Hey guys,
I'm 14 yrs old and I'm in 8th grade. I havn't exactly got my own life figured out but I'm pretty good at givin other people advice. So please give me your questions!!!!
Favorite Bands- AC/DC, The Beatles, Rolling Stones, Evanessance, Nickelback, Breaking Benjamin, Janis Joplin,(pretty much ALL classic rock)
favorite food- LASAGNA!!!!! (i'm not crazy i swear.......:P)
favorite quotes- just becasue i'm smiling doesn't mean i'm happy......In a world full of cheerios why not be a fruit loop?.....I was uncool before uncool was cool
so......geez thats all i can think of now sry if all that is crap 2 u. I'll work on it later. Much luv!
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ive been going out with this kid for about eight months (we've liked eachother for over a year) and we still havent kissed yet. now, ive never been kissed before, so im not sure how to make the move. I've waited long enough for him to make it, but he hasnt. help please :]
oh yeah and we usually hangout with a bunch of people, if that helps. (link)
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Okie dokie hey!
this sounds pretty much like how dating is with me right now and im 15! lol (sigh....lame I know but wutcha gunna do?) So my best friend went out with a guy for about 6 months and they never kissed. It could just be that your boyfriend is nervous, which is understandable. But, you do have the right to kiss after going out for 8 months. So... if you are extremely comforable with him I would say do this:
"hey (insert name) weve been going out for a while and I like you ALOT. Do you wanna....kiss maybe?" (then maybe giggle or wink? thad b cute I think)
If you arent comfortable with doing that then try this:
when you are at a movie(group or alone either works) hold hands and maybe snuggle up to him alittle(dont lilke throw yourself all over him....yet ;) )
Then turn twords him and look at his face. Smile at him and maybe lean in just alittle bit, this will give him the go ahead, and maybe he will kiss you!
Hope i helped, drop one in my inbox if you need more help. I got other ideas!
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Well. I have had a period for years, but I have NEVER been able to use a tampon. Ever. Whenever I even TRY, it's intensely painful... I can get it in about halfway, but no more than that. Ever. I think I've gotten one in, once, but it was so painful to take out later that day, that I had to sit in a bathtub so it would slide out more easily. :( (link)
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I went through a phase like this too. You didnt have a question on here but....I think your asking how to make it less painful??
Well I read this somewhere that, you need to relax, and not think it is going to hurt before you put it in. (if that makes sence) Like just relax and think"oh yeah this is totally gunna work" I tried it, just stay relaxed and chill, it totally worked for me.
When you are tense it tightens up your body and makes it hard to insert the tampon.
So my advice would be to just trick your mind into thinking"no pain no pain at all" It totally worked for me, now I have no problem putting them in at all!
Hope everything works out!
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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75 (link)
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Are you trying to be this skinny or are you just naturally like that? Because if you are trying to be that skinny, and not eating alot and like dieting i would say stop because you dont need to be doing that. If anything you should be eating some more fatty'ish foods to gain some weight because right now your weight is deffinatly not healthy. But I think it also depends on how old you are. Because I used to be pretty skinny but once I hit 14 I started to shape out alittle and not be so bony(i got boobs too! a plus of having sum meat on your bones)
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today i was walking into the girls locker room and there was this guy behind me walking into the guys locker room and all of a sudden he started like singing so i turned around to see what he was doing and he was liek.. you like my singing? and i was like.yeahhhh... im really shy so its hard to talk to guys and like i dont know what to say. and then he kept saying stuff to me like come on give me a smile just a little smile and stuff like you like my singing. really random weird and even sounds a little creepy now haha. but like yeah then when i came out i saw him again and he was like come on smile so i was like i am and hes like let me introduce myself im tommy whats ur name so i told him my name and then he shook my hand. it was sooo weird but i didnt know what to do you know? then his friend was there and like laughed at him kinda..so idk if like he actually wanted to talk to me or was just being an idiot and doing that to make fun of me. what do you think he meant by it? by the way im 14/f and a freshman..i think he might\'ve been a junior.. yeah help? thankss. (link)
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Guys do really random stuff like that sometimes. He was probably just messing around. But I dont think he was trying to make fun of you or anything. Boys will be boys :P
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are uggs still in style and if they are do you wear them with your pants tucked into them or kept out? (link)
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Hey!
