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Okay so theres this guy that i really like and he likes me back i hate to use the term "friends with benifits" but thats pretty much what we are. (we hug alot, kiss, and we'e madeout a few times). so every relationship ive been in i break up with the guy, and not really for a good reason i just kind of loose intrest, i guess i just like the chase..so i really like this guy and im scared that if i go out with him ill soon get sick of him and break things off..so im not sure what to do, if i should risk going out with him and end up breaking up with him or if i should just leave things like they are??
Also can i please have some advice for how not to get tierd of guys and maybe be able to commit top a longer realationship.
thanks :)

I know how you feel! I've been dealing wit this problem for a pretty long time. "The Chase" is always been fun. That's when you're trying to get his interest and work to get the attention that you want. Once you have the guy.. what's there to do other than move on. right?? I know its a BAD habitt I'm trying to drop too. But there's nothing you nor I can do. Its just part of our personality. I came to realize that.. we'll will grow out of it. Plus its not that you don't want to commit. Maybe you just haven't found the right guy to keep your interest in a relationship.
I think you should give that guy a chance and start a relationship with him. Who knows. .. you might be able to commit to him. If you get bored.. then it wasn't meant to be. Plus you're still young. you have all the time in the world. you dont need to commit now.
To commit longer in a relationship, well you can't flirt. stay away from guys as much as possible. You should be only talk to your bf, and hang out wit your bf. so mainly N0 0THER GUyS!. Think of the things that attracted you to him. Learn to deal with his flaws. hmm.. that's pretty much it. The main ones.
But usually it doesn't work. its just part of your nature. You can't help it. You can't really force yourself. just go with the flow. don't plan too much or push yourself in a direction you don't want. you'll grow out of the "single&hookups" scene. Then when you're come to an age where you are ready to commit. You WILL! you're heart and feelings and especially you will know.
hope I helped. =D.

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in the Bring it on movie.. the first one, whats the name of that cheer move that the team wearing green did (the team that won the championships first place) where they throw a girl at the top of like the pyramids, and shes like flying really high and then she gets caught at the bottom? also in the thirs movie (All or nothing) whats the name of that dangerous move they didnt want that chinese girl to do, and the first time she did it she broke her arm? thanks.

for the third BRING IT 0N: ALL OR N0THING, the move called the helicopter.
and the first one BRING IT 0N, I'm not sure.. probably the pyramid flying dagger? they never really siad the name. l0L. sorrie.
hope I helped though.

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Thursday i told my friends i was going out with my crush in my gym class. when i told them one of my friends ask me praivtely if me and him are going to kiss. i look at her and said "ummm yeah why?" she respond "well you know i dont like when people kiss"

(because she told me she hated when she see people kiss in movies or in person she thinks its gross)its odd cause we are all teens but why would she seem gross out when people kiss?

anyways i couldnt belive she said that and that made me think 'is she jealous of me or him? or does she want a realtionship too with soemone?' she never met the guy before and he is new to the school. so what do you think?

well I think she is not used to people kissing because she never been through a relationship or dealt with that kind of situation before. So she mights be a little uncomfortable. But jealousy can be possibility. She mights be interested in him too. You should just confront her about the situation. Then why would she care?? is she going to be there when you and your guy kiss?? plus if she doesn't like it or think its gross when people kiss then tell her not to look. It might be harsh but its logic.
You can have a one on one talk with her and ask her what her deal is. You can confront her in a nice way. If she only say she isn't comfortable when two people are "interacting", then tell her to not look. If she sees anything, just turn away. its not a hard thing to do. You just gave her a solution to solve her problem.
hope I helped. good luck =].

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my familys split up
i live with my dad.
he always yells at me
when i lvied with my mom
she always yelled at me.
i dont know what to do.
it really hurts hwen i get yelled at
i usually have a massive breakdown
what can i do?
-.-
i cant swear infront of my parents.
or ill just get beaten.

Damn! Do the just yell for no reason?? .. but I know how that feels. I'm in the same situation. When I live with my dad, he's constantly yelling at me over little things and blame me when things went wrong. Then when I live with my mom, she yells like every day! she yells when she's tired and I asked what's for dinner. She yells like no others. you'll never find anyone like her.
Here's the solution, you can sit down and talk to them. Tell them how you feel about all these yellings. Its affecting your emotions and life. If they care they'll listen. Instead of yelling at you all the time, they can tell you why they are yelling at you? and what have you done wrong?. If they say it calmly and inform you your mistakes and you'll fix it.
If they yell at you for aboslute no reasons then.. just ignore them. You know who you are and what you've done. if you didn't do anything wrong, they can yell all they want. Just block the negativities out of your life. Its not worth to be stressing over. When they yell, just listen to music, or think of somethin that makes you happy, or what you did today, ect. Don't let them ruin your mood, day, self-esteem. You have people who truly care about you.
hope it work out! =]. good luCk hunn.

