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How do you grind with a guy?
-my back to his front
-us facing eachother

your back to his front is the usual way to grind with a guy, but facing eachother is sometimes thought to be grinding as well because you are doing the same general motion. Make sure when you do grind with a guy you mix it up a bit because boys seem to get annoyed with the same thing.

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what are the different parties/or coming-of-age stuff people have? im doing a project on them

-quincenera
-debutante ball (what is that??)
-sweet 16
-bat mitzvah
-bar mitzvah

what else? thanks mucho guys

generally a quincenera is when girls from mostly spanish speaking countries turns 15, a debutante ball is when a girl(usually from the south) turns 16 and is presented to society, sweet 16 is when a person turns 16, a bat mitzvah is when a jewish girl turns around 13 and chooses to become a woman in her faith. A bar mitzvah is like a bat mitzvah but for boys.

hope this helps!

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uhm like i have ripped jeans, and i wanna make more rips like on the back of them ? how do you rip them?

what I do with mine is get a razor blade (not the shaver but the actual razor blade) and rub the sharp part on your jeans. It may take a while but keep doing it and it will loosen the threads of the jeans so you have the more "natural" holes instead of the ones you cut.

good luck

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I like this guy and I have for a really long time, but he has had a girlfriend, he just broke with his girlfriend and asked me to winterball, I was so excited, but now I am just kinda like, yeah he's not that great, I think I just always want what I cant have... what should I do to be more greatful

=]

bot troubles
14 female

I would definatly go to the winterball with him because you already said that you would go. Once you are there I would act like friends rather than dates that way he will get the hint that you dont really like him. If you are trying to change your mind about him think of it as a date and try to notice anything good about him (like the smell of his cologne or his new hair cut). That way after the dance you will remember all the good and you can truly decide if you like as a friend or not.

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what kind of accessories would look good with this shirt?
http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?rcid=clearance&scid=cat90062&sscid=cat90094&navroot=clearance&productId=0373_8253

i dont want to leave it plain, but i have no idea what to pair it up with

cute shirt! If I were you I would put a short necklace or a long necklace that will not clash with the neckline of the shirt. I like getting accessories from places like forever 21 or even target because it is cheap but still cute. You can get a long beaded neckace (like white, clear, or maybe silver)and wrap it around a few times then maybe add a small, simple necklace with some sort of turquois.

hope I helped

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I have to touch up on my hair colour. My original hair is growing out and it doesn't look nice against my dyed hair.

I was wondering,

1)is it alright to touch up as well as dye over my already-dyed hair?

2)Will it be ok if I use another shade of brown dye when doing so?

its fine to touch up on already dyed hair and it is fine to do two different shades. The only thing to keep in mind is to have the colors blend well together. They dont have to match but get colors that go well together like a honey brown color and a light brown. Sometimes this look can make your hair look professionally done because a lot of times hairdressers use multiple colors.

good luck!

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I've always wanted to be a girl and hopefully I can be someday, but for right now I want to go to our high school's January dance dressed as a girl. I'm in 10th grade and 16 yo. Can anybody tell me what I should get for clothes and shoes and stuff? The dance is casual. Like what I'm looking for the most is what stores to go to and then what to get. Thanks.

Jackets are really in this season and it would help with your lack of boobs. I would get a jacket like this one... http://www.wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1400&size=&style=37437961&color=100&token= or maybe a cute fitted denim one. Under that I would wear a fitted shirt but not one that is low cut. Since it is a casual dance you should wear jeans with some boots. Unless you want to make a big statement with a skirt and some stilletos but thoses can get uncomfortable. Make sure you accessorise. First get your outfit together like for example if you used that white jacket I would get some white jewelry like http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=necklaces&product%5Fid=1033226927&Page=all.

hope this helps

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Alright well, I've recently just gotten a boyfriend and I'm just wondering how to kiss him since I've never kissed anybody before, and I'm nervous.

I know about the "it comes naturally" stuff, I understand that, but I just really want to know HOW. I'm just worried if I try it naturally or something, I'm going to be eating his face off. And I really don't want that to happen, haha.

The tough part is getting started, once you get going it is very natural and everyone gets their own style. With the beginning start off slow to make him want more from you and make it last longer. Try teasing him by kissing him then slightly pulling away with your lips still attached. Once this goes on for a few minutes just go with it.

good luck and have fun!!

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Do all girls like chocolate. And if they do do the like Dark or Milk better?

it depends on the girl, if she is obsessed with her weight or on a diet, I would not get her chocolate. There are also some girls that do not like it. Generally though it will be a big hit. And I would have to go with milk chocolate... more people prefer that to dark.

hope this helped

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i use that jergens tanning for your face once a day. but i wash my face 2-3 times a day. is it possible that the jergens tanning will come off?

since you wash your face so frequently I would apply the lotion after each wash until you get the desired shade. Than I would cut down to once every two days or possibly once a day if it fades.

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hello I need to know the difference between IPL and laser treatment. I know IPL is Intense Pulse light treatment. I want to know which one is better n which one is more effective. if anyone has any experience or know anything about it plz let mme know. i want to have hair removal but dont know which one to chose. laser is a little more expensive as compared to IPL. but if IPL is not as effective thn i dont wanna waste money on that...any reply will b really appreciated

I was thinking of getting the same thing so I talked to my skin estitition and she said that the IPL causes less scaring than the laser. It will take a few sessions but in the long run it is both cheaper AND more effective.

