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I like to dance,sing,cook,do flips,and do a split. I ahve some real friends and some fake friend. I hate when peolpe lie.Alot of the boys in my school like me.

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alright well i've known this guy for about a year or so but i just started really talking to him recently. we talked on the phone constantly and i saw him pretty much everyday. over the week that we REALLY got to know each other, he told me he couldnt stop thinking about me and that he thought he was in love. of course, being a girl, i thought it was the sweetest thing and i loved it.he asked me out and i told him to let me think about it and stuff. i promised him i would tell him the next day whether i would go out with him or not. well the next day i went over to my friend's house where we met up with her boyfriend. i went upstairs to grab something and while i was gone my guy called me to see what the answer was. my friend's boyfriend answered and my guy asked to speak to me and my friends b/f said that he was my boyfriend. then he said just joking and handed the phone to my friend. well my guy thought it was me and he said " well whats the answer?" my friend, being a total retard, said " i need another day." and hung up the phone. when i got back downstairs i tried called him back but there was no answer. he hasnt called me since. its been about a week or so since that happened. i really miss him and i do want to go out with him. i wish my friends wouldnt have answered the phone. all i want my guy to do is just call me so we can get everything sorted out. what should i do? help please

If you see him at school pull him aaway from whatever he's doing and tell him what happened and then tell him your answer.

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My bff is evil. I've known her since 2nd grade when she was nice, then in 5th grade she turned evil. Nobody likes her. She's mean to everybody including me for no reason. I try to help her out and I never get anything positive out of her. Everybody since 5th grade (even my parents) has been telling me to ditch her, but would it be too late? Should I continue being her friend? Should I tell her off? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

You should leave her because if shes being mean to you you shouldn't stay with someone you doesn't care about what she's doing or saying to you. If she's acting like this than she's not a true friend.

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Okay, i have this friend and she can really get annoying. what really gets on my nerves is when she brags about how cool she is. shes always like "yeah, i think i like this guy because we hung out yesterday and he told me how pretty i was and blah blah blah". she always does this to get attention. its like she adds little facts about what she and her other friends did the day before when it doesn't relate to what we're talking about at all. i know she just does it for attention but she always acts like she's better than me. and it feels like she wants me to take notes on how popular she is. i hate when people do that so much. its like, do i really care that you have a boyfriend 5 years older than you?
also, she's very trashy. she'll go out with a person for a few days and then decide that she has a new fad for this other guy that she hasnt even met before. you cant just do that. we've had a lot of good memories in the past but sometimes i just want to tell her to shut up. can anybody relate to this?

please help. how can i tell her to just quit it?

You can sit down with her and tell her her problem. Yes I can relate to this.

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my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year. we're both 15. recently he's told me that he likes other girls, but would never cheat. he says he only likes them based on looks and anytime he sees them, he always compares them to me in the back of his mind and they always lose. but when i found out about this, i was upset. i feel uncomfortable that he likes other girls besides for me. is that selfish? he loves me and i love him but i don't want other girls to be on his mind. it hurts...should i try to be ok with him liking other girls or should i break up with him? i mean, people can't help who they like, right?

Well you can just leave him alone with his problem because my boyfriend always thought of his other girlfriend and he will always say her name to make me mad. Then i realized they broke up and now me and his ex-girlfrien are now friends. So don't breakup with him.

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Ok so there's this girl who we will call Katie. She's kinda friends with some of my friends (especially the guys) and it feels like she's taking over my life. I heard her calling herself best friends with my best friend even though she realy isn't. She's taking all of my friends and probably talking crap about me (we don't have the best past) and turning them against me. Now she's even coming with us to this thing that was only supposed to be a tight group of friends. What do I do?

Tell her to back off or you can just find new friends to replace her. If you like do what i did act like someone else.That might give her an idea of her own.

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I have been with my boyfriend for a year but we have been sexually active for three months. He broke my virginity. And he takes care of me so I won't have to work and quit school. But his sex is very aggressive and I really don't like it most of the time. He even freaks me out by some of the things he tells me. Like he is going to let his boys get some of me and stuff like that. What should I do. I love him and he takes care of me. I don't have anyone else but him what should I do???????????????????????

