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Q: you know what. nicole richie is actuallly adopted by lionel richie. so shes not half black..

Wow! My bad!

Q: 16/f
i run on my treadmell for about 15 min everyday and i eat pretty healthy. i do crunches they have worked but i want my stomache to be flat.there almost there but not yet.i have about 6 weeks to do this.does anyone know of any exersices that i can do?

Crunches will only tighten the muscles, they don't work well for losing weight or losing fat. Aerobics on the other hand burns calories ie fat but won't build muscles. To get the most from the treadmill you need to increase your heart rate to about 135 beats a minute for thirty minutes to get any significant results. Only exercise every other day. You will deplete your energy and actually exercise less. Increase your fruits and veggies and cut the soda and fried foods. This routine will help you drop any extra fat. Now the crunches will look like they are working. Do 400 crunches two times a day every other day opposite the treadmill. rest every 4th day, start again. so it' crunch,tread,crunch tread, rest, crunch,tread,crunch,tread, rest and so on. I have loads of info on my website www.healthfix4life.com And am still adding content. I have lots of changes to make but there ate some great health tips if you take time to read. Hope this isn't too extreme of a plan. Let me know of the results email support@healthfix4life.com

Q: 13/f

me and a friend, we'll call her T. T is bi. I am supposed to be straight, but I'm confused now. Well, T and I went to a friends house and when my other frined fell asleep, we played truth or dare. I couldn't thing of one, so I said
'i dare you to do the first thing that comes to your mind when I say sexy.' She kissed me! She grabbed my face and kissed me! it was surprising and it scared me. but that wasn't the scary part. the scary part was... it was a nice kiss. well, then I was quiet and obviously, thinking about very stupid things. my friend said, i dare you to kiss me back. i don't turn down dares, but this one was a little creepy, but for some reason, i kissed her back. unfortunately, things got a little out of hand. she dared me to get on top of her in the bed, so i did... then, i think we made out then just... uh humped each other for a while. it was okay, but when i didn't feel that weird urge anymore, i felt so stupid. i cursed myself and i still do! the same thing happened again a couple weeks after school let out. only this time, we got a bit undressed, not all the way. again, i don't get how it happened. i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian. i want to be straight and straight all the time. what do i do about this?! I couldn't be considered bi could i? I get angry afterwards, then don't get turned on by any other girls. just guys... and then when T does the dares, then i get... yea. so, what do i do?!
Candy

You need to back off and quit getting into these situations. Say I dare you to never ask me to do that again or just don't do the dare. You get angry because of the perceived excitement but afterwards you see how dumb it was. That's a good clue you lack some self control. The sooner you remove this opportunity from happening, the sooner the temptation will subside. You might stay away from this girl. Bad company corrupts good morals.

Q: I have been living with my boyfriend for two years. We live in a very small town without the possibility of EVER having a good future here. I have been planning on moving out of town within the next month. My boyfriend has no intention of leaving his home town, as he was born and raised here. Our relationship has been VERY rocky, but I have created a bond with him. I do love him, but I want to secure a comfortable living in my future. I'm not ready to leave him, and things between us have been going okay lately. What do I do? Or how do I talk to him about any of this?

21/female

Don't live your tomorrows with yesterdays regrets!

Q: how can i tell apart a chinese and korean?

if you have time you can also include a viet, japanese, =]

but yeah chinese and korean .. how?

Because we don't live around many pure races it is most likely difficult to know for sure of a persons race. Indians and Mexicans are quite different until they are mixed with another race. Depending on the race they are mixed with determines which distinguishing qualities will surface. Even then two of the same mix may even look different. Many times the original dominant racial features will be gone. Nicole Ritchie has a black father and white mother, but depending on how she colors her hair you wouldn't know.

Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, and at first our relationship was amazing.

my dad hasnt spoke to me fot nearly 3 years now after a bad split with my mom, but he still sees my 11 year old younger brother. so my boyfriend really helped me through tough times when i had councelling for other family problems.

he has been my rock. i couldnt even imagine my life without him.

now he acts as if he doesnt care if we are together or not. like he hates me in a way. he is constanly in a mood with me. he just says hes got alot on his mind. we had a healthy relationship - we didnt see too much of each other.when he first got with me he was crazy about me, which was flattering. im a young model and i know i am good looking. modelin really helps my self esteem. but now i cant bring myself to get out of bed, let alone turn up to shoots. he makes me feel like shit. he told me he didnt fancy me today. he is tryin to make me leave him i think.

should i leave him? i know i can do alot better. but there is just so much on my mind. my councelling doesnt seem to be helping either.

