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Q: Hey,

I met this guy the other night, we were all hanging out at my friends apartment. Anyway, I met this guy and we were talking the whole night. I walked to my friends apartment because it was only like 3 blocks away from where I live. As I was telling everyone I was leaving the guy I was talking to said he was walking me back because he didn't think it was right/safe for me to walk back by myself at 2:00 in the morning. (which I thought was very nice of him considering we just met) So once we got back to my place we just started talking and we were talking for about 2 hours. Like really communicating and just talking about a lot of stuff. I felt like we had an instant connection. He asked if he could have my number and I gave it to him. He also asked me if I had a boyfriend. I said that I didn't, and he said "well why not?" and I laughed and said "I don't know." Then he just smiled. As he was getting ready to leave, we hugged goodbye. About 10-20 minutes later I get a text and it was him saying that he was home and that he had a good time tonight and it was nice meeting me. I said that I had a good time too and that it was nice meeting him as well.

Anyway, he friended me on facebook, and I noticed he was in a relationship. :( And now I don't know what to do. I don't want to break him and his girlfriend up because that's is NOT right. But I feel like we had a connection that could lead somewhere.
I really don't know what I'm asking. Haha, I guess I just don't know why he was asking if I was in a relationship/for my number if he has a girlfriend.

I'd rather not have you say he is a player because he wasn't trying to get in my pants or do anything like that.
It seems he has a huge interest in you! The fact that you guys talked all night and felt comfortable with eachother, considering you just met, is great. The whole hair thing..is definitely cute! And is a sign of flirting. I know for a fact, he likes you!

Why'd he ask you if you had a boyfriend?: Because,again, he LIKES you! When a guy is direct and asks right away if you have one..then he definitely is showing an interest. That the simplest way I can explain it to you.

Same goes for asking you for your number. It just means he would like to further his time with you and get to know more about you.

Facebook: I've heard this so many times! It says he's "In A Relationship". There could be many explanations for that.
1) He could've gotten out of a relationship recently and forgot to change it (guy's aren't like girls..they don't update facebook and everything 24/7)
2) He could've simply just forgot!

Honestly, if he added you on facebook..it's common sense that when he added you, you'd look at his profile (Any smart guy would know that, haha). If he had a girlfriend and didn't want you to know, he would've hid that. Since he didn't, I highly doubt he has one. Also, he asked for your number AND walked you home...if he had a girlfriend, again, he'd try and hide it from you.

Why don't I think he has a girlfriend?: You said for me not to think he's a player. So, obviously, you didn't get that vibe from him. If he's a genuine guy and all..he wouldn't have a girlfriend and do all this.

What can you do?: To be 100% sure he doesn't have a girlfriend, ASK! Don't just look at facebook and think he has one right away. Text, call, or hang out with him and simply ask what's on your mind! I'm sure he'll clear it all up for you.


Hope I helped! :)
Good luck. Thankyou for the inbox.
Feel free to ask for anymore advice!

Q: What causes snoring?
And do guys find it unattractive? Haha.. My boyfriend says I snore but its a cute snore ..still embarrased by it I want to stop it !
There's a number of different things that can cause snoring! Instead of typing the whole entire thing out about snoring, and confuse both you and myself (haha), I decided to give you a few sites that will help!:

http://www.galttech.com/research/health/stop-snoring.php
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-causes-snoring.htm
http://howtostopsnoringinfo.com/what-causes-snoring/

http://discoverseduction.com/do-you-need-a-stop-snoring-remedy/
(Snoring remedies^)

Those 4 were the best out of the one's I found.

Do guy's find it unattractive if you snore?:
Honestly, it depends on the guy. But, A LOT of people snore..so, guy's, and pretty much anyone, really don't mind. Unless it's a very loud and annoying snore, which in your case..it's not, obviously! He said it was cute. That's good! :). I understand it can be embarassing..just read the sites I gave you..and they may help. If a guy does care about your snoring and finds it unattractive..then he's not worth your time! As I said before, MANY people snore..including myself, no guy has ever found it unattractive that I've known!

Hope I helped :)!
Good luck!
Feel free to inbox me if you need anymore advice!

Q: is it actually legal, if your over 18 to smoke weed?
Marijuana is illegal everywhere, like the U.S. However, there are some countries that "look the other way" concerning the use of marijuana..like Argentina, Aruba, Australia, Austria, Canada, etc. But! Amsterdam does allow marijuana to be sold to anyone above the age of 18 (So do some other countries). They only allow you to buy in small quantities (5 grams) though.

