hey im megan. im 16. i have a wonderful boyfriend i have been dating for about 8 months. i love him to death. i love to give advice. but i need alot of advice as well. alot of subjects interest me mostly relationships, family issues, mental health, sex, so much. i have experienced alot in my life, i have lost so many friends recently but it was for the better. i play volleyball for my high school team. i really dont like my family but i have realized that when something goes wrong your family is always there for you. you really dont know what you got till its gone. i love all kinds of music and i wear any clotheing that is comfortable. i am trying to grow out of my many bad habits. and hope i'll succed in the end. i love writing poetry and i hav written many and only can pick out maybe like 5 that i really love. my main topic is death lol sounds creepy but they are really good. i am emotional and im very sensitive. i have learned to not worry about what people think of me and what i do. i am a very fun person s and a very serious person at the right times. i can not trust anyone except 2 people in my whole life. its very sad but i can deal with it. life has its ups and downs and ive been threw plenty and i have no problem going threw more because thats life.
Ask me anything please
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i am female 13, last night me a friend heard about a party. so sneaked out of the house and went to the party. well my friend did not like all the drinking and drugs so she left. i end up staying and guess i got a little to drunk and end up some guys had sex with me. i am not sure if they used protection how can i tell if i am pregnant (link)
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I am not going to judge you because teenagers do stupid things i would know because i do stupid things as well. Considering you are 13 you probably werent supposed to be having sex in the first place ecepically because you snuck out of the house so a pregnancy test might not really work. Just wait till your next period. If its a missed period then you are probably pregnant. If your parents let you have sex then i say ask one of them to bring you to your doctors office and get checked. Or get someone to buy a pregnancy test thingy for you. there are other ways to tell as well but however they might not give you 100% accurate results but here they are: if your breasts start to hurt if your breasts get larger if you are feeling sick in the morning or at night. Ask your friend or if you know who else was there ask if they knew which guy had sex with you. If you know what guys had sex with you ask them if they used a condom. You might not be pregnant but you might be. try some of my advice.
I hope you arent pregnant.
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okay so my bf really want to have sex but i dont really feel comfortable doing it bc everytime we are at his house he lives in the basement but everytime we are there and we mess around his mom always yells down for him to come up to help her with something. now i want to wait until we live together which will be in june. im 18 and hes 19 btw. so it is really fair for me to have him wait. i just want to do it with no interuptions. haha is that too much to ask? (link)
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Deffinatly not to much to ask. Just tell him you want to wait till you two live together and that you would feel uncomfortable if you did it and his mom kept intrupting. I know you probably have heard this enough, but if he really does love you he will respect your wishes, and that's true. Maybe wait till his mom leaves the house if he cant wait simply a few months. Do it at your house. there are other options if he really cant wait. But if you want to wait till june tell him and he should respect it.
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do girls like giving blow jobs, or is it just something that girls do cuz the guy asks them to? (link)
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I have recently giving my boyfriend head (another word for blowjob incase you didnt know). I did really really liked it at first but when i did it a second time and i was grossed out. Now i will only do it if necessary. It really all depends on the girl really. Personally I dont hate them, but they arent the funnest thing. I will do it to please him once in a while. But in my opinion and in other girls blowjobs for girls arent so fun. It really all depends on the girl
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okay, well my mom and her boyfriend smoke. a lot.
i only visit on saturdays, but it drives me CRAZY because whenever i come home i smell like ciggerettes. and i dispise that smell. i don't like people who smoke that much either, because i have heart issues and i can't really breathe around it.
how can i try and convince my mom and her boyfriend to stop smoking? i already tried, and i told them how bad it is for you and everything, but they didnt' care. i WANT them to care. i hate this.
can someone give me advice on how to avoid this? or something? (link)
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Oh i know how you feel. My parents are addicted and so is one of my brothers and he started really young now hes 20. My dad quit because he had a heart attack and doctors said because it was from smoking. Hun there really is no way to help them quit. I know how hard it is. I hate smokers and i feel bad for them to. they are addicted and depending on the person you might not be able to help them. try the best you can. Scare them if you need to. tell them to do it for you. You breathing in that air is second hand smoking and DOES effect your body. Plus if you already have heart issues that's even worse. It's tough to convince them to stop but try everything you can. If whatever you do doesnt help then stop going or just go outside.