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I am really angry right now. I have been staying at a friends place for a while and she was crying and really upset right now. My friend (lets call her Christina) really really likes this guy named Tacquin. The days I have spent here they hung out/flirted/and yesterday went to the movies (with me and a friend as well). A couple nights ago she told me she had sex with him. I was so suprised since she is only 13! She has liked him for two years and I honestly cant stand him. Last night he got her upset and she practically ran away at the movies until I got her back to her senses. He followed. He then told her "I swear to god I care about you and I will tell everyone to leave you alone and noone will hurt you. I will defend you and I really like you and I will never deny that we had sex cause Im not ashamed because I care about you" now she was overjoyed and then today as they were talking on the phone he told her he had a girlfriend. He has had one for over 3 weeks. She was crushed. He had sex with her and in my opinion completely used her. She is soo broken by it and he is trying to tell her that she shouldnt care and stuff. What should I do or say to convince her to stop liking him? She still does. Should I confront this jerk? Any ideas??

There's nothing you can really say to her. She can't help it, if she could I bet she would get over him already. She doesn't have a choice because she really likes him. No matter how horrible he is, she can't just get over him. In time she will get over him slowly. All you can do is be there for her. Let her lean on your shoulder to cry on. Don't judge her.. if you're her friend. Show her how to have a good time w/o that jerk!. She'll be back on her feet soon. Also show her diff guys who are better than that jerk. A guy who will treat her 10 times better.
hope I helped and good luck. =]

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When does the new season of south of nowhere start?? or has it already started?? i love the show but it's been a long time since the last time i have saw it.

i l0ve that show too. The next season is not until towards end of summer this year. Its around august or september.

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How do you get your bf whipped? Or realllllly needing of the gf? like i guess... REALLY interested and wanting more and more!!??

If he really l0ves you or likes you a lot and he doesn't want to lose you.. that's when he's whipped. If you act like you don't need him much, caring, less jealous, like less clingy. Then he would wonder more about you and listen to you more so he won't lose you. He would do anything so he can keep you to himself. BUT THIS IS ONLY WORK IF HE IS HELLA INL0VEWIT YOU.
but why would you wanna get your man whipped? you two you treat equally and your bf should care about you enough to do things for you not because he is whipped but because he cares. You wouldn't want to take control over him either. A relationship is suppose to be communication. O0h at times if your bf is whipped.. he grew to get tired since you're always in control. Then the relationship will grow apart. So think before you decide on something.
hope I helped. =].

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how can i learn better self control when choosing what and how much to eat?

Well you can eat little by little. If you were craving for something. Instead of eating a whole lot. Just tell yourself to have a little bit. Its all in your mind set. if you set your mind to do and tell yourself to eat little at a time. Then you will do it eventually. But it takes time and practices. You won't be able to do it over night.
hope I helped. good luck. =].

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19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?

I know I'm 2 years younger but I thought I could help out. If I was a judgmental person.. yes you are a cheating slut. But then I'm not so .. lets see. You're not a bad person. You just can't help yourself. For example, you have two bags. One you're totally in l0ve with.. but it doesn't go with any of your outfits. Then, the other bag you have.. its alright, not too bad.. you like it [like second choice]. It goes with every single outfit you have in your closet. So which one would you prefer??
Imply that to your situation... Nate is your first bag.. number choice. Blake is your second choice. Its not how perfect you and Blake are together, or how well he treats you, or how sweet he is. What matters is who has your heart. Nate has your heart eventhough he treats you like a booty call [no offense]. At times love doesn't make sense. You don't chose who you're going to fall in l0ve with. It just happens. It doesn't matter how well the guy treats you. You're just so in l0ve that even if he treats you like dirt.. you would nver let go.. cuz he's the only one that can make you happy.
I think you should make your choice with no regret. l0ve is a 50 50 chance thing. You either risk it all .. or risk nothing. If you were to chose Blake.. do you think you l0ve him enough to make the relationship last? will you be happy with him years from now? [you think you are happy but deep down, are you really ??]. If you really l0ve him, you wouldn't have sex with someone else more than once. You didn't have any remorse for havin sex with Nate either. That's not love hun.
With Nate.. I know he has your heart because of the way he treats you.. and you still head over heels for him. Maybe you like bad boys. You like him because you can't have him. Eventhough you guys are havin phycial contact but you don't have his heart. That's why you want him.
Which ever one you decide to chose.. don't regret it because you made that decision. Decide as if it is what you believe in and you don't give a care what the consequence is. If you chose Nate.. think about Blake's feelings. How you should break it to him. Make sure you really end it between you and Blake. Its not fair for him if you keep on cheating on him. If you chose Blake.. then end everything with Nate. NO more FWB [friend with benefits]. Make sure your feelings for Blake is real and true. Make sure you look beyond now.
hope I helped. =]. good luck.