Q: okaay this is getting baddd.
and to top it all of yesterday i swore i saw at leaat twenty condom commercials in one day. and if thats a sign i'm screwed, oh and i had a dream that his mom walked in on us doing it (his mom works at my school) and the next day i went to school and she suspended me for having sex with her son. baaaaad dream.
okay so last night we were texting again and it turns out he's done it once. now i've told him time and time again that if were not going out NOTHING is going to happen. he clearly doesn't understand. and i've told him that i don't do friends with benefits and he was like well i could be your only one and i was like i dont think so. so we were talking and i he wanted to know something and i wouldn't tell him so he goes just do it come on i mean i already told you i would have sex with you now just tell me something and i was like you would? why? and he goes why not i mean i like you and i just would. and i go well maybe we should stop talking or not be friends because you clearly just want sex and he goes no i still want to be your friend thats more important. and then later we were talking about hanging out and he goes totally, what do you want to do and i go hmm i dunno and he goes :) ill bring a condom and i go oh my jesus and he was like is that a ok ill be waiting? and i go not exactly and i go why do you want me to do it with you so bad and he goes cause i wanna thats why.....its ok i can just not i mean it was an idea thats all and then he goes im just saying im gona kiss you and keep on kissing you and isk what happens from there you can slap me or something but it would be work it (WHAT THE HECK?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??! WHAT DOES HE MEAN IT WILL BE WORTH IT?!?!?! AHHHH) AND AHHH he starting to creep me out and i go can i bring my friend and he goes uhh if you want..... so do i still bring a condom? and i go i already said were not doing it! especially in public! and he goes well lets go to my house and i go fuck that and he goes how about the mall in the dressing room
wow hes fucking stupid.
and i go why do you want ME, i'm nothing special REALLY! and he goes ya you are and i go whatever dont lie to me but seriously why?! and he goes im not lying and cause idk i just want you for some reason.

and that was it because i fell asleep.
but ya i'm screwed and i'm definetly not going ANYWHERE with him ALONE. soooo help?
and btw earlier i had asked him how much he liked me from 1-10 and he goes 7 maybe more.

hes really starting to make me mad.

and please dont tell tell me to stop talking to him or something like that because i really cant, i've tried time after time. and also you've said you can't tell me what to do, but i just want your advice and opinions because its really been helping me and you've been doing a great job(:

so h e l p?
Thankyou! :).

Okayy. Honestly, seeing the commercials and having the dreams don't really mean anything. It's most likely a coincidence. Condom commercials are ALWAYS on! You're just paying more attention to the condom commercials now, because sex was brought up in a recent conversation.
The dream: Again, sex was brought up in a recent conversation..so your dream is just playing off of whatever you're thinking when you fall asleep! Here's a link to a site if you'd like to look up meanings of the dream though: http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/
(Great site!)

I've read through what you wrote twice..and honestly, he's making it very obvious that ALL he wants is sex. He said from a 1-10 he gives you a 7? If he liked you as much as he say's he does..it wouldn't be a 7.

It's very good that you told him you're not interested in the friends with benefits stuff. However, he keeps trying to push the whole sex thing..which, I'm sure, is making you very uncomfortable. Tell him that! Make sure he knows you aren't comfortable with him pushing the whole sex thing. He's basically trying, in a non-force way, to convince you to have sex with him. Why? Because I'm sure he does like you! But, he's a young boy..what is he thinking about when he see's you? "She's a girl, She's hot, I'm horny, I'll do her." Haha. That's the extent of his thinking. And, in his mind you're playing hard to get, so it's VERY possible he just want's to be the guy who actually got you to do it, but that depends because not all guy's think like that. Just remember: Stick to what you believe in!!

Now, when you said "Can I bring a friend?"..he probably thinks that you all are going to have sex..why do I say that? Because he mentioned bringing a condom even after you said that. Which right away shows all he wants is sex.
Remember this: Guy's will tell you ANYTHING they think you want to hear just to have sex with you. Sounds desperate right? Well, that's how they are!

When he was saying he was going to kiss you and everything and you can slap him if he doesn't stop? I'm sorry..but that's weird! What did he mean when he said it'd be worth it? He meant that kissing you would just make him happy. Although, you already know he wants way more than that. "I just want you for some reason.." he wants you sexually, ONLY.

I agree with you on the whole not hanging out with him alone thing. That could cause not only the friendship to end..but it can cause you heartbreak. And even worse, he may even try to force himself on you because obviously this guy wants sex badly. So, be careful and always hang around public places with a bunch of people when/if you're around him. (Mall, Park, School, etc.)

If he keeps asking you to have sex with him..I strongly suggest that you limit your time talking to him, because I know you don't want to stop talking to him. And! I suggest that you make it very clear, even if you have to call him or see him to tell him, and make sure he knows you want a relationship before sex!

