Hey Everyone! My name is Taryn but people call me T-bear! I have a a pretty rough roller coaster in my life but have made it to the top and love where I am at today. I have a beautiful family and am able to smile again everyday. I love helping other people keep the faith and know what you are going through and where you can end up. I love my fiance who I am about to marry here in 20 days and adore my one year old son. He reminds me why I continue to appreciate my breath here on earth. I am here for anyone at anytime. Just ask away!!! Luv u all!!
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i was at a party and got slightly tipsy. there was this guy, whom i met for the 1st time at the party, who clung on to me during the whole time i was at the party, practically looking after me *like not allowing me to drink anymore, and kept talking to me the whole night*. then after that he hung out at my living room the whole night til morning while my roommates were around. the whole night he kept teasing me, and frequently forwarding his head towards me when i got bemused, and hugging me softly. he even put me to sit on his lap while we were watching movie. *i know, it is weird because we've really just met* well, i've never even been kissed so i ddnt know if he was trying to kiss me. he never made a move on me or something. and when morning came, he silently went bk home so my roommates wont think it weird of us spending all night on the couch.
question 1) does he sound like he's interested in me? because it has been 2 days since that night and he never called. *i ddnt call him too*
question 2) well, we're in the same university. so if i happen to stumble into him, how am i supposed to react?
i kinda like him and would like to spend time with him again.
im an 18-yr old asian studying in the states. and the guy's american.
-sorry for such a long question- (link)
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Well my saying that I go by is your only a loser if you don't try. The worst possible anwser you are going to get is " No I am not into you" Which from the sounds of it doesnt seem like its gonna happen. He may even be waiting for you to make a move. So just do and it and take a risk if you really like him. If he gave you his number then it was for a reason. Well god luck hun and I wish you the best
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i am 13 years old and i was having a party at my friends house. I got drunk and i really liked this boy. I came down in the middle of the night and he came through to talk to me. Then he kissed me and stuff then he started to finger me i feel such a slut and i don't know what to do. He wasn't drunk but the next day i noticed i had blood in my pants then the day after that i also noticed all this white stuff but i don't know what it is. Am i a slut and what is this stuff
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Your not a slut the definiton of a slut is a girl that sleeps with several different guys. You are very young and not sure that you should be doing that stuff at your age but hey don't think you are a slut. The bleeding was probably because you have never done that before and it just irritated you. I dont think he popped you hymen. And the white stuff is probably just discharge which every female gets at one point nothing to stress over. Plus drinking at age 13.... anyways girl sounds like you need to make some wiser desicions but hope I helped
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I always find it hard to go to sleep at night. i mean i feel tired before bed but then when im in bed and laying there i just cant sleep my mind doesnt switch off i spent litrally 2hours maybe more trying to fall asleep...does anyone have this aswell?once im asleep i think im fine i can sleep till whenever but its getting to sleep thats the problem. i dont think a doctor will prescribe me with anything to help me sleep and i think thats bad for you. iv tried herbal teas and that still doesnt work. is there something wrong with me and can i do anything else to get me to sleep apart from counting sheep???
thank youu (link)
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I have the same thing also. Its 2:30 AM right now and I;m tired but not sure if I can sleep. What I do is take a hot shower or bath, get in relaxing pj's and sit down and watch a movie. That will help you relax, maybe listen to some music in a dark room. Anyways that is what I tend to do. good luck and hope you get some sleep
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I have a problem where I get attached to boys very easily, if I am talking to them a lot or hook up with them and then it randomly stops I get extremely upset. It's to the point where I'm scared to even start anything with a boy because I know I'll end up getting hurt from it eventually. So there is this boy who just graduated and is now in college who I met and he was trying to hook up with me, but his ex-girlfriend is extremely jealous and said she wanted to beat me up so I told him I couldn't do anything. He told someone he was really into me and they gave him my number, and he kept acting like he liked me this whole night. Then he texted me and we've been talking through texting, on the phone or on facebook atleast twice a day for like 2ish weeks. We both really like taking to each other and I'm worried because I think I"m gunna start liking him, If I already don't. The reason I know that I've become attached is because the other night he was home for the weekend and we were supposed to hang out, we were both at the same place and he was texting me telling me to come hang out with him. We said hi to eachother once but I'm all paranoid about people knowing we're talking because I don't want to get beat up, so I told him I couldn't hang out with him in front of everyone. So then he didnb't know I was watching him, but i saw him leave with his ex-girlfriend and I saw them holding hands and stuff. I texted him and