. It has been almost a year, and "sally" and I still talk often. I also talk to the one that wasn't doing much talking "Emily." My best friend and boyfriend both disapprove of me talking to either of themm but I just don't know what to do. Oh and Emily and Sally are quite friendless besides eachother too. Please, help me I can't decide if I should talk to them or not because we were close for soo long. (almost 4 years) Also, Sally is always putting me down, but that's just her personalityy.
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well, they were just telling you what they honestly thought, and they still want to talk to you obviously, they were just trying to help you understand what they were feeling. to be honest, if you best friend and boyfriend are trying to actually force you to stop hanging out with sally and emily, then they aren't ebing supportive. if you have changed, then its not your fault, because all relationships, tend to change people. just keep being friends with them. i don't see a huge problem. you are either letting yourself be pushed around buy your boyfriend and co. or you are making a big fuss about a fight you had a year ago. either get over it, or decide what the real problem is. maybe you just don't like one of them (by that i mean the boyfriend side or the old friends side) and are feeling to guilty to actually tell them what you feel, and are stringing them along. which is bad. Or you are letting yourself be pushed over too much and now you are suffereing. which means, you also need to decide who your friends are. don't feel you have to be friends with some one, but also don't feel that you can't they are your friends, and if your other friends don't respect that, then they aren't your real friends. or maybe they are just a bit too clingy. i find that long time friends, get jealous easily when their friends gain other friends. that alos applies to boyfriends. ooh thats interesting. yeah, maybe those two are just being possesive. in which case, make sure you treat both equally special, and don't talk about your other friend when your with them. so yeah, whichever one applies best to your problem, i guess. gd luck.
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Don't be friends with people that put you down- it's that simple. It doesn't matter if you're fourteen or forty, you shouldn't be around verbally abusive people. Obviously these girls have issues of their own to work out and it's not your job to sit around being their punching bag. Surround yourself with good people.
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