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I am a book finatic. And, I cant find this book i'm reading. I know that there is a site were you can read the book right from the computer, but i dont remember it! I'm reading the book "This Lullaby" by Sarah something...if anyone can find me a site were i can read it online..that would be great, i'm dieing here. Thanks!

I can only find this site.. its the author's website. http://www.sarahdessen.com/thislullaby.html
.. but if you want to read the book, I suggest you should check it out from the library. its FREE.
I bought the book. and its a really good book too. hope you enjoy it. =].

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is kissing ur bf like kissing ur dad?

I don't think so... if you like your bf then .. you wouldn't feel like you're kissing your dad.

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Me and my boyfriend are REALLY close. We've been going out for about 2 years. He calls me everyday after school. I go to his house/he comes to mine like 3 times a week. On the weekends, he calls me at 10:00 EXACTLY to tell me good morning. Don't get me wrong, I love him to death! But.. it's kind of getting old.. I've been talking to other guys, and I think I might want to take a break from this boy. Should I stay or take a break?

It seems to me like you're having doubts or getting bored. If you need some air or some room to breath.. I think the best thing to do is to take a break. If you keep this relationship going and you're talking to someone else.. eventually you and your boyfriend would fade away since in your mind is what happen if I go out with someone else. But if you decide to take a break .. that case you can experience with other people and you can compare to your bf. From that you can see who you would prefer to be with. If you truly love your bf, you will get back with him. If not, then you know what to do.
but just talk to him, have him understand how you're feeling... if he loves you.. he'll try his best to understand and wait for you. In the end its up to you to either take a break or stay. Follow your instinct and feelings. hope I helped and goodluCk!

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this will sound stupid. but when people say like "what base have you been to" or soemthing i have no clue what they are talking about, so i just go along with it. could you explain like

base 1 is - then tell me

thanks

There's this so called baseball game when it comes to sexual level. So ...
1st base = hold hands, hugs, peck on the cheek
2nd base = make out, touching on the surface [outside of clothing]
3rd base = oral sex such as fingering, touching "private" areas, hand job, blow job, etc.
4th base also called as homerun = SEX!

but diff people have diff opinion on how those bases meant. but those are the general meaning. hope I helped. =].

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I have this friend named Alica, we were really good, close friends during my sophomore year (now a junior), but she has done many things behind my back. Once she randomly stopped talking, and what I found out was she was trying to get away from me! I asked why, and she said I was "not being a friend". As a fact, I did nothing to her! I am 100% sure I didn't (so don't say I might of anyway). Then we made up, and she always overreacts. If I forget to call her or text her, she'll yell at me when she sees me, asking where I was, why I didn't call, and she goes, "Why are you mad at me?!?!" When I am not!

So we got into an argument, and stopped being friends. Then we madeup 6 months later, but she got worse. She does what she used to do, plus she always lied to me. I would tell her to meet me somewhere after school THREE times, but never showed, and all of a sudden stopped talking to me again. So I got very angry, called her up, and went off on her, cussing her out, and telling her to not talk to me again. We haven't talked since, and my friends are glad I am not wasting my time with her anymore. I feel quilty for being harsh, but she has done so many horrible things to me! But did I do the right thing?

Sorry for it being so long, but thank you very much for your time.

I think you've done the right thing. Since she have done so many wrong things to you... you just have no choice but let it all out. Now you feel guilty for being harsh.. because you still care about the friendship in a way. Then she has no right to treat you the way that she had. She's a bad friend matter of fact. So you're better off without her. Maybe you can say hi when you pass by her or something. But don't be too close to her or share something personal with her since you shouldn't trust her.
anyways, don't feel bad .. its life. people comes and goes.. just make sure you keep the right ones. She's definitely the wrong one. You have other true friends .. that truly care about you.
hope I helped =].

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This is a very long question because i have alot to explain so please be ready for quite a long read.