Well im not sure if technically uggs are in or out. But...
I can give you a personal oppinion. Personally I think they are out, but some people just wont let them go. I think its just one of those trends that needs to die out, kinda like ponchos. Ack!
But...if you really want a pair of uggs, they look the cutest with like a jean mini(even though its pretty cold outside, but beauty hurts my friend lol)
Hope I helped!
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what's the name of the song in ' a walk to remember'
it's in other movies, but i just noticed in AWTW
it's like.. 'dare you to loooove'
or 'dare you to moooooove'
something like that, haha i know that doesn't help much, but its a guy singing, and it's not a really new song.
please help.
i know i didn't give ou much :D
thanks in advance! (link)
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It might be I dare you to move, but Switchfoot
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k so im like talking to and well i like him and i think he likes me hes asked me to ahng otu like 5 times but ive either been busy or kinda forgott well when we do talk on aim he asks me if i like him i doo but i dont wanna tell him and if he doesnt like me look stupid should i tell himm ? i want to but i keep saying idk or ya mom as in a jokee lol (link)
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oh no doubt, he totally likes you. What I would say to him when he askes you if you like him, you should said"why do you want to know if I like you so bad. Do you like me or something?" then if he says yes, you can say"oh thats cool cause...i like you too"
hope i helped!
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soo, i'm 15 F, and I just had a crazy night. I've had a crush on my english teacher for a while. he's 42 but is extremely hot and sweet. I thought he never noticed me, but it turns out he did. Yesterday afternoon, i went to his office for extra help and one thing led to the next. I ended up performing oral sex on him(with a condom), we made out for a while, and he fingered me and gave me oral sex. I like him so much, how can I continue the relationship without getting him or me in trouble and without people finding out? (link)
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omg sweety you need to stop this right now. He is 42!!!! there is no possible way he has healthy feelings for you. A fact of life is that a 42 year old should not have sexual or romantic feelings for a 15 year old, there has to be something wrong with him. What he did was not only illegal but its rape! Even if you did say it was ok, having sex with a minor is ILLEGAL. If he is married the situation is even worse. He wont leave his wife for you, you wont have a relationship, he is a petefile who just wants you for sex! And your giving it to him. Be strong! Stand up to him and say"no i'm sorry, i do have feelings for you, but they are just childish. nothing is going to happen with us ever again." you may even want to tell another adult, because he will probably do this again to some other girl. I'm sorry to be so blunt but this is the truth and as much as it hurts, its what you need to do. I know your probably scared, but you need to tell someone ASAP.
I hope I helped, feel free to drop one in my inbox if you wanna talk some more. I'm 15 F too, if that helps.
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Hey i would like to know something about hamsters like how much do you have to clean there tanks?..and what does bedding mean they said put bedding under like 2 inch bedding im not sure what they mean what does that mean..is it hard to take care of them? and should i get one im not sure im researching about them..please give me as much as information as you could about them..like bad things i dont want to buy a hamster and not like it like i want to know like would it be to cold if i put it in a hallway or would it be safe because my parents are strict with pets but they said i could get a hamster but it has to like stay in the hallway where they wont make a big mess and my hallway is like really big plus has a door so like yeah ..i hope you help please..thank youu..bye (link)
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Hey!
I have had two hampsters, so hopefully I can give you the downlow and every you wanna know.
So first of all you should probably clean their cages about once a week.
Bedding is the stuff that you lay down in the cage. It is usually made out of wood chips make sure you get pine bedding because I have heard that cedar can make them sick.