He is most likely seeing another girl but isn't man enough to come out and tell you so he will treat you like dirt hoping you will drop him. I would give him what he wants but don't break up with him, just never be in contact with him again and leave him hanging. I will bet money in about a month or so when his new girlfriend sees the real him and breaks up, he will come crawling back and then dump him. Some men can be so cruel. Don't lose heart. Your time will come. Be patient and above all seek the true comforter. Our comfort comes from a relation with Christ, but you probably know that!

Q: I've noticed that when I'm having sex someone, their eyes often are rolled into the back of their head. This is a little oogey. Is it normal?

They are obviously getting into it. My wife's eyes are closed but I can tell from the expression on her face she's getting off. Close your eyes and enjoy it.

What did you ask that I didn't answer? It seems that you are spending too much time wondering what a person should look like while having sex rather than actually enjoying it. You are either very young or inexperienced or both. Probably aren't married and sleeping around. You are taking a huge chance with all the STD's now days.

Q: I am 26 years old and just recently started dating a guy about a month ago. We are having major major problems in the bedroom! He is always starting it off by kissing me all over fingering me and licking me, and then when i touch him he is soft.I am used to guy getting hard right away when we kiss passionately or he touches me. This one is a real challenge to get hard. I give him head and he is still soft. It gets pretty discouraging for me, I dont know what to do. I asked him if he has a problem, cause after all he is 36 so it might be getting to be an issue, He said no he has never had the problem before. I asked if he was attracted to me and he said YES. So where is the problem? am i the one doing this all wrong? Please help me. THere is a total blockage in the bedroom and this shouldnt be happening at all.

If he is a steady drinker that would be a good starting place. If I drink more than two beers it is over for me. It does sound like he may have a problem. He could be nervous but not all the time. And if he is having problems, just the fact that you know will make him withdraw even more. The last thing you need to do is complain about a problem he has no control over. Helping him through this will show him you are on his side. That will relax him and who knows? And as a foot note, sex should not be a good measure for a relationship. Remember that you both come from different backgrounds and he may be having culture shock to the max!!!!! I knew this guy who's wife only had sex on Saturday. If something got in the way and he missed it, that was it until next Saturday. I wonder how he would react if he hooked up with another woman who wanted sex 3 times a day. Think he would live? Anyway, I was having sex 4 times a week and I always wondered how difficult that would be. Well 25 years later my wife is having some female issues and guess what. Once a week is a bonus. The thing is I need to understand what my wife is going through and go through it with her. I complained for about two years until she finally told me what was going on. Now I feel bad about what I complained about. A great relationship is worth what you put into it. Take any bonus you can. It's worth it in the long run!

Q: HEy do guys get upset if a girl is really athletic and is really better than they are does that turn a guy away? And do guys hate when a girl is really competitive?

Many girls who are athletic have a hard time being dainty also. Most men want a girl to be a girl. On the other hand to have a girl that can also get down with the rest of them is like triple fudge with extra whipped cream. And then if she is competitive and can actually get in someones face is like triple the triple fudge! I love to swim in deep water. My three girls can follow right behind. They are also competitive to the point that they could whip most of their boyfriends. But they are girls first! They want to have a strong man in their life so they have something to measure up to. How good would they feel about a guy they can whip, and beat him in everything? They are very independent and can make decisions on their own. They have the guts to stand up for what they think is right and do something if it isn't. So to answer your question, men who have a problem with women like that should be avoided. Some guys like to play sports and would like it if their wifes or girl friends would play along side them. And to know that if they win they can rub it in someones face, as men like to do, That's what you call a dream girl. Just remember not to compete to strongly with your boyfriend and show HIM up ALL the time. Sometimes is good.

Q: i dont get pleasure from fingering myself.
why is this? any techniques? and i cant find my g spot.
like i try so hard. and i read about where to find it, yet i still cant. or maybe ive found it and i just dont know it? helppp?

Actually you shouldn't have to finger yourself. Who told you to start? There is no law requiring you to do something just because of others. If you had never known about this would you be missing something? Most likely not! There is such a fuss today about how a person should be, as if every one has to measure up to a certain standard. Break the mold and do something different! My wife is 51 and tried it one time and found it to be very disturbing. She never did it again. We have a great sex life but she enjoys what "I" do to her, not to herself. So relax and leave your pants on. You have so much more life to give than to worry about this. Self fullfillment will leave you empty!