Good luck!
Feel free to inbox me to ask me anything else and/or tell me what happens haha.
:)


Q: ahhhhhhhhhh
so much has happened between me and him/:
like last night we were texting all night and i was like are you a virgin? and he didn't answer me but he was like i knew you were gonna ask that! and i'm guessing you had sex with that one guy right (i didn't, long story) wow and you barely knew him, you could have just asked me. and i was like what is that supposed to mean?! and he was like think about it and i was like so now you think i wanna have sex with you?! and he was like i never said that and i was like but do you think that and he was like i dont know do you and i was like do i what? and he was like do you wanna do it and i was with you? and he was like ya and i was like i dont know do you? and he was like if you want [so basically we'll have sex if i want to?! idk] and he was like well just let me know and i was like but we're not even going out so we shouldn't even be talking about this and he was like why and i was like we'll if were not going out NOTHING is going to happen and he was like well what if we were and i was like then its a possibility (but thats only if were going out like a year and stuff WITH NO CHEATING and his longest relationship was about a month) and sooo i was like you never answered my question about being a virgin or not and he goes what do you think and im like im guessing your notttt and he goes idk not really......
then i fell asleep on him

AHHHHHHHHH I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO BECAUSE I STILL LIKE HIM?!?!?!!
halp? once again.
sorry/:
btw im a virgin.
Don't be sorry! I'm here to help :D.

Asking him if he's a virgin is a good idea! Okay so basically..why didn't he answer the question directly? Because, if he is a virgin, most guy's feel "if im a virgin..she won't like me". Because for some reason, guy's feel girls want someone who is experienced and everything..which isn't always the case. So he probably wasn't sure how you'd feel if he IS one. Now if he isn't one, he's not sure how to answer either because he's thinking you may be mad that he's not one and think he's a bad person. However, judging from his answer..he's probably not a virgin and has been with some girls. Hopefully, not too many! Be careful with guy's who have had sex with a lot of girls..you never know what disease they could get from these girls, and then pass it on to you. When he said "im guessing you had sex with that one guy..." he was trying to change the subject. It's possible he felt uncomfortable? Or! He wanted to know if you were a virgin or not before he answered you. I don't like the fact that he said "you could've just asked me.." that's kind of saying "let's just have sex" because he never even mentioned that he wanted to be in a relationship with you in order to have sex. Which is someone you don't want! He's basically hinting that he wants to have sex with you throughout the whole entire conversation. If this does come up in another conversation, set him straight! Make sure he knows you're a virgin and you plan to stay that way until you're in a long-lasting relationship. Otherwise, he'll just think you're a "hook-up". And, since you like him, I'm sure that's not all you want. "i dont know not really.." is basically saying "I'm no virgin". So be careful with this guy..and try and find out his intentions with you.

You're a virgin: That's perfectly fine! That's actually the best thing to be. Virginity is considered basically like a precious gift! Which means, don't give it away to anyone who you don't LOVE! I'm a virgin myself, and I make it a point to tell my boyfriends that I'm not just going to be someone that they could just have sex with and leave. Which, of course, most guy's just want sex at young ages..so, it's hard to find a decent boyfriend haha. But believe me, there are some good ones out there. I was always told from a young age to only have sex when I'M ready and when I, again, LOVE the person. The first person you have sex with is going to be something you remember forever, so please don't waste it.

Overall: This guy is making it pretty known that he wants to have sex with you. I can't tell you what to do..but I strongly suggest sticking to what you believe and not having sex with him unless you guy's are in a long relationship. I understand you like this guy a lot! It doesn't mean you can't flirt with him or anything! But, he's obviously not looking for a long relationship, which is what you want. Don't settle for less than what you want! Even if that means losing someone you like a lot. As I said before, this doesn't mean you guy's can't be really good friends and possibly, when he's more mature in the future and ready for a long relationship, be together. Just TRY it! Don't expect to get over him in a matter of a day..believe me, it won't happen. Maybe try looking around for other guy's if you'd like?

Hope I helped :)
Good luck!
Thankyou for the inbox! Feel free to ask anymore questions you may have :)



Q: OUT OF THESE TWO GIRLS [CHOICE A & B] WHICH ONE IS OVERALL MORE ATTRACTIVE AND WHY? THANK YOU!

CHOICE A:
http://i30.tinypic.com/kyv5e.jpg
http://i31.tinypic.com/2nkuut1.jpg

OR

CHOICE B:
http://i28.tinypic.com/11bn0ci.jpg
http://i26.tinypic.com/20fqqaa.jpg
Choice B.

