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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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Is.it.bad.if.you.drink.a.Monster.before.you.eat.anything?
well energy drinks in general are bad for you.. but yeah i guess its bad if you don't eat anything before hand. the drink gets absorbed into your bloodstream faster if you don't eat anything before.
Can I put my period on hold for a day? I heard vinegar works but how?
no you can't
Absolutleylove love this advice. Did you ended up hanging out with him?I don't understand guys halfof the time but we just have to deal with it. I tested this guy and he never wrote back. .it's been 2 days already!! I'm just going to let him be. He called the other day but I didn't pick up. Before that I had told him I used to see his calls but wouldn't pickup. Because he asked why haven't I replied to his texts! I'm confused and disappointed :(
unfortunately, no i did not end up hanging out with him :( he said he was "sick"..
I cried myself to sleep that night, but the next morning I woke up with a smile. You know why? because he showed me that I can find someone better than him. i can find someone who will WANT to hang out with me, even though he is sick. He showed me that I can do so much better.
Your situation is a little confusing because he hasn't texted or called you in 2 days, which shows that he is uninterested. But he asked why you didn't reply back, which means he was thinking about you and is curious whats going on.
He is playing mind games with you. I suggest trying to find a way to talk to him in person and discuss how you feel and ask him how he feels about you. it seems like he's uncertain what he wants. Do yourself a favor, save a heartbreak and find out what his emotions are by talking to him in person. If he doesn't feel the same way about you, he isn't worth your time and you can find someone so much better :)
So, I'm a senior in high school. Obviously it's only December so we're only about 1/3 done with school but teachers are pressuring us to get all our college applications done by Christmas break, which is coming up in a few days. My problem is I wanted to be a Pediatrician and that was my set goal, but now i don't know because i don't want to be in school for 11 more years. Then i considered a counselor but i don't want to be upset all the time wanting to help all these people when legally i can't help as much as i'd like. So i'm stuck with my whole solid career choice. And i was thinking of going to a community college for 2 years and then transferring to a university so i can get both experiences and save money. So in that case do i still have to apply to universities now? or deal with that in 2 years when im ready to transfer? Do i have to apply for the community college, or can anyone go there? I'm just kinda stuck and i'm not ready to be growing up so fast. I believe i need a lot more help with this than just all that i informed you on but that's all i'll ask of for now. Thank you
Having a career in the medical field will take a lot of time, energy, and work. People that go into the medical field have to be absolutely 100% passionate about their job, because if you don't love what you do, then you won't succeed. So if you don't want to be a pediatrician just because of the length of school.. then reconsider what would make you happy 10 years from now.
As for the college decision part, its really your preference on what you want to do. Some people go to community college and transfer because its cheaper. Others do it because their lack of commitment to their education. There's many reasons but ultimately its your decision and you have to know what is best for you. I ended up going to a 4 year private liberal arts university and I love it! I'm majoring in chemistry with a forensic science certificate. I want to be a forensic scientist (kind of like CSI). I find it interesting and I can see myself in that field very happy.
Try making a list of things that you think you would enjoy. Pediatricians work with people, so try thinking of jobs that work with people such as teachers, veterinarian, business person, marketing, etc. Then write a list of things you're good at, like math, art, or analytical problems. then do some research and find jobs that match your criteria. You'll be surprised to know that there are jobs out there that I've never even heard of and i think i would enjoy. Look at other factors such as salary, amount of education required, if there are any internships or not. Most importantly, find a college or university where they provide the career field education that you're looking for.
Unfortunately, almost every job out there requires a lot of hard work and effort. Nothing comes easy. Just because med school takes 11 years, doesn't mean you shouldn't consider it. Yeah it might be a little difficult, but if its something you really love doing then I don't see why you shouldn't do it. My point is, med school could take 11 years, but other jobs take at least 7-8 years because of regular college and then grad schools, plus internships which take over 8 years. If you want a good paying job that you would love, it will take that long.. However, if you just want to get school over within 4 years, then you're not going to have as much luck finding a job thats good for you.
Talk to a counselor at your high school for help. I know every high school has some kind of assistance with applying for college. they will help you too.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we have hit a dull spot and now all we do it fight and I have tried to give him space but its not working it just seems he is pulling further and further away what should I do?
Think of a relationship as a 2 way street. There's 2 people, that have 2 parts. If one of you isn't doing your part, it just gets messy and complicated. You or your boyfriend aren't doing your part in the relationship and that is why you guys aren't getting along right now.
My best advice is to just let things happen by itself. Give him space and if he does pull further away, then let him because it wasn't mean't to be in the first place. If you give him space, and he pulls away but then realizes that he wants to be with you, then it is mean't to be. Key note- just let things happen and don't try to force a relationship to happen.
