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Q: Two nights ago, I dreamed that a black snake was in my house and I was home alone. Of course, I was afraid, because and I knew by the time my husband got home, the snake could be anywhere in our house. Well yesterday, while out on an excursion, my husband spotted a black snake. He is not afraid of them. The tour guide wanted to just stop and watch it move through the path. We did and for some reason, I was no longer afraid. What is the significance of this black snake in my life two days back to back?

I just found this on the web. I think it might be of use to you. Although it doesn't explain why you saw a real snake later on.http://www.snakedreams.org/black-snake-dream.html

Q: My boyfriend acts like he doesn't care anymore...

F/17 Everything started out perfect. He was the most amazing person I had ever met. We would never argue, we were so close and connected to each other, he was my best friend. But now he acts like he doesn't care about or the relationship anymore. We argue a lot and that's because I'm constantly trying to tell him that he's making me feel unhappy and unwanted. The communication is awful, if I don't text him first, we don't speak. I tell him he's changed, and he tells me that I have also, because I'm always going on and on. But, what am I supposed to do when he's acting distant and I'm fed up of his behaviour? I've got to say something. We have been together for 5 months now, this has been happening for about two months. Over these two months, I've ended our relationship so many times, and he just lets it go. He never tries to get me back, I think he understands and knows what to expect from me, that I'm going to come running back to him after a couple of days, falling back on my words. He can make me happy, and when he does make me happy, he makes me really really happy. It's like he blows hot and cold sometimes, one minute he seems like he cares, and then the next he doesn't. I can't describe and explain the feelings I have for him, that's why I really can't let him go and I'm always running back to him. I try to make plans with him, he seems to always be busy. I really am trying my best with him, but I feel like I'm the only person trying in the relationship. But, if he didn't care about me, then he wouldn't stick around the way he does? He would just tell me, that he doesn't care about me and that he's moving on, right? But he's still here, in the relationship, he tells me he cares. But, that's the thing... Only if I mention something to do with "love you" that's only when he says it back. I'm really confused, I thought I could speak to him about anything like at the start, but now... I feel like he doesn't understand me, he see's me as some emotional moaning girl. I've been reading a lot over the internet, on the relationship stages people go through... Infatuation stage, etc. I'm really confused, is anyone going through the same situation as me? Can anyone help me and tell me what I should do? I feel that I can't give up on him, I always find myself coming back to him.

You just said with with your own words,hon. You are the one who 'provides' on this relationship. You're the one who actually cares. He's so sure that you're always gonna be there that he feels he doesn't have to do anything. It's the typical behaviour of most men and some women; but most of all men. It's the same thig that happened to me for such a long time with my boyfriend. Stop caring so much. Have him to do something about your relationship, since it's the two of you, not just you. Tell him you're not ready to raise a baby, that you want a man who trully cares and who's willing to take care of you. Hope it helps a little:)

Q: i have in doing gymnastics for a long time know and at a high competitng level. the training is staring to get really difficult and the traveling is unberleaveable. i spend more time at the gym then at home and im getting really tired at school and when i get tired at the gym i start to train bad and that is when my coaches will start having a go at me they will make me stay late and i live 1 hour away from the gym and i finish at 9:00pm so im inly getting home later, really need some advice should i quit gymnastics.

Well I used to be a gymnast as well, and I know it gets really stressful and time consuming at times, most of all during your teen years. All the same, I wouldn't suggest that you quit, since it's a beautiful sport and you'll have lots of benefits healthwise. All you need to do is to moderate your training. You should talk this over with your parents, your coach. I'm pretty sure they'll undersand that you're really tired and that you need some time off.

Q: While i was watching the movie "You've Got Mail," i came across this vocab. i googled it of course before writing this posting here, but i don't think i'm quite clear about it yet. Anybody who could clear this up?

You should have googled it this way 'P.E.N. dinner' which is an acronym that stands for several associations. For example, one of these acronyms stands for 'Parent Empowerment Network'(Washington State) Hope it helps a bit :)

Q: I am a male who loves crossdressing and have been doing this since I was a teenager. I date both males and females however I found out early in life that there are men who consider someone like myself to be exotic. I think mainly it is because I pass well as a female. Nearly 100 percent of the men I date are really just looking for oral which is no problem with me. Talking with a friend the other day and she suggested that if I am giving oral sex to this many men why not just make money doing it. I decided to take her advice and give hooking a try, maybe for a day or two to see if I can do this long term. I understand the danger and health risks but basically it is what I do anyway minus the money. I am looking for both pro and con advice. Also hope to here from someone else that worked or works in this profession.

