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Hey guys! I'm Kaylie. I will be as straightforward, and honest as I possibly can. Feel free to ask me anything!
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Okay, so let's start by saying that I'm a 17 year old female and my main problem is that I've never been kissed before. I've never even had a boyfriend before nor have I been kissed and this worries me. I'm not socially awkward or anything, and I get along well with other guys, but apparently not on a romantic level?
What should I do? Should I stop worrying so much about this, because it really does bother me. :(
I'm 16, almost 17, and I've never been kissed either. Don't worry about it. I know that someday, when you will get kissed, it will be amazing.
As for guys, just be yourself. Flirt with them the way you would flirt with them. Hope I helped. Good luck!
-Kaylie
In past relationships I have been sexually abused, and hurt by them. I have met someone new and i have been single for 8 months and I feel that I am ready. I know for a fact he isn't going to hurt me because I want to be a police officer in the near future, and he graduates from the academy in november. He tells me I am beautiful, and cute, and smart. How do I keep myself from getting so caught up in the situation and falling too fast because I don't want to ruin this because of how i feel!
Because of past experiences, I suggest that you should take things slow with him, and explain to him why. Start out by holding hands and hugging. Get to know him really well because then you will know if he is who he says he is. Give it some time, and you will feel comfortable with him. Good luck!
-Kaylie
My boyfriend and I only see eachother once or twice a week. Sometimes, on those days I see him, he wants to hang out with his friends. He doesn't have many, but when we do hang out with some of them, I get very uncomfortable and I barely talk. I'm not even sure why. From my perspective, I think it's because we both come from different "worlds". ME: 18, just graduated high school with high honors, college plans, looking for a part-time job, have a similar group of friends that have the same goals as I do, not too much of a partier (very rare, but I do..). BOYFRIEND: 20, dropped out of college for now, has a job that pays decently, likes to party but doesn't that much anymore, smokes marijuana daily, and has a group of friends that do the same exact thing....put it this way, we're complete opposites...It's just that, whenever I'm around his friends, I feel so out of place. I always have since we started dating. I'm just not used to hanging around those type of people and it makes me feel like a misfit around them. So, when he mentions hanging out with them, I really don't want to :/ they talk about memories, marijuana, drinking, partying, etc. None of which I can relate to :/. We live so far away from eachother (which is why I don't see him often) so we have no mutual friends. And I can't just call up my friends to head over all of the time because it's an hour drive. Also, I would prefer just to hang out with my boyfriend when I see him, since I don't see him much. But, don't get me wrong, I always give him his "bro time", he can see his friends whenever he wants. He, in my opinion, should be able to just hang out with me and not NEED to be around his friends one/two days a week for a few hours. Please give any advice you guys can :/ thank you.
Snowboardbabe is right. Don't chase after the guy. Knowing from experience, it always goes down the drain. It's just not a good idea.
My aunt told me that opposites DON'T attract. Find someone who likes the same things as you. Find someone who cared enough to finish high school, go to college, find a job, and who actually want's to succeed in life. Please don't waste your time on a guy who would rather hang with his buds. Good luck!
-Kaylie
Well its not that i don't want to go out with him its that im like , worried of what might happen. But i guess i shouldn't focus on the bad and be happy with the good things...right?? I'm actually clueless :/
I totally understand. But don't feel like you have to chase him (does that make sense?) because chasing after a boy is not going to turn out well. I know from experience.
Like you said, don't focus on the bad things. If things turn out great, then you shouldn't be worried. :)
-Kaylie
Okay so yesturday i had a question about my dream that i had about my ex-boyfriend , who is no longer an ex-boyfriend as of today. Well my question is am i making the right decision? I mean i really like him and i want to go back out with him but the way i see it is that there are a couple ways that this can turn out to be. 1. we break and it ruins our friendship that we've had for 3 yrs. But if we break up it could make our relationship even stonger / will be closer to each other , after all we are bestfriends. Just please help , i really need some guidience.
Let me ask you this: does it feel right to be with him again? Because if it does, then you are ok. But if it doesn't, then you need to think about if you really do like him. Just keep going with him, and find out if it's really worth getting back together with him.
Good luck! Inbox me if you need anything. :)
-Kaylie
to see and talk to someone with out my parents permission? I've gone over to the signs for depression and I do have a lot of them I'm 17. My parents have called me depressed but they don't see it as an issue. With school starting soon, I just want to be able to focus more and stuff since its my senior yr.
