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I have a girlfriend.I also have an ex.I went to the movies with ex.I still have fellings for my ex.Well any ways I went to the movies with my ex
and two of her friends.I thuogh we was not going to any thing because i have a girlfriend.So i did not do any thing with her for the first 30 mins of the movie.For some reason we started holding hands then 45 mins into the movie we stated to make out and now i have mixed emotions
I want to be with my girlfriend.I love my girlfriend.I also love my ex.now i dont no weather to break up with my girlfriend to go out with my ex or stay with my girlfriend.Please help me

Leave the broken relationship with your ex alone. You shouldn't have gone to the movies w/ her in the first place. If oyu love your other girlfriend think of how much that would hurt her to find that out. No offense, but that was really inconsiderate of you. You say you love her and then you go and start making out w/ nother girl? think out ur actions next time before you do them. :/ ~*AmAnDa*~

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i feel really caught up inside myself. like i like this guy jake and he likes me but i haven't told anyone b/c my friend alexia just came out of a sort of relationship with him (basically he was off limits to people INCLUDING NOW!) i know that might sound selfish but that's just how alexia is. anyways i just want to go out with him but he won't ask me out b/c of alexia. i dont know what i should do as far as asking him out or just talking to him.

Definately talk to him. Don't ask him out just try talking that out w/ him. ~*AmAnDa*~

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is there any way to change your password once you have an account? if so how? thanx. x0

go to profile settings. you can change it there.

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ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight?

It makes you lose weight, strength, and nutrients. Two things you'll gain: depression(the w8 u'll be at will never be good enough)and a skeleton body. Don't think about putting yourself in that position. It WILL hurt you very bad if you try it. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I dont want to make out with my boyfriend but everytime i want to kiss him he trys to stick his tounge in my mouth. it kinda grosses me out. but lately ive been wanting to kiss him. how can i tell him i just want to kiss him but not make out?
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Just tell him. Be like can we just do a regular kiss? Tell him you don't want to be making out, and just a simple kiss should be ok everyonce in awhile. ~*AmAnDa*~

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i have this friend i like.. hes like my best guy friend but i want to be more than just a friend to him.. how can i tell him how i feel?

Just tell him. What other way is there? The only thing to be scared of is rejection, but it won't take that long to get over that. You guys will still have your friendship and he just might come around someday. (especially knowing how you feel) ~*AmAnDa*~

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My friend invited me over to her house so we could call people n stuff. Because I have a cellphone and she doesn't, and I think she's only using me to talk to her boyfriend. Anyways, i'm moving this summer and I need to spend as much time with my closest friends possible so I vinted 4 of my best friends over for a small group gathering. I told her that I didn't want to go to her house and she could come to my house so we could all hang out. And she said NO to me!! I'm so mad about this but I kind of understand since I blew her off in the first place. But still, she shouldn't be mad over something so stupid................right?

I think you both need to talk to eachother and apologize. Try to consider eachothers feelings. You may find that it will help a lot. ~*AmAnDa*~

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ok...i have turned into a complete and total prep..my family had ALOT of money...i get 100 every 2 weeks for allowence...and next month, i am getting a brand new SL55 AMG mercedes-benz...
but only my family knows about it...i dont want to tell anyone else, but people are starting to find out...my old friends have started calling me a "rich bitch" just because of the colthes i wear...and they completly kicked me out of the clique...so i started hanging out with the other "rich kids" and they are really nice...everyone thinks that they are evil, just because they have money...next semester, my parents are sending me to a private school..which i also havent told anyone about...and tuition alone is 18,000 per year, let alone books and uniforms...people are turning their backs on me just because i have money, and i am dreading to find out how many of my friends are going to leave me after they find out how much money i actually have..i feel really sad that my friends are leaving me just because i have alot of money...i could understand if i was bragging about it, but i havent told anyone...what do i do?

