michelle823's advice column

if you guys are happy together then you should be all for it. the only thing is that he is not 18 yet (im assuming) so you could get in a lot of trouble--so maybe wait until hes 18 (if not already) and then stay together if youre happy =]

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my discharge is kinda brownish with red dots in it. but all week iv had normal clear discharge. is this normal? also im 13/f. iv had a period since i was 11. and its a crazy thing. it very irregular. so this brownish stuff is normal right?
and if not, should i be worryed?

i think you need to go to a gyno because anything anybody tells you on here could be false. nobody can diagnose you without seeing it--you know what i mean?
i hope i helped =]

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Hey, I've been a bit overwhelmed with my school schedule and work. I'm sleeping an average of 3-4 hours a night. Which really isn't that bad, but it adds up, ya know?

I was thinking about investing in cocaine. I was just wondering how you go about purchasing it. How much would it cost? Is it really addictive?

I don't want to use it all the time. I just want to take some every now and then to give me an extra boost. What would you suggest? If cocaine is no good, what are some other ways to give me energy in these sleepless days?

cocaine is the worst possible solution to your problems. its highly addicitve and expensive. what you should do first of all is try to get more sleep and if thats not possible try a soda, coffee, or an energy drink.
hope i helped!

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16/f
I have never been kissed before. I have been dating my boyfriend michael for a week now and he knows that i haven't kissed before. He told my friend he tried to kiss me twice and i just didn't notice. Then today after we hugged, i stood there waiting and he never did and he told my friend "I tried to but she won't do it!!" I mean, i stood there waiting but he never did. Is this my fault? I'm just not sure what to do. I mean, i want to kiss him but i'm not really sure how and i get scared at the last minute.
What do i do?
Is it my fault?
How?
Please help! My name is lauren. Thanks!

tell him that if he wants you to notice then he should give you better hints because you just dont notice. it is not your fault that you dont notice because if you stand there and wait for him to drop you a hint and you dont see it then its sort of his fault.

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I asked someone to homecoming yesterday morning and got a "maybe" because he was already going to ask another girl... so I said alright, just let me know.

But homecoming is next week! (I know, I procrastinated...) So how long should I wait for him to get back to me?? I want a date so if he says no then I want to have time to ask someone else. So should I just ask someone else if he doesn't tell me in time?

i think that you should ask someone else who actually want to go with you because to me it sounds like if he went with you he wouldnt be as happy because he had to go with you and not the other girl. (sorry if this sounded harsh =])

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how I can get my boyfriend back when he only give excuses about seen each other again

you probaly cant because if hes making excuses then he probaly doesnt want to see you anymore

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Me & my g/f are thinking bout having sex. i wanna fuck her really bad, but I'm scared about getting her pregnent. She sayz she take birth control, but its only for her periods. Does that still work to stop her from getting pregnent?

We talk about it some and like she said that if I'm scared, we can just do it while she is on her period. If we do that, she won't get pregnent right? Its not too messy is it? Should I like nut on her stomach?

birth control is birth control so if she takes them right they should work. if she doesnt, use a condom.

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My hair is naturally a darkish blonde and they seem to match my hair but the shade of them drastically changes when I'm in certain lights. Sometimes they look brown and sometimes they look blonde. I'm thinking about darkening them but I'm not sure..

Here's a picture of me:
http://i35.tinypic.com/11vo50i.jpg

I just hate the way it looks when I'm under that kind of light and I think darker eyebrows would make my face look more defined. What do you guys think? Also bear in mind I usually have my hair dyed chesnut brown, my dye has just faded.

i dont think you should because your eyebrows match your hair perfectly. but if you plan on dying your hair a darker color, you should defintely go for it!

