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my names kayla, i am 15, i`m turning 16 this week, on the 22nd. i am pretty young, but i`ve been through a lot more than most girls my age have so i find it easy to give advice. i do my best to answer every question. and if i offend you, or give you an answer you aren't happy with, feel free to be totally straight forward & give me some feedback. :) hope i can help you!
-kayla

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There's this girl named Pam. She was in my art class, and she was really shy, so I felt bad and started to talk to her because she didn't have any friends. Now, I don't have any classes with her except History and English. She won't leave me alone! Everytime she sees me, she follows me. We're not even in the same 4th period class, but she waits for me at my locker anyway! I try to ditch her, but she doesn't get it. She thinks we're best friends. One time, I was talking to my friend in the hallway, and she just comes up to me and stands next to me. There's a dance in school coming up, and I want to go, but I'm pretty sure she'll go and follow me. Should tell her that I'm not going, and go anyway?

14/f. Sorry that was so long!

Well, it seems like she just really needed a friend & she's getting a little bit to excited about it. you shouldn't completely reject her & hurt her feelings, i think you should just tell her that she's nice & you wanna be friends but you would appreciate it if she would give you some space.

I have a friend and it is more of a relationship. We have had sex and all kinds of stuff like that. But when we are in bed he says that i am great and all kinds of stuff like that and that i am the best kisser out of everyone he has kissed. And we make bets and a couple of times i had to give him head. And he says that i am amazing and stuff like that. And then he asked me out and i am just wondering if he actually likes me or if he just wants to get some.. please help.

he must like you. if he didnt he wouldnt have asked you out because obviously you were doing things with him before when you were't going out

okay i saw this movie awhile ago at a friend's house and i cannot think of what its called. im pretty sure johnny depp is in it.and i remember there were these really big alien worm things and i remember to parts. one was they were out on snowmobiles and one guy was taking a piss and the alien thing came out of the ground and bit his dick off and the other was one guy was on the toilet taking a shit and the alien came up through the toilet and killed him. what movie is thiss?

that movie doesn't have johnny depp in it i don`t think. its called Dream Catcher, and it's based on the novel by Steven King. Maybe Johnny Depp was in it, but i`m not too sure.

helloo :]]
bear with me, i know everyone's
question on here is like this but eh.
well, me and my boyfriend have been
going out for about 10 months but our
relationship slowly started going
downhill about 2 months ago. we rarely
see eachother or talk to eachother. i
always have to txt him or call him. he
never calls me or txts me anymore and it
just doesnt seem like he's putting effort
into this relationship. i wanna start over
with him but he's put me through so confusion and hurt. im just wondering what your
opinion is on all of thiss. thanks :]

it just sounds like he wants some space. back a way a little bit & he should start calling & texting again.

What does 'bubble butt' mean?

big ass. lol

I just got the green iPod nano. like last Friday and all of the sudden the screen froze and it won't unfreeze its been frozen for like an hour now AHHHH! this is kind of hard to answer but if you know of anything that will help PLZ HELP!!

happens to me all the time. just hold down the play button & the middle button at the same time for like ten seconds.

The kid I like is a horny, horny boy. And who can blame him? He hit puberty. He probably just wants action.
But my idea is that if I gave him a blowjob, he'd like it. If i told him that I'd keep doing it if he asked me out, we'd be together.

What does everyone think of this plan?

-Jordan

dont do that just to get a boy to like you. your relationship will only be physical & he'll probably only be interested in that.

i may not be the most popular girl in school, but you could say im in that clique of girls. Theres this guy i like, & people say he likes me back & he was suppose to ask me out but then i guess didnt do it. I want to get his attention, i mean i always think i look ugly but people say im not. Is there anyway i can feel & look pretty to get this guys and maybe other peoples attention? please help me

boosting your self esteem is actually a lot easier than you may think. some of this may sound really stupid & corny but, it definitly works for me.. so maybe it will work for you. first of all, when you look in the mirror pick out the things you like about yourself.. for example, i usually like how i do my eye makeup. put on some music while you get ready for school, like, upbeat music. i have a pair of old speakers from my computer that i bring in the bathroom & i hook up my ipod to it. see, little things like that can really make all the difference. try not to be negative about your appearance and you'll have more confidence when your at school or with your friends, & guys.