Why?: Because in my opinion,since you want it based on looks, she's just prettier. The other girl (Choice A) isn't bad looking though. I think she's just more plain than choice B.

Q: i had this big on this really cute guy but then he said he did'nt like me but he acts like infront of everbody he says were just freind on a school trip that i am going on i am in the same room should i have sex
First of all, if he said he didn't like you..that means he doesn't like you. You can't force someone to like you. How do you know he acts like he does? A lot of guy's are very confusing when it comes to knowing if they like you or not.
Signs he likes you: (Got this froma very good site)
1.When a boy likes you he would want to spend more time with you. He wouldn't mind riding a few extra blocks to your home to go to school with you. He may even volunteer to watch Titanic with you despite being a Star Trek fan. If you find a guy doing things he normally would not do, it means that he is ready to do things he does not enjoy just to be able to spend more time with you. This is a sure sign that he likes you.
2.Do you feel that he is looking at you when both of you are in the same room? You have started feeling this way probably because you have caught him looking at you very often. If he looks at you frequently and never misses a chance to flash his pearly whites even when he is with his friends planning the next football practice session, you could safely take this as one of the evident signs that he likes you.
3.A male friend of mine once said 'It's only when you see girls talk that you realize that you don't need to think before talking. You just have to open your mouth and words come out like water gushing out once the gates of a dam have been opened after a heavy downpour.' It's true, not only do we girls love to talk, but we talk a lot! If you are desperately looking for a foolproof test to see if he likes you, then call him and see if he enjoys talking to you. Believe me, if you can make a guy talk for more than 10 minutes over the phone, then it means you scored a brownie point.
4.If you are still wondering how to tell if a guy likes you, look for obvious signs in his body language. When he likes you, he would rarely turn his back towards you. He might lean a little towards you while talking. He may touch your arms or might try to hold your hand. Even when in a group, he would stand beside you or always face you. Where guys fail with their words, they try to make up through physical touch. However, don't be too skeptical. If a guy is genuinely interested in you, he will never cross his limits. If he does, then he is not worth your time.
5.A guy might not talk much but he can surprise you at times by pointing out the minutest change in your appearance. He might compliment you on the different way that you parted your hair even when your best friend might not have noticed it. When a guy likes you, he will be very observant about you. So any slight change in your appearance or even behavior will hardly go unnoticed. This can be one of the telltale signs a man likes you.
6.One of the common tactics that men use to show that they care is to make fun of the woman they like in a light and inoffensive way. He may tease the girl or even call her funny names. Some women may find it strange, but this is the way guys grew up. Haven't you seen the way guys laugh and pull pranks at each other? If he likes you, he will express his interest in the same way that he did with his buddies. This just reflects the level of comfort he has with you.
7.Friends are a great way to find out if a guy likes you. If his friends know that he likes you, they won't be able to keep their mouths shut for long. It might be subtle or quite apparent, but be alert to note if they tease him about you when you are around. You could also find sure signs a guy like you from your friends. Many times guys speak to the friends of the girl he is interested in to know about her likes and dislikes, so that he could impress her at the right moment.
8.A guy who likes you may be the only one in the audience when you are talking about something that was a complete turn-off for the rest of you friends. You may also find him to be the only one laughing at your jokes that others did not find even remotely funny. While some guys may do this to impress you, others may do so because whatever you do or say genuinely interests them. In either case, the guy is trying to tell you that he likes you.
9.If a guy likes you, it will be evident in the way he would treat you. Even if he is a flirt, his words would be more genuine when he talks to you. His compliments to you would be more sincere than those he uses for other girls. He would also be more courteous and attentive towards you than with anyone else.
10.You would know that you have scored a biggie when a guy introduces you to his friends and family. When a guy lets you in to his inner circle it's a sure sign that he likes you. This is one of the final signs that a guy likes you, as he has let you into his private space.

I don't know how all of this led to you wondering if you should have sex? Did he tell you he wanted to? Usually guy's would love to have sex with a girl, however, if he doesn't like you, and he obviously made that clear, then..I really doubt sex should be a question here. But, if he did/does ask..it's all up to you. I don't know how old you are..but, if you're younger than 18..I suggest waiting because I see so many girls who didn't want to wait and regret it every single day. Having sex with someone (and he doesn't like you..) leads to so much heartbreak. In my opinion, maybe try waiting until you have a relationship with someone before you have sex with them. But, again, it's all up to you!

