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I have been going out with this guy a few states away, he calls and we instant message. the fact is, i really do like him, just not how he wants me to. he is 2 years younger, and is uncumfortable with talking about love and stuff,i still want the freind ship, and i still like him sort of, but i want more, wht should i do!?! (link)
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Hi, keep to friendship because a relationship is likely not to work when you live a fair distance away. Talk to him about being friends. Daniel.
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Last night my boyfriend got mad at me and said he was mad because he doesn't think I care about him. I love him with all of my heart and he loves me too. I just don't know how to show it. Please help. (link)
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Hi, there are lots of ways to show love. You can tell him that you love him. You can show it by kissing and cuddling him. Or even having a romantic dinner with him. That would show him that your making an effort. Just enjoy a good relationship and all you can do is say and sho how much you love him. Daniel.
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My boyfriend and I are about to go to college together. We have been dating for almost a year and I just want to know how I can keep it together during college. BEcause I know there will be alot of temptation. (link)
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Hi, to keep a relationship together you have to have trust in eachother not to go for other people. Have a talk to him about this one and make a promise that you trust one another over this issue. Daniel.
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When I was about 13, I decided that I never want to get married and I still feel this way and believe that I will always feel this way. I guess it does kind of reflect on my family because both my parents have been married multiple times but it isn't just because of that. It seems as if married means nothing anymore to most people (not all people, I know). So I don't know, people are always telling me that not all marriages end and that mine doesn't have to be all bad like my parents and I know that but I just dont see myself getting married. Does anyone else feel this is way or am I alone? Please don't tell me reason why marriage is so great and how if it's the right person it'll work because I've heard it all before. 17/f
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Hi, that is fine. Good on you for being honest. Alot of people feel the same way, I for one for example don't want sex but that is my opinion. It's your choice and it's good that you've thought about it. Daniel.
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ok so theres this guy i really really like and he really likes me too. like every time i we say bye he tells me he loves me and he says the cutest stuff. and everytime i tell him i love him he says no i love you more and adorable stuff like that. so anyways hes friends with my ex that i went out with for 3 months. me and this guy tried to go out but my ex got really pissed off (because i was the one the broke up with him). my ex also hated me then. so i had to break up with this guy that i really really liked. this was about a month ago. now i am friends with my ex again and i still really really like this guy and he really really likes me and we talk every single day on aim or texting or the phone. i was gonna go to overnight camp and i told him that i wanted to be single for that but now im not going anymore because im going to colorado so i think he might ask me out but im really good friends with my ex now and i think my ex actually likes me again because he gets mad every time i talk to the guy i like and i say to my ex.. well why do you care its not like you like me or anything and he said well.. im not sure if i do or not. my ex also calls me every night just to talk.. which i think is a little weird. well if the guy i like does ask me out what should i do because i really wanna go out with him but i dont want him to lose my ex as a friend and i dont wanna lose my ex as a friend either. thanks sorry it was so long (link)
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Hi, if you want to date this guy then go ahead and do it. Just because your ex doesn't want you to, at the end of the day that's what he want's but it's what you want. It sounds as though your ex just doesn't want you dating this guy because he's jelouse or some other reason. That's his problem, he doesn't control what you want and if he's saying that he won't have anything to do with you if you go out with this guy, then he is in away black mailing you. I think he's all for himself and if you want to date this guy then do it. You don't need a friend who tells you what to do anyway. Daniel.
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my boyfriend told me hes in love with me. he looked into my eyes and said it and i think im in love with him too.his friends always tell me that im all he talks about and when im with him he kisses my hand and does the sweetest things and he always says never to let go of him.also he invites me to all his lacrosse games and he ditches his friends just to see me even if its only for 30 minutes...thats a pretty big deal right?when guys are the first ones to say it..they mean it right? or could he have said that because hes afaid of losing me?? (link)
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Hi, it could be either but from the sounds of it, I think he's in love with you. Daniel.
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ok well i just woke up and i cant get the fact out of my head that i me me! is are might be in love or im just like crazy i dont know the difference.?! well lastnight i had a dream he was in it! he was iin my school and we would hang all lthe time there was on part where we like cuddled and i loved it it fellt soooo rite i know i wrote like am i in love b4 but is this reaelly showing that i love him when i can get him out of my head shoud i ask him if he loves me back should isay i love him??? just so you know that we tell eachother everything like if we were acting weird lets say he and i would tell eachother! so am i rreally in love i mean when you cant get them out of your head and wake up at 6 iin the summer time i didnt have to either! so am i i n love or just crazy about him? there is a dif. between those! (link)
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Hi, it doesn't sound like love thats for sure. Daniel.
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hey xxx
basicly im in love with this guy and have been for 2 years now , when we first started speaking to each other on msn we were going 2 meet ( he has camera ) but then we had a bit of a fall out . I couldnt stand speeking to him so i rung him up and he was really happy speeking to me again. Well we have been talking since and he says he really likes me etc etc but the thing is hes 24 im 17 .. he lives in essex i live in luton.. and i dont think tat he really wants a relationhip at the moment but i dont know how long i can wait for him !!