Try talking to him and see what's bothering him. Solve out your issues one problem by another. If the situation starts getting tense like you are raising your voices, take a deep breathe and remind him that you need to talk about it and not argue.
Good luck!
hi we have been dating for a years and everything is going good. my question is, when we have sex my boyfriend asks me to finger his bum hole and as i do what he says because i love him. so, guys does this makes him what? i don't understand or is this just a normal guy thing? thanks.
it probably means he's gay and wants a dick up his ass hole..
what does a girl say if a boy asks you out
yes or no.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, and next fall ill be attending college while he is at home. I feel like him and I are going in different directions with life, and that I'm going to end up finding some different in college, because my boyfriend and I have had our differences. I feel like I'm going to end up breaking up with him then, however its going to be harder considering we'd be dating for a lot longer. Should I break it off now? Or am I in the wrong here?
This is entirely your decision... but I was in the same spot as you and here's my story- we dated for a year and he was a year younger than me. I went off to college while he stayed back for senior year in high school. We tried to make it work the first 2 weeks but after those weeks it just went downhill. Eventually we started questioning each other and not trusting each other as much. I went to parties and he was always suspicious of me drinking and being with other guys. I was always suspicious if he was with other girls. Eventually we decided to call it quits (it was a mutual thing) because we just didn't think it could work anymore.
Oh and here's a little statistics for you.. Out of my 8 friends that came to college with a boyfriend, only 1 of them still has that boyfriend. Everyone else broke up already.
soo... take that into consideration that other peoples relationships don't necessarily work long distance or if one is in college and the other is not. However, your relationship could be different depending on the chemistry between you 2. But one of my friends dated this guy for literally 5 years and they broke up after a month in college because it was too difficult for them to handle.
one more thing, if you are already questioning about breaking up with him now.. then it sounds to me like you've already made your mind. If you are truly in love with him, you shouldn't be questioning this.
good luck and inbox me if you need more help
The same thing keeps happening when ever I get into a serious relationship
I'm a 19m by the way
We have sex and it consumes the relationship
I can't really talk to my friends about it
I have no reason to complain I have an above average sized "package" about 9" and I have sex atleast once a day I live the mans dream but it isn't a relationship and that's what I really want any advice would help
Hey I kind of know where you're coming from..
I'm 19 too and when i was in a relationship with my ex, all he ever wanted was sex and it seemed like our whole relationship evolved around that. Yeah sure he would do a few sweet things for me like take me out to a movie, but I'm the type of girl that looks for more than just sex.
So in a way, we're kind of in the same boat. All you can really do is just ride the wave and let fate bring you to someone who matches your personality. Thats what I'm doing. Its not like i've given up.. but I'm just done looking. There's a saying that I always go by- Don't look for love. Let love find you. Thats why its called falling in love, you just fall..
Maybe try talking to girls about it and say you're looking for something more than just sex. If they don't agree, then they're not the one for you.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions or comments :)
Hello..
My hair is really wavy and thick, and I don't know what I should do to keep it tame. I don't like to straighten my hair, because I don't want to damage it, plus I'm planning on growing my hair really long.
I've put my hair up, and it helped some..but instead of it being wavy it's frizzy -_- So either way, it doesn't help. I've thinned my hair to..but it doesn't seem to look any better.. my hair's just wavy & thick..not curly but wavy.
I use this Pantene beautiful lengths mask? Nd it's suppose to help with the split ends to grow the hair out longer.. It also makes my hair soft..but I really hate my wavy hair :/
Any ideas?
here's the deal: your hair is naturally wavy... all these products aren't going to change the style of your hair. they only affect your hair to a certain degree such as making it smooth, or enhancing the curls. but they can't physically change the style of your hair (example wavy to straight.)
I would maybe try getting a perm? There's spiral ones that are curly, my friend has that and it looks gorgeous on her :) Or you could try a wave perm, which would just enhance your waves and make it look pretty. Or you could get it permanently straightened but that is bad for your hair so maybe not.
Hi.
I'm 18 years old and iv been with my boyfriend for a year and still my dad is really protective of me. I want to be able to have my boyfriend stay over and for me to stay with him but I know my dad wont allow it. How do I get round this and get him to let me? I don't want to go behind his back. Please help.
Dads are always going to be protective of their daughters. Don't ask me why... but I just know that they don't want anything bad to happen to their baby girl.
Even though you are 18, that doesn't justify that you can do whatever the hell you want. If you're still living under their roof, then its a good idea to live under their rules too. I know it sucks, but its not the end of the world. My parents would never have allowed my ex to sleep over, but his mom always welcomed me to spend the night there.