said something about how he lied and then he told me that she kissed him..I wasl ike um wtf? I thought you were just holding hands. Then my friend told me she heard someone say they were going out again. So i flipped shit because the whole time that we had been talking he always said he didn't like her at ALL and that she was obsessed with him and follows him around and stuff, which I know can be true to a point but that night I felt like he was giving some back. So I was being so mean and saying I can't beleive how many times he lied to me and stuff like that. I drank soooo much that night (until I passed out )because I felt completely used and screwed over and i was drunk texting him that night and he was claiming they were nothing, but he was being an ass which he usaully isn't. So the next day I was still upset and tried to admit to myself that we were done and he sent me a really long message on facebook saying sorry and how they aren't together at all she still really likes hiim though. I was really mean in my message back and was explaining how I'm not just someone to hook up with, I'm not a booty call, I'm not thek ind of girl you can have on the side while you have a girlfriend and he was like omg i know i never ever thought that i really like takling to you and then we had like a normal conversation, so i guess we're giong to keep talking. But i KNOW this is bad idea. but the thing about me is i like having a boy to talk too, and i have no one right now except him. How can i continue this and prevent before-hand me getting hurt in the end? cause i know i'm going too, I just want to prevent my sadness now instead of when it happens. (link)
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I am exactly like you... I get attached very easily you are a very dependent girl and just want to feel loved. Thats a problem because it will get your heart broken. As hard as it is you have to move slow to see if he is really true. Screw the ex girlfriend she has the label ex for a reason and she sounds like a big bully who only knows how to talk and not walk the walk to me!! find out more about this guy you can always tell how a guy is. Right now he seems of a bit of a player to me. but his ex could be quite a physcho and just causing shit. you did see them together tho so please take it slow dont sleep with him and dont give him your full trust. Put that wall up but dont act mean and crazy. I know how you feel and how hard it is but just act cool!
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I'm a cheerleader so I'm always conscious of my body. My measurements are 33 inches-Breasts, 25 inches- waist, and 36 inches- hips/butt. Do guys find this attractive? I personally find myself too small chested and fat everywere else. Also I'm only 62 inches tall. (link)
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Well hun to tell you one thing you shouldnt really care because wouldnt you want a guy that cares about who you are and not just what you look like. There are guys out there like that. If you pay more attention to your size and what you look like it will lower your self esteem and guys will notice that fast. So just be confident with what you got because thats what you were given and you wont have any trouble meeting guys!! hope i helped
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Anybody know of some good books? I'm seventeen and a girl and I like romance books and stuff like that but I hate books about popularity and stuff like that. (link)
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My favorite all time series would have to be the twilight series they are extremly good books. Twilight, New Moon, Eclipse, Breaking Dawn. I am really into Romace Novels also.... Hope I helped
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Okay, so I get wet and horny SO easily.
Like, just from talking about sex, or getting fingerd. I'm not sexually active, soo yeah?
But I get extremly wet during health class and stuff.
and i never know what to do?
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Some girls hormones are just extra sensitive like that. There is nothing wrong with that and really nothing you can do about it. And getting fingered will definitely do it because any stimulation is going to get you going. Every one is different and different things stimulate their mind which results in stimulating there body. No one knows what you are thinking or what is happening with your body in health class so I wouldnt worry about it. Hope I helped
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Id never heard of this happening, but I am Pretty positive I've torn all the muscels in my stomach from WAY over excersising.
I can't stand up straight because it hurts so bad, when i stand up its excruciating. I know it will take time to heal this but I was wondering if there was some things I could do in the meantime to expend my mobility..
Any stretches or anything really.
ILL RATE HIGH! (link)
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I don't think that you tore the muscles in your stomach when you work out over the amount you are suppose to you work those muscles more then they are use too and the are just tired. You need ot stretch do not baby them or it will not get better. That is a good sign you are stregthing you muscles. What really works on tender muscles for me is Get two handtowels wet and put them in the freezer Put one of them on your muscles for about 10-15 mintues, then warm it up in the microwave and put the hot one on there for 10-15 minutes and then continue to do that over and over and keep freezing them it really works. well hope i helped
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I am going back-to-school shopping this week and need some stores to shop at. Everytime I search for cute, cheap clothes for teens, I get the same old stores as results(Hollister, Aeropostale, Forever 21, Wet Seal). I need some stores to shop at that are not expensive. Please help!