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Hi, if he's not ready then he's not ready. But it doesn't mean that you can't talk to eachother and stuff. Try and keep him as a friend for now because you both live a bit of a distance away and he might find someone he likes around his area in essex. If you keep him as a friend then one day you could both consider moving forward. But usually long distance relationships don't work out. If you two had any plans on building a relationship then you would have to live closer by to him so that you can see eachother on a regular basis and function and do the same things that any couple do in a relationship. Daniel.
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okay this is not about me . well i was friends with this girl and shes going out with a kid that shes in love with and he loves her well anyway i heard that he cheated on her and had sex with other girls [ hes only 14 ] . i told the girl and we started talking as friends again but then the other girl that told me about it got mad at me for telling i mean was it wrong to tell her seeing it was her boyfriend? please help bc i try to exp-lain that it was the right thing to do. thanks♥ (link)
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Hi, you were looking out for her and that proves that you are being a caring friend. There is no wrong in that. Daniel.
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Ok, this could be a little long, so I'm going to apologize for that right away.
Anyways, I was going out with this guy, let's call him C, for almost 2 months. Then I started thinking that I only liked him as a friend && I didn't want to keep going out with him && hurt him later, so I broke up with him.
About 2 weeks after I broke up with C, I found out my friend, M, was going out with him because he asked her out. When I found out, I seriously broke down && cried because him going out with another girl made me realize I still really did like him.
It's summer, so I'm doing OK since I don't have to see him, but when school starts I'm afraid I'll cry when I see him.
I still really love him && whenever I talk to M, she's my friend you know, she always talks about him and it literally breaks my heart. My friend, E, asked C once if he'd ever go back out with me but he never answered. My friend M, the one he's going out with, bounces from guy to guy all the time, but I'm just afraid she won't this time && I'll live with a broken heart.
I really need advice just on what to do. (link)
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Hi, you say that your friend M bounces from one guy to the next. Will maybe she might leave him for another guy. Just hang in there and wait and if you feel as though you've waited a while then just tell him how you actually feel towards him. Daniel.
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this guy really likes me and hes asked me out about 7 times. i dont really know what to do cause he reallt likes me but i dont think i like him. :/ wat should i do to tell him? plz anwser QUICK cause he just asked me out AGAIN!!! (link)
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Hi, just say something like "oh, sorry I can't do it because I'm too busy". If you keep on saying that everytime he asks you, then he should be able to figure it out that your not interested. Daniel.
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Hey everyone.
I recently met a really great guy named Collin about a week ago. Ever since we met, we've hung out together 2 times. He seems amazing & we talk on the phone every night. Problem is he's 23 years old & I'm 16. I know, I know - big problem. It sucks. I never thought my parents would ever make such a big deal out of something, especially age - since they started dating when my dad was 21 & my mom was 16.
Everyone in my family thinks it's a HORRIBLE idea. They all tell me it makes them feel sick that he's even wanting to be around people my age. He's in college & he's an all-around great guy that just seems to be interested in me. We're great when we're together & we don't push things on each other. It's just like a relationship where we have mutual feelings.
I have no idea where to go from this point on. Both of my parents said they don't want me to see him anymore. [I never in a million years thought they would EVER tell me I couldn't see someone.] I know if I sit down & talk to them, and try and change their minds, they may. I just have no idea what to say.
My eldest sister, whose 29 years old is super close to my parents, so she's of course giving her opinions on the situation, and they're all bad, like "She shouldn't see him!" & "I don't want to meet him - he's not coming to my wedding!" & all of those negative things.
Please help.
Although I will want to hear all of the reasons why I shouldn't continue a relationship, please give me some ideas to where I could continue it. I don't think I could end it right now, it just seems way too much for me.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi, I wouldn't say it was a horrible thing myself. You are both young and get on well.
You are old enough now to decide who you want to date and why and your also old enough to think about the consequences of your decisions. Your parents have told you their opinions but the choice is yours. Good reasons for continuing with the relationship are:
1. You like each others qualities
2. You both enjoy each others company
3. You get on really well
4. Your both happy and positive about it
5. You are both getting what you want out of it which is love, friendship and fun and happiness
If you both agree to these 5 things, then why shouldn't you be in the relationship? You are both still young, it's not as though he's 45 and your 17 if you know what I mean. Remember people have opinions negative and positive but it's the decision that counts. Daniel.
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Okay so what is the differene between making out and french kissing? I never knew there was even a difference! If there is ...i need details details details on how to make out and french kissing. Thanks!! (link)
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Hi, french kissing is tongue to tongue stuff, were as making out is more than that like using hands and exploring and being even more intimate. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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do you think getting fingered or giving a handjob is to slutty for a 13 yr old? thanks♥ (link)
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Hi, I wouldn't say it was slutty but I would just think about how old you are and are you ready for this kind of thing. You have still got plenty of time and years ahead of you. Daniel.