You can try talking to your dad about it, but my best guess is that even by putting on your sad puppy face he will say no.
the only way to get around it is by sneaking him in when your dad is asleep. I did that a few times and we just slept in the basement. But the only bad part is that if your dad wakes up and sees. it wasn't as fun when my ex did it because literally every 5 minutes we were freaking out because we thought we heard him upstairs haha.
After you move out of the house, you can live by your own rules :)
My boyfriend loves me but hes afraid to show it. How do I get him 2?
showing someone you care about them and have feelings for them is called PDA (Public Display of Affection). PDA is a part of every relationship.. unless you 2 are uber shy and never want a social life and only spend time with each other and nobody else (and literally i mean nobody else) then you're gonna have to show PDA in some way.
There are different types of PDA. Putting his arm around you or even holding your hand are the small types of PDA. Bigger types would be kissing in public, making out in public, or getting it in.. which is very provocative so be careful with that..
talk to him man to man and say "hey i know you're afraid, but every relationship goes through something like this and its normal. Nobody is going to care if you put your arm around me." then tell him how you feel.. like "I would be so happy if you put your arm around me because it lets other people know that i'm only yours and you're only mine".
just be straight up honest with him, and if he's a little whimp who is too scared to hold your hand, then he needs to grow up and you need to find a man.
first and foremost, thank u for reading this.
Im 19, female. its been 5 years since my dad got stroke and my mum is half blind..so all of the attentions and care goes to him for he cannot talk or move as usual..
i've once cried infront of her, she never tried to comfort me..although with all this burden im feeling..whenever i try to tell her, she just wont listen..never tries..5 years i had to go through many things..for 5 years i've been keeping it in me..
so,why is she being like this to me?its hard on me..thank u..
Life works in so many weird ways..
try this- instead of going to your mom for help, try being there for her first. You know that saying that goes "treat people how you want to be treated"? well apply that to your situation. If you are there for you mom, then she will do the same for you.
One day just go up to her and say "hey mom I know you've been having a rough past months and years. Is there anything I can do to make you feel better? Do you want to talk about anything?" Try doing a few nice things for her like cooking her dinner, cleaning up the house a little, buy her a gift. That will show her that you appreciate her, and she will most likely return the favor by listening to you when you have a problem.
Also, try telling her you have a problem. She is not a mind reader, so she can't tell something is wrong just by looking at you. You need to initiate the conversation and bring it up. Simply just say "hi mom I have a problem and I was wondering if you would listen to me and help me out?" That way she knows something is wrong and will help. Instead of having to guess if something is wrong or not.
Good luck!
19/f I am a natural blonde and i started high lighting the top half of my hair when i was 16 since then i have always kept to the same colour & products.Basicly i am allergic to any type of dye,ink, & henner and found this out when i was at college doing hairdressing,its only dark colours and i am really self concious with my hair. I feel its too bold blonde and brassy and i want low lights of a darker blonde/brown to break up the colour but every time i have a skin test it reacts because of my allergy.Im not allergic to bleach or peroxide just darker colours & i am realy desperate to change my colour dose anyone know of hair dye's that dont contain harsh chemicals or anything i would react to ? it would be a big help thankyou.
try looking for organic or natural stores. There's a store where I live called LakeWinds natural store. Everything sold in that store is all natural. There's a row of hair dyes that is natural and its amazing!!!
im a 19 year old female and since i can remember i have allways had discharge.I have had test for std's and such and they have allways been fine, i have a boyfriend we have been together for a year and a half and we are realy open with eachother and have talked about this before,i seem to notice it more after i shower because i dont were underwear after i have a shower i just were pjarmers and sometimes i can feel the gluey discharge on the top of my thigh i find it realy uncomfortable & i am quite embarrassed about it when having sex, im paranoid i may smell or it may make a mess is ther any type of cream or medical treatment available that can control this ?
you can't control it. Its just how the female body works. Everyone's is different. some women have a lot of discharge, some don't have any at all. its just in our DNA and its life.
Its just like saying why am I 5 feet 7 inches? can't I control that? well no... your height is based on your genetic material. My parents are tall people, and therefore so am I. Its just how our bodies work and you can't do anything about it.
Embrace it. Don't fear it.
my qustion is..
i m not getting good marks in studies. My parents scold me every time. I want to die now. Please help me out.???
don't talk about your life that way. The mind is very complex.. If you say things like that, it will affect the way you think and that is why you're not getting good grades.
think positively! If you take a test, think "i'm going to get a great score on this test and my parents will be so proud of me". If you think that way, it affects your mind in a good way and it will make you more confident and you'll do better in life. its a proven fact.
Also, try putting more time and effort into your studies. Instead of watching that extra episode of tv, take that hour and study! Make sure you're studying in a good place.. like a desk. Studying in front of the tv, or on your bed is not a good idea. Make sure you're getting enough rest and eating healthy. Working out also helps your mentality get stronger and smarter.