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why do guys occasionaly have a hard on when they wake up (link)
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Well im a girl but i tell you what i know about it. Its just means you're healthy. Guys generally get a few erections a day. Its perfectly normal. All normal healthy guys wake up with them. Sometimes they might've had a wetdream.
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To the parents of teenage kids out there(meaning 13,14,15 year olds), you know your kids are smoking, popping, doing drugs and partying. Do you care? Do you try to stop them? , i'm really curious, becuase now-a-days it seems like everyone's doing it, and there parents dont even care. (link)
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Well im not a parent. But i felt i could answer this question. I do some stupid shit and im only a teenager and my parents are clueless. My parents are very smart people but they try and stay outta my business.
It all depends on the parents really. Like some parents could give a shit. Others would deffinatly care but dont know their child is doing it. Now a days kids have gotten smart and know just how to hide the scent of smoke on them or the smell of alcohol on their breathes. Kids are really smart and know how to hide the stupid stuff they do.
Its not becuase parents dont care its because they dont know. And others just dont care.
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I mastrobate and I really want to stop. Any tips? (link)
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Well masturbation is a perfectly normal and common thing. If you do it to much like 3-5 times a day then go find someone who can please you. You could stop by finding someone who can do that all for you like if you are a guy get a girl who can give you a handjob or perform oral on you. If you are a girl find a guy who could finger you or perform oral on you. there really is no way to stop unless you just stop on your own or see a doctor. But listen masturbation is perfectly normal and everyone at some point in their lives will do it as well. I promise you that.
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ok, first of all, why the heck would anyone want to shave "downstairs"?!? are you suppost to? do guy's like it that way or something?
i'm just unsure, you see a lot of questions on here about shaving down there! any advice would be apreaciated,
p.s. i'm 15/f
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Well if you are sexually active then its best to shave between your legs. Because it will look unatractive and/or feel very awkward. I shave there so i can avoid those things. But its not like you have to but a lot of women do and some men.
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I am lately itchy down there and it is really annoying. why am i itchy and what is wrong with me? Thanks in advance.
*Christie* (link)
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Oh dont worry I get itchy sometimes down there as well. Its normal. Well i hope unless me and you just have really weird bodies. Lol, well did you shave "down there?" Because if you did that could be it. It probably wont be itchy anymore if you just stop itching it.
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Hello
Well it just always seems like when I meet a new boy I have a crush on him and I don't get it I can't really tell if its true or just my stupid slef wanted a boyfriend so I tell myself like him you can get him like him! Err I don't know I'm confused so I don't know if its a real crush or just a "fake crush"?! (link)
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Oh that used 2 happen 2 me. Yeah i have a boyfriend and it sometimes still does. I realized i never really liked them i just thought I did becuz every guy I meet i think they are flirting when really they are being nice. You may not "really" like him but maybe this time you do. Give it a chance maybe you really do it you cant get him off your mind and if you really care about him maybe you do really like him. Give it a few days. Your may have something here
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i am 14 i just had my 1st born baby girl die over the summer and im pregnant again it broke my heart and i cant go through it again i refuse to get an abortion please help me (link)
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Oh my god. You poor thing. that musta been terriable. Well, if you don't want it to happen again hun, the best thing to do is get an abortion. I know it might be hard but it's the only way to avoid that happening. You're 14 and well having babies isnt tha best thing. I honestly think you should get the abortion because you said you dont wanna go through the pain of your baby dieing. But however you could have the baby and deal with whatever happens. Maybe see a doctor and ask what are the chances of my babies death? Before you decide what you are going to do. Having babies at 14 isnt the best thing for your body. So I think in my opinion is to get an abortion and next time I have sex I would be on the pill and use a condom. I know that's hard to lose your baby, no i havent but I can imagine how painful for you it was to lose her. If you get an abortion then you are saving yourself from going trough the pain and misery of losing her/him again. Its all in your hands but yes that is my opinion.
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i've been on the pill for almost a year.. and i got my period when im not supposed to. what does this mean? could it mean im pregnant?? (link)
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You are deffinatly NOt pregnant. You would only be pregnant if you didnt have your period. You can't be pregnant and have your period it physically just isn't possiable.
