Hey i'm Mallory,
I've been through a lot and i dont judge because of it.
Yeah i like to give advice, but isnt that why we're on this site?
I am myself, and i get looked down because of it, but so what? I'm not going to hide who i am.
I am not dating until college.
I dont respect cheaters.
i dont take life so seriously. Come on. We only live like this once. enjoy it =]
And toilet paper is better than sliced bread :D
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well, i was dating this guy for just about two weeks, and he went on a school trip and on the way home him and one of my (girl)"friends" sat together on the bus. and btw, shes a pretty big slut, she flirts with all her friends boyfriends and anyone elses, but anyways, they held hands and apparently she was like "i feel dirty" and he goes "it's fine, don't worry she wont find out" (she being me :p) and then she got a fruit roll-up out of her bag and put it in her mouth and he ate it up to her lips and then they kissed. Like, even though he did say that, that didn't mean she had to go along with it. they bopth knew it was wrong and that it was going to hurt me when i found out, and they knew that i would end up finding out sooner or later. but im really mad at both of them but it's really weird because i don't feel a huge connectionw ith him, but i can't be mad at him. he's like my weakness. but, he cheated on me and o broke up with him. but, i don't think he deserves a second chance. and, he has a little bit of a drinking problem and idk, but i think that he needs someone there for him and idk but i think i might have just been that person bevaise i know for a fact that when we went out he was sober. but, i font want to be that person trying to help him through it when he's cheating on me or whetever. but, i don't know what im trying to asdk, i just need some help. i need to straighten out my feelings for him and be aware of whats going on.
sorry for it being so long. (link)
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Well now.
Personally i would get a nail gun and shoot him to the ground, but thats probably not the approach you're wanting to give.
ANd you know what? he DOSENT deserve your help through his drinking issues. He dosent even deserve to talk to you. If someone is going to disrespect you like that, dont bother. Kick his sorry butt to the curb. Dont be a door mat and let him walk all over you, for thats what he's using you as.
Well was using you as, you seem to be standing on your feet now.
I would just move on and ignore him. He's hurt you, isnt that enough to make you wanna stop trying to be there for him?
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So there's this guy (there always is..) who I half-like. (I say "half" because I have all the symptoms of liking him.. but can't possibly actually do so). Either way: He really is the sweetest guy and soo much fun to be around!
Now to the problem: He likes me. Not HALF-likes me. He really likes me. I've been through this before (hundreds of times) so I know what my options are:
A: Keep spending time with him, watch him fall for me, then reject him and break his heart when he asks me out.. and lose him forever.
B: Stop spending time with him to ultimately spare his feelings.. and lose him forever.
C: Tell him the truth, slowly see how things change between us and get awkward.. and lose him forever.
D: Say yes when he asks me out, because after all I do "half-like" him.. (well, I guess this is the option I've never been brave enough to try with any of the other guys.. but I'm pretty sure it follows the pattern and ends with..) .. and lose him forever.
You wanna make my day by adding a fifth option?
Thank you! :) (link)
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So you half-like this guy. Keep spending time with him. Become his best friend before anything else, let him know that too. You dont want to hurt him in any way, so becoming best friends first would help you both out.
ANd if you really dont want to hurt him, just stay friends and explain why.
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So my ex who i went out with for 4 and a half months, told me on IM last night that he wanted to talk to me more because we haven't talked as much since he broke up with me. He also was telling me that it was the biggest mistake he's made in his whole life and he wish that day never happened. But then, my friend, who has been quitting quite close with him, has been getting closer and closer, and i asked my ex if he liked her, but he said 'kinda' and he's moving in 2 weeks, so i don't know what to do or say. I don't want to ruin friendships but on the other hand, i'll feel terrible. And i dont understand why he just told me all that but 'kinda' likes someone? i think he's ready to borderline ask her out? but hes moving? and ahh! i have no clue what to do (link)
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Breathe.
This kid is moving. I dont know how far away from you, but it seems too far to date. You didnt mention if you liked him or not, so if your friend is getting involved with him, i would step aside. You wouldnt want to date someone if they "kinda" liked someone else anyway, would you?
