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I don't think there is a section for puberty, but there should be.
Anyhow, I have a hurty pimple thing in my NOSE. Gross, yes. Hurty, yes. It's like pea-sized and it hurts alot. It's right on the opening of my nostril. At first I thought it was a tumor but thats very unlikely. I went to pop it and only a little bit of zitty stuff came out, even though it's huge. (Ewwy...)
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Don't listen to that person who said that if you pop it, it will grow back bigger. That is so NOT true. I've had them inside my nose, too, and you can't put medicine on a zit inside your nose. And they REALLY hurt! Ow! I took a needle and sterilized over a flame until it glowed red, and I very carefully folded back my nostril, and popped, and squeezed until all the stuff came out. You may want to get someone you trust to help you. I hope you can find someone who is willing. My mom would help me with zits on my back when I was a kid. I know it's gross, but she cared enough to help. Then take a piece of tissue, or a corner of a washcloth, and put very hot water on it, and hold it there as long as you can. That's what I did when I had this kind of zit. And it didn't come back bigger. I think I've only had one like that maybe once or twice in my whole life. They are very rare. Good Luck!
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Im on this site as in advice giver but obviously i cant take my own advice, im just not good at it.. i just need to know how to deal with my sexual life. Im a bisexual, and it is out to most people (i only tell people i trust) i feel that i cant tell anyone else because some people already hate me and think that just because im a girl i have to like guys, but thats not what i choose, i like both sexes. And i dont want anyone else to hate me forever because of what i choose to do with my life. Most of my real friends except that im bi and dont mind bein around me, but others who dont except it, make sure other dont either, or they make dirty looks, or say and do terrible things to me. I try to say that im not bi anymore so that i dont have to be humilliated by my peers. I just dont know what to do anymore, but i dont want people to hate me for my sexual life, it doesnt seem right, is there anyone who can help me? (link)
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First of all, don't listen to that person who said God wouldn't approve. How would she know? Isn't God the one who made you the way you are? You didn't choose to be the bi anymore than I chose to be straight. You are what you are. God gave us free will, and he doesn't make mistakes.Be yourself, and find people that can respect you for who you are. Maybe there are others like you. Anyways, it's your life, and nobody can life it for you.
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Hi im one of your fellow advice columnist!
I'm asking this question because i'm desprete! (no offence) My mom has this hatrid for schools and so i'm home schooled but I don't get taught anything! Some of you may think this is great but I want to go to collage and my mom is excepting me have my GED when I turn 16 which is in 2 years. My mom says thats its my responsability to remind her to teach me. Its just that I don't like to remind her because all she does is give me the same stuff to that she has been giving me for the last 6 years. My mother REALLY depressed and I am having a hard time with her. this year when school starts I should be in 9th grade and in high school but I amm really scared about what to do! because if the state knew that I'm not getting any schooling they would take me away. I mean I'm getting to the point to where I'm going to tell the state. Please don't tell me tell my mother to put me in school because I have done that MANY times and trust me my mom isn't pretty when she is mad.
I have taught myself to read and write play the piano and many other things that I could learn to do in school. I am very advanced in piano and I write poetry and I have one that is published and I have storys published in magazines too. i am very good at cooking and baking. sewing.
So you see I'm not stupid but I cant go any futher now. I NEED to be in school.
I really could use your advice! i really would like an aults point of veiw on this but will take anybodys advice.
thankyou you can e-mail me at kutekrushkat@yahoo.com
signed
not stupid (link)
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Hey poetry girl. I had no idea you were in such a situation. I'm the one you wrote to about poetry. Everyone here has excellent advice. Why does your mom hate school so much? My guess is that she is over-protective and is afraid you'll get mixed up with the wrong crowd, gangs, bullies, take your pick. But if she is really concerned about your welfare, then she needs to realize that she is not doing you a favor by sheltering from the world, then refusing to give you the education you need to survive in that world. Does she expect you to live at home forever? Don't you have older siblings or family you can discuss this with? If so, then you need to arrange an "intervention" where you all sit down and talk to your mother about her need to keep you dependant on her, and her depression. I think you and her both need help. You need to go together to a family counselor and discuss this. If this won't work, go to the nearest school and ask a school counselor for help. Nobody should be deprived of a good education, and she may just not be able to provide it because she is not well. No offense, but this does not sound normal. Find someone you can trust, and take action right away! Let me know what happens. You can write me at nicegirl90247@yahoo.com
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hi i have just turned 20 yrs old and thanx for your reply. (link)
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I'm sorry, but what question did I answer for you? I need more information.
