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My bestfriend is starting to annoy me. She constantly complains about her life being terrible but I know for a fact it isn't that bad. Her family is so nice and she treats them like shit. I know she just wants attention so I'm not giving it to her. It's starting to ruin our friendship though because she's clingy and doesn't want me to have other friends. I'm hanging out with new people because she's not fun to be around anymore. I want to tell her life isn't that bad but I know she's going to freak out and I don't want to deal with it. She's selfish and thinks she's the only one with problems but all her problems could be solved if she tried. I'm going through a lot and I can't deal with this anymore. It's to the point where I don't want to be friends with her anymore if this is how she is going to be.

Talk it out with her. ask her why her life is terrible! U think she has a perfect life but maybe she doesn't. Her parents may be nice infront of you but you don't know what happens behind the doors.everyone thinks I have a perfect life except for my best friend because she knows what happend actually in my house and what I hid fron everyone. Stuff happens and you won't know.your friend might say that because she wants to talk it out with you,get help stuff like that.and if you don't care enough just to find out what's going on you not a true friend! She might be seeking serious help.there might be another life gone!

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I know many people think this is a stupid question, but how can I kill myself with no pain at all? I've been through so much from abuse, rape and so on..I just feel like its time leave this world.

Its not stupid I've also been thru this! I've also thought about comtinting suicicde BUT please don't ! Its the worst thing you can do! Go to a conseller or somthing and don't make a permaent decision to a temporary situation talk to somone please it will help

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I used to cut myself but I stopped.
I cry in the bathroom like an hour a day because I'm bullied and I don't know if the guy I love likes me.
I just want to commit suicide.
I only have 1 friend and my family also hates me.

How do I deal with my life?! I'm tired of dealing with it. Should I kill myself?

No please don't kill yourself! That's the last thing you wanna do! And did your family say they hate you? Well if they didn't then how would you know? You may just think that if they did well then its there loss they lost a perfectly good child. About the friends thing maybe you should try and make new friends you know but neva give up on that 1 friend you have now cause she's been there for you when no1 else was!and about the bully thing does it happen at school if so then tell ur family and ask if you can go to a new school or tell someone at school if you are abused that kinda bully well you should really report it to an adult that you trust.I was sexually abused and I told my teacher and then she got me to tell my mom and now everything is almost sorted out.pleas don't commit suicide life is precious and you only live once! And things may look bad but things will get better

Hope I helped x

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I think I'm in love not only with my 'official' boyfriend but also with another guy who turns out to be only a friend of mine,what can I do?please!!I don't wanna cheat on my partner,'cause I do love him very much!!!But why am I feeling that I have a crush with this other guy??no abuse please!!!I need to sort this out!!thanks!

Well I've heard that if you in love with 2 guys at the same time choose the 2nd one because if you really loved the first one you wouldn't of fallen for the 2nd one

Good luck xoxo

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Please,no abuse please this is really serious.

When I was about 10, my cousin james was very "horny" if you like, and he'd always try to get me to have ''sex'' with him. I didn't want to at all, but I was too scared not too. He didn't really have sex with me, he just touched me in the wrong places.

Then, when I was 12. My brother and I were really close, so we'd sometimes sleep on the same sofa and stuff (no sexual activity at first) but then one night, I fell asleep with my mouth open and he started ''kissing'' me. I just let him. I got him off me and ran upstairs. Then, I was sitting with trousers on and my legs slightly apart and he started ''feeling me up''. I also just let him, and ran upstairs after again. Now he always tries to put his hands up my top or down my trousers and I'm too scared to tell anybody.
I think I'm a bad person, seriously I need help, what do I do?

You have done absolutly nothing wrong! My brother in law molested me and I'm 11 btw we learnt about this stuff in LO and I told my teacher because I felt so upset about it!she helped me and gave me advise on how to tell my mom I did tell my mom and she has to have a meeting with my teacher and principal. you should watch trust its very much like your situation but she just meets him on facebook.he rapes her and she allows it but doesn't want to. Hope I helped

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13/f
I was with my cousin today hes 18 and he was touching in the wrong places. I told him to stop, but he said that he knows I like it. Now I feel really dirty what should i do.