It all started a few months ago when a college mate was becomming very desperate to get a gf, he was asking people left right and center and then was rejected almost every time until he met this girl. From what i can guess she didn't want to reject him like he had been before and after two days told my friend "she wasn't ready for a relationship right now" this completely destroyed my friend and he spent weeks getting over her until finally he started his search all over again. i wasn't exactly heppy over this fact because it seemed to me that every so often he would complain about how "he was never going to get a gf" and stuff like that. I tried my best to help him and tell him that he was looking in all the wrong places. This went on for a few more weeks but while this was going on I ended up talking more and more to the girl and we became pretty good freinds. She helped me through a breakup i had recently gone through. The problem occured when i realised i was developing feelins for this girl so i ended up talking more and more to her. This put a serious strain on my friendship with my friend because I soon found out he was not over her yet and had been talking to her while i had been. After a while of this she told me she had feelings for me and i told her i felt the same way. Things with my freind got very bad here up to the point where we stopped talking but i couldn't just ignore what i was feeling for this girl. She told me she would go out with me if it wasn't for my friend and maybe she would later on when he got over her. I knew she didn't want to hurt my friend and i was half expecting her to say it but it didn't make it any easier. She also told my freind at this point she wouldn't take things any further with me but i didn't find this out til later through one of my other friends. Time passed and me and her got alot more friendly with each other and we were always talking and stuff. I didn't know what to think at this point because I felt very confused about what she was telling me and what she was doing. Then one tuesday (i'll always remember that tuesday, it was the worst day of my life) at the end of what had been a good day (she had borrowed my jumper because of the cold) after class i waited outside her room and walked her to her buss then did wha i normally did to get home. After getting home i went up to my room and turned on my laptop, signed in msn (the usual stuff) and kept a close eye on it incase she signed in, I stayed up til 3 in the morning in case she came on but she didn't so i justsorta fell asleep. The next day i was so tired and worried because i didn't know what had happened (she usually caem online at some point) but it was wednessday so i never saw her then later I was on msn and she came online. she told me in painful detail about this boys house she went around on tuesday. I kept thinking to myself why she was telling me these things and whether she realised how much she was hurting me. A few days after this she came up to me with tears in her eyes telling me that this guy had told her he only wanted a bit of fun with her and never cared about her. I couldn't help but feel a little happy about this and that made me feel terrible about myself. I hated that i was taking joy in someone elses misery. Things went on and soon we were almost back where we started until one day she told me that "she didn't want another relationship". I was too blind to see that this was exactly what she had done to my friend before. I thought about it and said i still wanted to be freinds but I wish so much i had just walked away right then because it would have saved me from the worst pain i have ever felt. This went on for a little while and I realised that she had a thing for the guy who had hurt her before and he aparently wanted a real relationship now. I asked her repeatedly if she liked him and it hurt more and more each time because i knew she was lieing to me. Eventually i got her to admit the truth and i just couldn't take it. I walked away to around the corner and blacked out. according to my friends I acted normal during this time but i couldn't remember any of it. I later learned this was due to stress.

This is where i am now, it's been a month since all this happened and for the most part i'm over it. That is to say that you wouldn't know from looking at me what i'm feeling inside but every night i cant even sleep because every time i close my eyes I relive those painful moments again and again. I havent had a good nights sleep since this happened. I cant even see anything that reminds me of her without the tears welling up in my eyes and I have to make some excuse to leave. MY question is what do i do, because I cant keep this up for much longer and also is it a good idea to move on? even if i still feel this way?

I need serious help and any suggestions would be much appreciated. If your still awake after reading that please give me any thoughts because i am completely lost.

Wow! that was long and painful. First.. at least now you know how your friend felt while he was trying to get over her. But umm back to you. I think you can do better than her. Don't try too hard to get over her because then you wouldn't be able to forget her. The more you're trying to forget her, the more memories of her will pop up in your head. Just let it go easily. If her image pops up .. don't fight it. Think of the good memories instead of painful ones. Then .. in time .. she'll just be part of your memory and life goes on. It will be hard.. at times you would feel like she need her and want her and how much pain she putted you through. But you need to be strong about it. Ask yourself if she is worth your time? tears? love? .. if she hurts you like this.. and she doesn't care about you or give you the time of her day.. do you think she's worth while?. Even if you have her now.. knowing that she'll screw you over for another guy. You'll be back from the beginning trying to get over her and in pain all over again. DO YOU THINK ITS WORTH IT??.
.. I suggest you should have fun, go on with your daily life. Try to hang out with other girls for a while. Don't talk or see her for a while until you're over her. Choose friendship over girls. Seriously nothing is worth more than friendship. When that girl left you.. all you have left is that friend of yours. He'll always there for you no matter what. But that girl comes and go.. didn't last forever. So just try your best to be happy and not be too stress over a girl who doesn't worth your time. One of these days there will be a right girl who comes along and brighten up your day.
hope I helped.. good luck with everything .. and get your life back on track =].