Duh, I just realized you were the one with the immature friend. Never mind. Well, now I know. At that age, I probably assumed guys in their 30's would be mature too. Even my husband who is 35, acts childish sometimes. Go figure!
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hi i receievd your answer thnx but it wasn't really that great help i'm sorry but you know the guy he is 10 yrs older and his friend so would they still be immature at that age? well let me know but i must say you have been right about some things you wrote but thanx for replying (link)
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Age has nothing to do with maturity. Some people grow up very young, and some people never grow up no matter how old they get. That's just the way it is. When you are older, and have more life experience, you will realise this. If you need more proof, though, I'll give you an example. My husband has a friend that is 10 yrs older than him, and he is very immature. He's in his 40's, and has never had a stable relationship, and isn't very responsible. He tries, and in some ways he is a very nice person, but because of life circumstances, he never really grew up. He lived in many foster homes growing up , so I think that has something to do with it. He never had a good role model. Maybe that is the case with these two guys. Not necessarily the foster kid thing, but they may not have had good role models either. What are their parents like, if you met them? If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Write me back when you can. You can email me at nicegirl90247@yahoo.com
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Hey adivce culumnists. I have a Question I write poetry and am wondering what you think of this? The last poem an this question is published by eternal portraits. I really don't get support with poetry.
I have three poems I want you to look at and tell me what you think.It would mean alot to me! Thanx!
What A Wonderful Life
As a young girl lays in bed one night.
She thinks of her life happenings.
She thinks of the smiles.
She thinks of the frowns.
She thinks of the tears that have been shed.
She thinks of the feelings of having her heart broken.
She thinks of the feelings of having her heart mended.
She thinks of all the people she knows and smiles.
What a Wonderful Life!
The Song Of Spring
Spring come to me Please don't leave me here alone!
Bring to me the song of Spring
Bring to me the Tulips and Daffodils.
Bring to me the Blue Blue sky and Green Green grass.
Bring to me the chirpping birds and the Buzzz of the Bees.
Please don't leave me here!
I'm tired of the gloom and doom!
No more cold cold days
No more fog to to see!
Leave the rain and wind behind!
Bring to me the song of Spring
Lord I Wonder?
Lord I wonder why I feel alone?
I know thou watchest over me.
I know thou watchest me come closer too thee.
I know thou watchest me go a stray from thee.
I know thou lovest me, then why do I a stray from thee?
I lovest thee, thy Lord then why do I 'cause thee pain?
I thank thee Lord for loving me, I thank thee Lord.
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Beautiful! Keep writing! You have a great gift. I used to write poetry all the time when I was younger, some similar to yours. Write to me and I'll share a few of my favorites. Are you the same one who asked before about help with writing a poem for her boyfriend? If you are, I'd say you are doing fine. Email me! nicegirl90247@yahoo.com
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i want to write a poem, im not sure what to write about and im not good at making them up lol i will send anyone my poems if they wanna read them. i have one called love lost. that one was acctually good lol. anyways, i need a poetry partner or someone that can help me write a poem 4 my (hopefully) boyfriend. (link)
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A fellow poet! I haven't written in a while, but I used to write all the time growing up. I would be glad to help you. I've had some of mine published in those anthology books they advertise in magazines for the "National Library of Poetry". Anybody else have theirs in there? I had one of them. The title is "Autum Leaves" I think. I gave it to my mom. It's no big deal, really because there are thousands of poems in there, and it would take forever to read them all, and the only people that see it are the ones who buy the book, but that's still a lot of people. Well, anyways, I don't like to brag. I think I can help you. I can share some of my poems with you, if you promise not to steal them. Email me at nicegirl90247@yahoo.com That goes for all you poets out there. But please, no nasty poems.
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i have this friend who is only a male friend,we have known each other for couple of months but recently we talked and he said that i remind him of his x-girlfriends and that he replies it's like being married to you, why did he say that? i know i was nagging him today that he doesnt take me serious of what i say.Then i said
i just want you to act seriouly then taking a mock out of everything i say its not a joke and this is when he said to another guy in front of me so basically he said it to my face,that it's just like being married to you i can feel it?
but the other guy just got invovled by saying no it's not like that and both giggling and smiling while this friend was looking at me why did he mention this and said that
i remind him of his ex-girlfriend then i remind
him of someone else but didnt said who while he had a smirk on his face and he said something like in a joke way you need a relationship counselling then i said no wonder why you have had soo many girfriends and no wonder why they have dumped you then he laughs
and tries to deny him self that he was the one to dump the girlfriend he had during his past.
