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How to deal with feeling so depressed and miserable.
I have so many things going on in my head right now thats causing me to feel majorly depressed and miserable. Well, maybe its not a super major depression since I am able to function still and do things, but I do feel really miserable To make mattters worse the only friend I have is away for a long time so I can't talk to him about it or spend time with him to help me feel better and now I'm just sitting around at home all by myself. I find only lashing out at my parents or brother to be the only way to ease the pain but I can't do that it's wrong. I really don't want to see a counselor or therapist, not only do I not have easy access to these things, but I really don't want to tell my parents. I assure you, these are people who just won't understand. Is there any helpful tips in dealing with this by myself?
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Depression is something that obviously makes us feel too vulnerable and weak to move on. But depression is something that people can try to get out of.
Since your best friend isn't nearby to bring the comfort you need, go out and talk to other people. If you find someone that you fully trust to share your problems, then go ahead and pour it out.
I also highly suggest you do various activities such as reading a book you like, drawing stick people (not exactly that but...whatever weird things you want to express through art), taking a stroll outside, or anything that you enjoy and can help you feel relaxed. It's a great way to relieve your mind from all the troubles you've been feeling and it helps to better raise your confidence in yourself. It's better to spend your day to do something active rather than brooding over problems. Besides, doing activities usually come across small (but worthwhile), tiny, and random adventures that can be the highlight of your day.
Take care and you are always free to inbox me if you have any more questions! =3
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Hey I am in college right now and get extremely depressed. I am 4 hours away from home. Anyways What I do is sit in my room and get myself together for a little while. Then when I get myself together, i go out and start talking to people introducing myself, ect. I am trying to get involved with activites see if there is any local activities you may be able to join in your area. Get out there and do stuff you may enjoy, trust me it really helps when you are feeling really low!! good luck and I am always here for you...
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Well you see the thing is about talking to friends is that when you're feeling bad about something they, in my opinion, do two main things; 1) Provide emotional support in terms of comfort and by agreeing with you and being understanding 2) Basically allow you to empty you're head of all you're thoughts and feelings.
So the first one, well if you're friend has left then thats obviously not possible but the second point is the one i would like to focus on. Basically what I mean by it is that sometimes you just need to get out of you're own head, and when you talk about a problem and hear yourself discussing it, you sometimes think of things in a different way and its often like a weight of you're shoulders because its out in the open for everyone to hear. So if you don't think you have anyone to talk to, as strange as it sounds i suggest you write it out, in some form, either in a journal or else write a blog out online. The reason i suggest this is because, i was always previously (and still am today to some extent) one who is very much stuck in his own head. I used to worry about things endlessly. Don't ask me why but I started a blog, I wrote every single thought I had out and it made things better it just felt like I was getting everything out and well I even found some other people who were similar to me and they had blogs and we looked at each others and commented on a regular basis and that element made me feel less alone in how I was feeling. Most of all, when I would look back at what I'd wrote i'd usually think 'well that thing I was worrying about turned out not so bad in the end, maybe next time something similar happens, I shouldn't get so worked up'. So basically what it was doing was forcing myself to learn from my mistakes in terms of getting upset over things.
My other suggestion is, don't get comfortable feeling depressed, its very easy since being positive takes more effort for most people. You need to get out of that habit, you absolutely have to, you don't have a choice. The way to do this is; everytime you get a negative thought, in you're head say 'NO', as if you're shouting it inside you're head almost and force yourself to think of something else like even somethign stupid like going through song lyrics in you're head. This is quite hard to do but literally force yourself to do it and you'll start to get used to it and eventually it may begin to help at least sometimes.
Finally, I think you should find escape, but it needs to be something kind of positive, not like listening to dark music or anything if that would be a typical escape, it could be anything though like listening to classical music for like an hour everyday(I used to hate classical, I actually consider myself more of an heavy metal or indie person but I started to find this a good way to escape because it was so different from what I was used to) or painting (but happy things not anything dark) or even taking up an instrument, something that you can make completely yours and you can do at a particular point every so often to get you away from the world. This is another thing I can ensure you works if you pick up something and stick with it.
I hope some of this helps at least
Good luck
Mike!
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