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What does it mean to lose your virginity?
Does it mean having sexual contact...because if so, then any type of contact would make you lose your virginity, right?
Or does being a virgin technically mean you have done anything but intercourse? I'm not too sure about this one, and I don't think Google would be of much help either. Thanks. (link)
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Yeah you are no longer a virgin if you have had sexual intercourse. You are still a virgin if you do anything but intercourse. But heres some advice, if you do decide to get sexual or have intercourse, make sure you only tell someone you really trust or tell no one. I know from experience. So yupp.
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Okay, so I like, well not like but LOVE this guy named Jake. He is sooooooooooooooooooo cute. Here is the problem, he is shorter then i am! Everyone is so short! I'm begging for help. mainly because he is comming to my house to finish a project and i don't know what to say! (link)
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lol yeah im really tall and when i was growing up i was taller than ALL the boys i liked. thinking of something 2 say is easy. I mean if he didnt like you then why else would he go 2 your house? He is probably just as nervous as you. try not 2 worry 2 much. Just ask him how his day is going, is he does any sports how is he doing in school wats his favorite hobbies. Don't get so personal though becuz he might think you're weird soo be careful of what you say.
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im 14/f.
i used to get headachs all the time and i couldnt do anything they kept me out for hours. my mom would get so mad when i would ask for advil. i dont kno wyh tho. i hide when i get hurt and i try to handle things on my own becuase she always gets mad. if the hurt was my fault or not. something is worng with me now. not physicl but mental. i dont know how to tell her this and ask for help. i tried once by atempting suicide but my friend stoped me and she blew it off as teenage hormons. now i cut myslef but i cant control it. she doent notice and i dont want to die but when i get in my moods thre's no telling what i will do. how can i show her what i am going threw and ask her to please help me, without her screaming her head off. any hintS? (link)
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Yeah growing up is hard. I know how you feel. I can't say anything to my mom and i recently went for help in school and when she found out she flipped. Im glad your friend stopped you. You are probably depressed well most likely. I advise you not to go to your school counselor because when i did that thay suspended me from school and shit happened. Ive never cut but my closest friends do and/or did. I know from wat they told me you can't contol it you're addicted. If you tell your mom she might cry and maybe get you some help. Or have your friend tell her mother. You clearly want help and need it because like you said you don't wanna die. there are many ways to get help. Have your friend tell her mom and maybe some way her mom could get you help or she could help you or she could tell your mom and take it from there. Growing up is tough and can and will (sometimes) bring you into depression. If you get help for it you might be cured after a while. I just advise you NOt 2 go to your school for help because well i know from experience wat will happen. But it is after all your choice do as you please but i beg you get help before you do something really bad.
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I can’t help but feel as though I’m not headed anywhere good.
I have not one, not two, but three mental disorders, one of which they discovered in me. Lucky, no? The first one, depression, was discovered when I was in seventh grade (I’m in ninth now) and pushed me to attempt suicide several times. I got over that and moved straight on to anxiety, which proceeded to generally be a bitch to me in all areas. Then, my doctor managed to identify the third one, which I’d had for years. That’s the unidentified one, which I like to call “Emotionless Bastard Syndrome”. Basically, my emotions turn off, sometimes when provoked and sometimes for no particular reason. I’ll be somewhere and I’ll just go completely numb.
Over the past few years, I’ve started to feel more and more… Distant. I’ve read very heavy books and graphic novels, and grow more and more disgusted by my own species. I wrote this, which is probably not a good sign:
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Dear Humanity,
What the fuck happened?
I mean this in all seriousness. You were doing so well. Genuinely, I think everyone expected you would turn out great. You certainly had an excellent start…. You discovered the wheel, fire, electricity, and a whole lot of complicated nuclear stuff. I was always able to overlook your shortcomings because of your promising future, but now this shit has gone too far. You’ve pushed your luck, folks.