not only that pupil says that i have a spanish look and then he said no i think they mean you have a latino temper? i mean why did he say that but he said it in a knid of pleasent way not in a horrible way but he always say it to me as a joke way or a teasing way why does he,i mean before he says i joke with you to see your reaction because i love the way you take it or something like that he said.
please relpy qiuck as possible thank u for ur help by susie. (link)
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This guy sounds very immature. He loves to "push your buttons" If you're not familiar with that expression, it means "to aggravate and annoy you on purpose for his own enjoyment." He likes seeing you get angry. He is not treating you with respect, and I doubt he ever will, unless he decides to "grow up". It sounds like his friend is just as immature as him. Find someone who is more mature and will treat you the way you want and deserve to be treated. Tell him to grow up and act his age or don't bother calling or coming around anymore. If he cares, he'll get the message, if not, it's his loss, not yours. Play it cool, and try not to show that he bothers you so much. Good luck!
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My little sister will be 20 next month. She currently has no plans for school, and has been unemployeed for 5 months. She is just in a slump, she sleeps all day and has no motivation. My parents are at the end of their rope. They want her to do something, but they don't want to just kick her out onto the street. How can we get her motivated? (link)
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Maybe she is suffering from depression. Does she have any friends? Find out if there is anything bothering her, and get her some help. Good luck!
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im at my wits end with my relationship with my 50 yr old boyfriend i dont know what to do anymore.
im 38 well almost and i have a high sex drive and he has a low one we lye in bed at nite and that is it he is hardly affectionate to me more so to his computer we dont have sex he says he is too small we are both large people but this large lady has to have it not use to being without it lol but seriously i have tried everything lingere u name it i have tried it at least once i have even tried telling him about it. nothing works I want to have sex all the time i want to find a sex partner so if anyone is in pennsylvania let me know or close to me i know everyone says i should not cheat on him but sex once in 3 yrs is a bit rude well let me hear what people think be nice i am a person 2 (link)
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First of all, Logic-man, that was harsh. I totally agree with you, and I'm a person with morals, but "You catch more flies with honey" if you get my drift. Girl, get some self-respect. If you have to beg for it, you being the woman, there is something wrong. Sex isn't all there is in a relationship, married or not. But it is a part of it. Maybe you're putting too much pressure on him, so he is withdrawing. What is doing on his computer? Maybe he's into cyber-sex or something. I think you both need to go to a sex-therapist, and figure out what's going on. If he refuses, then there's your answer. If he cares, he'll want help. It sounds like he is insecure about his manhood. Try building up his confidence, by telling him what you find attractive about him. Good Luck!
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i have ben single for about a year and a half i have been seeing diffrent lads but none o then what a relationship i want to find the right person how long do you think that will be (link)
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Well, PLEASE DON'T LISTEN TO TRAILER DAN, and go dressing like some hoochy-mama, and acting like some dominatrix because you're only going to get the ones who want"one thing" which I think you know what that is. Take your time. Date different guys, but don't get too "involved" with any of them. Just try to get an idea of your type. And definately don't get "intimate" with any of them (beyond kissing) until you are commited to "one" and know he is the "right" one. It's best to build your relationships on friendship, if you want them to be meaningful. 'Nuff said.
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i love having my fortune read can any1 give good names of fortune tellers (link)
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Fortune tellers just tell you what you want to hear, or they just make it up. They are all the same. My friend went to one when she was pregnant with her daughter and was told she was going to have a boy and get back with her ex-husband. Neither of these things happened. She married someone else and had three more kids. So go, if you want to know what it's like. But don't take it seriously. Like if they say "Don't trust anyone with blond hair whose name starts with L, and this describes your best friend, don't start avoiding him/her. It's all just a bunch if b.s.*
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Ever since I was little I couldn't talk to people I didn't know. When I became older, I started having the same problem with girls. I had a few girlfriends early in high school, but they asked me. They weren't really my type either. They always wanted to party and do drugs. I didn't. I guess that I am the last of a dying breed. My freshman dance was 2 years ago and I didn't even think about going because I was to shy to ask anyone. I always use the excuse that I have a rejection phobia. I am the person that you see at a party that is hanging out with with his friends because no one likes talks either. I can't just go up to a girl and say, hey do you want to go and see a movie this weekend or something. I used to be fat through elementary school and 7 and 8 grade. Then I went to the gym and I went from 250lbs to 180lbs. I am 6'1 so this weight is better. Even though I look better I still don't have the courage to talk to girls. I always think that if I ask them, after they turn me down that they will go off and blab to their friends and make fun of me. I have asked a couple of girls out and they say that they like me as a friend or that they don't have time for a boyfriend and then a couple days later someone else asks them out and they say yes. This year the prom is fast approaching and I didn't ask anyone. Someone tell me how to get over this. I am 17. I don't play sports, maybe thats why. Girls want sports guys. And I don't hang out with the popular crowd because they are too fake. Help.