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16/f

Over the summer I met a guy and he was adorable and i fell for him so badly, but he lived about 40 minutes away. So i saw him only 3 times. And
i just started at a new school and i met a guy named Ryan. He's a junior and he's really cute. Ryan looks and acts just like the guy i met over the summer. I developed an awful crush on Ryan and i think it may be because he is just like the summer boy. So one time in class Ryan asked me what my name was and what town i was from. Then later that week he said hi to me. Then this week he came up to me at lunch and started talking to me then he went back to his table and asked me if i wanted to sit with him but i said no thanks. The day after his whole table was telling me to sit there and i just said no again. And then today nothing happened between me and Ryan. It was almost like he didnt notice me. Im so confused and i want to know what hes thinking. I want to know if hes interested in me. So if anyone has any advice or ideas, please help me. Thanks :)

he probaly thinks that you dont like him because you wouldnt sit with him, so what i suggest is that you go up to his table, tap him on the shoulder, and ask "excuse me, do you mind if i sit with you?" everything should work out from there as long as you dont refuse to sit with him anymore ;)
i hope i helped! =]

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How do you know your in love?

when you know youd do anything for that person. Ask yourself: 'Would I be willing to let her/him go if I believed it was the best thing?'
Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to wait for this person if s/he is not ready to have sex?'
Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he gained weight?'
Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her/his dreams to come true?'
Ask yourself: 'Do I respect and admire her/him?'
Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he got sick?'
Ask yourself: 'If you two were in an argument, would you feel the same way?'
If you answered 'No' to any of these questions, think about why you gave that answer. Is it a lack of trust? Is it because you're afraid? Is it selfishness? Do you need more time to get to know each other?
If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.
and last but not least, if you can really, truly be yourself around him without worrying about what he would think.
i hope i helped! =]

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I was in a relationship, and had a male friend who I had a real connection with. When both our lives (me and the friend’s) got busy, I kind of let go of the friendship. My relationship was on the rocks (I sort of knew I should never have gotten so involved with that boyfriend in the first place...) and I was afraid that if I continued to hang out with him I might do or say something inappropriate.

So, I’ve been out of that relationship for while now and I had dinner with my old guy friend and well, the feelings came pouring back really quickly. Although I know he had a bit of a crush on me before, I’m not sure he if he does now. For all I know he might have met someone.

I’m not sure what to do now or what to do say to him. I already apologized for being so flakey, but I don’t know if I should just hang out with for a bit and feel the situation out again or if I should just say straight up that I like him a lot and that is the reason I stopped hanging out as much ...

So I’m wondering, what people thought it would be best for me to do now?

i would say to take it slow at first and just be friends for a while. and then after that, tell him you really like him and thats why you stopped talking to him so much.
hope i helped =]

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What the heck does Deja vu mean??

when something happens to you and you feel like it has happened before.

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18/f/australia

Im going to buy a high waisted skirt (probably a black one since t goes with everything) but I dont want it to look like i am going to work everyday when i wear it. It's spring here by the way as well, so how can i get a casual look with a high waisted skirt without looking too much like im going to work everyday?

Thankyou.

check out charlotterusse.com!
=] hope i helped. =]

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Ok so i just found out that he had a motion for bond reduction and the court date for that is in a month. and now theres an order for his transfer. does anyone know what that means? good or bad?

bad. they probaly mean hes gotta go somewhere to serve his time.

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I understand that you have to get a pap smear before going on birth control. I read on the website below that if you haven't had sex before (and I haven't), then you do not need to have a pap smear done. I've never heard this before, can anyone tell me if it's true or how I can find out for sure?

most likely they will give you a pap smear because even though you havent had sex, you can still have cancer or an std, etc. its a routine check and if i were you i would get it done. it doesnt hurt at all.
hope i helped =]

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i am in college and i took so many courses which i can't drop (because i need them and aren't offered next sem and i graduate) i have never done this before! any advice on how to go through with this! i am sooooo worried that i'll fall behind! how do i keep track of everything! i have 6 theory coursesssss!

make sure that you are organized with everything and have times to study everyday for at least 20 minutes in every subject.
good luck!!

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I Want Human Hair Extensions.
About 4-6 Inches Long.
Does Anybody know the Cost
and How Long Do They Usually Last?