Well if your really concerned you might want to think about asking your parents to not send you to that school. That could really break your friendships with all of them. Try talking to your other friends and tell them your sorry if you bragged about it. Alo include that its really not your fault on how sucessfully your parents are doing but you should also try to go back to being the normal you your friends loved. I hope I helped! ~*AmAnDa*~

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i'm a total pimplehead and i have been for a long time.. like.. um.. since grade 5 i think.. i'm in grade8 now.. i've been using these cleanser things they're getting kinda better but i keep on breaking out.. any tips?? *omg i'm so embaressed asking this.. i need help!!*

lol, actually I'm the same way. Go to your doctor and ask them to recommend some stuff. I went and I got tretinoin cream and Differen (adapalene gel). They both seem to be working for me extremely well, but watch out! They kind of dry out your face if you put too much on. I hope I helped! ~*AmAnDa*~

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My ex recently came back into my life and I admit that I do have strong feelings for him. He also said that he wants to be in a long-term relationship with me. He said that I was on his mind alot and thats why he felt he had to find me. Things keep happening like fate wants us to be. If I do decide to talk to him again, it will be a risk because he do have a past behind him because he's a bad boy. I still want to be with him in a way. We both said we will take it slow to see what will happend. So do you think that I should give it a try because I think fate is bringing us together for a reason, I just need to hear it from someone else.

Just make sure you DO take it slow and make sure he's out of his bad-boy life. That could ruin your life if thats still what he's into. Other than those two-precautions you should try it. If you feel like your going in way over your head you can leave. Remember it's your life with your choices, take care of it. ~*AmAnDa*~

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My dad smokes. I try to make him stop by saying "please stop smoking dad" or "you should quit" or cough really loud when he lights up a cigarette. DAMN IT, I FUCKING HATE THE SMELL! He smokes when hes in the bathroom, i just hate it. When i cough and stuff around him he'll be like OH SHUT UP, YOU SHOULD BE USED TO IT ALREADY or YOUR OVERREACTING. and id be like, havent you ever heard of second hand smoke dad?? he doesn't care.. i mean hes a good dad but he needs to stop. i dont think he'd do that nicotene patch or gum thing. When i tell my mom about it, she'd be like, get used to it, or she'd do nothing about it. What should i do?

Pray...I have the same problem, but my parebts are seperated. Beacuse of that and a lot of other things I've stopped going over there(my parents are divoced). He's finally stopped smoking and it's the saddest thing I've seen when you realize it's your parent who's killing themselves and the people around them. See if you have a family member to stay with. No matter what your health is way more important than letting it be killed by careless smoking. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I used to like this guy since kindergaten and he's been in my class ever since(except fourth). Now that I'm in Jr. High, I'm not interested in him or any other guy anymore. everyhting has changed since I started. Is this normal?

Yeah, in a couple years you probably will be interested again though, but while you're taking a break from guys enjoy it! They get pretty confusing! ~*AmAnDa*~

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hi i asked...
im always sad inside , but no body knows cosz i dont show it... how can i get the emptiness in my heart to go away... signed , confused and lonely.

well i no whats bothering me inside.. its that my X boyfriend has gone out with at least 4 of my best friends.. and now hes going out with my closest one .. lets call her shelly - i think hes just using shelly but i really really still like him and i think im crazy for dumping him =\ i dont no how to tell him this .. can you PLEASE give me as much advice as possible..

signed , lonely - again .

You need to talk to (I know this sounds wierd...but....) a counselor. You can get a free counselor at your church or any church. They are the best people you can get advice from. Good Luck! ~*AmAnDa*~

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14/f my friend got mad at me because of something i said. i didnt mean for it to hurt her at all, and actually i dont think its rude in any way at all. i told her i was sorry and she refuses to talk to me now. what should i do

Oh gosh. This stuff's really hard. You might need to give her time to recooperate from the hurt she feels. Just try to let her know you're sorry and that you're still there for her. Good luck. ~*AmAnDa*~

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ok well see the thing is i dont have a boyfriend and all of my friends do and all of my guy friends have girlfriends so i feel so extremely left out its like this ok so they have their couples nights and everything so they go out to the movies or hang out at someones house and everything and they always neglect to invite me because yeah im the only person that is single. what should i do?

Keep looking for a guy. Designate a night for just you and your girls too to help make you feel a little less neglected. In the meantime keep searching. He's out there. ~*AmAnDa*~

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Alright, this might take a minute, I have this really good friend Jake. He tells me he's "in love with me", and is planning on asking me out this friday. We have went out once before for a short time, and broke up because I had alot going on and didnt really want to deal with a boyfriend. He got really upset and hurt himself. He knows that I'm not so sure if i want to go out with him or not, but still, his hopes are high. I do like him sometimes, but it's weird and when i'm in certain moods i just dont like him like that at all.
Then, I really really like this other friend (Nick) of mine. He is alot older than me, and at our age difference right now nothing would happen. But I still do like him and he's one of my good friends. I have no idea if he likes me like that, but sometimes he does give me weird signals.
Anyway, I am not sure if I want to go out with Jake or not. I am in a few classes where there is Nick and Jake and (they are friends, but nobody knows I like Nick except my best friend.) I know that it would be weird, Nick wouldnt say anything but I know he would be kind of disappointed in me. Either way, if i say yes or no, i know that I am going to be unhappy with my answer. if i say yes i'll wish i said no and if i say no i'll wish i said yes. I don't really know what Im getting at, but this is my problem and i need to know soon.
Thanks for the help.