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I was shy and unpopular all through school too, so I can definately relate. Being a girl, the only time I got to ask a guy out was the Sadie Hawkins dance. I asked this nice guy in my english class, and it went alright, but after that, I noticed he didn't really talk to me anymore because of peer pressure from the other kids that I was "uncool" or something. I never understood why. I thought he liked me. I was, and still am a nice person. I just didn't have confidence, and it showed. My advice is, just be yourself. Think of the things that interest you, and do them. If you're not into sports, so what?Stop thinking that you are "not good enough" for the girl. Maybe she is not good enough for you. Look for girls who are nice, and not stuck-up, and have good values, like you. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Don't change that for anyone. Is there a club you can join where you can meet people who share your interests? For me, I enjoyed singing, and if it wasn't for my chorus group, I don't think I would've survived high school. Of course, there were snobs among them, too, but I had a few friends, and I made the best of it. I even went on a cruise with then to the Carribean Islands! We raised the money ourselves.Does your school have any clubs that interest you? If so, go for it. Perhaps a speech or drama class will help you get over some of your shyness. Is there a sport you want to play? If so, go for it! You'll never know until you try.I tried out for the drill team because I wanted to be like my sister, but I didn't make it. At least I tried. And nobody made fun of me. I think they respected that I tried my best. Have you seen the movie "A Walk to Remember?" It's about a popular guy in high school who gets to know a girl that everyone makes fun of because she is religous and doesn't wear fashionable clothes, but by being in a school play with her, he gets to know her and finds out she is really a great person. It's very touching. Maybe someone just needs to get the chance to get to know you. Give them that chance. Put yourself "out there". You'll learn something about yourself as well. I hope I've helped. Good luck! :-) P.S. Where were the guys like you when I was in high school?
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hi my name is angel and i want to know if this person really likes me in another way then friends because were good friends and i'm confused i mean we talked to each other all the time but he says things that sounds like you look really nice in that and your'e such a sex symbol and you are really atractive person thts why guys like you and lovely and caring mature person.
And he always touches me and say's we have good sociable time and can imagine to see each other bumping in 10 yrs time etc...
And he looks at me deep down my eyes and he says sometimes say i look smart when i'm always tend to any way.
and he teases me alot and jokes with me why? i mean we only know each other for couple of months just as friends and don't really do any thing like outings etc...
so please help me out because i'm confused wat his feeling about me, even though we don't chat to each other about this because it's not easy as he is quite older then me. (link)
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I agree with koshi. He's been taking "seducing lessons" or maybe it just comes naturally for him. At any rate he's got one he** of an ego! He's playing "devil" to your "angel". (pun intended) Be careful with this one!
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i find myself always in the wrong, adn my finace never hears me out and makes me feel so horrible, i dontfeel like mysefl and if i cry its wrong
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WARNING: This guy is a control freak! Nobody should tell you how you're allowed to feel, and nobody can ALWAYS be wrong. That kind of thinking is WRONG and is just his way of manipulating you. If he doesn't appreciate you, get away from him, and give yourself time to think.(And him too)If he doesn't come around and see the light to what a special person you are, then that's his loss. You can do better on your own. And when you're ready, the right person for you will come along. Now that you know the signs of a control freak, you'll make better choices next time. Perhaps, if he's willing, counseling may save this relationship. If not, MOVE ON!
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At school no guy likes me!!every time i ask one out they say no .what do i do??
please help
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I agree with the general consensus. Maybe you're trying too hard, and desperation shows, and it's not very appealing to guys. I was a lot like you in school. I didn't date much, but don't worry about it, your time will come. Have fun, be yourself, and the guys will come to you when they see how confident and happy you are. Hang out with friends, go to the mall (A good place to meet guys, just don't leave with anyone you don't know) and you can meet guys who go to a different school who might be better than any of the dorks at yours.;-)
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Well my husband & I have only been married for 2 year's and we just bought our own house for the first time and now we are about to lose it so we rented out our other bed room's to two other ladies, well the first lady is real nice she work's all the time and sleep's all the time she is no problem you hardly see her and she is 29 year's old,the 2nd lady is 75 year's old ans she is home all the time and she is under my skin and is veru noisy and fight's with me and want's me to tell her where i'am going and when my first room mate is home is fight's with her and messes up the bathroom so my first room mate has to clean it up,and my husband take her side all the time i'am in the middle all the time don't know what to do,we need her rent to get caught up and every time we try to talk to her she just want's to fight and agruge,i'am going crazy please help.
