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How could she think that of me
I am from England.
I am a muslim and so is my ex best friend. Today she had to tell me something, she asked if i was a lesbian because i was giving her sweets everyday at school.( Well not every day). I was was hanging around with her every time. But isn't that what friends are ment to do. I mean i 14 years old and this is really bothering me. How could she think that. I would NEVER think that of my friends. We are now just friends but i still think she think i am one. But i am not one i can never be one. I have now learnt that best freinds don't exist and that you can't trust anyone but yourself and god. I need desperate advice .It is really bothering me. Help.
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To be honest it all matters in how she asked it. i had a guy i was friends with ask me if i was gay when i started hanging around with him a lot. when i jokingly said yes i found out he had asked because he had a crush on me and was gay. he had recently decided to act on it and wanted someone to come with and wanted to have a boyfriend. unless she asked in a super attacking way, i would think that it could be possible that she is a lesbian and wants someone to come out with. i especially think this since you are around high school age and thats kinda when people find themselves and many come out.
on the flip side ti could also fall into another one of my experiences, where i had not had a girlfriend in a while so my best frined asked me if i was gay, thinking that that was the reason. i would therefore think its best to ask why she asked you.
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I'm sad to say that what you experienced is just a part of growing up. I had the exact same thing happen to me when i was your age. It was awful, and the worst part was the girl started spreading rumors about me being gay all over school. And i was the new girl! So as you imagine i crawled into my little shell just like you are doing. It broke my heart, and i didn't have any real close friends for a while.
But as i got older and started to undersatnd the world a little better i realized that some people are just cruel. They get bored so they do things to make their lives more interest, with no consideration for anyone else. You just have to realize that one skinned knee is no reason to give your bike away. Getting hurt is a part of life. A healthy part in fact. We learn everytime we fall.
So for now just distance yourself from this girl as much as you can. She is one of those people that only puts out negative energy, and one of these days it'll all pour back down on her, and she'll being walking in the shoes she made you wear.
I guess my advice is to just remember that not all people are bad, if they were then why did God give us all a chance. He does the judging, we are here to spread as much love as we can while we can. Be patient, some day you'll find a friend willing to treat you with the same respect you treat her. But don't give up on people just because someone hurt you. How are people supposed to ever learn kindness if no one ever shows them what it is.
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you know your overreacting a tiny bit. Just cuase one person hurts you doesnt mean they all will, besides i doubt she's accusing you in a horrible way,in fact i wouldn't be surprised if she were having certain lesbian feelings towards you and is scared of what shes feelings so she's taking her own hostility and denial out on you. I hope you are a very tolerant person cause she may need you as a friend mroe than ever if thats true. hope i helped and dont lose faith in friends, they really re the only people in life you can depend on
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