My bestfriend is starting to annoy me. She constantly complains about her life being terrible but I know for a fact it isn't that bad. Her family is so nice and she treats them like shit. I know she just wants attention so I'm not giving it to her. It's starting to ruin our friendship though because she's clingy and doesn't want me to have other friends. I'm hanging out with new people because she's not fun to be around anymore. I want to tell her life isn't that bad but I know she's going to freak out and I don't want to deal with it. She's selfish and thinks she's the only one with problems but all her problems could be solved if she tried. I'm going through a lot and I can't deal with this anymore. It's to the point where I don't want to be friends with her anymore if this is how she is going to be.
Next time she starts complaining, tell her how you feel! You obviously have bottled up feelings regarding her, which is making you resentful. This could be why you don't want her as a friend anymore. Maybe you will feel differently once you get this off your chest. Just tell her, in a nice way, that A) since she discusses this with you so much you assume she values your opinion; which is that she is overreacting and should be grateful for her family and the life she has, and,
B) you have other friends. She can either accept that fact and get over it, or wallow in self pity and stay mad about it. It doesn't change the fact that you have other friends besides her. Be sure to let her know that this doesn't mean you care about her any less, but that having other friends is healthy and encourage her to make new friends as well.
Melwillhelpyou answered Friday June 15 2012, 5:07 pm: Just block her out. You don't want to be her friend anymore. Tell her that and avoid her. If she continues to be annoying, annoy her by hanging around with the friends you say she doesn't want you to have. Annoy her even more than she is annoying you by not paying any attention to her at all. You already said that you know all she wants is attention so don't give it to her.
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