Stores I have already gotten as results:
•Macy's
•Banana Republic
•Vans
•Quick Silver
•Ann Taylor
•Victoria's Secret Pink
•American Eagle
•Old Navy
•Urban Outfitters
•Forever 21
•Target
•Roxy
•Aeropostale
•Tilly's
•Wet Seal
•Charlotte Russe
•Kohl's
•JCPenney
•Walmart
•Hollister
•H&M
•The Gap
•PacSun
•Anchor Blue
•Zumiez
•Abercrombie & Fitch
~Please no online-only stores! (link)
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I don't know if you have a deb but I shop there quite a bit. There is always wal-mart and k-mart they tend to have some cute clothes and there is always stores that have discount racks. well good luck
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Okay i am dating this guy, and i mean we are doing fine and everything, hes just younger than me and things.. and my ex boyfriend? we haven't been together since probably last valentines day? and the guy i'm dating we have been together for like a week now.. but my ex is telling me he wishes that he could take that part of his life back where he broke my heart, that he still loves me and he always will and he misses me and he wants to be with me and that im the one for him?
-bad part about it is, he has never said anything like that before to me? so i really don't know if i should give him another chance, or what? i mean i still love him & no matter what i would do anything for him, and he has told me he has changed and his mom even said he has? and he cried over me the other night, and he tells me EVERY day that he means that! except last night, he told me that he will always feel the same way about me, but he just doesn't want to hurt me again or anything, and he wants me and him to be friends and he just dont want to date at the moment, but yet he said he still feels the same and always will no matter what? and for a year straight i always wanted him back, and he never would consider it? but now that i have a boyfriend i think he has finally realized what he wants, or maybe he is just telling me that? i dunno..so what should i do? please helpp me =( (link)
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The same things happened to me. I got my heart broke. Well when I was in the process of moving on some other guy came along that worshiped the ground I walked on was so good to me. Well the guy that broke my heart found out and he didnt like that to much because I wasnt there on his back burner to be a booty call. So he told me he was in love with me and asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes because this boy still had a good chunck of my heart. I broke up with this other boy thinking it wasnt right to be with him if I was still in love with him. Well I dated him for about a day and he broke up with me. He even admitted the only reason he asked me out is because he was afraid I wouldn't have sex with him now that I was seeing someone. So pretty much he screwed me over.!!! you gotta follow your heart and do what you think is best but I figured telling you my story might give you a little insight. Well good luck I wish you the best!!
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i'm 19 years old, female.
i've never had sex before, never been fingered, havent done anything really! only made out, and i havent done that in like three years, ohhhh god embarassing! i've been really really horny lately and i really just want to be sexual. now i'm not saying i just want to go have sex with random guys but i would like to get pleasured:)
i'm not into the whole dildo/vibrator thing either...not for me! i just dont know how to go about doing something, and letting my hormones go crazy. i dont even know why i'm like this! i'm on birth control, but probably because i havent really done anything sexal before right??
i hear about my friends having alot of fun and getting frisky haha and no i wouldnt do it because my friends are! i'd do it for ME. i'm 19, i know how to make wise choices, and i think i have so far! but would it be bad to have a guy finger me or to just have some fun with a guy? (link)
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there is nothing wrong with having fun just dont overdo it and become a slut. haha by the way you metioned you are on birth control you are probably feeling this way because birth control messes with your hormones too. but no there is no reason you shouldnt be able to have some fun just dont do it in a dirty slutty way and be cautious when you are.. make sure you know the person at least a little bit and use protection if you decide to have sexual intercourse!!!! good luck
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My father and my husband HATE EACH OTHER. They aren't nasty to one another, they just complain to me. It is a huge emotional burden to carry. Any advice for peace is appreciated. (link)
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Tell them exactly what you said sit them down together and say this is a huge emotional burden to carry, use the guilt trip and say you know if you both cared about me you wouldnt put me through this. and its the truth. Tell your dad that you love you husband and he should be happy for you and support that and tell you husband that this is your father and you love him and if he loves you then he should love everything that comes with you. Make them talk out there problems and if they cant act like adults tell them ok until you two can grow up and talk about things than you wont be talking to me and get up and walk away that will scare them both and you dont deserve that good luck
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Hello,Okay so I used to "talk" to this guy .
He kinda started talking to another girl and then told me he wanted to be friends.Now we are literally best friends.and He stopped talking to that girl and He is now talking to his ex girlfriend ,who he says he still really likes.