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ok so im 13 and i live brockton mass. i want my belly button pearces and i cant frind a place that will do it for the age of 13..pins and needles will only do it of your 14.. help asap

you can always pierce it yourself. Make sure you burn the needle first. Or you can fake your age. But maybe you should wait til you're 14.
hope I helped?.. good luck. =]

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17/M
I know I've asked similar questions but I don't think I've been asking the right question. Sex vs.Love, I'd like some advice. In the battle between sex and love that I've been fighting I feel like I love her, I cry when I talk to her because I miss her. I haven't cried in 4 years until I started going out with her. But at the same time, I really miss her touch and what we do. Whenever I see her we do something to do with sex. Is there something else we can do? Is this excessive? We see eachother every weekend. In this scenario I just need to know, what is greater, sex or love?

If you love her then .. whether you two have sex or not it shouldn't matter to you. If she decided not to have sex any more and wait til marriage. Since you're completely in love with her then you wouldn't mind and respect her decision. Sex is a physical thing. Its great to do it. But Love is a more emotional thing. Love and sex doesn't go hand in hand. Love is when you care for that person endlessly. You put their happiness before yours. All you want to see is for the person you love to be happy even if it kills you inside. You're not selfish when you love someone. You're able to open up to the person you love. There's no secrets between you two.
Sex is something more physical. Of course if you both love one another ... you two want to be close to one another and be intimately. But don't let sex overpower the relationship. Love is about honesty, communication, and trust.
when you two see one another.. you guys can talk about anything. You can tell her something she nvr knoe about you.. and she can do the same.
but you guys can have sex too.. just not a lot.
I can't tell you which one is better sex or love. its all on your opinions and how you look at it. You can see it in a diff way than I do. But I can try to give you the best examples and my opnions.
hope I help =].

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I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.

hmm.. since you like photography.. you can do community service where you can take pictures for people. you can use photoshop to create something nice. If you don't know how to use photoshop, you can play around with it and you'll learn or read the instructions. But once you get a hang of it .. its realy fun. For art and achritecture, you can take potery class??.. I think you'll like it. You can use your artistic talent to create nice vase, pot, etc and sell it? or give it away ?.. anything you like. umm.. if you can draw.. ask your parents to take you to nice places with a wonderful view and you can draw. Or just look out your window as the sun set or at night.. draw the view you see.. or create a lovely view within your imagination, a view you wish to see in reality.. and draw it.
umm you can go out hang with friends, go to places, movies, mall, have a sleepover, umm bowling, swimming [jacuzee party?], workout [its sounds weird but my bestfriend and I were bored out of our minds.. so we went to the gym to workout and it was funn], scavenger hunt?.. you and your friends can come up with these clues and have the guys (or anyone for that matter) find it and so on [for valentine's day .. maybe?].. make it interesting and funn, I think you'll enjoy it. try new things that you thought it would be fun.. it probably are =].
hope I helped.. I hope of those things can entertain you. =].

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okay im turning fourteen on the eleventh and i want to have a birthday party but i don't have any ideas. i either want to invite my three best freinds or invite my whole clique which is roughly 15 girls.
i need some ideas for both.
thanks in advance :)

If you want just you and your 3 bestfriends then.. you guys can go to cheescake factory.. its expensive but really good and its a nice place. (if your parents can pay for you that would be nice). You guys can go to the movie, dinner, go to watch the city light at night [very beautiful], then jacuzzy? .. umrmm.. since you're havin a sleep over then.. rent some movie, marshmellow and cracker, and snacks, and just party all out. Try to have as much fun as you can. Plus since you're with your 3 bestfriends .. no matter where you guys are.. you guys will have fun.
hope I helped. good luck. =].

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i have this problem i hate letting people get to close and whatever and i really dont like many people but everytime i like somebody i always have to like the people i cant have eigther there taking or i just cant have them and it drives me insane it hurts so much to like somebody really like somebody and you just cant have them help if you can

I know how hard it is to really like someone and you can't have them. But look at it this way, so you really like someone, but that person doesn't like you back and the only reason the person is dating you because he pity you. which one is worst?
Anyhow, look at the bright side.. there are PLENTY of guys out there. You just happen to fall for the wrong one. Nxt time, just becareful who you fall for. Make sure he's available and he likes you too. Let them come to you.. you don't have to search around. save your feelings for someone who deserves it.. who actually work for it.
hope I helped. good luck finding your prince charming. =]

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