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Sister won't get a job!
My little sister will be 20 next month. She currently has no plans for school, and has been unemployeed for 5 months. She is just in a slump, she sleeps all day and has no motivation. My parents are at the end of their rope. They want her to do something, but they don't want to just kick her out onto the street. How can we get her motivated?
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If she's been unemployed for five months, then she DID have a job at one point. The fact that she "sleeps all day and has no motivation" COULD be indicative of something more serious. These could be symptoms of depression. Hmmmm, I've just read your addendum about the boyfriend paying for everything. Lol, it very well could be that your sister is just lazy, non-motivated, and some around her are enabling her. I would suggest that the oarents talk to her first, to see what she thinks may be the problem or, if she even thinks there is one. If she insists that there is none, then, they can ask her to leave. In an effort to keep from feeling that they are "kicking her out into the streets", they can give her a predetermined date, like say, maybe three months or so. If the time comes where she has to leave, then she has had ample warning, your parents have done all that they could ( thus relieving their guilt, and she has noone to blame but herself ). the boyfriend, who seems fine with paying two hundred a month, will then be in a position to ante up far more than that or leave it to her to find a suitable way to maintain. I think the threat of having to support herself fully will be sufficient enough to light the proverbial fire underneath her. If not, then tell your parents that enabling her further will do nothing but make this a more concrete part of her personality, and make it harder to conbat later. If it was my child, I would even change my mind on the rent issue. I would tell my child that it is no longer an option. Explain to him/her that it's not about the money, but rather my desire to instill a sense of responsibility within her. Since rent is no longer an issue, the only way that she could stay is to get....and keep a job. Let me know how this plays out.
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Maybe she is suffering from depression. Does she have any friends? Find out if there is anything bothering her, and get her some help. Good luck!
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Tell her that she can't live with you anymore if she doesn't get her lazy butt up and do something, or restrict her "freedoms". As long as she's still in your house, they are only priveleges. My parents pull that one on me all the time. Not that I could get up and go anywhere, but it makes me more responsible.
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MOST TEENAGERS TODAY YOUR SISTER INCLUDED HAS NOT HAD THE UPBRINGING THEY NEED NOT SAYING YOUR PARENTS DID NOT TEACH HER WHAT SHE NEEDED BUT FOR SOME REASON SHE DID NOT GET IT HERE IS A SUGGESTION MAKE HER GET UP AT A CERTAIN TIME AND SHE MUST LEAVE THE HOUSE AND NOT RETURN HOME TILL LET SAY DINNER TIME TELL HER WHEN SHE HAS A JOB THIS WILL END BUT MAKE HER GET UP EVERYDAY AT A CERTAIN TIME KICK HER OUT TILL DINNER TIME WHEN SHE HAS A JOB EVEN PART TIME YOU CAN STOP THIS MAY TAKE SOME EFFORT AT FIRST ESPECIALLY BUT YOU CAN DO IT ANYTHING WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING RIGHT AND DONT LET HER LIE AND SAY SHE HAS A JOB MAKE SURE YOU CHECK AS HER WHERE AND WHEN AND HOW MUCH SHE MAKES AN HOUR AND CALL THE PLACE IF POSSIBLE WELL TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK I NO I AM JUST A PERSON ON THE COMPUTER AND IT IS EASIER SAID THEN DONE BUT THAT IS WHAT I WOULD DO MAYBE SHE WILL RESIST AT FIRST BUT IT WILL GET EASIER AND IT IS FOR HER OWN GOOD
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Well, me and my family have the same problem with my brother, he is 21, not working, and is too lazy for college, so my mom makes him pay rent. She helps him get out into the real world. My uncle owns a landscaping business, and he does that. So my advice is to get her ready. Get her interested in something and take it from there. Maybe ur family could talk to her boyfriend, if he isnt that type then talk to ur sister tell her all the things that could happen if she doesnt start doing anything in her life, like when she gets older and doesnt have a job or a family to support her b/c they are tired of being her crutch. Anything, just try your best. Good luck.
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