Q: my boyfriend's little sister had lice, and he had it, but got rid of it. he came over my house yesterday when he didn't have it, and now he has it again today, when were supposed to hang out. were still hanging out because he's putting vinigar in his hair, and stuff. is there a possibility that i could have it reallllly bad? or even get it at all. i used a lice shampoo once i found out he had it, but i havent used it since.

Lice are hard to get rid of. They can jump from person to person. If your boyfriend had them and spent very much time with you, you probably got them. If your boyfriend and his sister got rid of them and you had them and didn't know it, you most likely gave them back and he probably reinfected his sister. They can infest furniture, beds, pillows, and anywhere else people shed skin cells. That's what they eat. So all of you need to find everybody who has them, use the shampoo and spray the furniture, beds, pillows and wash all the clothes that you have had on and all the clothes those clothes have touched. I know this sounds big but they will get worse if you don't be aggressive. Also you need to find out who his sister is getting them from. If she gets them again the cycle starts all over again. My kids got them from their friends in school and it took us about 3 months to finally break the cycle. There was this girl friend of theirs that we didn't suspect. We watched to see who scratched their head a lot and that's how you can tell!

Q: so i want to go on a diet, im in pretty good shape right now but the problem is instead of getting leaner, my muscles get bulkier. I heard that if you eat less meat and more vegetable and such it will help make your muscles small while still being strong and eating healthy.
is this true?

thankyou
Kat, 16/f

Weight training and high protein diets will build muscle mass while the same diet and aerobics will keep you leaner. Just substitute some of the protein with fruits and veggies. Burning calories is the same whatever you eat. How much leftover energy you have after you exercise is what you want to watch for. If you are completely exhausted after you exercise, then raise you good calorie intake. If you start gaining weight cut your calories down moderately. Either way don't starve yourself. More repetitions of smaller weights will really lean your muscles out and increase your endurance thus allowing you to exercise longer further leaning your muscles. Endurance training and weight training both consume calories but with different results.

Q: Is it OK to love milk and be a vegan? I've tried soy milk and I find it too powdery.

If there is a particular reason you want to be called a true vegetarian then you might have a problem. If you want the nutritional benefits from the vegan viewpoint then it really doesn't matter how much "wrong" stuff you eat. You will still be healthier than most. Milk is an excellent source of calcium and protein. 1% or 2% milkfat will give you the same nutritional value without the added fat. Go For It!!!!! Go to www.healthfix4life

Q: Ah, Im Ellie and Im 15, Nearly 16 this week, but Ive been having sex for around Half a year now with my partner. I decided to go on the pill eventually and had been on it for four days, the leaflet said you were covered from the first day so we had unprotected sex (but I got worried and Never finished Intercourse) But to be on the safe side I took the Morning After pill 6-8 hours afterwards. I wasnt Sick, and It should have been effective as I bled for two days afterwards, and Im wondering if this has anything to do with my lateness? Im five days late and haven't had intercourse for around a month now. I was due Last Wednesday Or so, but It hasn't Come Yet and Im quite worried. Im wondering if anyone could clam my nerves? Ive been very stressed recently due to issues and Im wondering if this could be it, or how I can tell if I have something BIG to worry about :). Thank you for your time, help much appreciated:).

I really understood your question. Of course you should be concerned but for many reasons. Being pregnant, raising a baby at such an early age, making a decision to kill an unborn baby, contracting a disease that could keep you from ever being pregnant to me are much bigger concerns. Then again you could just be having a reaction to that pill you took. Either way you are so young and full of life it doesn't make sense to take a chance and throw it away. I was only trying to help you understand. After something bad happens to a person they usually spend a lifetime regretting the poor decision that led to the circumstance. Try and picture youself not having that happen by removing the same careless acts from your future. Try and worry about where you will take that high paying job after graduating from college.

My wife and I did the same thing and we have a 21 year old daughter now. If you are trying to get pregnant it is working. Why worry if you are late. If you don't want to get pregnant then you need to remember that having sex will make you get pregnant. The only safe sex is sex you don't have. I understand your concern. But trying to put out this huge fire after it starts is harder than keeping the fire from starting. There are so many sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted children these days for the life of me I don't understand why as smart as the youth of today are so many get into this sexual problem. No matter how much you are enjoying it now, making a poor decision now will have consequences that last a lifetime. Some you may spend the rest of your life regretting. Wait until you find that one guy that you can't live without, get married and plan a lifetime of happiness.

