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Q: i have a boyfriend kevin but i want another guy named mike and kevin is like the hottest guy alotta ppl like him n mike is just soo much nicer n there is a less chance of him hurtin ur feelings becvause kevin is the kinda guy who would cheat on you and has already done alotta things that i dont know if im into yet...but lately i have been talking to mike alot and hanging out with him when im goin out wit kevin n i have NO IDEA what to doo....because alot of girls would be lucky to have kevin and i think i have alot more feelings for mike ... what should i doo??

Well, kevin sounds like a bf that is for show, a hot one to make people jealous, and to have fun with, but mike sounds like a good quality bf, one that would care more about ur fealings and what u want, ur right, one that wouldnt hurt u on purpose. i think mike is the right choice for u, lots of women are too shallow, be deep and give mike a chance, hope i helped.

Q: why did they take away the Addictions question category thingy???

Well because a lot of people were stupid about it and asked stupid questions and the mods took it away because if it.

Q: Wow, usually I give advice, not get it. Oh well. Lately, in the mornings, I've been getting really bad charly-horses, in my mid-calves. You know what a charly horse is, right? Yeah, it's like a major muscle cramp, and it hurts RELALY bad. They last for like a minute and a half, and I can rub my leg and it feels better, but I don't know. Is there any excersises or anything I can do to help that?

Well, it could just be the way u sleep, but if u drink alot and get some calcium in u then u should be fine, drink milk or go get some calcium pills.

Q: is wearin a thong slutty? like the purpose is so you dont have pantylines but sumtimes liek if usmones thong shows people think she's a slut. i was just wondering what evryone else htought

No thongs arent slutty unless u show them off wich makes u slutty. They are supposed to be comfortable to wear, so i hope i helped u and that i get a good rating.

Q: i want a relationship .. but i dont know i wanna meet someone from a different place not from my home town unless their new .. they are all fake and i want someone who likes me for me .. not because i have a "fat ass" or because im skinny or what not .. but for my personality .. is that highly impossible or am i looking in the wrong places? ive stopped looking and ive heard it appears when you least expect it .. but guess what IT DOESNT WORK .. PLEASE HELP!

Well online dating is not a good solution, there are plenty of guys in ur home town that u probably havent met. The best place to look for a guy that likes u for u is in church, and at school and places like that, i hope i helped, im me or drop me a question if u need any more advice.

Q: i was wondering, can you buy diet pills @ like a cvs or do you have to be 18? thanks i'll rate.

You have to be 18 to buy diet pills. Have ur parents get them for u, if u really want them, then go ask a doctor what is ok for u to have. Diet pills really arent the good way to go, but its ur life, i suggest exersiceing and cutting down only a little on eating.

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Q: hey i asked the question about being 13 and pregnant well i just found out im having twins!!! my question is wht do they do in a c-section people r tellin me in to tiny and might have to get a c-section, nd i just wanna no like is it more or less painful, and wht do they do! ill rate u, i need advice!! thnx

Well my mom had a c-section with all three of us, so i guess its not a bad thing, its just less painful but afterwards u will get really sick because of the drugs they give u, at least my mom did, she was really sick, throwing up and all, but i think since u say that ur so small then u should probably go for the c-section and ask them if they can make the scar less visible. oops forgot to tell u what it is. a c-section is when they cut ur lower stomach, like from belly button down a few inches, and remove the babys that way, then they sew u up, so scaring is the only problem that i c with c-sections.

Q: IM SOOOOOOOOOOO HORNY!!!!!!!!!

Well then u need to tame ur flesh, that just means that satan is trying to get u to fall and give into temptation, if ur married then u need to tell ur wife this problem.

Q: i have a picturetrail account, and i want to add music thats not a MIDI. once i had some type of code that worked for a wav music that i put onto the intro page, and it worked .. but then i took it off to change it, kept the same code & all but it didnt work! and i can never get it to work anymore =( but i did ONCE so there MUST be a way .. does anyone know how?? thanks .. i'll rate!!!!!