Ok so I'm 12 and my brother in law did and is doing the exact same thing and I haven't told anyone yet either BUT I am thinking about telling my teacher. You must report him because he can be doing this to a lot of other children to and he needs to be stoped so please tell someone older that you can trut

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I have a good life. I have a good future, friends family and yet... for sometime I keep thinking about death, about all the ways I can die. I think of the easiest ways, the quickest and I find myself wanting an almost painful end. I have a good life, but at the same time, I want to leave it. I want to leave my future, my friends, family, people, and I hate myself for it, yet I hate myself for wanting attention, for wanting someone to notice that the smile I have on is killing me and all I want to do is sleep and forget everything but I can't because I have school and friends and they don't know how to handle me when I'm like this, I know because when I've told them they become scared of me and it makes me hate myself for making feel that way so I hurt them so they'll stop wanting to be around me and find someone better to be with but at the same time I can't let go of them and I know I'm poisonous and it's hurting them but I can't help it... I thought I was doing really well for a while but now I feel like I can't stand living but I can't stand the thought of death and I love the people around me but I hate them for loving me so I hurt them then I hate myself... I don't understand why I'm this and I can't take to them but I'm scared of being alone, the thought of calling someone scares so me much but I hate being alone with myself because I am a horrible person and I just want to die, but I'm too much of a coward to do it... I don't know what to do or why I'm like this... Please, does anyone understand? I need help but I don't want myself to be helped... I have a good life but I don't why I'm not valuing like people say I should ... I need help, I can't handle myself like this...

Hun I cnt giv much advise but I just wanna say PLEASE DON'T kill yourself that is the worst thing you can do I think you should talk to your parents or a phycoligist or somone who CAN help not your friends. What do you mean by hurting them???? Do you physicly hurt them??? How old are you??? Maybe its just hormoans. I haven't had the best life in the world but I know that if I kill myself there's no way back. Please don't make a permanant decisision for a temparary desision please hun. I am going to give you the suicide hotline because I can see you wanna commit suicide and they can help.please call them please its one of your only solutions the suicide hotline is 1-800-273-8255 please call them they will help

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16/Female
So I thought i fell for my bestfriend about a month ago and now im not sure whats happening. We are basically in a relationship, (we hang out a lot, kiss, cuddle) and its been fine, we are both happy. since we have became more than friends he has changed. he isnt fun and doesnt joke around anymore, he has become really quiet. im confused because i thought i liked him but im never excited to see him or talk to him. i want to kiss him but when we do its nothing special. i know its normal for some people not to get butterflies in their stomach when they are around people they like, but the other two guys i liked before always gave me butterflies and i was always so happy to be around them...can someone please tell me if its normal to like someone and feel this way or if i just dont like him like i thought i did?

Well I was friends with this guy once and we started dating and then I started acting differently I thought if I say 1 stupid thing he'll dump me and maybe that's what your guy thinks and maybe the butterfly thing is cause he isn't acting the same anymore maybe tell him that you want the guy you fell in love with not him

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When I was younger my father would chase me into my room and beat me over the littlest things (ie saying I don't like broccoli), but after he got arrested he stopped, mostly. But now my older brother is taking after him. He is a six-foot-four three hundred pound football player, and has tried to break my neck before, and today punched me in the ribs and now I can't breathe right or move my left arm. When I told my parents they told me to grow up and stop being so dramatic. What can I do? (16-year-old girl)

You have to call the police sweetie family or not I was molested by my brother-in-law and I had to phone the police if your brother carries on well then he might do it to other people to

Hope everything works out sweetie:)