Good Luck! Hope I helped.
Feel free to inbox me with anymore questions you may have :)

Q: i hav a 16 yrold daughter who has been living with me for 2 mth,and she tells me last nite she is 5 months preg.she is a below average student,with out a plan for the future.she wants to keep the baby and i am against it,i have told her my reason.i also told her she cant live with me with a baby.was i to hard on her?
You can't force your daughter to give up the baby. Whether it be abortion or adoption, it's all up to her. Maybe try sitting down with her and start asking her questions on what she is planning to do. Of course, a lot of girls don't want to hear this...but, tell her it's very important to understand how many things she is going to have to give up because she has a child and all. Make sure you ask her what she plans to do as a job to support the baby, ask her about what she's going to do about high school, etc. You basically have to make her understand what's going to happen when she has this baby (prices of the baby, her needing a job, not being able to be a normal teen, etc). A lot of teens just think "oh, well my mom/dad will take care of everything for me so I don't have to do anything.." You have to make sure she understands that the baby is going to be her responsibility.

Were you too hard on her?: I think you were, somewhat. Why? Because honestly, the baby is going to be your grandchild..wouldn't you want to keep them safe? And she's your daughter! She's 16! Take all of this into consideration before you tell her to leave. I know how upset you must be..teen pregnancy is definitely something that should not be happening. I've seen so many girls (and I'm a teen myself) who have had babies at a young age. But remember, she is your daughter and that baby is going to soon be your grandchild. If you let them stay with you, at least you'll know they are both safe.

Here are a few links to sites that may help you out:
http://www.careconfidential.com/MyTeenageDaughterIsPregnant.aspx
http://mydaughterispregnant.com/
http://www.squidoo.com/my-daughter-is-pregnant

Hope I helped!
Good luck.

Q: WEll i'm homeschooled and i need to find some books. I already have science and math but i need books and workbooks for language arts and social studies. Can anybody give me like a list of some books that they know would help me? PLEASE. ANY HELP WOULD BE HIGHLY APPRECIATED. THANK YOU
I know some people who are homeschooled, and I also looked up some sites that have books that may help you out-

Social Studies:
http://www.lamppostpublishing.com/socialstudies.htm
Or:
http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/directory/SocialStudies.htm

Language Arts:
http://www.lamppostpublishing.com/languagearts.htm
Or:
http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/directory/LanguageArts.htm

I also found this site that has a bunch of different books for each course:
http://www.homeschoolingbooks.com/pages/groupresults.asp?TopicGroup=Social%20Studies/History
(Social studies+others)

Hope I helped :) good luck!

Q: School starts the 27 and I've been going to bed at 3 am every day and waking up at 12..to make this short how do I get back into the rhythm of Going to bed like 6 hours earlier??
I have the same exact problem. Of course, my parents tell me just to lay in bed and try to get tired so I'm up in time (my school doesn't start until september though..) Sometimes, that does work. However, for some, it doesn't. Try this:

You can try shutting the computer down, keeping the TV off, and getting rid of any other distractions so that you'll be relaxed. Even if you're not tired, try laying down and closing your eyes. Think of something fun you did this summer or any type of good thoughts..this will turn into a dream, in turn, making you fall asleep. This works for some.

Or try this: You can also heat up milk. Warm milk is proven to help you get tired and fall asleep. My mother did this for me when I was younger, but it still works for me now.

My opinion: Since today is the 25th, try going to bed at 9-10 pm tonight. I know it's going to suck..but it'll probably help. Try anything I just suggested and see if it works. Then! Set your alarm for whatever time you have to usually get up for school. When you wake up at that time the next morning, don't take any naps throughout the day. This will make sure you get to bed earlier, hopefully meaning that your body will be tired enough to fall asleep at the time you want it to. It usually works for me :D.

If those don't work or you just don't like them..I found a site that will help you out:
http://www.wikihow.com/Fall-Asleep

Good luck, have fun on your first day! :)

Q: I need a good place to sit down and talk with my friend. Were in 9th grade so we can't go drive somewhere but what are some general places you can talk to someone with no distraction?
-Park
-Beach
-A random bench somewhere
-Coffee shop (order coffee and/or anything else you want. Then sit down and there will be no distractions. The reason I said a coffe shop was because I always go there to study and I always see others studying their too. You can go to places like Starbucks, Dunkin' Donuts, etc.)

Those are the top 4 places I would go. They're all very quiet and I'm sure you won't have any distractions.

Good luck, Hope I helped! :)

Q: i'm 18 years old and i'm a virgin. i've been seeing this guy for a while and we have done everything except sex. i have done everything except sex with other guys before too, but now i want to actually go further. the only thing is that i'm sure sure if he knows im a virgin or not and i think that is something he should know. i just don't know how to bring up that topic without it being awkward. do you have any ideas of how to bring it up to him? i don't want to just blurt it out ya know? thanks!
Honestly, just come right out and say it!
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. Most guy's even prefer that. You can do what the person below me said to do..or one day when you feel the time is right, and you want to have sex. Just before you do, just flat out tell him you're a virgin. Nothing wrong with it at all :)

Hope I helped!

