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So, my boyfriend has about, 4 or 5 playboy posters in his room. Ya know like the half naked girls? For some reason, it really, really, REALLY, bothers me. I cant really help it. It makes me feel like...im not god enough, so he has to stare at OTHER girls all day long, and fantasize about them and their bodies. Like, he know it bothers me, but idk. i dont think he knows to what extent. What should i do? =/ (link)
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from a guys perspective, its hard not to have that stuff...to be honest guys minds wander and we feel guilty sometimes that we are thinking of our girlfriends sexually all the time, thus we need an outlet, one where we can focus all our lusty thought and in turn have mostly love for you. dont get me wrong now, he is sexually attracted to you, but would you rather him to have posters of ridiculous women, he will never get, or have him thinking of you sexually all the time (and that would include a lot of fantasizing about you naked). im my experience girls prefer the posters..
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I've been texting, talking, hanging out with this guy we'll call him Luke... We talked every night no matter what.. on the phone or texting and he was always the one making the effort.. it turned into serious flirting and i started to fall for him and i thought he was falling for me too by all the hints he was dropping.. well all the sudden he stopped and he's been super short with me or just never responds.. so i stopped making an effort n now he just doesnt even text me anymore and i have no idea what happened.. idk what to do if i should say something or just get over it and i have no idea why this would have happened.. any idea? (link)
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HOLY CRAP!!! i hate to attack other people, but the first two posters probably have no clue wat they are talking about. i am a guy and i have done this exact thing. now why did i do it? well, it kinda simple time and hurt feelings. guys are very....fickle. we want things to be easy and we want them usually pretty quickly. the reason why i did this in my case was because i got tired of feeling like i was always the one initiating the conversations. i felt like she didnt like me the way i liked her and so i shelled and avoided her. i was hurt and i wanted to hurt her back for making me feel like crap. yeah i was kinda wrong to do it since i found out she did like me, but the fact was that i needed time away from her to forget the hurt and bad that i had felt. after, i liked her again, but she didnt know that i would come back, she didnt wait and so the chance passed. so...my advice to you is to keep occasional contact for a little while and then try to initiate the attraction again. i warn you though, it might take a while, but he should come back
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for people who've been in past relationships or are in relationships:
how long did it take for the guy to say "Ilove you"? and what things did he do right before?i've been dating this guy for almost 4 months and he told me in the beginning that he doesnt say unless he really means it and i agreed with him but now im really feeling it and i know he really likes me but i dont want to be the first to say it. i know all relationships are different but i just want an idea how other relationships went.
16/f thanks. (link)
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i am/was the guy and it does kinda take a while. i mean my gf said she loved me after like 4 months but i wasnt ready and didnt want to say it until i meant it. i ended up saying it around the 6-7 month period, but even then i still was a little hesitant. from a guy's point of view, it is really hard to open yourself like that. i think that you should say wat you feel and if that includes telling him you love him then do it, but also you might want to give subtle warning and watever you do, do NOT make him feel like he has to say it back right then unless he wants to.
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how do i act couply with my boyfriend
becuz my friends are tellin me that i dont treat him right by once calling him a name and how do i act couply with my boyfriend (link)
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acting like a couple depends on the couple. that being said, many will hold hands or each other. pet names are a common thing (though i have never used them) and PDAs are a biggie. all that aside, with my ex she used to punch me everyday, she wasnt beating me or anything, it was just her way of showing affection (weird i know..)
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ok, this is going to be a little long but if you are interested then plz read and answer. So i am 21 year old girl who doesnt have much self confidence. I know im not ugly because i have heard million times how beautiful i am(not trying to sound conceded). I have never had a boyfriend and never madeout with a guy or anything. It's proabbly because i have such low self esteem. I really want a boyfriend and stuff but i have a hard time getting close to guys. I am too shy and sometimes when they talk to me i don't know what to say in return and then i feel like an idiot. The only time i get more comfortable with a guy is when i drink which is not often. I really want to get close to a guy but i am also very nervous to because i guess u can call me prude, but i don;t want to be im just not comfortable with the situation. One of the reasons being beccause i have never madeout with a guy before and i don't want to look like an idiot if i suck or dont do it right seeing as i am 21 years old and its weird that i have never madeout with anyone. I really wanna be less shy around guys and be more comfortable but i'm really shy and i want to get over that because it's driving me crazy that i don't have a boyfriend. PLEASE HELP!!!! (link)
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first of all, age should have no bearing on this matter, well at least not until you are like 80..