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i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now... my mom doesnt like him. why? because a couple months ago, he got jelous and i didnt know he'd seen me walking with a FRIEND and he didnt know, my mom caught him outside and while she was talking to both me and him, he walked out. disrespectful yes...but he wants to apologize but she doesnt want ANYTHING to do with him... i love him.. yes... me and him have been through alot of things... and i understand my mom feels disrespected... but i cant keep letting her control me.. i want to learn on my own.. and i want to live a normal free teen life... of course with precautions.. i left him when my mom told me to, but it felt wrong and now im happier than ever but my mom hates me for being with him and INSISTS i should leave him and that she means shit to me since im going out with him. what should i do? ive tried talking to her calmly but she has listening problems she hates to listen... (link)
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Reading that you have talked to her calmly, keep trying. State your case about dating him, do agree on things such as if she says "Well that boy's just gonna end you hurting on you." Nod, and just say "he may."
You do need to learn on your own, but your mom just wants to make sure you're alright.
If that dosent work dont bring the boyfriend up. Bring him up when you have to, but continue being friendly to your mother no matter what she says.
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I've had a depression problem for years, I'm on and off my medication and when I don't take my medication I sleep late, stay up all night, I'm in a bitchy mood and I can't do anything I love to do. When I'm on my medication I'm okay but I still have my up and downs.
What are helpful tips to deal with depression? (link)
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Continue taking your medication. But if it isnt working well for you, you may want to consider switching.
Exercising/running really helps with me depression because it releases stress. I dont know if you're seeing a therapist, but that helps out well too if you have one you like.
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My brother has come to live with us for a bit then he's moving to the other side of the country. But he has a dog and she's staying with us because he can't take her. But the problem is, she only listens to and obeys him. She'll behave around him and then when he's not around she'll become aggressive. Now, she has bitten my brother twice before but that was only when she was around food. But she's so unpredictable. She was in the garage and my cat walked by and the dog walked up, sniffed him, then tried biting him. I was so afraid she was going to hurt him. So how do I get her to STOP being aggressive towards people, animals, and to stop being food aggressive?
She has been around other dogs before, so she's pretty social. Even with cats. Oh yeah, and another question is, how do I get her to listen to me, too? She only listens to my brother and when he's around she wouldn't try to bite my cat. So..yeah. :/ (link)
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If you want the dog to listen to you, tempt her with treats. Im guessing that the dog can do tricks? If you cut up the cheapest hot dogs full of the nasty meat stuff, and microwave it with some of its dog food, you pretty much have that puppy whipped.
But, it'll probably become aggressive with them so the best thing to do when the dog starts biting and becoming aggressive is to tap her sharply on the nose with a flick.
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15/m. ok, this is going to sound really stupid, but people always think im gay. I had this one guy ask me, "ur a puff innit? u like it up the batty?" i was all "wtf!?" he was all, "well you look gay, you talk like a girl".
1. i have a deep voice
2. how could i possibly look gay? i have facial hair..quite a bit of it. so long story short, people think im gay. what could be giving them this idea, and how can i change my appearance/ speech so i dont "sound gay" even though i dont in the first place? cheers (link)
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continue to tell people that you arent.
lame i know.
so.
you should make a shirt that says "im not gay"
and wear it.
mhm.
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ok,
so i usedd to have a really clear face,
and lately ive like broke out
idk if it is really bad or if it is all in my head,
but it drives me crazy.
i feel so ugly as if everyone is looking at me thinking i look like some monster, ive bascally tried everything, and it doesnt help much that i am surroundedd my girls with flawless faces,
most best friend tells me that it doesnt even look that bad, but i still feel so horrible.
any advice on to feel better about it,
or help it go away?
that would be great thanks.
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everyone breaks out now and then due to stress or whatever. I'm guessing it isnt that bad, so what i use is this clearisil cream that you put on the zit or infected area. Overnight is when i use it, so that no one can see the white dots on your face from the cream.
Also if you try Clinque foundation and base this can help future break outs compared to other foundations.
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My best friend lies to me about everything. ive confronted her about it. and novv she is continuing.. any advice on vvhat i should do?