im so sick of crying. im so sick of hurting. me and my boyfriend broke up two months ago. and im still dwelling on it. yes he was my first love. and yes he already has a new girlfriend. and he treats that girl a 100 times better than he did me. and im sick of crying. im sick of always thinking about him. he doesnt care about me. so why should i care. its a new year and i want to be over this kid ASAP. please help me.

getting over your first love isn't easy. he seems like a real jerk.. & you need to find somebody who can treat you right. all you need to do for this year is change your focus. instead of even thinking about him, try & think of guys you might be interested, & start meeting new people. i`m usually against falling back on somebody after a break up because its kind of like using them.. but i think that it's been long enough to find someone else. your feelings probably wont go away, but trust me.. shifting your focus will definitly help. try and find someone who can treat you the way he SHOULD have.

i have a parakeet. the feathers around his beak and cre are a light purpleish, pink color, which isnt the color they normally are. what could this be from? and how can i treat it and prevent it from happening again?

thanks

i have a parakeet too. i think you should probably call a vet or something and ask them what it could be. i`m thinking it's probably nothing serious as long as it's still eating, maybe its the dye from one of its toys?

ok so im in 7th grade, and everyone has a boyfriend, it seems like, besides me. I try being outgoing and stuff, but it doesnt work. I already tried asking like 5 billion guys out and they all said no. I know im not supposed to change and stuff, but i dont want to end up 20 and only have 1 boyfriend in my whole life. Can you help me?

PS.. Me and my friend share this account, so not all posts are gonna bve from me

middle school is always tough, not a lot of guys liked me, because i was always the one asking them out. don't ask guys out, it makes you look vulnerable & insecure, you need to get them to like you enough to ask you out themselves. be flirty & outgoing. i can promise you you wont end up 20 without a boyfriend. you'll get one soon. just don't try so hard.

this might sound stupid, but is there really any difference between running on a tredmill and running outside or something?? since its winter, it's so much easier running on my tredmill. what are the differences??

thanks!!

it depends what kind of tred mill you're running on. if your running outside you get more of a workout because there are hills your not running on a plain flat surface, & you can open your legs to get more distance. some tredmills have settings that tilt it so its like your running on a hill, but it's really not the same thing. i run on the tredmill in the winter, because i dont like breathing in the cold air outside. i think the main difference between the tredmill & running outside is how it feels, i hate running on the tredmill because time goes by so slowely, & i feel like i`m running a 10 minute mile.

ok i know this is reallly weird and random but my class today started talking about it and ive been curious about it since we began but is it true that "Steve" from blues clues died from a drug overdose and that whole "going off to college" thing he made it up so he wouldnt have to tell lil kids that watch his show the truth ???

please im soo curious !

its not true. he just didnt wanna do it anymore

I am scared out of my mind. 16/f
On friday I gave up my virginity to my boyfriend. We used a condom and everything went well. But now, probably because it was my first time, i'm getting paranoid...
I have an irregular period cycle, sometimes going 3 months in a row with no period. I bled a little on friday and had some abdominal cramps on saturday. A friend told me that since it was my first time, it would probably make my period come. But it hasn't yet. I'm getting mild stomach cramps, but no blood. I know it's only tuesday, but I'm scared.
How likely is it that I'm preggers?
How soon can I take a take-home test and make sure it's accurate?? I'm so frightened I may be pg I don't know what to do...

your friend doesn't know what she's talking about, having sex delays your period a little bit more than usual. if you used a condom it's very unlikely that you are pregnant. if you really think that you are, maybe you should take the test to calm yourself down a bit. but i really don't think that theres much to worry about here.

ok so im going to have sex with my boyfriend. we tried last Saturday but it hurt bad and well, it just didnt fully happen (like everything is still in tact). im just wondering when i do do it, and if i bleed alot, how do i take care of that? i mean, i dont want to do it on my bed if im bleeding 'cause everyone knows thats a pain to wash out and i dont want to do it on the floor like we were doing so what do i do after? does it stop bleeding after a while? how long after? help people, asap

you can do it on your bed hun. just put a towel underneath you & wash it right when your done. i didn't bleed my first time.. but i can't imagine that it would be a lot. but if you do bleed just wear a tampon or pad until it stops.