Where to start? I guess the first thing I should mention is this little consumer ideal thing you’ve got going for you. You just can’t stop buying shit… And not even shit you need, stupid shit. There’s also bullshit, but I’ll get to that later. So anyway, you kicked off with all this capitalism and free enterprise stuff and that seemed like it was working out, better than communism in any event. But then you got your second addiction, and this addiction was to buying. Didn’t matter what, you would buy pretty much anything and everything regardless of whether you needed it or not. Once again, began pretty innocent. You had free enterprise, you could buy or sell whatever shit you needed, and it was good. But Jesus Christ. How many brands of vacuum cleaners need to fucking exist in the first place? Humanity, I sentence you to watch the movie Fight Club about eight hundred times.
Next, how about we talk about ignorance. This is another strong one, particularly amongst the young. Now, for fuck’s sake, you guys are inheriting the future, and this is the kind of mindset you’ve got? There’s other people starving all over the world, there are kids with dads who rape them every night, and the best complaint you have is about the color of your god damn iPod? Also, if there’s a country that represents the human mindset, it’s America. You use up 80% of the world’s resources, ignore the counsel of other countries, invade smaller nations whilst trying to force your system of government upon them, and have the balls to call yourself leader of the fucking free world? Christ, Teddy Roosevelt would be rolling over in his grave.
And while we get to the subject of invasion and wars, I would like to politely ask the lot of you to sit and wait for five fucking minutes before blowing each other up for once. Come the fuck on. It seems like as soon as everybody has their conflicts resolved and they don’t give a shit about their differences, someone gets greedy or stupid or pissed and decides to find another reason to kill people. And before you know it, BAM! War. Another fucking war. Who’d have guessed? Whether it be for revenge or land or money or resources or women or honor or stupidity, it seems vital to you that you kill a whole bunch of each other in order to satisfy you for a short period of time. Come on guys, at least be original.
Moving on, I’d like to point out the royally shitty job you’ve done of taking care of the place you got handed to you. It was classy, too: Millions of other species, vast geological wonders, and natural occurrences that could only be described as miracles, and you had to move in and burn all the forests and kill all the whales and destroy your fucking ozone. An ozone, I have to give you credit for that one. That’s impressive. I mean, it’s one thing to go out and be completely selfish bastards to all the other beings your sharing the planet with, but to destroy something that existed only for your protection in the god damn first place? Humanity, your incredible selfishness and short-sightedness remains unmatched. I can’t imagine. I just can’t imagine.
Now, lets move on to our most pressing matter, which would be bullshit. By this, I would mean the bullshit that you’ve clouded your worlds with. It’s on your news, in your books, filling up your churches… No fucking surprise it’s in your minds. Still not clear what bullshit is? You believing a woman who tells you that the 9/11 widows are all profiting from their husbands deaths, that’s bullshit. A politician who tells you that the rights of a lump of cells outrank those of a crippled man or a grandmother with Alzheimer’s, that’s bullshit. A Texan who tells you that someone else’s happiness detracts from his happiness, that’s bullshit. Every dinner table manner you’ve ever had to learn, every polite lie you’ve ever had to tell, every useless algebra fact they ever drilled into your brain, that’s all prime BS. And a clergy member who tells you that god is amidst all the burning bodies and screaming children? What you have here is real bullshit.
In the bullshit department, religion is the undisputed champion, and always has been. As usual, an innocent start: A bunch of people decide that life sucks and they don’t know what comes after it, so there’s some big guy in the sky who’s taking care of all that for them. I repeat: Come the fuck on. I really would think you would have gotten over this shit by now. This primitive idea has been defended in so many ways for so many years it grows sickening. “Why did god burn my house down?” He works in mysterious ways. “Why did he give me cancer?” We are all a part of his plan. “Why does he murder the children?” Their time on earth was done. Has it ever occurred to you that right now, and I mean right now, there are people who are living lives that will consist of more misery and less happiness than you could ever imagine? There comes a time where you just have to stop rationalizing and admit the blindingly obvious: You are alone in your sad little existence.
Humanity, your being has been a downward spiral for thousands of years, and I believe that you are now beyond redemption or any kind of savior. Buy your last clothes, kill your last enemies, suck your last drops of oil from the earth, and pray to whatever gods or myths you may wish. You were so promising… But your time has finally come. Like all species, you will fade into the past, where perhaps others will learn from your failure. But for now, all you can do is hope for the best.