You should tell him what you think and if that doesn't work than leave him. You can just work something out.

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alright. I made a giant mistake. Well, i have a bf and i kinda like this other kid, and well i have been talking to him && i guess today he found out i had a bf, and which he NEVER asked me if i did. So, techniqually i am not lying. However, it hurt him and now he basically hates me and all. && i have talked to his mom and she is trying to talk to him.I feel sooo bad. I dont know what i should do. I already said sorry. and i know i did it to myself. I just feel so bad. Ughh.

Help!!

Thankss

You should find the guy and explain everything to him. Tell him what happened and just make sure that you tell hium that you never meant to hurt him and that you feel really torn up inside.

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Okay well as a young child i was raped multiple times by the same person. and out of the blue i get flashbacks and they keep on coming back to me. Like even when im watching TV lying down on my bed i picture him coming into my room and i freak out. Its been like a decade ago and it still scares me...if this is happening now, whats gonna happen when i want to do stuff with a guy? how do i get rid of it? i dont want to go to a therpist or anything cuz they just freak me out even more!

You could go to theray because it will help you even more with your problems. I'm really sorry that you got rape by the same person if you ever need to talk just go to my email address.

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Okay, so one of my best friends (well, really, my best friends boyfriend, but him and i are really close as well) got home from the hospital last week after being there for almost a month. Now, I'm wicked happy that he was home and I was like so hyper today because his seat at out lunch table was finally filled (he came for just half of the day for the first part of the week). So what's tha problem? I don't know what to say to him/how to act/etc. For some reason it's not a problem on the phone (we just had a wicked funny conversation), but in person I don't know...its like I'm afriad of one of my best friends. Any advice at all?

The problem might be that you like your bestfriends boyfriend.

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on friday night, i have my friends party. we are going to get our nails done and then we are sleepoing over. except theres a few problems. i have a double header softball game on saturday against a REALLY good team. my parents already said i can't sleepover because i'd be too tired for my game, so i have to come home at midnight. the other thing is that on friday night i was asked to play an older leauge game becuase they are missing some players. only 2 girls get to move up for the game, and my coach and the older teams coach both said they want me to play up in the game. i really don't know what to do becuase my friend is already pretty pissed that i am missing some of her party, and now i might have to miss more. i play in a travel softball leauge, and it really is a hugee commitment to play. i really don't know what to do becuase i dont want my friend to be mad, but this softball thing is a big deal! i mean, there will be other parties to go to but i may never have the chance to play with the older team again. pleasee help im really stuck on what to do!!(i'll rate high

If she is your true friend she will understand why you have to miss her party but if she is not than the only thing you have to do is follow your heart.

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This might be a long one. But ill rate 5's for your time.

I'm 14/f
There is this guy(14/m) that when im around him, i feel like I cant breathe, speak or move. He is so hot and beautiful, and he is the nicest person iv ever met. He is my sister's best friends cousin (Sorry if youre confused about that one lol) He seems to act deifferent around me than my sister. I want to think that he likes me, but we kindof like avoid eachother. My question is how can I act myself when hes around? How can I feel more comforable with him, and get his attention. I guess I'm too shy. Well thanks for answering the best you can!

What you can do for a while is act like you don't like him then later you take him away from everybodyu and tell him how you feel or if you go to the same school write him a note and it will explain everything. Then maybe once he tells you how he feels you might be able to act yourself around him.

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Me and this guy were kind of dating then he stopped liking me cause he met some other girl. Now, he is coming back to me and wants to have what we had before. I don't like him, the only reason why I would get back with him was to kiss him cause I have never been kissed before. What should I do? Go along with it and get kissed... how could I do that? Or just totally forget about him?

You should forget about this guy. If mets another girl and he did it once don't you think he will do it again. So FORGET about him move on with your life.