Q: I am bi sexual and my gf got mad last night because I was drunk and hugged an old guy friend. She got mad and was like how would u feel if I did that to you. But she goes to her exs all the time and I have went there before too because my gfs roomate used to live with her and there kids like the ex but my gf will come back and her ex has bough her cigs or something and is always wantin her to come over and drink usually my gf doesnt but its realy eatin me up and its causing a lot of tension between us what do I do? I dont wanna lose her
First of all, all you did was hug him? Not a big deal.
I can understand it bothers you that her ex always wants to hang out with her. But, it's possible he looks at him and her as being really good friends now. The problem here is all just jealousy.
Sit her down, and TALK! Communcation is the most important thing in a relationship.
Tell her how you feel about her ex. Make sure she knows it bothers you when he always wants to hang out with her. Make sure you explain everything you're feeling though, so she understands.
Then bring up what happend when you were drunk. And explain to her that you feel she always goes to her ex's all the time, and (if this is how you feel) the hugging wasn't a big deal and didn't mean anything. And just tell her you're sorry and you didn't mean to upset her.
I'm sure once you guy's talk, it'll all be fine :)

Good luck, hope I helped!

Q: i still don't know what to do:(
this is so hard.
and i know he equals a heartbreak but so would any other guy. but i forgot some of the stuff he had told me.
he had said that he wanted to go out with me but he wasn't ready and he didn't realiz how much he really liked me until after he fucked up. and he said he loved me a lot as a friend and wanted to someday love me a lot as a girl friend and ugh! i just don't know what to do. i'm stuck and clueless! like part of me wants to just forget about him and the other half of me wantes to give him a second chance. i'm sooo screwed and i'm really bad at following my heart/:
It's okay. These things are always hard!
He said he wasn't ready for a relationship with you at the moment. Which means, the friends option is the best for now. Don't push it, because, he'll hurt you again.
I'm sure he really does like you a lot! And it's good he told you that he realizes what he did was wrong and all. But, again..he's young. This will most likely happen again. I think the smartest thing to do would be to just stay friend and still keep your eyes open for any other nice guy's you may like. I'm not saying forget about this guy. I know it's really hard to do that. I would tell you to wait for him, because you obviously have a lot of feelings for him still. But, that's wrong. You shouldn't wait for anybody. That causes more heartbreak than anything!
So, I'm not going to tell you what to do. It's your choice.
If you'd rather just keep it as friends and move on, then do that! There's nothing wrong with being just friends.
Or, if you'd rather be friends now and wait for this guy to be ready and learn not to cheat, then do that if it's truly what you want. But, I must warn you..I've also been through this before. It's not easy at all. And it doesn't always mean the feelings will stay, that's why waiting for someone is so risky.

If I were you in this situation: I'd tell him that you both can remain friends for now. I would, if the option came up, date other people. And hey, if you're single one day..and he is too (and he's changed) then why not go for it?!

Just please, if you really want to be with him, wait until you are 100% sure he will remain faithful to you!

Here's a few links that may help you out. It's basically all about "Should I take him back?":
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090821173606AA7ZGS8
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlecosmo.aspx?cp-documentid=11839418
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/33695

Good luck, Hope I helped :).
Feel free to inbox me if you need anymore advice!

Q: hi!
the answer you left me was good(:
well two nights ago guess what happened?
he called me.
yep! he said his phone has been jacked up and he never blocked my number ( i think i believe him )
and oh geez he apologized sooo many times! it was unbelievable. and i was like i don't know what to say and he was like you don't have to say anything i'm sorry(x1000) and he was like i should be buying you presents and taking you places. (wtf??) ha so he said he was crying over that. and he wanted to know if we could at least be friend and he said if not he would ball. and theres this other girl he's been in love with forever and he said he would rather lose her than me. and he said i was the nicest, sweetest girl he has ever met. i don't know what to do! i mean i think i still like him/: unfortunatly and im thinking its either gonna have to be:

okay, we can be friends but if you think were ever gonna be more than that, your wrong.
OR
okay, we can be friends but if you think were ever gonna be more than that your gonna have to work suuuuper hard.

eh this is so hard!!!!!

help?

Hi again! haha. Thankyou :).

Okay well! The whole phone thing..I would believe him too..because it is 100% possible his phone could just suck! I've been in the same situations with people and that's usually the case.