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if your BEST friend is lying to you, is she really a friend? Friends dont lie, especially good ones. Just think about that, and you should know what to do.
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hey im celina.
and i realllyyy need help.
so ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months now. and mostly things have been great, a few fights here and there but nothing to big, everything usually ends up being fine.
But hes graduating soon, and lately hes been spending time with the kids in his grade, which makes sense i guess bc they arent going to be with eachother anymore, but i feel really wierd about it. Like, i've heard that hes been flirting with some of the girls in his grade when im not there and stuff like that. And hes always so bipolar with me, like one day he will be saying how much he loves me and wouldnt know what hed do without me and the next day he will totally blow me off for his other friends. He normally calls & txts me a few times a day and he hasnt talked to me since saturday, at all! And i really wana talk about how its bothering me with him, but he wont even answer a phone call,even when i know he has his phone!! ugh!! PLEASE help me, and i need someone to tell me more than "everything will be ok". Is this normal for guys to act like this? or do i need to do something about it?
help!
please!
thanks! (link)
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Yeah guys are like this (not all) but some, and it sucks.
Anyway, your bf is not being a very good one, and i suggest you talk to him straight to his face (dont let him make you feel guilty) If he dosent start straightening up and being respectful i would take a break from him for awhile.
You dont deserve to be treated like that.
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does any one know where i can buy really cute bed spreads? like what website? (link)
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I dont know what kind of bed spreads you would like besisdes being cute, but i know that delias has some very unique cute bed spreads.
www.delias.com
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so i have this best friend and he is a guy. we've been friends for around 7 years. over the course of our friendship we have grown closer. and after five years we started liking each other. the thing is its always been him for me. we have a complex relationship and mixed emotions about each other. right now we are on a break, but we both feel a little something. the thing is we've both been hurt by each other so many times we don't know what to do. i was pretty miserable after the relationship ended, but one thing i did realize is that i love him. im f/17, but i don't think he "loves" me. i feel this emotional bond we have and we can basically tell each other everything, but i think he prefers someone prettier, smarter, less complex, more confident. what should i do (link)
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For right now i think you should take a little time off for yourself. You dont want to be hurt again by him, or by your emotions.
If he dosent love you for you, then dont waste your time on someone who will look down on the unique person you are. Continue to be best friends, and grow in your friendship, but i would find someone who will value you for you.
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my boyfriend is perfect
he knows im not into a lot of things
im really christian
but he understands that and doesnt ask me to do anything ever
but now i want to
because hes so amazing
and i dont know what to do for him that would make him happy
without going against my beliefs too much
help?? (link)
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If your boyfriend accepts your beliefs as a Christian, and dosent want to do anything agaisnt them, there is a 100% chance you already make him happy.
But, writing him a love letter saying how much you respect/love him for respecting you should make him feel great, without going against your beliefs.
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16/f
my boyfriend has trouble trusting me. he says he trusts me but i know he doesn't. he freaks out anytime i even talk to another guy. i used to have so many guy friends now i don't anymore. i love my boyfriend to death and will not breakup with him i just need your help with a way to make things better.
this happens a lot about different things but i'll tell you what is going on now. he is constantly scared that if i talk to another guy i'll like him. my boyfriend is always asking me who i talk to in my gym class (meaning guys). i hardly talk to any of the guys, mostly just the girls. i told him that and he was like give me all of the names of the people you've had conversations with. and he started freaking out. then i told him that there is no way i could ever remember that and i'm crying so much and he thinks i'm hiding something. he always thinks i talk to guys behind his back.
like he always looks at my phone at my texts and calls. i know he just loves me so much and never wants to lose me but idk what to do to make all of this stop and just have him trust me!
thanks so much! (link)
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Ah. Your boyfriend has a disorder called jealously. I have it too.
This may be because he had bad relationships in the past? With cheating or whatever. I dont think that its not that he dosent trust you, he may just be insecure.
Maybe he thinks you are flirty.
but after re-reading this i think you boyfriend is obsessed with you. A little too obsessed. A creepy obsessed.
It kind of scares me. I dont know your boyfriend personally, but i know that i probably wouldnt want to mess with him.