The one downside of getting a hampster is that they can be kinda noisy at night(which is when they are most active)
They run on their wheels and eat their food and chew on stuff at night, so it can get alittle loud, but you get used to it after a while, and alittle grease on the wheel should stop it from squeeking.
I think you should get a hampster, they are CUTE AND FUZZY AND CUDDLY!!!!!
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im a female, im 13, and im about 5'5'' and a half, and about 120 pounds.
i know im not obese, or majorly fat or anything, but am at all overweight?
i feel like i have no will power, and i eat junk, and i just plain eat all the time.
what should i do? (link)
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you are not even kind of fat. I am the same way as you. If you have a quick matabolism, then eating like that isnt too bad. But, you should be able to tell yourself"ok just one" and stick to it. Because when you get older, your metabolism will slow down and you WILL game weight! but dont worry you arent fat at all!!!!
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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering. (link)
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE it when a guy wheres cologne. its super hot and sexy. But when guys wear too much then thats a total turn off. Just remember alittle goes along way.
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I am 13 and obvisily a female. I had my period when i was 12 in november and havent had one again. And guess what month it is? It has been about a year, and of course i havent had sex. I know it takes a while to get regular but all my friends have started and they say i should see a docter. Should i see one? I have been worried about this a lot. Please help. (link)
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I dont think it is anything to worry about. You are still young and at that age it is common for you to have a year inbetween your first period. That happened to me too, dont worry at all. I'm 15 now and things are starting to be more regular, it'll happen just give it time.
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well i was wondering if i am about to start my period cause when i wiped myself there was a rusty color on the toilet paper. and there was a rusty colored little spot on my undies. im scared please help. im 13. (link)
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K hun,
Believe me first hand I know this stuff is super scary. It is possible that you started your period, because mine was a rusty color when I started. So one thing you need to do is look around your house and get some pads. Wear those so your underwear doesn't get stained. Now your going to have to tell your mom, I know its kinda embarassing but I did it to. This is what I did
"Hey mom I think I started my period today" My mom is kinda weird so she kinda got all hygene happy and went out and bought me pads and tampons. If you have any other questions about this drop your question in my box. hope I helped! xoxo
-marsbars
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Help! Please. Ok so I had this boyfriend for like 8 months. He was always so sweet and everything seemes to go right. He's a (A.) Student so he always expects to get good grades. But this year we entered highschool (we both go to different ones) and he failed 4 classes he was really sad and he said that he needs a brake. He said that he needed time to think and that he loves me but that he needs a brake also that his life isn't going the way he planned. And then I told him that I wasreally hurt. And then I signed off. But I haven't spoken to him for like 4 days he goes online all the time and its hard to see him online and not be able to talk to him. I don't want to talk to him because I'm afraid he won't write back or he says something mean. I don't know what to do. Also. My friend told me that he probably broke up with me because he wnats to date other girls. Is that true? What do u think about all of this?. Help. Sorry this is so long thanks! (link)
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I'm assuming your a freshman. So coming from a fellow freshy I give you this advice,
1. Highschool changes everything. As much as we dont want it to it does. Sometimes for the good and sometimes for the worst. As hard as it might be for you to come to the realization that your boyfriend might want to date other people it could be true. You are going to different schools which makes it very hard on a highschool relationship.
2. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend does make it harder to stay up with school and stuff. Especially now when we are adjusting to highschool and the much harder classes we are taking. I used to be a straight A student and now in highschool im getting b's and c's left and right! And thats without a boyfriend.
So my advice to you would be, respect his wishes, but maybe you could talk to him and tell him why your hurt, and that you still like him. Maybe after some time, and he gets his grades back up you guys could get back together.
no garuntees of course but talk to him about it. During this time that you aren't dating maybe you should move on and look for a guy that goes to your school and see how it works out with him.