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i like this guy my friend . hes new to are group . i haven't known him that long but long enough to get to know him and we have a lot in commnon. i want to tell him soon but i don;t know how!i want to be able to tell him but there not be any weirdness between us.thank!

if you do tell him, do it really casually when its just you two. If you dont want to tell him (because that really takes guts) you can get another guy friend to tell him and that will give him the idea of asking you and he will feel in control (and everyboy wants to feel in control)

let me know how it goes!

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does anybody have a vcast cell phone? is it unlimited songs AND clips for $15 a month? also do yo get to save the songs and clips for later, or do you have to delete them after a month.

I just got a Vcast phone and I think it is unlimited songs and clips for $15 a month. I know that you do not have to delete them after the month but they do take up memory so it may slow down your phone a little.

Some of the rules go by where you live so to make sure you can call Verizon or go to a store and they will have the exact answer, but it is probably the same as mine.

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i can get sort of nervous around guys. so i tend to stay away or just not really talk to them unless sometimes i just let my gaurd down and everything is fine but i still laugh nervously. the other day i was with this guy i like and i think it was okay but i still dont know. what do you think i should do about my nervousness????

It is hard to act casually around a guy that you like. If you find yourself running out of things to talk about start asking questions about them. (everyone loves to talk about themselves) then try to relate to it with a story of your own and pretty soon you will have a full blown conversation going. About the nervousness, remind yourself that they are normal people and if they are talking to you that means they want to not that they feel obligated to do so.

good luck!

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im not sure if this is in the right catagorie or not.. sorry.. well i just recently got a tatoo and i was just wondering, what do i do if people start talking about it because im worried they will because of what it is.. ((its a playboy bunny and its on the back of my shoulder..))

dont let what people bother you with what they say about your tattoo. If its a playboy bunny that probably means you are comfortable with your body and that may make some people jealous. If they do talk about it is probably because they are not comfortable with themselves. So flaunt it off and dont care what other people say!!

hope this helped

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well lastnight, me and my boyfriend had sex, but he didnt have a condom so he promised me he'd pull it out before he came. well after we were finished he asked me when my last period was, like he had accidentally came inside me. he denied that and said he had taken it out before then. today my breasts hurt and i dont feel very good, but im not completely sure ( i had a drink lastnight )im just wondering if it's just nothing, just a hangover, or if i could possibly be pregnant.
=(
please help!

well all boys have a little pre-sperm come out before the big hit. It is possible that it did get in but you still have a smaller chance of getting pregnant. Sometimes when you are nervous about that stuff your body does act wierd but you shouldnt feel sick until a little ways further. I would still get a pregnancy test just to make sure.

hope I helped

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where can i buy some cute teen girl (preppy) argyle sweaters?

thanks in advance!

There may be some at abercrombie or hollister because they are coming out with all their sweaters. Another place you could look is Buckle. I found this really cute blue and green argyle sweater there but all the stuff is kinda crammed together so you may have to go through a few piles but its totally worth it.

good luck!

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You know those abercrombie jackets, or even hollisters.. you know how you see alot of girls, where they dont zip it up like right below there chest? & it looks like its 2 sizes to small. Well, when i went to go try one on, it was the same way, & i thought i was fat, bc it was so tiny, so is that the style? or is it just me? i deff. never thought i was fat before. i meann, i'm only 110 & 5'4.?

you are definatly not fat so dont worry about that. The way the jackets fit is the way they are supposed to fit. It fits this way to keep it tight fitted (like all Abercrombie clothes) and to still show off your curves on your upper half.

hope this helped

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I don't know, I've just been thinking about this alot lately. Okay, you know how people always say that to go to Heaven you have to believe in God and be religious and such? Well, what about a person who is kind and selfless and is just a good person in general and is an athiest? Does that mean that they wouldn't go to Heaven even though they were a good person who did good for other people? Because if you think about it, not every person who is religious is good. Like the terrorists who flew the plane into the World Trade Center, causing the deaths of all those innocent people. They claimed that they were doing that for God and their religion. I mean, wouldn't it seem wrong for a person just to go to Heaven because they were religious even if they weren't a good person, and a person who was a really good person not going to Heaven because they weren't religious? I was just thinking about this and wondering if anybody had some answers, perhaps?

I know you probably dont want to hear this but I believe that the only way to heaven is through Jesus Christ. This is because no one is perfect and heaven is nothing but perfection. Therefore the only way to get into heaven is to admit that you are not perfect and that Jesus died to forgive and whipe us of thoses sins. Thats it!

I have to disagree with you on that second part though. People have a right to choose which religion they choose and although their parents DO HAVE A BIG EFFECT on the religion their child has, it is important for the child to choose their own religions and beliefs

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Hey
There is this kid at school that is in my English class Ill call him "Jason" and he flirts with me all the time. I try not to flirt back because I dont like him that way. His best friend was talking to my friend and he said that "jason" is gonna ask me out. This is really bad because I dont want to break his heart. I would go out with him because he is really nice and stuff but the thing is that i have had a crush on this kid "Paul" for more than a year now. So my question is do i give up on "paul" who i really really really like and go out with "jason" or do i just tell "jason" that i dont have feelings for him. Omg please help I really dont want to hurt "Jason"!!!!!

as hard as it may seem the best thing for both you and "Jason" is to be honest and if he does ask you out tell him that you only see him as a friend. Make sure you are gentle not to hurt his feelings but still let him know that you dont see him that way.

hope this helps

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