Well im not really good at those things either, but i know someone that has what ur looking for on her column, so she knows how to do it, go to her column http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=Sweet%20Baby1 plus her aim sn is........ oxsexiichica69xo if u wanna im her. hope she can help u, hope i helped.

Q: The year I decided to try out for volleyball. Before the tryouts, we had 3 days of practice to get us ready. The 3 practice days are over, and they were pretty rigorous. After every practice, my wrists and legs would hurt for hours. It hurts to walk. Before practice, we run a few laps around the track and run up stairs to warm up. Tryouts are on Tuesday. Is there anything I can do to stop the pain from coming after practice? Or is it just because I'm not used to working out this hard and I'll get used to it after a while?

Well normaly its because ur not used to working out so hard, but if it bothers u that much, i suggest that u do what i did after football conditioning. I turned the bath water on as hott as i can stand it, i mean it was hott, because after awhile ur body gets used to it, and that relaxes ur muscles and makes the pain go away, it feels soo good. then after that u can put icy hot on the spots that hurt, but be carefull not to get it on any private parts because ive dont that, and it hurts like a son of a gun. hope i helped.

Q: do you think that it is weird that a 24 year old guy is dating a 16 yr old girl? i do but i need other opinions, the girl is my best friend and i dont like it. I need help on how i can be more open about the situation. please help!!!

Well if she is a good friend then she should listen to u and take ur advice. sit her down and talk to her about it, 8yrs is a big difference when ur 16. Just pray for her and tell her how u feel, and talk to the guy to, and tell him its wrong, she is a minor he cant touch her.

Q: Well. I'm 14 and I have been madly in love with my neighbor ever since I moved here when I was 9. We write each other e-mails and we sometimes talk on the bus and stuff. He's 18 and he's going to be a senior this year and I'm going to be freshmen, many people that are freshmen date seniors so I don't think its the age. My mom said that he's probably just waiting until I'm older cuz I'm young but I dunno. He knows I like him because my friend would always yell out the window to him that i was in love with him. He asked me last year if he wanted to get a ride to school with him everyday this year, and I said yes. I really like him alot. Should I tell him? Or should I get a friend to ask him stuff?! I dunno what to do. PLease help!! I rate!!

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Be bold gurl, go tell him urself, u should always tell a guy how u feel, they love that, trust me, im a guy. well since ur gonna be getting a ride with him to school everyday, then ask him when ur in his car, just u and him, who knows the relationship could grow into dating, i know lots of seniors that have dated freshman. im a senior and i myself have been thinking about dating this freshman, but im waiting for her to come to me.

Q: i think i might have something wrong with my lungs. i get out of breath WAY too easy. i don't think i have athsma, cuz i've never had an attack, and i don't smoke, but my parents do. i'm getting bad grades in p.e. because i can't run. i COULD run...if i could breathe, because it doesn't tire my legs at all...but anyway, how can i tell if there's something wrong with me, or what do i do?

Well not to be rude, but are u out of shape and cant run, or did u used to be able to run. well it could be a type or bronchitis, because im an athlete and i run fast for the sports i play, then all of the sudden i started having trouble breating so i went to the doctors and they told me it was a type of bronchitis. i dont remember what type he said it was.

Q: Me and my boyfriend were together everyday, it could be for only 5 minutes sum days but we were together. Tuesday he left on vacation with his friend and didnt tell me and hasnt called me at all. He's coming back on Sunday but I dont know if this was his way of ending it or not. Its not like him to just up and go away. Anyways of approaching him if he doesnt call on Sunday and I stop by his house to talk to him? What should I say because I odnt want to lose him. I'm 18 and hes 19. We have been together for 8 months

Well sometimes i forget to tell my gf im leaving, its just what guys do, doesnt mean hes leaving u sweetheart, just wait for him to get back and call him, if he doesnt call then its probably b/c hes tired. hope i helped.

