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Q: when i deactivate my facebook can my friends still compare me?

no

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Q: I have always had an irregular period, so recently I went on the pill to regulate it better. Everything was going smoothly until just a couple weeks ago when I started some light bleeding, and I figured I was just spotting. After a few days it had turned into my period though, and it was constant bleeding for two weeks. Also, sometimes the blood would come out in small clots, and now it's becoming more like bloody discharge. How long am I going to have to deal with this? I don't want to keep having super-long periods because it is a pain, so what is a solution?

Talk to your doctor.

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Q: Okay so, how should I put this, there are bright spots that are few and in between...I love my fam to death except for one. WHat should I do? Issues, issues. I hate my sister, she's a complete and toatal bitch. SHe's always rude and mean to me I don't know how to handel it?

Depending on how old you are I would get a job. This will allow you to get out of the house and away from your family. Then with the money you can start to save for college so that you don't have to stay at home.

Or.

I would join a club. Make new friends. Basically try to do things that will allow you to be away from home and your sister.

Also try talking to your sister. Tell her how much she means to you and her behavior around you is hurting your fellings. I know it may seem hard to do, but it needs to be done.
Also you can involve your parents if you need to. I'm sure they would do something about it.

If you need someone to talk to just message me.

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Q: I know it's long, I just REALLYY need some advice, please..

Well it all start August 2008, the new school year, & this new boy M had came to football practice, & im a trainer. Like in September we started talking, I wasn't really feelin him cause I was talking to someone else, its was like i was torn between him & this boy C. Me & M stopped talking like December, & it was a break of school, when we came back he started talking to a girl name H & i got real jealous so I started talking to him again, but then he was trying to talk to both of us at the same time, & I wasn't having that, so then I stopped talking to him & he got with H. They didn't work out & then he got with a girl named A. They were together for about 2 months, I effing tormented that girl, I didn't like her so much haha. They broke up.
Now what I'm getting at is I think I love this boy, M. I think about him day & night, he the only boy I can seem to like, he's the only one I want. But it's weird cause we have never been in a real relationship. Its been about three months since weve like talked or anything like that, I mean I talk to him everyday. My bestfriend keeps telling me I need to tell him I still like him & stuff, but I'm like pretty sure he knows.
I just think he doesn't like me like that anymore..
I dont know what to do cause I just want to be with him soo bad, I want to talk to him about it but I don't want to face rejection, cause I like him soo much, & it sucks cause like if we could text & everything it would be cool, but I don't think he has his phone anymore..

I dont know what to do, like how can I get him back ? I had messed up in the past . Should I plead for one more chance ?

It seems like this guy is taking up too much of your life.
What you need to do is sit down and have a talk with him. Let him know how you feel and ask him if he feels the same way. If he doesn't you don't want to waste your time with him. Just tell him that you don't think you guys should talk to each other any more.

Trust me. It's wayyy better for your health.
Join a club or something. Before you know it you won't think about him anymore.

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Q: I really wanna live in Manhattan when i'm older, but i've been told that it's really hard to get a job there and that i'd really struggle with paying rent on an apartment near Times sqare.
Is it really that hard to earn a living in Manhattan?

Moving anywhere new is hard.
However if you plan it just right everything will work out fine. If I were you though I'd make sure I had something like family to fall back on just incase you can't make your payments and need to move out.
But don't let what other people say to you influence your decision too much. If it's your dream then go for it and don't let anyone stop you, because if you don't you'll always wonder what if?

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Q: 16/f

Right, so i really like this guy(who is 16), but the problem is he has a girlfriend, but liek two weeks before he started dating her he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said no cause i didn't think i lieked him liek that, anyway now i do. Would it be so dreadful for me to flirt with him a little and try n win him back? Any tips are useful, ty.
:3

Spell like right.

And don't try to steal the guy from the girl. You don't want that as your reputation. Just wait until this little fling is over with them and then go for it.

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First off
Spell like right.

You had your chance. You should wait until they break up. You don't want to get a reputation of stealing guys from girls. They won't be going out for forever its just a highschool fling.