Talk to people who could help you with your studies- such as professors or other students. Maybe ask for a tutor if its necessary.
Good luck and remember to stay positive! you can do anything you want if you just set your mind to it and believe you can do it :)
I meet this guy a month ago. he is very nice and very outgoing. the past few days he started changing, he tells em im going to call you but he never does, i invited him to a party but he never went. he decided to go with his friends somewhere else. i wrote to him telling him how i dint wanted to see him again because he is a lier. he told me he wanted to see me tonight to talk things out but guess what? he never called me to hang out and talk. I came to a point where i cant handle this anymore. I was catching feelings for him but i guess that's going to start fading. Im so dissapointed tho :( I don't know what to do. what will you do in this situation? (by the way he is a taxy driver)
hey. I am in the same situation. So while I am helping you, in a way i'll be helping myself too :)
here's my story:
I met a guy through some mutual friends. we really got along and after 2 or 3 weeks I started to fall for him. We had a thing going on for about a month and a half, until he started changing. He wouldn't text me back, he didn't want to hang out as much, and it just seemed like something was always wrong with him. I was so upset that I convinced myself to fall out of love with him and move on. So that is what I did. It was a tough journey for me.. and it still is. I still think about him all the time and wonder "what if". Him and I are starting to get back into touch. we're talking every now and then. Actually, we have plans tonight to see a movie. Everytime we made plans to hang out, he's bailed and done something else. So I'll see tonight if he sticks with this plan. If not, then I'm calling it quits because I don't want to keep waiting for something if it might not even happen.
So here's my advice to you. I know its tough but you really should find a way to move on from him. Life is only so short.. so make the most of it. One of the biggest things i hate is wasting time. Nobody should ever have to waste time for someone else's sake. He isn't doing anything for you, he's not calling you back, not wanting to hang out, he's not even staying true to his words... so why should you put all the effort and time into something that he won't even do himself?
Try doing other hobbies and activities to get your mind off of things. I started photography which takes up a lot of my time. its really fun, I enjoy it, It makes me happy, and takes my mind off him and the stress. I also hang out with friends more and I make a lot of new friends whenever I can. After a while, he will soon be out of your mind. Its hard, but its possible.
Just keep your head held high and know that NOBODY should make you feel this way. you don't deserve it. Do what makes you happy, and then let the rest happen by itself :)
good luck and inbox me if you need more hep!
Ok, I been with my boyfriend basically for 4 years. we broke up because he went to the Dominican republic and cheated on me with someone else. we were off for 1 yrs and 2 months then When he came back he apologized and now we're back together. I still believe we have 4 years even though we weren't together the 4 full years. my boyfriend is 18 and so am I. There is this guy he is 23, I meat him 3 weeks ago, he is cute, and nice to be around with. He likes me and last night we ended up kissing. I really don't know what to do. I'm sure if i tell my boyfriend he's going to break up with me. there is no doubt about that. But I also like the other guy. I'm so confused right now. I know that i have to stay with only one but i don't know with which one :( can someone bare with me here and try to help me out. I will really appreciate it. thanks in advanced
You need to be hones with him AND you need to be honest with yourself..
when i say "be honest with yourself" i mean this- you do not love your boyfriend because if you did, you never would have even considered kissing another guy. If you truly loved your boyfriend, you wouldn't be considering breaking up with him. but since you are considering breaking up with him, you might as well do it.
You should talk to him and tell him the truth. see what happens. if he gets mad, you need to understand why he is mad. He cheated on you and i'm sure you were mad.. so you have to realize that he will probably be mad too. don't get mad at him for this.. its how he feels.
another thing to keep in mind.. if he cheated on you, and you cheated on him.. well that pretty much just says you both are thinking about other people. might as well break up so you can date other people without having to hide it.
good luck!
You know there was a girl that he used to flirt with her. I told him to stop and he did. But now i saw a comment that she wrote and he wrote on it. He asked her for her number and she said she didnt had one. uh im not going to tell him about this because i already talked to him about this. i dont know what his.problem is. I think im just going to take a break with this relationship. I need respect and this just breaks my heart :(What you think about this..?
If you feel like you need a break from the relationship, then take one! There's no reason why you should have to feel pressured or forced into having a relationship if you feel like it's not working out. Take a break from him and if he makes changes or efforts, then you'll know he's worth it. But if he does nothing about it, then he's not even worth it. Good luck and Inbox me if you have more questions!
i like a boy but he thinks i like him as more than firends
you have to be honest with him and say in a nice way "hey I like you as friends. We get along great and you're fun to be around, but I don't like you any other way besides friends."