Dont wait around for your ex. You are too good for that, you deserve to be loved. Hope I helped! xoxox
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Every night I cry so hard because I get so hurt from having my boyfriend talk to other girls. Yes, I've talked to him about it, and he says they're all friends. I believe him, I just don't know how to stop being jealous. I get so stressed, and I'm just tired of crying and being hurt all the time. Please help me. (link)
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Girls seem to have a sence for when things just aren't right. Are you 100% sure that these "friends" are just friends? I'm not telling you to spy, but do some digging and see if your boyfriend is telling you the truth. But if you boyfriend truly liked you, he wouldn't want you crying over things like this and he would stop if he knew it upset you that much. Let him know how much it hurts you, and how you just want to know that your the only girl in his life. Boys aren't worth your tears hun so dont let him make you feel this way. Talk to him
I hope I helped, and feel better please :)
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Ok so here's the deal, I love my girlfriend to death, and i am willig to do everything for her, and just become so sweet when im around her. Everyone says im whipped, even her, so i want to become more asertive, that way i dont look so whipped. ya know? cause im kinda worried it's annoying her (link)
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From a girls prospective there isn't anything wrong with being nice and sweet. But your girlfriend probablay just wants to see the more manly or tuff side of you(that turns us on too :D ) Or maybe being cutsie 24/7 has gotten her slighty annoyed. So my advice is to not stop being sweet altogether. Just maybe cut back a bit. Hope that helps!
~marsbars
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Okay, so if a guy asks you to slow dance with them, that doesn't make them your boyfriend or anyhthing...does it? And it's perfectly normal to dance with more than one guys..right? Also if you're going to the homecoming with a guy, are they considered your boyfriend...or if they aren't can you dance with other guys at the homecoming too...? (link)
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Haha not at all! Just because you slow dance with a guy doesn't mean your his girlfriend or your getting married :) or anything. And if a guy askes you, he isn't your boyfriend although me may like you. You also can dance with other guys, but you will want to ask your date and make sure its ok with him.
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ok i need to know if this is considered cheating...I am "cake" and one of my guy friends is "d". I talked to him and I know he likes me.
[21:02] Cake: hey
[21:02] d: hi
[21:03] Cake: how's it goin?
[21:03] davis9088: pretty good
[21:03] Cake: thats good
[21:04] d: yea i guess
[21:05] Cake: :P
[21:05] d: i need a hug
[21:06] Cake: aww sry
[21:06] Cake: *hug*
[21:07] Cake: wish i could hug you but i can't really have people over right now
[21:07] Cake: so thats gonna have to work
[21:07] Cake: haha
[21:07] d: what
[21:07] Cake: *hug*
[21:10] Cake: so how's it going with that one chick that turns 18 soon
[21:10] d: good
[21:10] Cake: cool
[21:11] Cake: so you guys are gonna hook up soon maybe?
[21:11] d: umm what do you mean
[21:12] Cake: you said there was some chick that you were talking to at your lunch break
[21:12] Cake: did you guys hookup?
[21:12] d: she won't fuck me
[21:12] Cake: oh
[21:13] d: shes a good girl
[21:13] Cake: so is that all you are lookin for haha
[21:13] d: n
[21:13] d: i don't care that i'm not gunna get laid
[21:13] d: thats kinda why i like her
[21:13] Cake: thats cool
[21:14] d: and if i ever do get to have sex with her awesome
[21:14] Cake: i feel neglected
[21:15] d: why
[21:15] Cake: my boyfriends playing WoW
[21:15] Cake: :P
[21:15] Cake: and he' like hardly talking to me
[21:15] d: whats wow
[21:15] d: never mind
[21:15] Cake: World of Warcraft
[21:15] Cake: oh ok
[21:16] d: well i'm talking kinda
[21:16] d: i still wanna see ya
[21:16] Cake: yeah i have to like pounce on him to get him to talk to me
[21:16] d: punc eon me
[21:17] Cake: yeah but pouncing leads to much more
[21:17] d: hmmm
[21:17] d: i'd like that
[21:17] Cake: silly boy
[21:18] d: so do it
[21:19] Cake: what's your favorite part of sex?