The other day,me and him were hanging out alone,we were on his bed and he made a move on me and we first started making out then it went a lot further.We didn't have sex because I said no ,but he was definetely about to make that move. We both recognized that it was unusual ,even though I still like him as more than a friend.The next day,me him and another friend of ours were hanging out.We were watching movies and he was flirting with her nonstop.Like holding her hand and rubbing her leg,etc.He didn't hookup with her or anything like he did with me but who know's what would have happend if I weren't there?She was sort of making the first moves on him though.Anyways,my point is that i still like him .He claims he likes his ex girlfriend,yet does all this stuff.He is also my best friend and it's never good to like your best friend.What should I do? (link)
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this guy sounds like a complete horndog to me. reminds me of one of my guys who would actually go and have sex with my best friends and me and those girls are no longer friends. First of I would let your girlfriend know how you feel so she quits that nonsense right away. And then you need to confront this guy don't straight out tell him you have feelings for him because then hes gonna think he can just get down your pants all the time. But tell him it really did make you feel uncomfortable that he was all up on you and then the next day your best friend right in front of you!! man that brings up memories and I am sorry girl that sucks and no one should have to go through that. Follow your heart and Im not gonna judge you if you want to continue to go for this guy because I know how you feel. But please don't sleep with him until you know he feels for you.. because no guy will ever respect you if you can't respect yourself and he will never give you a relationship if you are already giving him what he wants. be careful girl heartbreaks suck. goo luck!! keep me informed. tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com
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I've been dating this guy for a while and i really like him, but there is a downfall, he makes a lot of really perverted jokes, like my best friend will yell at him for it he'll quit for a few days and start again.... What do i do?
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Well that is his choice to what he wants to do. Its called freedom of speech. Your in quite a bit of a mess because you dont want to piss you boyfriend or friend off but your friend is being a lil selfish and I could see where your boyfriend is being inconsiderate. But what you could tell them both is hey you guys are putting me in a predictment here. Keep this petty stuff to yourself and stop doing it around me. Let him do what he wants to do and in other hands have a little bit of respect and don't say them all the time around her. I have been screwed over alot though be careful not to get them to be too close of friends. You dont want anything happening but you should have to go through all this fighting. Ok good luck
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Me agian..and sameguy this time. Only since July, about 2 months after he knew I liked him...he says things like "You should workout".."you should exercise more.."
Why does he say that?...like why does he care now?...we been friends almost 2 years and he never said it before then..><
He confuses me > (link)
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He sounds kinda like a ass to me. I would tell him "NO if your not happy with the way I am than don't be happy with me at all. I am happy with myself and thats what matters not what you think. You either accept me for who I am or not at all." You deserve way better in life that, no girl or guy should be treated like that by a friend or boyfriend. He could be trying to tell you that cuz he wants to date you when your skinnier but really is that what you want out of a boyfriend, if you anwser yes than girl you need some help... haha anyways just think about it..... dont lose weight for anyone but yourself.... ok hope I helped and good luck
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I am an 18 year old girl. I had sex twice so far, both with my boyfriend who is 2 years older than me. The first time it hurt a lot. We did foreplay a LOT before. I was really wet and we used a lubricated condom. It hurt every time he entered me, but he went slow which helped. After, i had a little spotting, but not too bad. Then today, we had sex again, and it was the same deal. Lots of foreplay, he went slowly, i was wet and the condom was lubricated. There was less spotting this time, but it hurt just as bad. I was wondering, how many times did it take to have sex before it didnt hurt for you girls? Thank you. I know every girl is different but i want to know what other girls went through because i cant even enjoy it because it hurts so bad. Again, thanks! (link)
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Honestly it only hurt a little my first time because the guy wasnt that big. But when I got this Boyfriend that was big.. lol it hurt for the first 4 times. because you havent had sex before this you are still really tight. if your boyfriend is bigger than it will hurt only because he has to stretch you but when you have been stretched enough it won't hurt as bad..... hope i helped
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So the only guy I truely have feelings for and I now live about 2 hours away from eachother. His name is jason and I went to go hang out with him about 3 days ago and I was supposed to go to my dads at ten pm to stay the night then I would go home the next morning. Well while we were hanging out we drank a bit and I noticed he was spending alot of time with my homegirl mariah and it pissed me off so I made out with his best freind matt. Then like 2 hourse later me and mariah walked to round table to meet this girl that wanted to hang out with us. Her name is leighanne and she is not allowed to chill with me alone so her mom sat in the parking lot of the pizza place, and me and mariah told her if she wanted 2 drink that we would go get the bottle and bring it back 4 her. So when she gave us the money we bought a bottle of vodka and went back to jasons house (ditching leighanne with her money/bottle). Anyways