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Q: http://www.crazy-factory.com/
I found some amazing jewellery there that I would like to order, but the prices are surprisingly cheap so I'm slightly doubtful whether the website itself is legitimate or the jewellery horrible quality?
Has anyone ever had experience with this website, or can you tell whether it is real or not?

Thanks!

It it seems too good to be true...
it usually is.

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Q: Okay so I been talking to this really cute guy, I'm really starting to like him. Like his really nice and we talk on the phone like all the time, but the problem is I guess you can say his been know to be a player and none of my friends want me to go out with him, but he I asked him if we were to date will he cheat on me or anything and he said "No, because I know how much im really starting to hurt girls who really like me when I do that." thats what he told me plus my parents know his parents pretty good so I don't know if he'll do anything like that, but now also I guess his the kind of guy that you have t watch out on him trying to make " the moves" on you, but I know how to handle my self. So do you think I should give this guy a chance and see how it goes? And if that's a yes, how do I tell my friend's that im going out with him? XOXO, someone [:

I guess you should give him a try. You never know.
Just tell your friends that you understand that they are just looking out for you, but you need to see what happens or you'll always wonder. And when or if you're wrong they can tell you "I told you so"

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Q: I just got a new computer. What's a good, reliable program I can download so when I plug my iPod in I can transfer my playlists from my iPod onto my new computer?

I tried iDump. But after it downloaded, I can find it anywhere on the computer.

Thanks !

If I were you I'd try idump again and save it to your desktop or try saving it to itunes.

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Q: okay im back i mean we are so in love ( i think) but things are kinda changing i mean dont get me wrong im so in love with this guy and he loves me to i knw he does but the thing is im so feed up with him telln me to make promises tht i wont start seeing anybody else and that im not havng intercourse with anybody else but its like he is breking a promise he made to me by talkn to other gurls but his is what he always say to me " baby dont get mad if u see me talkn to another girl cause you my baby and you my #1 gurl" at the time it be sweet but when i really think about it i be on some moe type stuff but i love him and im kinda feed up so what should i do please tell me

I think you're wrong. I don't think he loves you.

I think he likes you for you body.

Q: awhile ago hot topic had one of those "do it yourself" fashion things where it showed you how to make your own clothes different

there was one where it showed cool ways to cut a tshirt
like with the sleeves off and tying the sides and everything

they took it off the site though :/

does anyone know any cool things to do with a plain colored shirt with instructions that are really, really easy?

thanks!

look on youtube.

Q: I am 19 years old and I came across a wikipedia page for antisocial personality disorder and I fit a lot of the symptoms but I was not diagnosed with conduct disorder. The symptoms I have, that my fiancé has too confirmed are, apparent lack of remorse or empathy, inability to care about hurting others, inability to keep jobs, impusivity and or recklessness, poor behavioral controls, inadequate control of temper and anger (although I have controlled it a lot better than I have ever done), a persistant agitated or depressed feeling, recurring difficulties with the law (not to many since I turned 18 but from about 10 to 15 I had a bunch for fights, problems with authority and substance abuse. I smoke a lot of weed but I have taken others. Inabilty to tolerate boredom, that's a big one as I'm constantly bored. I remember when I was 9 or 10 me and my buddy would sit in front of his house and think of different ways to torture people, that kind of disturbs me. When my great grandfather died I didn't cry at his wake, I was about 10. I cried for a minute or two at his burial when they lowered his casket. When I was even younger I remember walking to the store with my mom and for some reason I started thinking about how I would react if she were to get hit by a car. I remember thinking that I would just take the money and continue onto the store excited that I could get whatever I wanted. Last night it fiancé got mad at me because her mom was yelling at her (her mom has very bad bi polar). Her mom was saying that me and my fiancé were ruining her life and all I did was sit there and look at my nails, she ended up crying and I just sat there. My fiancé got mad at me saying that she is sick of things affecting her and nothing affecting me, and I tried to tell her that I can't be affected if I don't care. Well anyway that is how I am, if anyone can help me out it would be greatly appreciated. I'm not worried about acting out although about 5 weeks ago I got a boxers fracture because I punched a telephone pole. I just feel completely devoid of all emotions, I don't even feel emotionally attached to my fiancé. Sorry I keep rambling, any insight from outside sources would be appreciated. Thanks.