that being said, self-confidence is a must have for a good relationship, however, i do know that getting a boyfriend can boost your self-confidence waaaaaaay up, and that in some cases that is wat the person needs. i at least know thats how it was for me. i was super awkward around girls until a friend forced me out of my comfort zone and kinda pushed me to ask someone out. i cant imagine that you dont have guys that like you, so just keep being yourself and dont try to force it. if you want to impress a guy then show him how comfortable you are and show him the fun part of you. to be honest i cant stand girls that are the stereotypical "hot" girls. i would prefer a girl who is kinda reserved and yet fun and intelligent. also dont worry if you are a "prude" not every guy likes a girl who will give it up to everyone, in fact, i personally plan on waiting and hope that every girl i date does too.
making out is and awkward process and event no matter how much experience you have, so dont sweat that. my advice there is that you should just go with it, and when it happens it happens. until then enjoy being single and maybe find what you like in a guy, and then when you know who you want you can focus all your courage on impressing him.
if there's any other way i can help just ask, cuz i have plenty of experience with this
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**Sorry, but this is long** I am 16 female. Alex is my best guy friend and I have known him for about 14 years(since i was 2) and i think i am starting to like him. me and my other friends sometimes joke around and say we think he will end up seriously dating or marrying this other friend melissa who we have known since we were 5. The thing is me and Alex have gotten a lot closer this year and I am really starting to like him. He is the only person other than my bff that i feel like i can go to to talk about anything. I am totally comfortable around him and we always hang out but only in our group of friends. The two of us also just seem to click and we still talk to each other more than we do all our other friends when we all hang out. Does he like me? What should i do? I am worried if we were to go out it would make things ackward for our group of friends that has all hung out together for years. Then what if we broke up? Things would be ackward then it just wouldn't be the same when we all hung out. (link)
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first, you must figure out if he likes you, and if he does then...
im going to take the opposite postion than the previous poster. i think that you should go for it. if you guys click so well and you are so close than you will still click when you are together. as far as knowing so much about each other, well...thats a good and bad thing so ill do a quick pro/con list. pros:you dont have any skeletons in your closets(ie. your weird quarks wont annoy the other), you will have leapt through the most awkward parts of a relationship, and lastly you have history to build on (which often will serve as the glue to a relationship). cons:a break up could ruin a friendship and the group, the awkward stage can be fun in some relationships, and there could be feeling of awkwardness in that you have known him for most of your life.
either way you go there will definitely be pluses and minuses. if you dont date you might always wonder wat if and if you do then you could lose a close friend. i therefore restate that i think you should go for it. i think that the pluses out weigh the minuses, but that might be cuz im a romantic.
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I am from England.
I am a muslim and so is my ex best friend. Today she had to tell me something, she asked if i was a lesbian because i was giving her sweets everyday at school.( Well not every day). I was was hanging around with her every time. But isn't that what friends are ment to do. I mean i 14 years old and this is really bothering me. How could she think that. I would NEVER think that of my friends. We are now just friends but i still think she think i am one. But i am not one i can never be one. I have now learnt that best freinds don't exist and that you can't trust anyone but yourself and god. I need desperate advice .It is really bothering me. Help. (link)
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To be honest it all matters in how she asked it. i had a guy i was friends with ask me if i was gay when i started hanging around with him a lot. when i jokingly said yes i found out he had asked because he had a crush on me and was gay. he had recently decided to act on it and wanted someone to come with and wanted to have a boyfriend. unless she asked in a super attacking way, i would think that it could be possible that she is a lesbian and wants someone to come out with. i especially think this since you are around high school age and thats kinda when people find themselves and many come out.
on the flip side ti could also fall into another one of my experiences, where i had not had a girlfriend in a while so my best frined asked me if i was gay, thinking that that was the reason. i would therefore think its best to ask why she asked you.
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