Q: This is sort of a rare question. You see my father died in August of last year, and now it's just me and my older brother living in the house for now. My mom moved, and I am the only daughter of my dads, therefore half of the house is mine. Anyways at first I was paying all the bills up until 4 months ago. Now I only give so much and my brother is paying mostly everything. The thing is he has ALOT of friends that come over all hours of the day and night. shower,eat,party etc. And I feel it has gotten out of hand because he's a nice guy and they take advantage of that. I was not comfortable in my own house. So I asked him if he could tone it down. Do I have that right? He agreed but I feel like I have some nerve. I just don't want to lose the house or end up in jail. I am 39 and hes 46. Still very popular

As legal co heirs you both have the same rights as the other. The real question here is does he care enough about you make sure you are comfortable and secure in your own house. You have every right to let him know of your concerns. He is only half owner so he doesn't have a monopoly. He has the right to invite his friends over and you have the right to make their stay miserable or even call the police. He can paint the walls black and you can have the power turned off. You both really need to actually sit down and find some common ground and work your differences out. Neither of you can control the other but you both can make the other one hate to come home, or you can work it out!

Q: So i'm always giving advice hehe this is my first question... (i'm bored and want to see whats it like) but i really want to know..
Does anyone have tips on how to make your face look smoother or with less acne (anything like that)
and also is it true that pink shade blushes actually make you look with less acne or something like that???
It's just I have a date tonight with my boyfriend and I'd love to know any useful tips you could give me about this in general..
thanx :D

I am 55 years old and the most amazing thing happened to me. All my life I have washed my face with soap but my wife wouldn't. About 6 months ago I really started noticing blotches and rough spots on my face more and more. To keep from being embarrassed I started using my wifes face cleanser and cream without her knowing. After 2 weeks I dropped about 5 years off my face. I couldn't believe it! So don't use soap. She uses oil of olay products. She looks about 35 and is really 51. I proved it works. Also what you eat and drink comes out of the pores in your face. The less water you drink and the more junk food you eat plugs the pores up more and more. Hiding it won't help in the long run. Also the darker the color of your skin the less shadow you can see so your face will look smoother. Well tanned faces appear smoother and foundation cream applies better. I have a website that has great health tips and I am still adding material. www.healthfix4life.com

Q: how do i get rid of those pop-ups on my computer? i already have two virus protecters on my computer: mcfee and spy sweeper. when i go to my computer, it won't let me delete the anti-virus files, it says i'm not permissionable to do that, but i hate these pop-ups on my computer.

On the start up program for your GOOD anti spyware, right click on the icon and it should have options or preferences. On one of them you can change to administrator. This will allow the program to delete the problem. I use Spybot. It is free and it is great. It will allow you to do what I recommended and remove your problem, Same thing happened to me and this works. Another good program that works is "Windows Defender". I believe this is free also. I don't use Macafee

Q: 15/f
Okay, i went to a party a couple weeks ago and this guy thought i was cute and i thought he was cute to. We exchanged numbers through our friends and started texting and talking to eachother and so now we are "talking." We onlysaw eachother from like 10 or 15 ft away so he might not of seen my facial features. The only bad thing is that i don't get very many boyfriends and this popular cute guy thinks i'm cute and i think once he sees me up close that he won't think i'm pretty anymore. I mean why would a cute guy like him fall for a girl like me? I mean i'm not the prettiest girl in the world but i don't think i am the ugliest either. What do i do?

My wife is very attractive but she seems to think of herself as unattractive also. It could be that you are actually just the type of girl he is interested in. The most beautiful girl in the world that was also mean, rude, self centered, demanding, and a pain in the neck wouldn't be such a great catch except for someone just like her!

Q: I'm 17 female. Ok so for the past 2 weeks everwhere i go i have been really hot. I can be in a room that is 50 degrees and im still not cooled off. I move around too much and i start sweating like crazy.... I used to never be like this.... It used to take alot for me to get hot like this....

Definitely get to a doctor!!!! 911!!!! NOW!!!!!!

Q: Okay, so there's this guy in my class who totally hot but he was going out with another girl and pretending to like one of my best friends(he's a playa). I like him but so do a lot of other girls. I don't even think he looks at me unless he's calling me byu the nickname that I hate. What should I do?