It's good he finally called you and apologized. You deserve that. Guy's, especially when they do stuff wrong and get caught, apologize like there's no tommorow because they feel guilty! I'm not saying he doesn't feel bad at all, because I'm sure he does. But, he's cheatied on another girl in the past..so this may be something he's used to. Due to everything that you've said about this guy..there's just still things about him I'd be careful about:
1)He obviously can't be faithful.
2)You can't trust him.
And 3) Being with him = Heartbreak.

I know it sucks, believe me..I've been in these situations all the time! He'll definitely mature and possibly change eventually..but, right now in his life, he is too intersted in seeing what's out there to just be with ONE girl. It's sad how these boy's act..

It is very nice he said you're the nicest and sweetest girl he had ever met. And I'm sure he does think you're both of those things!..but, I must warn you..it is very possible he just said it out of guilt. Guy's will do anything to get rid of their guilt. It's extremely understandable that you still like this guy. These type of things just don't go away. As I said in my last answer, the relationship ended so fast..you didn't get answers, you weren't told why he did it, you basically weren't told anything! In relationships, sometimes you need the "closure" after a break up. For example, I had a boyfriend for a few months, we ended up having a HUGE fight..and ended on bad terms. It turns out he cheated on me and lied about a lot..I never even knew. He basically ignored me after the break up. I never got answers..so basically I never got my closure. Which leads to me, every so often, wondering what went wrong and to me thinking about him.
Why is closure important to some people? It "set's you free" so to speak. It basically let's you know what went wrong so the relationship and the guy don't linger in your head. Not everyone needs this though. How can you get this? It's up to you. I'm not telling you to, because, it's all your choice! I just figure this may help you feel better about it all. You can get closure by just simply asking him why he did it. I can't guarantee he'll give you an honest answer or even answer you..but it may help. Just an idea :).

Overall, I strongly suggest you pick the "Okay, we can be friends.. but if you think we're ever going to be more than that, you're wrong". Why? Because being with him will cause more heartbreak which I don't think you want. This guy obviously needs to, for some reason, be with more than one girl. He'll change eventually hopefully, but not anytime soon. I know it's going to be hard, but some things in life are hard to do. So, just be friends! You need to find a much nicer, faithful, guy. Believe me, there are some out there. Don't waste your time. But again..it's all up to you!

Good Luck.
Hope I helped :)
Thankyou for the inbox! Feel free to ask anymore advice!
:)

Q: so i'm new at this school and im beginning to like this guy. i see him every day in one of my classes. the thing is im kind of confused about him and i never really got the chance to talk to him. i started to notice him the first time we had class together and i think he realised that because at the end of class he kind of checked me out before he left. he sits infront of me and yesterday he turned around about 3 or 4 times during class to look at me, i always blushed and looked away and so did he when he saw me looking.
but then when class ends i always try to get closer to him to talk to him but he always walks by me ignoring me not even seeing me. same thing today, during class he turned around twice but ignored me outside class. and later on when school finished he was at the front door, about to leave but he turned around again to look at me and then left. i thought it was really cute so i smiled at him but he didnt smile back cause he didnt see it fast enough. and i know hes really shy and quiet and it seems to me like he didnt have lots of experience with girls. he's a little emo-ish but still talks to all the other groups so i dont think i have to be emo to be liked by him. i do think that he noticed me because i know im pretty etc but i dont know what to do. then again ive only been at this school for one week haha. any tips? (:
I'll give you a few tips to help you out with this guy :).

Tips on how to get him to notice you more:
-Smile and make eye contact!(You site behind him..so this will probably be easy. Just make eye contact and smile at him when he turns.)
-Establish communication (Say hi to him! Don't be shy. You even said yourself that you think he's a little shy. So, be the first one to just start the conversation)
-Become friends with him. (It will get you noticed and this often can lead to a serious relationship)
-And finally! Get to know him better. (When you do start talking to him, eventually, start finding out things about him! Ask him questions based on what you already know about him. However, I'm sure that's not much. So..just ask him the simple things first. Guy's don't like being asked TOO many questions. But, I'm sure they don't mind some. For example, ask him what his hobbies are, or his favorite things to do, what kind of music he likes,etc. Maybe even try doing some of the stuff he likes with him! Make sure you also add in some of your experiences that relates to what he's saying. What I mean is..if he say's he likes to swim or something..if you like doing similar things, tell him! This will make for good conversation and for you both to get to know eachother.)

Yes, it is true..the first thing a guy notices is how you look. However, you said you're pretty and new to the school, so it's possible that's why he's looking at you. But, of course, I don't know him so I wouldn't know how he is with girls. The only way you can truly find out if he likes you is to get to know him. I'm sure once you do all this, you'll figure it out. It does seem like he does have an interest though, especially because he turns often to look at you. I'm sure it'll all go great!