Truly,
Me
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I began to feel as though the weight of the world was on my shoulders. Now, it seems as though I’m so inside myself that no one knows my true face… I hide behind a wall of atheism and skepticism, which is probably more curiosity gone wrong than a genuine staunch opinion. Every day I’d look up more and more reasons why God doesn’t exist… And boy did I find them. But I recently realized that what I’m looking for is not disproof: It’s proof. I want to believe so badly that someone out there more competent than humans handling this, but I just can’t bring myself to. I recently got a girlfriend, which helped a lot.
And now, I feel like I’m chasing a dream or a ghost of some sort. I’ll go onto Google and search for words like “meaning” or “answers”. I don’t know what I want, I don’t know why I want it, but I can’t stop wanting it… I just don’t know what’s going on. It’s like I’m slipping out of reality or falling out of the world. Thanks for reading this far. I guess I was hoping maybe somebody had answers.
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Wow you are a really good writer. You are probably one of the smartest perrson i've ever met well you kno wat I mean. that all made so much sense and i loved how you wrote it. im sorry i do not have answer i don't think anyone will but i would like 2 say how wat you wrote touched me in the heart and i really anjoyed reading it
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Alright so. I have an amazing boyfriend who I love so much and would do anything for him... We have been dating for 6 months.. But theres other guys who like me and I still talk to them.. Like a lot of guys try and flirt with me and all and I don't want to be like STOP IT and sound all rude, but my friends say I kinda lead other guys on. I mean all guys know I have a boyfriend and that I am off limits, but it still doesn't stop them. (link)
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Oh my godd! lol i can soo relate 2 you. Yeah that sounds just like wat im going threw there is really nothing you can do except either ignore them, walk away, actually say stop or just keep flirting and/or flirt with them. But however that isnt very fair to your boyfriend. So just try not to flirt and maybe they will go away or unless you like the attention then w/e. Its mostly your decision.
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i didn't know what category this goes in , sorry.
but im 14 obviously a girl, and when i have my period it seems like it controls my life for that week, because im so self concious about what i wear and if anyone can see anything
and all the older girls like teens or in their 20s seem like they don't even get their period.
so what im asking is how do you deal with it?
and become comfortable in what you do and what you wear during "that time of month"?
sorry it was so long (link)
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Yeah periods suck. Its probably your hormones taking over your body. Its normal. Just try your best 2 control them or try and ingnore it or just let it happen and wait till it's over.
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when im in school. i find it hard to concentarte and im way far behind and i dont get anything im doing so i cant do my homework cuz i dont get it and i doze off a lot and sometimes i just want to burst out crying becuz im so frusterated of trying to get everything and when i read i cant put what i read in my head because i cant focus on what im reading and im just wondering is there something wrong with me?? (link)
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there could be but then again maybe you hav 2 much 2 think about other than school. I kno i always go in2 school crying becuzi had a bad night like a fight wit my boyfriend or friends or my parents and i can never focus even when im fine i can never focus its all about growing up i think. you are probably just focusing on 2 much all at one time. you might not be getting enough sleep or eating enough. you might not be anything rong with you. maybe ask a doctor or your parents or maybe your school nurse and then you'll know for sure.
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Hi, I'm a sixteen year old female from Canada. I like to wear short skirts and shorts in classes since I find them to be flattering and my school is very warm. Last year, our vice principals always told me to change because they were 'too short'.
I have a few problems with this. If I'm not exposing too much (in my opinion) can they legally give me a detention if I do not change? What might happen if I did not go to the detention?
Also, can I argue that they only ask tall people to change since the clothing appears shorter? One day me and my best friend were walking (wearing the same skirt in different colours - accidentaly) and they asked me to change, not her. We were together when it happened.
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Well the way it works in my school is, if you don't go to detention you get another one (but different type) like for example we get a teacher detention for small things and office detention for things like in your case and for really bad thing we get saturday detention. if you skip your teacher detention you get an office if you skip then you get a saturday and if you skip that you're suspended and well yeah. And yeah you're right they do usaully ask tall people (from experience) schools like the people that work there will always be able 2 over rule you so just either listen 2 them or stand up 2 them and get in even more trouble.... your choice.
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