me mariah jason matt and this guy martino all drank the bottle then we went to a place where there was more drink and we drank there then left. We went to this pond where me and jason had a really long talk about our relationship that turned in to a huge fight. Mariah and Matt left and Jason told me he wanted me to stay the night at his house so we could talk some more. Me not caring about my ten pm curfew went back to his house with him and martino. .......Well I guess earlier Leighanne (the girl we ditched/jacked) snuck out the back of the pizza place with her boyfreind and when her dad caught her it was already 12:30 am. My dad was with her dadd and they were looking for us so when they found her since she was obviously mad at me for ditching her she told my dad where jason lived. So My dad shows up at jasons house and is telling his parents im a runaway which is not even close to true. I was simply 2hours late. THEN I see leighanne walk up with her dad and I was unabled to stop myself from putting my hands on her. I guess I hurt her really bad (thats what my dad says). But besides that Jason is so mad all that drama was brought to his house and he refuses my calls and wont reply my myspace messages, He even told mariah he is pissed at me cuz he thinks i was a runaway. I am unabled to explain to him anything plus he was already upset with me that day for making out with matt and our fight. Since im so far away from him also I cant just go find him and talk to him in person. I feel like it may really be over between us and that hurts especially that it ended this way! Plus I really want to call and make sure leighanne is ok and talk to her. I know I was EXTREMELY messed up to her that day but at one time she was my best friend. That day just pretty much fucked up my life! :::My parents dont trust me to come home on time! I lost A best friend! And may have lost the love of my life. (link)
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Well hun your in a mess and I was at one point too. Its going to take a lot of making up to do. Yes I am glad you know what you did was extremely wrong because I can probably guartee you that the friend you ditched is there for you more than the others one will ever be....this guy the love of your life shouldve never even looked at you friend in that way if he had feelings for you so be careful there in making sure he just doesnt want a bootycall for you. All I can do is tell you keep trying to explain and apologize but really I would try to make up with your friend first the hardest. Don't do it obssesively so they think your crazy but show them that you really mean it and that your sorry for your mistakes. It does suck but if it gives you any hope the guy and girl that this happened with with me the girl is my best friend... and the guy and I still talk I am now 4 hours away from him but we still text!! well good luck hun and don't worry everything happens for a reason. I wish you the best!!! let me know how things go plz!
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where do guys like girls to put their hands when making out? i usually just hold the back of his neck or run my fingers through his hair but are there any other creative ones? lol (link)
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I do what you do too, but there are other times where I will put one hand on his cheek and one on the back of his head. or pull him in with your arms wrapped tight around them they really like that. you will get a great reaction haha. also sometimes I will rub my nails down his sides or stomach but not to hard..... but um that one is probably gonna turn him on just fair warning. and the other one when I just want to give him a sweet passionate kiss I take one hand and put it underneath his chin and pull him in. hope i helped....
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I have so many things going on in my head right now thats causing me to feel majorly depressed and miserable. Well, maybe its not a super major depression since I am able to function still and do things, but I do feel really miserable To make mattters worse the only friend I have is away for a long time so I can't talk to him about it or spend time with him to help me feel better and now I'm just sitting around at home all by myself. I find only lashing out at my parents or brother to be the only way to ease the pain but I can't do that it's wrong. I really don't want to see a counselor or therapist, not only do I not have easy access to these things, but I really don't want to tell my parents. I assure you, these are people who just won't understand. Is there any helpful tips in dealing with this by myself? (link)
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Hey I am in college right now and get extremely depressed. I am 4 hours away from home. Anyways What I do is sit in my room and get myself together for a little while. Then when I get myself together, i go out and start talking to people introducing myself, ect. I am trying to get involved with activites see if there is any local activities you may be able to join in your area. Get out there and do stuff you may enjoy, trust me it really helps when you are feeling really low!! good luck and I am always here for you...
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Okay so I'm going to college about 4 hours from home, but my mom lives 1 and a half. Well I love school! so much, just i don't have a car or transportation to work, but i do work. but i can't ever get a ride, but everyone says its my fault. I'm just trying to get through school, but its so frustrating when everyone makes it seem work is more important. I can't quit cause i need money!! I just don't know what to do anymore, my life is seriously like ruined. (link)
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First off your life is not ruined. I go to college and I am 4 hours away from home too. With one of your checks maybe check it to purchasing a bicycle of some sort. Check in with you financial aid office or school couselour to see if there is a job on campus like work study or anywhere else. You could also offer people gas money until you are able to get your own car. There are many different ways and usually colleges are very helpful with stuff like that. Open up and ask FOR HELP!! good luck
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