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;l fmaily problems
my familys split up
i live with my dad.
he always yells at me
when i lvied with my mom
she always yelled at me.
i dont know what to do.
it really hurts hwen i get yelled at
i usually have a massive breakdown
what can i do?
-.-
i cant swear infront of my parents.
or ill just get beaten.
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For whatever reason, it seems that your parents are taking out their anger and frustration on you- of course, this is unfair and unacceptable of them. They might be stressed out from the divorce, work, etc., but by no means is their behavior justifiable. You can be the mature one and calmly (but FIRMLY) explain to them that you get hurt when they yell at you, and that you would rather they didn't do so. It may be hard for you not to get worked up and start yelling yourself, but trust me, if you remain calm, they're far more likely to listen to your request. If it doesn't work, next time if they yell at you, instead of breaking down, go to your room immediately and do something to calm yourself down--whatever you like: listen to music, draw, write,...etc. Try not to take it out on yourself, and remember that it's not your fault that they act that way.
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Damn! Do the just yell for no reason?? .. but I know how that feels. I'm in the same situation. When I live with my dad, he's constantly yelling at me over little things and blame me when things went wrong. Then when I live with my mom, she yells like every day! she yells when she's tired and I asked what's for dinner. She yells like no others. you'll never find anyone like her.
Here's the solution, you can sit down and talk to them. Tell them how you feel about all these yellings. Its affecting your emotions and life. If they care they'll listen. Instead of yelling at you all the time, they can tell you why they are yelling at you? and what have you done wrong?. If they say it calmly and inform you your mistakes and you'll fix it.
If they yell at you for aboslute no reasons then.. just ignore them. You know who you are and what you've done. if you didn't do anything wrong, they can yell all they want. Just block the negativities out of your life. Its not worth to be stressing over. When they yell, just listen to music, or think of somethin that makes you happy, or what you did today, ect. Don't let them ruin your mood, day, self-esteem. You have people who truly care about you.
hope it work out! =]. good luCk hunn.
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hey
this is a serious problem... your parents can't do that to you. try calming talking to your dad about it. maybe ask him what's wrong & if you can help in anyway. he will be more than happy to find out you actually care. i'm sure he doesn't WANT to make you hurt, but he is probably so upset that he takes it out on you.
if you just calmly talk to him about it, i'm sure he will ATTEMPT to stop. don't go near him if he is drunk or has done drugs - he can be dangerous. just go for a shower & ignore him for the time being.
don't swear at your parents - just act calm. if they yell at you, just hold your tears in & stay strong. it WILL pass. if it gets really bad, just count in your mind to ten. really. slowly. 1... 2... 3... 4... 5... 6... 7... 8... 9... 10. & when you get to ten, see if they calmed down at all. if not, just stand there & wait for them to calm down before exitting.
i STRONGLY urge you to talk to a trusted adult about the situation at home (after, of course, trying to talk to your parents themselves). do you have grandparents, an aunt or uncle you can share these problems with? even a school guidance counselor can help.
please get help if it doesn't help trying to talk to them.
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