Anyway, your boyfriend is jealous, and there is not going to be a change in that. (sorry)
but he does need to let you breathe. You need to confront him in a strict tone, explaining that you love, and would never cheat on him, so he needs to back down. You may also want to threaten him with a break. (I can assure you he wont want to lose you, so that may work.)
good luck!
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f. 17.
so me and my boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up.& ive been okay with everything because i knew he wouldnt let anyother girl in because he has a problem with opening up to people and once he does he is a complete ass. but im in love with him, we have history, well he started talking to this one girl who has a bf& he would ask me advice on what to do &i gave him honest advice, never bashing the other girl.&about 2 months later she dumped her boyfriend&now they are dating. usually its okay bc(i know this sounds conceited but the other girls he was interested in were never as good to him as i was) but her, she is so much better then me & i have never seen him so happy, i could never make him as happy as she does. we dont talk really anymore. i always want to call him or text. i just am so depressed all the time. my life is so dramtically different then it used to be and with summer coming up i dont know how to handle this. how do i move on & let them be happy? (link)
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There is no real answer on how to move on but time. You two dated for 2.5 years. It's going to take time to heal your heart and move on.
Whats best is to close contact with the two of them until you are ready. Not half ready. Fully ready. You need to make sure you are 100% ready. Dont be unsure.
Your ex is probably using the girl he is currently dating as rebound. 2.5 years is a long time for a relationship.
and btw no one is better than anyone. You dont deserve to put yourself down.
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13/f
ok summers coming up and i want to lose some weigh. im not fat. im a soccer player. im about 5'5 or 5'6 and today i asked 5 friends how much they think i weighed. they all said around 120. and thats what i look like. but i weigh like 157. because..well im going to tell you the flat out truth. i have a big butt and big boobs. so that adds weigh. i have big thighs because of soccer and i have a little tummy fat but i have abs under it.(you can like feel them if you push down.) and i have a little fat on my sides. i look like im about 16-18. well iv never been big on swimming because of these things and this year my friends want to go swimming alot. so my questions are;
how can i lose the little fat i have on my sides.
and on my tummy area.
is there anything i can do to tone up my thighs even more.
i cant realy ask anyone how knows me cause they would say i dont need to lose weigh. but please pelase dont tell me that. or that losing weigh in a short time is bad. just tell me the facts that can help.
thanks 8^Þ (link)
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To shrink or tone your thighs lay on your side and bend the leg you arent laying on over your leg so that its close to your hips. With the leg laying on the floor raise it (make sure its under your bended leg and flex your foot. While your foot is flexed more your leg up and down, but dont touch the floor with it. In this exercise be sure that your body is rocked over your hip that is on the floor. Do as many as you can. It'll hurt.
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what makes sarcasm biting? (link)
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What makes sarcasm biting can be because of the tone of voice the person uses, and sarcasm usually makes people sound really rude and snotty about any thing.
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Ok we came to america..yea its all legal we're from France and my mother has been stressed trying to get a job and a degree over here since its different. anyway recently ive been getting bad grades which is a flip out because my mom knows me as an A student so i tell her about the grades and im totally sweet and everything and i even cry for her...lol anyway yea and i said sorry over and over and she still flips out majorly. she expects me to be a robot for the rest of high school and not have any fun shes taken away my web accounts like bebo etc and shes saying i wont be able to go out and stuff to parties and to the movies with friends. does she really expect me to live through that. I can strap down and get the grades up and have fun you know? but she keeps telling me how when she was my age she had no fun and she was this and she was that and she shouts like a fucking african haha and I can't stand her I actually want to go up to her and slap her in the face and say you don't make sense mom you're being rash and stupid. but that wont solve it. I may sound like a little brat in this question but im seriously not Im not rich atall and i hardly ever get what I want bt on this? no fun no actuall LIFE. someone please help me on how to battle this out with her and help her see that this is not the right thing to do to help me (link)
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Well, i hope you like America anyway.
I think that you should prove yourself to your mom first. Raise your grades up a little, and show her that you're improving. THEN, ask to do fun things. Point out the facts that you are improving, and deserve a break now and then.
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