Thanks :D

if you get them from sally's beauty supply for about a 100 dollars and they last depending on how fast your hair grows. (i recommend jessica simpson's line, even though theyre a little more expensive)

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hi, i had sex for the first time a month ago and i was supposed to get my period a little over a week ago. Should i be worried that i might be pregnant or is this normal to be late after the first time. Im also 19 years old if that helps.

youre probaly not pregnant...but just in case, get a pregnancy test =]

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Me and this girl have been seeing each other for awhile but i dont know if were dating or just fooling around i asked her about it once and she said we would take it slow but its been a couple weeks and now were pretty hot and heavy but im still not sure. and when shes at work i've heard her say that she was single but im not sure if she's only saying it cause she works at a bar and gets better tips that way.

i dont know what youre asking but if youre asking if you guys are going out then the answer is no. shes probaly trying to tell you in a nice way that she is not ready to be in a commitment yet. she probaly likes you (from what youve said) but probaly just doesnt want to get in a relationship yet considering she said that she wants to take it slow.
take it from a girl who knows.

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I'm 18 and I really need advice.

When I was 15 years old I met a guy (he was 16 at the time) and I thought he was really gross because he was always hooking up with all these girls. He tried to start talking to me and he had kissed me once and he kept telling me he liked me but he didn't want a g/f. I told him that he just wasn't my type and I was over the games. After I said that he asked me to give him a week to get rid of all his hook ups that he had. I wasn't exactly going to hold my breath. Sure enough though exactly one week later he asked me out. Now, me being so young and NEVER having a boyfriend before I thought that was really sweet...

The guy was into a lot of bad things. Like being sexually active, drinking, smoking, and his friends were just as bad and rude. But I really wanted to fit in and I wanted him to really like me and have my fairy tale ending.

He was very manipulative but because I was only 15 I didn't notice it. I thought he loved me a lot...

We dated for over 8 months and then he broke up with me. Then for 6 months after that he kept leading me on asking me to wait for him and I kept going back to him. Well, finally we stopped talking, but I was always hearing stories about the mean stuff he would say about me to his friends.

He told me that he never really loved me and that I was only a bet between him and his friend that I never liked and always called me names to my face.

Anyway, it's been about a year since all of this has blown over but just 4 days ago he turns up in my life again. He told me he was sorry because he knows how I feel now because some girl broke his heart that he was madly in love with and bought her a ring and everything for. He claims he doesn't remember how bad he treated me and would "love to hang out with me and not have any tension between us" and I saw him at a store two days ago and I just wanted to hit him.

The thing I need advice on guys is, why am I still so hurt after it being about a year or so? I usually never hold grudges against people, I forgive pretty easily I think and I don't like the feelings I am getting about him. I am such a happy person when he is not around but anytime he shows up in my life I think of all the things he told me and how I gave myself up to him and how I truly cared for him, how stupid I feel, and how much I think he is a bad person for knowing I was so young and unaware but still used me for a bet with his friends who ACTUALLY paid him. He promised me he'd never tell anyone... He promised me and told me a lot of things that he didn't mean and I'm so sad, hurt, angry, and upset. But I want to move on... I just need help. I feel like such an idiot for not seeing how bad he was... And I feel so alone.

And I'm not sure if this matters but, I was home schooled since 4th grade. So, yeah it is very different for me and wanting to fit in and knowing what's "normal" for people my age. And I did sleep with him but not because I wanted to. I wanted to wait til marriage and I haven't had a bf since this guy and I don't want to be with another guy again because I'm so scared he'll do the same thing to me. I want to wait til I'm married I just want this feeling to go away. I'm sorry that this is so long but I can't talk about this with anyone else and it's a lot to carry. I'm just still so upset with my self, him, and everything. And like I said, not only am I still angry with him. But I haven't been in a relationship since because anytime a guy tires to get close to me, I mess things up because I'm too scared to be with any guy. Can anyone help me at all? Am I completely crazy? (Oh and please no being rude okay? I already regret things enough. I'm really looking for some good advice and guidance here...)

YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!! im in the same situation as you are except that he was 2 years older than me and that im trying to date other guys as i guess you can say a way of relief, like someone actually cares about me- you know? but as soon as someone tells me they love me, i get scared and i want to end things.
what im trying to say is that how youre feeling is perfectlt normal because he played with your emotions and hurt you. you have a right to be upset!
if you wouldnt be upset, youd probaly be treated as a hoe.
but hey, give the guy another chance--maybe he changed ince another girl broke his heart. if he tries anything you can immediately cut off all communication.
i hope i helped, and if you need anything else, inbox me =]

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