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No reason....I completely understand what you are saying, and I would say that this is true for most people...that we should put our differences aside to try to help our son. Believe me when I tell you I have tried on many occasions to do so. Instead of trying to help with my son's drug problem, my ex took me to court to try to prove that I am an unfit mother. I am a very well-educated woman with two college degrees. I have a professional career and many successful relationships including one with my daughter. I was a stay-at-home mother for 15 years. I am not UNFIT. All I wanted from him was help to save this young man's life. Instead I got another trip to court. Children don't always see what happens behind the scenes, and judge thieir parents unfairly.
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i completely understand, and am very sympathetic to you, but the court should see that it's not you fault that he's taking drugs. if anything, what im hearing from you now, tells me that you shouldn't let him stay with his, father anymore. the father is using this as a way of taking u to court, meanwhile, your son is probably hiding away, continuing his drug problem. forget about your husband, and focus on your son. i think he need's a shock. he sounds in many ways like me, and i know myself. he's trying to get attention, and you didn't give it to him, so he avoided you as punishment. you should take him back, but don't coddle him give him a shock. i'm guessing you live the us, where most of the drug rehabilitaion programs will have a youth program. im not saying tosign him up for that, but they often teach kids about the truth of drugs, the truth that schools wont say. you should just say to him that if he wants to be a crackhead, then fine, and heis your son so you will always love him, but you won't like him. you won't respect him. see people think there are many reasons why people start drugs but there are only two. they are either curious and very stupid or they are trying to seek attention, and are too dumb to try and seek it out properly themselves. bring him back to earth, with a painful bump. im sure your are smart, and loving and responsible, but you'll find that u will need a bit more than that you need to remeber that he's not just your son, he's a kid who needs to be taught a lesson. it might be hard for him, and also hard on you, but you have a responsibilty. and the drugs lesson works. its not like the school thing, i had to talk to this woman who was still an addict and i practically cried. it was horrible. she was everyhting i never wanted to be. i didn't talk to anyone for ages, but it was definetly worth it. good luck xxx
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