Go see your doctor and tell him about these symptoms. He should be able to prescribe you something.
I don't think anything else but maybe counsling would help

Q: my first love just broke up with me because he needed to focus on school. it absolutely destroyed me..he says he still loves me..what are the chances of getting back together? and we're still going to prom together and he says he still wants me in his life...what should i do? i'm still so in love with him =/

17/f

Simple
Be friends with him.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
At least until hes ready for a relationship again.

Q: How do you stay confident and throw off nerves during things like interviews and auditions?

I just think...
"Will this matter in 5 years?"

and then usually I don't worry.

Q: I like Natasha Bedingfield, Raven Symone, Pink, Rihanna, Aly & AJ, Vanessa Hudgens, Brittnay Spears, Lilly Allen- the fear, All American Rejects- gives you hell, Lady Gaga- poker face & Avril Lavrine.
What would be some other people to look up/ listen to on: my mp3, playlist.com & or facebook.
P.S. I'm 15/f, america.

Carolina Liar - Show Me What I'm Lookin For
3oh!3 - Most all of their songs are good
Katy Perry - I Kissed A Girl / Hot N' Cold
Owl City - Most all of his songs are good
MGMT - Time to Pretend
Boys Like Girls

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Q: At school I'm not popular. I don't want to be, but I do have a problem. I'm self-conscious and I don't know how to help that. Ever since I started 7th grade I've become self-conscious. I've tried to not be, but It's hard. I have long blonde hair, but I always keep it up. I always wear a big hoodie that's black. No I'm not Emo or Gothic. It's just comfy. I wear it because of the whole self-conscious thing. My parents tell me I'm pretty and so do my friends, but I'm still self-conscious.

Well try wearing something different. Maybe get another sweater but with color. Go and get your haircut in a different style and let it down some. Put on just a little makeup. You'll progress in time. Don't worry.

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Q: 18- female. so i've been friends for this guy joe for about four years now. we were like best friends until his girlfriend came between us for three years. i see him like once a month now when i use to be with him all the time. i was talking to him last night and i poured my heart out to him. this is what i said:

today i was really mad and so i went out with matt. well he wanted to know what was wrong and i realized that i couldnt let myself tell him and it made me reazlie that you really the only guy that i could tell everything to before but now i pretty much feel like i can't tell you anything. its like were not even friends anymore and that scared the sh*t out of me because i cant trust any other guy. and now that i dont talk to you anymore, especially when i needed you the most, everything is messed up now and i seriously really do neeed you like how we use to be before. your the only one i can tell anything to or do anything with without it being awkward at all.

and this is what he said back:
well dont worry linds, i got you.

and i was like are you sure about that? and he was like of course.

i was just wondering, when he told me "i got you" what do you think he meant by that? im guessing there could be many meanings but i dont really understand? like he will always be there or what?

Guys arn't usually good with feelings. Which is probably why he just said I got you. It more than likely here means that he misses you too and not to worry because he'll always be there for you like before the whole girlfriend thing.

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Q: 19/f

My resting heart rate concerns me because I often feel my heart beating kinda hard and I feel it, like, shaking my whole body.

I'm 5'8"...haven't weighed myself in a while.. wanna say about 145 pounds... I have anxiety problems. But I usually just feel anxious in school or when I'm out somewhere. At home I usually feel rather emotionally comfortable, yet my heart beat is not of the norm, even when I'm just laying down. It hasn't happened recently, but I used to have heart skips. It would skip a beat and then start beating again harder.

And I often feel really exhausted. I'm not sure if it has to do with this or not. And I'm not sure, but I think I have low blood iron because of the exhaustion, hands and feet being cold, memory trouble, indecision... But these symptoms could be from anxiety...

Does anyone know what is wrong with me? =[