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Hey there,
I like this kid. Hes on my swim team, only 2 years older than me, my friends older brother, and his best friend has already hooked up with me. We're good friends. We get along all right and we flirt a bit. he gives me rides to practice and we go out to eat afterwards all the time with friends and his sister. I want to make some sort of move but I dont know what. What kind of move would you want a girl who you're interested in to pull on you? (link)
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Hi, the best intimate move you could do is probaly a kiss. Although just be careful because he might not feel the same way or might get the wrong idea. Daniel.
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short story. i dated this guy in 7th grade (i am now a senior)...
well this boy has started calling me up. we have been hanging out a lot and when he is on the phone he tells all his friends he is with hir girl. but when we are around people he acts diff. well tonight we were together. we had sex then went to his house ( acted a lil shady ) well me and him smoke. we meet up with one of his friends. they where taken me home but meet up with this guy and bought some stuff..well he dude started snorten and then his girl did and then my boyfriend made hold the steering wheel while he snorted. now earlyer tonight he told me he doesn't mess with that stuff. then i asked him before he snorted that if he still does it and said sometimes.
after he snorted it he told me he was sorry that he loved me. he started comforting me cuz he cuz knew i was scared and upset.
((even though he said he loved me. we have been sayin that for years. but i am not the one to tell someone to chose this over me. so it would be hard for me to make him pick between me or coke.))
i need to know what i should say to him or if i should stay with him. i'm just confused outta hell. i'm hurt the he did that infront of me. i just don't know what to do... (link)
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Hi, this is for him to decide. Its either you or coke. If he picks coke over you then he obviousley doesn't love you the way you thought he did. Just ask him why he did that. Give him another chance and if he still hasn't listened then this relationship with you doesn't mean that much to you if he is deciding over coke rather than yourself. Daniel.
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ok my parents r desperately waiting for me to get a girlfriend and always push me to do so. at this momment i just want to be single yet on the other hand i would like someone by my side and would like to be going out. im not sure what to do or how to do it. what should i do? (link)
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Hi, first of all don't let anyone push you into this. How do you personally feel about this idea? Are you willing to give this a try? If your willing to give it a go or feel ready then go for it. But think it out first. If you feel unsure then don't do it. Never do anything that your not sure on. Have a think about it and see how you feel soon. Daniel.
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Ok, I am 15 (female) and i have a bf, we like each other alot. But he seems to be very lazy (he is also 15) It seems like he dosn't ever want to spend time w/ me. Is there anything that i can do to make him feel more comfertable around me. Im not really sure what it is, but it seems like all he ever wants to do is eat, and sleep. I see my friends and thier bf's and they all get along really well. I just kinda wanna get stuck out of this rut. Is there anything that i can do?
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Hi, ask him if theres anything on his mind, only you've noticed these things lately and you don't think your relationship is going that well. Or simply tell him how you feel. It is good to talk with your boyfriend rather than keeping it in. Daniel.
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Ok, Im going to be a junior in High school. Back in 5th grade I had a guy friend that I really really liked. In 6th grade we "went out" And then towards the end of 6th grade he moved. Just this year he found me in the hallway at school and we started talking. Im really nervous around him. I dont really know if I like him as more than just a friend. We exchanged cell numbers just before school was out and I was really hoping that he would call me. Im way too nervous to just call him myself, so please dont suggest that.
Does anyone have any ideas for questions that I could ask him or what to talk about? And if you have any ideas as to how to tell him that I kind of sort of like him, I would appreciate it!
Thanks! (link)
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Hi, first of all say something like "hi" or "hey, how are things? I havn't seen you in a while". Talk about things that you've been doing such as school or ask him questions like "how have things been lately?" or "what have you been up to?". Then at the end say something like "hey, it was great to talk to you again, do you want to hang out sometime?". You should then get an answer. See how that goes. Daniel.
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I have a crush on this guy and he was walking towards me.
As he walked towards me, I swept my bangs sideways by purposely flinging my head to my side a little (but obvious enough for him to see).I didnt like exaggerate my actions to the point where my head turns 360 degrees but the action is kind of obvious for him to see. I did that cos I heard that it's a form of flirting when girls fling their hair back. When he saw me doing that, he just smiled.
I don't know what kind of smile is that. I mean its just a normal smile but I kinda wanna cringe whenever I remembered flinging my head back purposely in front of him. what does he mean by that smile? I feel kind of embarrasssed that I flung my stupid head back and gosh do I regret it sooo!
Can someone pleeeease tell me wat could he have felt? Is he smiling cos he's embarrassed for me? (link)
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Hi, he may have smiled for a number of reasons:
1. He was being friendly
2. He thought you was a nice girl
3. He felt a wee bit emmbarressed
4. He was sort of flirting back by smiling
All I know is that he must of liked you because otherwise he wouldn't have smiled. The smile could have mean't many things. Don't be emmbarressed of what you did. What you did was a bit of flirting and using a sign to show him that you were interested. Daniel.
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