Here's a link to a site that may help you figure out if he likes you:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_can_you_tell_if_a_girl_or_a_guy_likes_you

Good luck, Hope I helped :)

Q: anyone have a good book?
i dont like anything dealing with murder unless its like awesome!
something like adventurous and funny and keeps you on your feet.
thank you!
I know many great books :). I have a favorite that you'd probably like though.

Of Mice and Men- By: John Steinbeck.
Both a book and a movie. I read this book when I was in 9th grade. It's basically about two guys named George, who is very talented and smart, but put's down people often. And Lennie, who is very kind but has limited mental abilities. The story takes place during the Great Depression. They are farm workers who go to Soledad (California) and work on farms. They were escaping from the last town they worked in because, since Lennie likes anything that's soft, he tried to touch a woman's dress and was accused of rape. Which leads to George always protectiong Lennie throughout the book. They hope, by working on new farms, to one day attain their shared dream of settling down on their own piece of land. Lennie just wants rabbits. Overall, throughout the book they basically try to work on farms, without getting in trouble because of Lennie. They make new friends, try to live normal lives, and try to make their dreams come true. It can be very upsetting towards the end. I will tell you that their are deaths that do happen in the book (which is what's upsetting). It's not a horrible book though. There's no murdering. It can actually be quite funny. And, believe me, it is very adventerous. It's just a lovely book. It's a personal favorite. I know you'd love it :).

Here's a link so you can check it out at barnesandnoble.com!:
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Of-Mice-and-Men/John-Steinbeck/e/9780140177398/?itm=1&usri=1

Hope I helped :). Enjoy!






Q: So I havent been married very long, and my husband knows I hate liers, cheaters, etc. well he lied to me about something. He paied off a house one time and told me he lets his friend live there with her kids. she pays rent the money goes into his sons bank acocunt. well none of its true. he had a house. he gave it away.. why no idea. so heres the problem. how to i know he isnt lieing about other stuff. i am upset about the factg how do i know i can trust him? i dont care about some dumb house.
Guy's lie about random stupid things! Why? No idea! They have a problem with just being truthful. I've had so many guys lie to me. Boyfriends, Brother, even my own Father. No matter what guy, they just have to lie.

Talk to him, tell him how you feel about it and just mention how he should know you HATE liars and cheaters (etc). You have to make him understand that. Communication is #1 in a relationship.

How can you rebuild your trust?: Here's a link to a site that may help you out with that-
http://marriage.about.com/cs/trustissues/ht/rebuildtrust.htm

All you can do is TRY! it's going to take some time to be able to trust him. But, if you truly love him and all..it'll be fine. Just talk to him and read the site I gave you.

I hope everything works out!
Good luck :)


Q: nineteen, female.

the other night me and my crush were just talking and i was laying down on the floor and he was sitting on the couch. i was really sore and i was trying to stretch my leg so i was like, can you stretch my leg for me?

you know when you lay on your back and put one of your legs up straight and then someone pushes them back, stretching your leg? yahhh thats what we were doing and he was like "you're not very flexible"

and i was kind of embarassed because we have talked about having sex before and i know its sort of a "turn on" if a girl is really flexible and i'm NOT.

is this true? he didn't say anything else after thats all he said. butttt i was just wondering if its something i should be worried about
Guy's do find it as a turn on. If he doesn't like you because you aren't that flexible..then he's not worth it. Just stretch your muscles everyday and eventually you'll be a lot more flexible. Honestly though, I really doubt your flexibility bothered him much. Yes, its a turn on, but guy's are just happy getting sex. I don't think they care THAT much about it haha.

Why did he stop talking? He probably just ran out of things to say! GUy's aren't known to be too talkative.
It's okay, just talk to him and hang out with him like usual. Believe me, he's not judging you on flexibility!

Here's a link to a site that may help you:
http://www.ask.com/questions-about/Flexible-Girls

Good luck, Hope I helped :)

Q: ok, i know this is really not a lot of info, but i'm going crazy for this song. its a hip hop/rap song, it's either by t-pain, or it's featuring him, especially in the chorus. it's on the radio so i'm assuming its kinda new. it's upbeat like a fun dance song, does he have a new song out? i cant remember the lyrics, and i looked through the itunes downloads, but i dont see anything that could be it. does anyone have any idea of songs that just came out that are by him or featuring him?
It's probably Trophy Girl by A.B. Ft. T-Pain.

That's the newest haha.

However, if I'm wrong..here's where I found his songs..
http://www.myspace.com/tpain


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