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alright. see heres the thing. last night i had a dream where i was hanging out with my bestfriend (hes a guy. im a girl) and ive known him a loooonng time and when i first met him i liked him alot but i had a boyfriend (still have the same bf) and i ignored my feelings for him and really they went away now that i know him really intamitly as a bestfriend. so last night i had a dream that was with him and we were 5 years older and i was laying on him and stuff and we were making out and then we had sex. and im really worried cuz i liked the dream :( and being that i have a boyfriend and hes my bestfriend and on top of that i am really good friends with his girlfriend. so all of this is freakin me out. do you think it was just some random dream or something more?

I think what this dream is trying to tell you is that you can't put your feelings on hold for your best freind and that they have returned. The best solution to this problem is to tell him how you actually feel about him or else you will lose him forever.

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im 15/f and me and my best guy friend went to a party n both got a little drunk among other things. anyway we ended up having sex and since then i've found out im pregnant and i know its his and i told him about it. hes basically demanding i keep it but see i dont want to b/c its going to destroy my body, reputation,i know i wont be able to keep my gpa above a 4.0, and my mom will kill me. so should i just go behind his back or what?

You should do what you think is right because if you keep it and your mom finds out your really dead and you might have to drop out of school to take care of the baby. So you better tell someone

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what do you do with ya tounge when like reallly kissing ?cause i have madeout without tounge but then my "friend" stuck his tounge in my mouth and whatever idc but i just felt stupid because i didnt know what to do with mine..soo can someone help me before the weekend?? thanks so muchh..

Most of your time your tongue doesn't do anything or all you do is move it around trust me because i have done all sorts of kissing

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Hi, I'm 14 and female. Just wondered if any of you could help me out:
One of my guy friends is kind of obsessed about his body and weight. He is somewhat short, 5'3", and weighs 150lbs.. I don't think that he looks fat; yet he is convinced that he is. He wants to lose weight to impress a girl in one of our classes. I've tried to tell him that he doesn't need to worry about his weight, and he looks fine, but he is stubborn and won't stop talking about it. He says he doesn't eat anything for breakfast anymore and he has cut back on a lot of food. I'm really worried that he might start starving himself or end up becoming annorexic. I suggested that he ask his doctor what kind of fitness plan(s) he should try, and he says, "no, they'll just tell me to excersize,".

Should I back off? Should I help him? How do I help him? What should I do?

Thanks, I'll rate you with a comment or two if you post!

You should try to help him. Tell a teacher and let the teacher talk to him and maybe he will listen to the teacher. If he doesn't then you can't do anything else about it becasue you tryed.

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ok im a 13/f i have a horse but i keep it at this guys house b/c his mom takes care of it for me. Anyway i go to his house like every other day after school and he always invites this other guy to his house and i really hate the guy he invites. But the guy likes me and if i like even walk past him he slaps my butt and crap like that i hate him but i kinda like the attention. I dont no if i should tell him to stop or just leave it like it is. Plese help. O yeah im only 13 and i would not go any futher that a kiss with a guy so dont even tell me bout that.

tell him to stop it because before you know it he can be forcing you to have sex with him and you might just say yes. So just tell him stop it.

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15/f, i like this guy whos in 11th grade and hes on the track team with me. we're friends, and he always calls me his "bestest bud" and always hugs me when he sees me, and teases me, and well when im near him he always puts his arms around me, around my waist or shoulders. and when we are out like, eating at a restaurant with the team (team dinners) he always has me sit next to him, or just pays attention to me. well its obvious to you readers that i like him a little, it may just be a crush but hes sweet and hes nice and cares, we just talk and well i feel good when im with him. soo do you think he likes me, what should i do around him, because track season is almost over (this wed.) and we wont see eachother as much, maybe like 1 time a day for like 1 minute! soo i dont know what to do, hes just someone i want to stay in my life, even if its just as a friend! help, any advice??? I WILL RATE 5'S!!!!!!

I think that you should tell him how you feel before track season is over or else you will lose him forever. I really feel that he like's you because he's doing all those things. Most of the guys in my school like me and we are good friends. So you're best bet is to tell him how you really feel.

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