It's great that you notice the signs of depression that you have, but because you aren't 18 yet, you need your parents permission to got see someone. I also think that you need to explain to your parents that the signs of depression you have are serious. They can't think that it's not an issue because it is an issue.
I hope I helped. Feel free to inbox me.
-Kaylie
I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 21. We've been dating for 4 months. We live about an hour away from eachother and he works a lot so I only see him once or twice a week. The problem I have is I see him when he either has off from work or has time before/after work to hang out. But lately, I've been getting annoyed with him because he wants to hang out with his friend and drink or play video games or whatever they do. Last week, when I was with him, he tried to make me go over there with him. I dont drink, so it would be boring for me! We ended up getting into a fight and he wonders why I don't want to "hang out with people when I'm with him". He barely hangs out with any of my friends because we're usually ALWAYS out by where he lives. So, when we hang with his friends (which I don't mind, sometimes...), it's boring for me because my friends are so far away and I have no one to talk to except my boyfriend, who's always tied up with his friends when that happens. Whenever he comes to me, I always make sure it's just me and him. So, I guess my question is, is it so wrong, since I only see him once or twice a week, that when I do see him, I only want to hang out with him and him ONLY? He has so many chances to hang out with them. Is it wrong of me?
Thankyou..
No, it's not wrong. My suggestion to you is that if you want to spend time with your boyfriend and he wants to also hang with his friends, then go on a group date. Get a bunch of friends together and go have fun.
Who knows? Maybe after a couple of these, then maybe your boyfriend will want to spend time with you and only you. :)
Hope I helped! Good luck!
-Kaylie
Hi, I recently started my period a few months ago and am 13 years of age. I also often go swimming with my family. I know I can't use pads well swimming because, well, obvious reasons and I don't know many other options that I can use and get cheap. I am scared to use them though because I'm afraid I'll leave them in to long and get an infection, or it will hurt when I put it on and take it out...Please help?
They won't hurt unless you put them in wrong. This may sound weird, but when you do start to put one in, just move it around until you find the comfortable place to put them in. As for how long you should leave them in for, I leave mine in for about 4 hours, even when going to the bathroom. I hope this helps.
-Kaylie
ive had a huge crush on this guy all year. (i'm 13) his friends all told me to go out with him, and that he liked me a lot. in person we are such good friends, and i can be myself around him. during school we'd hug and be cute to eachother but its summer now and we've barely talked. i feel like if he liked me, he doesnt anymore. i miss him. i text him sometimes and he only answers when i ask him something. is that weird? when i just say hey he wont answer. i'm so confused. someone please tell me whats going on.
Well, it IS summer, so it's really hard to talk to your school friends. Don't let it bother you. But, if he did like you, I'm pretty sure he would find time to talk to you. But, then again, he could be on vacation, or he could just be busy. Ask him about it when school starts, and hopefully he'll give you a reasonable answer.
I really like this guy, and i wanna start flirting.... How do i not make it obvious that i'm flirting? Please help
To be honest, just be yourself. There isn't a guy who doesn't like it when a girl is herself. That's what starts so many relationships is people being themselves. Once that happens, it'll be totally worth it. Also, if a guy you like doesn't like the way you flirt with him, then it's his loss, and you could find a new guy to flirt with, and who will hopefully like you for you.
why does my boyfriend of 1 and half years always calls me,''dear''? he just rarely calls me my name probably because he's older than me. he's 45 and i'm 31. or is it just a terms of endearment? thank you guys.
Honestly, it's just a cute nickname that people give each other. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheating on you. It could just mean that he's really into you. Don't let it bother you, just go with it, and give him a cute nickname. Good luck!
There is this guy that I really like and I think he liked me back but he moved to Canada (I live in Australia), I thought he was moving in a month and I was trying to build up the nerve to tell him how I feel but he had already left. I cant stop thinking about him and I cry all the time over how much I miss him and how pathetic I was for not telling him how I feel. I don't know any of hie friends to ask for his email address and I have no way of talking to him. I miss him so much and cant stop thinking about him. I think I am in love with him. Please help!!!
I'm 13 and I'm a girl.
Don't take this the wrong way, but it is only a crush. It's not like you're not going to find someone else to like. Trust me, when I was 14, I thought I was in love, but the whole relationship whent down the drain, so don't let this guy's move ruin your life.
I can understand the whole "I can't stop thinking about him" thing. It's hard...I get it, but you have to find a way to stop thinking about him so much. My suggestion, call your friends, find time to hang out with them and just let your mind get away from all the pressures of your life.