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sorry for the length..
Im really confused..lately ive been thinking more and more about this and wondering what is wrong with me. I dont really know how to explain this but my whole life, or ever since i could remember, sometimes every now and then i would randomly out of the blue feel this weird feeling throughout my body..and it made me feel gross and uncomfortable..and if i was wearing something a bit low cut i would feel like i had to cover up or just go somewhere and be alone..i know that sounds really strange and i dont even know why that happens but lately ive been thinking about it and its been happening more often. my mom and dad got divorced when i was 12 and ive been living with my mom so i dont really see my dad that much. my dad always tries to talk to me and hangout with me but i just dont really ever want to anymore..i think its because i recently found out that he cheated on my mom while they were married and thats why they got a divorce..but i also just get this weird feeling when i think about him..i just feel uncomfortable. lately ive been wondering if maybe he molested me when i was little and i just dont remember? because when i look back to my childhood i dont have that many memories of my dad..i know he was there, but i really dont have many. i remember this one time when i was in 4th or 5th grade and my sister was in 6th grade, we were walking up a staircase and my dad was behind my sister and he squeezed her butt for a second and she said something like ew stop..and he was like what your my daughter or something like that..and my aunt (his sister) told him not to do that cause its not right. and thats pretty much the only weird thing i can remember..
when i was 16 i became so promiscuous and loved attention from boys which gradually caused me to do things i now regret. i had terrible self esteem problems. i still do. this is really something i dont like to think about but i was so desperate for attention that i hooked up with almost any boy that wanted to. i wanted to someone to like me so bad, or just have a boy care about me. obviously i was too dumb to realize that having sex with a boy will not make them like you or have feelings towards you. i think i just wanted some type of male figure to have and give me attention and care about me.
im 19 now and have had my first boyfriend for about 6 months now. he makes us have sex everyday and half the time i dont want to. sometimes i dont even feel attracted to him in that way and just want a boy that will love me and care about me and not even think about me in a sexual way. its so weird. sometimes when he touches me it makes me feel weird..i honestly dont want to believe that anything happened to me when i was young and more than half of me thinks nothing ever did. but then why do i feel this way?

Well I'm 11 turning 12 soon and when I was 10 my brother-in law started molesting me and it does sound like some kinda memory cause I feel like that to I feel like somone is always watching me and I get so scared! I'm sure that he did maybe you should ask a phycoligist or somthing

Hope everything works out:)

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My boyfriend gets jealous when i talk to male friends in the office...i am thinking it was a mistake afterall

Well I can see that you are already out of school but I'm 12 and my boyfriend also got jelous about my friend brent he asked me why I'm cheating on him and stuff and got all mad maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that nothing will happen between you and your friends just remeber that a lil jelousy in a realationship is healthy atleast you know he doesn't wanna lose you

Hope I helped:)

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after Christmas break we got this new kid. hes so funny! but i can never talk to him because he's friends with popular people and this other friend group. my friend group doesn't have any guys, or at least cute guys. in all these people i know they have fun and go ice skating with a bunch of girls and cute guy friends. with me its not like that. what can i start a conversation about and make it not be awkward?

Well I agree with the 1st answer just say hi how are you when you pass him and if he's kind he will talk back and I'm sure that will start a good conversation maybe invite him somewhere and then you guyz can have some fun

Hope I helped

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I am a 13 year old girl and i am outgoing and funny. me and this guy have a had an on and off :thing" all year and just started going out on valentines day. he put a flower in my locker then asked me out later that day and i said yes. the thing is though is that we dont talk. i mean a casual laugh or we talk in a group of people but not just one on one. he was my best guyu friend before we started going out and now he acts different around me. he talks to other girls like he used to talk to me. this is also both of our first real realationship. does he not like me anymore??? im confused!!! we used to talk all the time and when we started going out we dont. it has been 4 days now also. does he still like me?? how can i make it less awkward with us?? help!!!

Hi I'm 12 and I probably can't give you the best advise but I have had a lot of realationships and me and my first real boyfriend dated for 2 months and all of a sudden he stoped talkin 2 me 4 a week and well I didn't know what was going on and thought he didn't like him but I asked him what was going on and he told me he was just going through a tough time and he didn't wanna annoy me with it maybe just ask him what's going on love hope everything works out

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I know most people just say that everyone is pretty but seriously, am I ugly? If you say that I am it's ok because I don't really care but I just want to know.
My hair is a little below my shoulder and it's light brown with blond highlights. My eyes are blue like the sea. I have really long eye lashes with settle blong highlights in them. I was born with it. I am really pale and have a lot of freckles but not so many where it looks creepy. I have a small amount of acne in one spot on my forehead and I never wear makeup. My check are a little chubby but not a lot to where I look fat or something...I would have out a picture of myself on here but didn't want to....And I know it's hard for you to judge when you can't see a picture of me but please try your hardest! Thanks! :D

You sound very pretty and I too have freckles and I felt very uncomftable with them but my boyfriend would tell me “a girl without freckles is like a night without stars” and even if you aren't the most beautiful girl in the world everyone is pretty in there own way and I'm sure you are to I thought I was very ugly but I learnt how to except myself for who I am and learn that I am pretty in my own way. do you have facebook or twitter or a blackberry??? If you do what's your pin or name on facebook and twitter I'd love to see how you look and know for sure what a beautiful girl you are

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