I think it's great that you are thinking about making money doing this. But, of course, take into account the risks involved in this kind of profession. Whether you take care of yourself or not. Remember the rapists, I know I 'm being a little dramatic about this, but I'm telling you this because it's the truth. Haven't you thought about drag shows or something like that though? I just love this kinda shows and I think men portray femininity better than women. Hope I helped you a little!:)

Q: There is this school I go to. I have great friends but there are times when I feel out of place, unwanted and down right lonely. My passion that EVERYBODY KNOWS is between writing and drawing. But my secret passions are dancing and singing. In this school they specialize in science and math. I am terrible at math but I really want to stay in the school because of my friends. Today I saw my crush walk up to receive his award for 1st place in one of the categories in the science fair...with a partner. They're "best friends" but a lot of people believe they should be together. I do too...but you know, sometimes you can't help the few stabs you feel in your heart right? Plus most of my friends are brains and are just amazing in so many ways...my problem is...that I honestly don't know my place or what my problem is. I don't know who I am, who I am supposed to be or who I want to be. Just the shy, introverted, innocent and naive girl who likes writing and drawing...or the bubbly, wild, random dancer, singer and writer?

Hey,you're an artist. Not only can you draw and write, but you can also sing and dance!!.And that's even cooler than being some math genius or whatever. So don't stop trying to be who you really are. Instead, make everybody notice it. Your friends at least. I love drawing as well;and I believe it's one of the most wonderful and interesting gifts any person could have. Cheer up! And be proud of yourself.

Q: Hello. I usually have a lot of trouble sleeping and I've had nightmares before, but last night I had a really awful nightmare. I'm not sure of all of it, but I remember this really distorted face and I'm guessing it was a woman in the corner of my room and she kept coming closer and closer and her mouth was opening and I was terrified. It took me a moment to realize I was half awake and screaming. It was even worse that I was home alone, so I ran out of my room and to my kitchen where the light was.
I'm wondering if it's the medication I took, "hydroxyzine", that my doctor prescribed to help me sleep, but my mother's taken it before and said she never had nightmares and I can't find anything in the side effects. And while I only plan to take this once a week, I'm almost scared to go to sleep tonight because of how severe the nightmare was. I'm also prone to continuing dreams or repeating dreams, usually within that same week, so I'm not sure what to do. I really do not want this nightmare to come back because I've never been so scared in my life. I was in tears because it was so scary and I couldn't get back to sleep after I woke up. I want to know if there's a way to keep this dream away or if it has anything to do with my medication. If it's the medication, is there anything else I can do to help my insomnia aside from using prescriptions?

Well,to start with, I'd like to know your age. You're probably too young to take sleeping pills. Maybe, this causes this disorder into your brain. I wish I had the accurate medical knowledge so I could help you more appropiately. But I'm pretty sure this is something caused by those pills. Remember that all brain medicaton drugs are supposed to be prescribed by your doctor before you take them. Good luck! And calm down! It'll be fine!

Q: I cheated n my ex bt still i luvd hr even thgh i luv sme1 else.need hr back

Even though you love someone else? That's kinda sick,isn't it? Even if you got her back, what would you do with that other person you would still love? None of us can help you out on this. This problem needs to be solved by a therapist.

Q: I want to have sex with my aunt Is that bad?

Yes,it is wrong and it is incest. I you're having these 'fantasies' with her you ought to try to make them stop. May be if you tried doing therapy, you could sort it out.

Q: i like in chicago illinois & i was wondering where i can go to meet guys... that are pervs

im a senior in high school (17, female)

Try a brothel and you'll find lots of them.

Q: I have a huge crush on this boy at school named Chase. I even have dreams about him. I never have dreams about my boyfriend. I really like him but i dont want to break up with my boyfriend. Chase doesnt even like me but he knows i like him. WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!

Therapy,I went through something pretty similar and you need to work this out before it gets out of control. What's worse is the fact that this guy doesn't even like you. So it's not worth,in my opinion,to dump your boyfriend for someone who doesn't like you back. A therapist would help you solve this the best way possible.

Q: This the follow up to a question I wrote earlier about the guy I had a crush on that asked me to play basketball with him. Well I asked him if we could play on Saturday but he said maybe but I have a feeling that we won't. And its not like hes going to be busy he said he was just going to stay in the house all day. I don't get it. It was his idea he brought it up about playing not me. Why bring it up if you don't mean it. Why flirt or stare at me but never make a move. I'm confused why do guys do this?

Well,this has happened to me many times.It's really frustating. The definition of those type of guys is 'immature'. They just do it because they need to know that they're interesting and attractive enough to practically play with you. Stop looking as if you were drooling over this guy. The best method to deal with these kind of guys is the indifference. If he is that proud of himself,then he won't turn to you, and so be it. But if it is the other way around,he'll start approaching you once again. But try not to be weak. Stop paying attention to his flirtings and ask him to explain what he actually wants from you. And tell him you are not the kind of fool who likes to be used.

