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He wants something weird during sex... so what is he?
hi we have been dating for a years and everything is going good. my question is, when we have sex my boyfriend asks me to finger his bum hole and as i do what he says because i love him. so, guys does this makes him what? i don't understand or is this just a normal guy thing? thanks.
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I don't think it's normal, and if you don't want to do it, then don't!!
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When it comes to sex let me offer this advice. NinjaNeer is correct; fingering his bum hole does not make him gay. There are a lot of nerve endings back there plus his prostrate gland so fingering him there feels good, he is not gay. Knowing what you like and telling or showing your partner is very important to a good sex life.
Everyone is different in what they like or don't like. We all have different needs. Some women are more clitoral than vaginal and would prefer to have more clitoral stimulation during foreplay. Just like your boyfriend likes his bum fingered other men like or dislike certain things. If we don't tell or partner we too can be very disappointed when making love with our partner.
Just like everything else in life and maybe even more so with sex communication is very important. Also important is mutual consent. As long as both partners consent to doing something it is not weird or makes them some kind of deviant. Sex in the privacy of ones home or bedroom is away to explore each other. There is nothing more intimate then sex. Sex is a way explore, learn about each other to do so you need to communicate your needs and desires to each other.
Just remember the following:
Talk to your partner and communicate your needs and desires to each other.
Nothing is strange or weird as long as you both are consenting to do so.
Each of you can say stop or no at any time. Stop means stop now and no means no, not maybe or anything else.
Consensual experimentation and communication is the best way to learn about each others sexual desires and needs. As long as each are consenting then their is nothing wrong with trying and having fun.
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Ignore the response that he's gay. That's the voice of ignorance speaking.
Everyone has different things that make them tick. Some are mainstream, some aren't so mainstream. Your boyfriend just happens to know what he likes.
The fact that he is dating you and having sex with you, and not a man, means that he is into women. He's not gay by definition. Straight men can enjoy anal stimulation too! You can stimulate the prostate via the anus, so it can feel really good for the guy.
If you're consenting and comfortable with it, then there's no harm whatsoever, and no need to worry about his sexuality. In fact, it's healthy to experiment and figure out what you like: much more healthy than repressing your urges in the name of "what's normal".
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it probably means he's gay and wants a dick up his ass hole..
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