I don't think you should. Tell him you really don't need a boyfriend at this part of your life. Bring up the fact that last time you guys went out things were just a little too crazy for you, and that it might not be that much of a great idea. ~*AmAnDa*~

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ok.. i dunno what to do. me and my bf well he used to live here, and he moved to florida. and we talk all the time, every free minute he has, we are talking. and, he has been talkin to me bout movin to florida when i graduate this summer. and i dunno what to do. i keep thinkin bout it. but all that comes out of it is negative things. like.. what if he dont wanna b with me no more. b/c i dont have a car or anything and he said he would put me on his insurance, and help me find a job and stuff.. but then it just worries me that he will like a girl that looks better than me. i dunno what to do.. there is alot more but i dont feel like sayin it all

It sounds like your really insecure about the whole thing. Try telling him about your insecurities. Or better yet, talk to a family member about it. It might make this decision a little bit easier for you. ~*AmAnDa*~

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In school theres this kid who is always annoys me and when im around this guy I have A HUGE crush on he always say SHE LIKES YOUUU!! practicily screaming! I feel so embarassed and mad at this idiot. Before winter break let out about a week ago I told him he was a dirty bastard and to never talk to me again since then he hasnt but he keeps coming on to my friend and hes being REALLY PEVERTED and saying peverted things to her? What do I do?

This may be hard, but talk to him. Tell him he's bothering you and that you need him tyo stop. It could be because he's lonely or maybe even that he has a crush on you. You never know hwta your going to expect in life. Like Forest Gump said a million times, "Mama said life is like a box of chocolate. You never know what your gonna get."~*AmAnDa*~

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My boyfriend and I have been together for just under two years. We've had our problems and worked through them - we started dating when we were still in high school. (I'm about to turn 18, he's about to turn twenty.) We've always been friends and supported each other, knowing that high school relationships don't tend to last very long. Things have been good lately in the sense that we get along, we spend time with one another and care about eachother very much - but lately I've been bothered about where our relationship is going.

We do not and never have said the words "I Love You", and we both used to agree that too many people misuse those words, causing more problems. He has a bad past when it comes to "love" and relationships, but we've been together for two years. I don't expect him to love me necessarily, or to tell me he does when he isn't ready - but I sometimes doubt his feelings for me relationship -wise. We haven't been talking the same way we had been lately, and I tried talking to him about this and he just stayed silent, (his way of blocking out my questions.) The silence is getting to me. I've even tried asking him flat-out, "how do you feel about me?". He seems to think I shouldn't ask him, and won't tell me why he feels like he shouldn't answer. It's starting to make me feel like we've just hit the end, but we're so connected when it comes to being around eachother, we've been friends and more than friends for so long. In short, his actions are there most of the time, but the words are not. I sometimes feel as if after all this time, I've been with a stranger. We don't have 'fun' as much anymore, and he often seems completely enthralled with his thoughts and less enthusiastic about life in general when around me.
I really would like to be in a relationship where we can say "I love you" after being together for so long - or at least be able to be verbally affectionate. - But I don't want to force him or make him feel like he's being forced. I want him to be happy, too, but I sometimes feel I'm not getting the attention I deserve. Am I being over-insecure? Thanks for anyone willing to read this long thing, and help.

Well. You can pray...a lot about this, but maybe you guys need to let go of eachother. It may be hard, but it might be what you need to do. If that doesn't seem right to you then try livening up your relationship a little bit by taking some fun outings such as going ice skating or taking a walk through the park. The simple things in life, such as spending times with the people who mean most to you in life, are what makes life so enjoyable. ~*AmAnDa*~

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my family and i have a major probleam.... we get into arguments a lot!!!! i think it happenes almost everyday!! and i get pissed by my family so does anybody know how to not have an argument and juss talk???

Play a board game one night out of everyweek. Take turns by letting one person pick what you eat for dinner, one for dessert, and one for the game. Present this idea to your family. You have no idea how just taking one simple night out of the week for your family could help. Also you might want to try a family counselor. If you just go to a local church you can go and get counseling for free, and that could help sort out some of the problems you guys have been having. ~*AmAnDa*~

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