thank you.
littledawg0913@aol.com (link)
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I agree with what that other person said. There are special apartment communities for seniors, and that is where she needs to be. Maybe she doesn't know how to relate to younger people. Telll her that you think that she is not happy there and would be happier living somewhere where she can have friends her own age, and help her find an apartment. Then, find another roommate who is younger. Maybe that other roommate can help. She may have a friend who needs a place. Good luck!
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ive just started dating this guy. he says he loves me and i feel i love him. im not one to throw the word love around. ive only used it twise in my life.lately we've been thinking about sex. how long is appropriate to wait? (link)
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First of all, how old are you? If you are in high school or younger, I would seriously advise you to wait. Really get to know this person, and see if he respects you enough to stick it out. Any guy worth having respects that. Spend time doing non-sexual things that you both enjoy, and go in public places where you won't be tempted. Some ideas: Movies, bowling, miniture golf, amusement parks, whatever. Tell him you want to have a relationship based on mutual respect and friendship. That is very important. Sex before you really know each other will not be as special as it can be with someone you feel really "connected " to in other ways. Make sure he really cares about your thoughts and feelings. There is no set time 5-6 months or longer, but whenever you do, make sure you are comfortable and don't feel pressured by him, friends, or anyone else. And BE SAFE. USE PROTECTION EVERY TIME! I can't stress this enough. If he respects you, this shouldn't be a problem, either. Take Care.
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Why are people so mean?? Are any of you like that...you know...where you think you're too good for everybody else? (tell the truth) Because I want to know what you guys think...and I just hate life sometimes. I pay them NO MIND...but it's just sad...to watch how other people squirm under their wrath...I hate it...
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I have been asking myself this question all my life and I still don't know the answer, If you don't believe me, read my question about family not treating me with respect. Yes, even your own family can be cruel. Everyone is caught up in their own problems, and I think that sometimes, they just don't notice or care how they treat other people or how their thoughtlessness effects other people. I try not to be mean, but I know there have been times that I intentionally or unintentionally hurt or offended others, and that some of those times, it was not necessarily "about" them. It was because I was feeling bad about myself. Keep that in mind before you judge the world too harshly. And remember to "Keep your words nice and sweet. Someday you may have to eat them."
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PLEASE HELP ME I LOVE THIS GUY SO MUCH AND HE IS THE AIR I BREETH HE IS MY ONE SOMEONE BUT HE LEFT ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW CAN I GET MY LOVE BACK? HE IS SO NICE AND I HAD MY FIRST KISS WITH HIM AND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH I ALMOST KILLED MY SELF WITH A KITCHAN KNIFE!!!!!! I WANT HIM BACK BUT HE MOVED AND I DONT THINK HE HAS A PHONE.and he does not go to my school any more SO HOW CAN I WIN HIS LOVE AGEN?
E-MAIL ME!!! fatcat10002000@yahoo.com
o god please help me!!!PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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First of all, I see that you are suffering, and having some serious pain. But NOBODY and I mean NOBODY is worth killing yourself over. You are young, and as much as it hurts right now you WILL GET OVER IT! You need to find somebody you can trust to talk to about how you are feeling. If you can't talk to your parents, TRY. They CARE and if not SOMEBODY CARES and you need to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Go to a trusted family member, teacher, school counselor, minister, anybody you feel comfortable with and TALK OUT YOUR FEELINGS. You don't belong in such a serious relationship right now. You are young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. Take care of yourself, and have confidence in yourself for who YOU are not who you are as part of a couple. Relationships can be wonderful, but you can't depend totally on someone else for all your happiness. You have to love yourself before you can truly love anyone else. Surround yourself with your friends and family and let them help you get through this. You WILL get through it.But most of all BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. GOD BLESS YOU. I PRAY FOR YOUR BROKEN HEART TO HEAL AND FOR YOU TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE SPECIAL, AND SOMEBODY OUT THERE WILL REALISE IT, PEOPLE ALREADY DO, AND YOU NEED TO REALISE IT. Take care,and write to me and let me know how you are doing.
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