I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 4 monthes now. I think I am ready to have sex with him, the problem is, I am very self-concious of my body. I hate being naked, and I never am with him. I won't even take off my top. Even though I think i am considered "thin" (I am critical of myself, especially the flab on my stomach) and I am 5'9, I am just so self-concious and I don't think I will ever be comfortable being naked around him. Is there a way to get more comfortable with myself, naked?

you need to stop thinking negatively. take a minute by yourself .. to look in the mirror & pick out the positives about your body. you've sort of already started with that by pointing out that your thin.

well i do indoor track and i've always been fast. but it seems like girls always seem to get infront of me. i was wondering if anyone had good ideas and advice on what shoes i should wear, like flats? i heard they really help. and like what brand and where i could find them.

also, if anyone has any tips of how i should run and use my arms. any input would be great!

i`m a pretty good sprinter.. so i guess i might be of some help. you just need to condition your body right. stretching is very important. the more flexible you are, the faster you'll go. one really good stretch my team does is called the inch worm. you put your feet together & touch your toes then you walk your hands forward, and then you walk your feet forward towards your hands. another good stretch is ankleing .. you move your ankles in circular motions. you should do high knees daily, i`m sure you've heard of those already, but you pick your knees up as high as you can and move as fast as you can at the same time, this helps to open up your stride. but besides stretches, when you run you need to keep your head up & look straight ahead, don't look behind you or at the people in the lanes next to you.. i focus by pretending that i`m just doing a time trial and i need to go as fast as i possibly can, it takes away a little bit of the pressure because i kind of forget there's anybody else on the track. you need to pump your arms, because it helps with energy. and about the shoes, i ran cross country so i already had a decent pair of spikes, most girls use there cross country spikes for indoor track.. you just cant screw in your metal spikes, and you have to make sure the soles don't have hard plastic spikes, they need to be rubber. i bought my shoes from Road Runner, you may have one near your home, so check your phone book..if you don't check out this website, you can order them online..
http://www.roadrunnersports.com/rrs/womensshoes/womensrunning/womenstrackandfield/list/?_requestid=37696
i hope i helped.

k so i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for about 5 weeks and i am 15 and i dont know if it would be wrong to hang out with a guy while going out with someone? and yes i would tell my boyfriend and i would not cheat... but would that be wrong?

just find out if he's ok with it.

Ok well i've had my period for about 5 or 6 months now. It's always been irregular. Is it normal to skip a month after youve had it for 6 months? Im still a virgin too so i can't be pregnant.

yeah it's completely normal to skip months if you've had your period for less than a year. mine didn't become regular until i had it for about a year too.

Alright well my bf and I had dry sex and I had only my underwear on and he only had his boxers on. He didn't ejaculate on me, then after that he jacked off and he lost a lot of sperm, then later on we had dry sex again except everything on me was off and he only had his boxers on. Then I wan't to stop and he said he didn't ejaculate at all on me or anything and his dick wasn't even inside of me. But he got a little cum where his dick was and I was really wet. Do you think that was my cum? Do you think there is any way possible I could be pregnant?
A lot of people that I told had told me it's really doubtful..

it could have been your cum & it could have been his. guys pre-cum during sexual activity.. thats when they let out a little bit of cum every once and a while but they don't actually full on ejaculate. so a little bit of his cum might have been on his boxers as well as yours. it is very unlikely that you could be pregnant since he didnt actually put it in you. you don't have anything to worry about.

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