Q: ok well there is this girl, but she has a boyfriend named who knows what. and yet i am totlly in love with her and i don^t know the right words that will influence her to wanna have second thoughts about this guy. i know it is wierd but i am basiclly in love with her. but i am nbot scared to tell her i have told her and it seems that she just kinda well moves subjects when i talk to her.

so i need a way to sit her down and tell her how strong my feelings are for her. cause when i tr all i get is somthin like. " what do u wanna do know" so it is startin to annoy me in a way but the more i see her or talk to her the more love i have for her.

if anyone can help it would be great.

ciao

and thnx

Well one thing, gurls like to go for the guys that are not available, so maybe find another gurl and she will come to u, but u could also do this..........its a little extreme but it could get her attention, whenever u see her and she's not with her bf then sit her down when ur talking to her, and kiss her real fast b4 she has time to stop u. then move back, and see what she does, either she would kiss u more, or slap u, or say, "I like u but i have a bf". Hope i could help, drop me one if u have anymore questions

Q: What could I get for an aim sn? I'm not really fussy what kind. Just a girly sn!!

lemme c here, if ur a rock chick then, HotRockerChick, Ditzyblonde, Wonderwomansclone, idk, im not good at making sn's either, i just use stuff thats in my life.

Q: Why does god kill babies and cause pain to living creatures and innocent people and let evil people get away with killing and torture and wrong doing? Is this god maybe too focused on the sins of sex before marriage? Do people who have sex before marriage go to hell? Do people who rape little kids go to hell? I just noticed you answered at least one of your questions with "dont do it, its a sin." Are all sins equal in badness? Will someone who rapes someone go to hell like someone who breaks abstinence? Do they get tortured the same? Where does god draw the line of forgiveness?

God doesnt kill babies and cause pain to living and innocent things, Satan does, Plus the reason why people get away with some things and with sin is because God gave us free will wich he does not mess with, God gave us free will to see if we would do the things for him that he wants done, without him having to make u, everything is done for him, Free willing worship to God is more important to him them someone that doesnt want to. People that have sex b4 marriage and dont ask for forgiveness will go to hell(so it says in the Bible) but i am not God and i dont pass judgement, only God can. And to ur "Are all sins equal in badness" question, to make a long story short, lying, which is a sin, is just as bad as murder, in Gods eyes. I hope i helped u, if u have any more questions, drop one in my box for me, God speed.

Q: ok, my boyfriend dumped me. but i have no idia why. he told me that he just didnt want a girl friend.. but i know thats not the reason. ive herd that way to many times before. i cant stop thinking about it. his name is all over my binder in sharpie.. i dont no what to do. im lost. it seems like there are no guys on the earth but him. does anyone know any ways to get my mind off him, or get over him?

Well first of all, grow up and dont write his name all over ur binder, thats childish, second of all, get over it, go out and meet new people (guys).

Q: hey !! my name's arielle and im 13 from jersey !! i have a serious problem !! ok well theres this band [not famous] and the guys in it are like 15 and 16.. and i haev a crush on one of the guys in the band.. and hes 16. the band is in pa and im in nj but we live like 6 hours apart. im gunna go to their shows tho but im worried that when i go and i meet the guy in the band i have a crush on that hes gunna think im a kid cause hes like 16 and im only 13. i feel that like hes gunna look at me as like reeeeal young and not like me in *that way*. what should i do?

Well 13 is young, im 16 about to turn 17 and i think 14 and younger women are really immature even though they think they arent. when i was 14 i went out with a gurl that was 12, 2 yrs younger, she was so immature even though she was about to turn 13, in order for her to get my attention she threw ice cubes at my face, and her sister said thats some sort of way of saying that she likes me, just forget about this guy u like and wait till ur older, u have ur whole life ahead of u.

Q: ok now i wear thongs and i am kinda the one in skool that no one reallys notices. this is my last year of junor high and i want to be noticed. i want to sit down and have my thong hang out but then i have second thoughts bout it and chicken out. wheat can i do and is it ok if i do this?? plz help me

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I only have to say that, no man has all the answers, but we can give advice(our opinion) to people to try and help them, we can't live the Christian lifestyle without Christian friends to help us up. drop one in the box if i can help.