[21:19] d: i'm not sure
[21:19] d: i love it when the girl fels great
[21:20] d: how she asks for more
[21:20] Cake: usually guys are very sure haha
[21:20] d: i just love it
[21:21] d: i dunno why
[21:21] d: i just wihs i could nut up in her
[21:21] d: instead of worry about pullin out
[21:22] d: gosh
[21:22] Cake: yea
[21:22] d: i so wanna do it now
[21:22] d: your so mean
[21:22] d: why doyou have to get me hard
[21:22] Cake: i was just curious
[21:22] d: do yo like to be eaten out
[21:22] Cake: nuh uh
[21:23] d: so yo jus tlike se
[21:23] d: sex
[21:23] Cake: many kinds
[21:23] d: tell me what you like best
[21:23] Cake: humm
[21:23] Cake: thats acually pretty hard
[21:23] d: hmm
[21:24] Cake: i like it when he's first putting it in
[21:24] d: do you like having sex with or without a condom
[21:24] Cake:it's way better without a condom
[21:24] d: so a girl can tell
[21:24] Cake: yeah
[21:25] d: so when could i see what its like
[21:25] d: i wanna have sex with you
[21:25] Cake: you couldn't handle me
[21:25] Cake: haha
[21:25] d: are you sure
[21:26] Cake: no
[21:26] d: y ou couldn't handle me
[21:26] Cake: but i know i can't have sex with you
[21:26] d: why can't you
[21:26] Cake: boyfriend
[21:26] d: how big is he
[21:26] Cake: big enough for me
[21:26] d: soo
[21:26] Cake: i've never measured him before
[21:27] Cake: i dunno
[21:27] Cake: pretty big
[21:27] d: what happens if we had sex
[21:28] Cake: hum
[21:28] Cake: i dunno
[21:28] Cake: i would end up telling him
[21:28] d: well thats cool (link)
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I dont think its cheating, but you were like one step away. What you were talking about with this guy wasn't cool. I know its hard cause you wanna have fun(believe me I understand you) But you have a boyfriend, how do you think he wou ld feel if he saw this? I doubt he would be happy. You dont need to like tell him about it, just try and tone it down w/this other guy next time and tell him your not interested. hope i helped!
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I'm 13/f and I'm in 8th grade. I've been in band since 6th grade and I enjoy it (but sometimes i really don't like it). I want to be in band in high school yet I don't because it can be really stressful sometimes with all the competitions and stuff. I also don't want to do marching band but they make you and being in high school band is very time consuming...but I still like playing. Also, my best friends who were in band this year are quitting, so I won't know anyone. My question is...should I continue playing since I enjoy it or quit? (link)
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It seems that most people below me are telling you to quit. But i am a new freshman at my highschool and I've done band from 5th grade, this will be my 5th year taking band. And I love band(although I agree with you I HATE it sometimes) But I do it more for the people in band, than the actually playing my instrument. At least in my band, the people are really fun to hang out with. And another perk is you get to go on trips and stuff. Try band, if u dont make any new friends or dont like the people in it, it probably isn't worth your time. Unless of course you really like playing your instrument, because thats the whole point of band to begin with.
So essentially what I am saying is, if you dont enjoy it, dont stick with it. If you make friends, love the people, and love to play your instrument then go for it!
P.S I did marching band, its not so bad, It looks good on college application!!!
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Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. Neither of us have ever done it before, so we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt. I am 13 and he is 14, do you think that it to early, even with protection?? Any advice would help. (link)
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hey,
ok so I think you really really need to think this over. Personally I think you are way way way too young. Is this guy really the guy you want to be your first? You are losing your virginity to this guy, something you cant get back or reverse. Its good that you are thinking about protection, but you are still way to young. Wait acouple years, if you are still together with this guy then maybe the time will be right. But being a teenager myself I know that relationships at this age never last long. I mean you guys aren't even in highschool yet!(im assuming) I hope I helped you make the right decision.
-marsbars
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