Q:
K so a few months ago, there was this thing between me and this guy at school. He lead me on and and I initiated some as well. So when he made further plans if we could go on a date and stuff, i of course said yes. But then
when it came closer to the date, a few days before it he cancelled and bailed on me and said that he just couldn't go through with it at the moment cause he still had feelings for this girl that he never went out with. So of course I felt hurt and disappointed , but eventually I moved on and didnt give a crap about him. But then today, he came up to me after weeks of not talking to each other and asked if we could talk. He said that he did a lot of thinking and that he wanted to give us a try again and said that he was really sorry of what happened.
So then he asked if we could go on a date, and of course me not wanting to say no and disappoint him I said yes... It was a spur of the moment kind of thing . So now here after a few hours of thinking I just don't have a good feeling about it.. Like now I just keep doubting that I may not have that same strong feelings for him as before ... Help !
P.s that girl never liked him back in the first place and he supposedly told me that that girl now has a boyfriend and that he and her are now on good terms and are friends

Well,this is kinda complicated. I suggest that you try it again. Give him a chance. Of course,right away you start thinking that he's coming back to you because the other girl dumped him or never loved him back or whatever. Maybe,you'll never know. Then,there's also this confidence problem. You'll probably think that he might let you down again since he's already done it before. Girl,if you really like this guy,take your chances. I bet you didn't just say yes when he asked you out again for the sake of just not disappointing him. Life is full of difficult decisions to make;and I think that relationships' are the hardest. Hope I helped you a little. Good luck! And of course,you can tell me later how it went.

Q: We didn't have sex, just a hand job. He said he didn't come but I just want to make sure. Is it possible to get pregnent ?

No way,hon! The cum needs to get inside your vagina in order for you to get pregnant. So don't worry:)

Q: i feel as i have no soul i feel like someon estole my feelings i dont even care about my family and the boyfriend i loved to death, i just cant seem to love anymore is their anyone who feels the same???

I have chronically the same problem. It's up to you to change it. Of course you can try therapy,but you can also try to control it. I bet you still have your feelings inside there in your heart,they cannot forsake you,they never go away. They're just confused because of a certain problem you must be enduring. Hope it helps:)

Q: She was my best friend, now she's a bitch. She acts cool and back-stabs me. I feel hurt and just because I said one things about her, she blew her top off and threatened to break off all ties with me. She then spread vicious rumors about me and now I feel so sad. I wasn't in the wrong!
My other friends tell me to forget about her and keep a distance. Because it was her who made my life hell. But how?! It's so hard! She was my best friend! How can you forget an ex-best friend even if she is so bitchy now? Help:(

Patching things up with her. Talk to her. Say things like: why are you so mad at me? Whay all this hatred towards me? Tell her that you feel sorry for what you said about her,and that you miss her,because she's still your best friend. But get together. There's nothing better than forgiveness in friendship. I'm telling you this because I could never sort things out with my ex best friend and whenever I can,I try to help others not to make the same mistake I made. Hope I helped you a little:)

Q: Does that even make sense? I mean, I'm a woman and currently in a relationship with a man. And that's fine by me. I'm attracted to men, but at the same time, I want to be a man. I've always been a bit of a tomboy and I'm not shy about a man's body at all or the way it works. These thoughts have been in my head for years now, this is the seventh year, but I'm not sure if I should act on this or find something to purge the thoughts. I've never told anyone this, not my family or my therapist. What should I do??

There's nothing wrong with being a tomboy and being a straight woman at the same time. My question would be: WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY WANTING TO BE A MAN? would you like to have a man's sexual organs? If that is your actual wish,then I think it's high time you went to your theapist.

Q: 18,female
I've been dating this guy for nearly a year and a half. We have a great relationship. But what really bugs me is his mother. Now,I'm not stuck up or arrogant or whatever,but almost every adult I met says I'm a genius. I'm a graduate of Medical school and aiming to be a doctor someday. I'm one of the best students in my school. So yeah,I've got brains. And I've been recognized for that. But she,his mother,is the only one who thinks otherwise. Not just that,she never misses any opportunity to indirectly insult me. In a way that I can't exactly call an insult,but it's still pretty obvious. I'm really good at pretty much anything I set my mind to. And if I don't know something,it's because it doesn't interest me. Yet she always implies that I'm uneducated. She never even finished college and is unemployed,so if she's so educated and all,why didn't she? I have NEVER done anything to cause this behaviour of hers. If anything,I have always been really nice to her. What is her problem? Maybe someone can explain to me,because I just don't understand.

I guess she's just jealous,and no matter how good or bright you are,she'll always see somenthing wrong in you. That's the thing with mothers-in-law in general. They just want to keep they're little babies inside her nest for ever,even when they're not little babies anymore. Stop trying to look for her approval,since you'll never do it. At least until she realizes you are the one who her son has chosen to be his partner and whom he really loves.

Q: I am running a drycleaning business.
How can I contact mute people who want to work?

What do you mean by that? Are you talking about a deaf-mute person? I suggest that you publish an advert in the neswpaper,expalining in detail the specific type of employee you need.

Q: I am 13 and have a problem with asking this guy out because i really like him.But he already has a
girlfriend! I don't know how to solve this problem
P.S THANKS FOR YOUR HELP

It is wrong honey. He already has a girlfriend,so you don't wanna go around messing up other people's relationships. Besides,you're still very young. Oportunities are gonna be always around the corner for you.
Don't get desperate and know that if this guy has a partner you don't have to interfere. Because you wouldn't like another girl doing the same thing with your boyfriend,would you?Hope I helped:)

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