This is why you have friends. They're there to help you with these certain situations. I hope I helped.
-Kaylie
I have a really big crush on this guy I know,
but the problem is one of my really close friends has a huge crush on him too.
She says she has liked him ever since she first saw him
but i have only started liking him two,three maybe four months ago.
Recently i have told her i like him too after telling her to go for it as a good friend
should do but she was upset that i liked him
so instead of saying i liked him a lot i only said i like him a little bit to comfort her,
she does not know i like him a big amount
and will be upset if i tell her this.
He and i are close friends and hang out alot but i am not sure if he has feelings for me.
If she knows i like him this much and i tell him how i feel and he like me back,
she will hate me and think i am stealing him, if he ever asks me out
i would say yes before asking her because i dont like to be mean by turning people down,
but then she would surely hate me but i would tell her he asked me
and see if she was ok.
She says before i ask him out or tell him how i feel i should consult with her
but she wouldn't consult with me because she thinks she likes him more then i do.
I think that a lot of girls can relate to that, and honestly, if your friend is going to hate you over a guy, then she's not really a good friend. If the guy you like asks you out, then go for it, but don't let your friend's attitude ruin it. If he asks your friend out, then you should support her like any true friend would do. Show her that it's ok to like the same guy, even if one of them is going out with him. Good luck!
- Kaylie
i am 13 and everyone i know (including girls younger than me) have bigger breasts than me. is there anyway to help stimulate their growth? big boobs run in my family ( my sister has DD's!) but apparently not me. am i normal?
You are perfectly normal. Trust me, you're not done growing, so your boobs will grow. Don't worry about it because every girl grows at a certain rate. Hope I help, and feel free to inbox me if you need anything.
Ok. So at school, not a lot of guys liek me or notice me at all. Can anyone please give me some advice on how to get guys to notice me and like me and eventually ask me out?
I totally agree with LatinaAdvice. I'm having the same problem with guys that I like, and the absolute best advice I've gotten is to be myself. No guy likes the fact a girl is being someone they're not. For example, if you flirt with a guy, flirt with them the way you want to, not the way some of your other friends tell you. Guys like girls to be who they really are. Good luck, and if you have any other questions, feel free to inbox me. :D
- Kaylie
I met a man on facebk 3yrs ago.I would write to him & he would write back but was always very brief.After a year I asked him if he wanted to meet me,he replied that he never meets people from online.After 3 yrs I deleted him since It seemed to be going nowhere,3 mnths later I asked him to be friends again since i missd him and he acepted.In one of our mails he left his phone# I was surprised but stupidly I calld & lft a mssg with my # when he didnt answer.About an hour later he deleted & blckd me from fcbook. I new he wasnt interested but thought we where friends? What did I do wrong? how could he be so mean?
Maybe he's just a jerk, and played with you by giving you his number. Some people are rude like that, and they play with their "friends."
My boyfriend and I hang out ALL THE TIME! When we hang out, were always holding hands(interlocking fingers), cuddling, nd teasing eachother (poking eachother,making faces at eachother,making fun of eachother in a nice way). Whenever we have nothing to talk about and were both completely silent, we'll just turn to eachother,stare into eachothers eyes, and smile. What could this mean? Does he want to kiss me? Should I make the first move? If I make the first move, how should I do it?
If you two are feeling that comfortable with each other, then yes, I'm sure he wants to kiss you. And yes, I think you should make the first move. I think that the next time you two are staring into each others eyes, just lean in towards him, and kiss him.
I think it's awesome that you two are that close to each other. Good luck!!
hi i want to know if ur bf kisses another girl should i brake up with him
I agree with AngelKMC65 and Zane, but, he might not have kissed the other girl. The girl could have kissed him. But if he didn't, you need to talk to him, and find out what really happened, and if he still has strong feelings for you. Good luck, and inbox me if you need anything. :)
My friend said he wanted to go out with me but it would be to weird to date each other. We want to date but it's too akward.What should we do?
Maybe now is not the time for you two to start going out yet, or maybe you two should go on one date, and see how things go.
Okay, so it's my 8th grade year at sylvan hills middle school in Atlanta,Ga. I was on the cheerleading team last year and I'm automatically on for 8th grade year since I was a cheerleader last year. I was good last year,but I don't know how to do a split.I can go down little on the floor and I'm almost to the ground but I can't go all the way.
Stretch. But don't stretch too much or you're going to hurt yourself. Take about two minutes a day, and stretch both legs until you get your splits. When you do get them, stretch before you perform them, or, again, you will hurt yourself.