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Yes, I am aware that the most likely answer is that I am pregnant, but I thought I would ask: is your breasts are making a smell like milk but you aren't expressing any milk and nothing is leaking then could this be a sign of pregnancy?
Thank you!
I am sure that by now you know the answer to whether or not you are pregnant. This would not be a symptom of pregnancy. I assume that you have had a child before if you know the smell of breastmilk? It really doesn't have much of an odor to it. First, I wouldn't be worried about the smell at all. If you are looking for signs of pregnancy, you should look for other ones (but you should know that by now...)
ok so i'm really embarrassed to ask this but i've got this dangly thing kind of beside my vagina. it's attached to my labia but i can't feel it or anything.And it's not like that on the other side...i really hate it...is this normal or not?
It sounds like a "tag". I am assuming that you were born with it? As long as you have ruled out disease (genital warts or something like that), I don't think you have anything to be concerned about. If it really bothers you, you could look into having it removed. I know that many doctors will remove it after you have a baby... while your butt is numb and they are stitching you up. It is a very simple procedure for most women and doesn't hurt anymore than the hurt from having the baby. It is pretty common and no big deal. If it really bothers you, go see a doctor about getting it removed.
Ok...I am a 22 yr old parent of two young children. I live next to my parents. Trying to move to Tennessee. I am a full time college student also... My dad is 50 and acting like 20. My parents are getting a divorce soon, dad brings his other girl to my house all the time, I have said I dont want to get in the middle of things. I dont really talk to my mom anymore b/c she thinks I am on my dads side. He wont tell her he is seeing someone else. My dad has alot of medical problems. Well mom wont pay insurance and he has to wait for disbilitly check to come in to help out. Now he has no insurance, I feel like my mom doesnt want anything to do with me, my dad is doing his own thing. I feel traped. Like I cant move away, that I need to stay and try to help him. Why am I feeling this way??? I want to leave and start over with no drama. I love my parents both so much. I dont know what to do anymore.
It sounds like you are a very sweet and loving person. They should feel very proud of you. It is natural for children of any age to try to protect their parents. For example I have known children, whose parents are physically abusing them, to protect their parents from getting in trouble. You are an adult now, with a family of your own, and you have the responsibility to protect yourself and your children. You don't want your children growing up in that environment and learning that all of that "drama" is normal and okay. You could either put your foot down and tell your dad that he cannot bring his new girl over to your house anymore... or you could move away where you will be able to make a fresh start. Your parents are capable of taking care of themselves. It is not your responsibility to handle their problems. If it were me, I would just move away so that I wouldn't be tempted to get "sucked into" that drama anymore. But you need to decide what is best for YOU and YOUR KIDS!! Good Luck!
Should I invite my family to my sweet 16? Well of course my mom's invited 'cause she planned the whole thing. I have a 7-year old sister and her dad who I really don't like. I have an aunt, her boyfriend and an uncle. Should I have to invite all of them? Its just an ordinary party. Sweet 16s are not really a super big deal where I'm from.:) Thanks. xo
Family problems get complicated. There are two ways to look at it: 1) It is YOUR birthday and you should be able to invite who YOU want. 2) This is your family and there will be some hurt feelings if certain people aren't invited. Unfortunately, you might cause life long hard feelings within the family if you leave certain family members out. You may not care now, but someday you might. Also, you are not the only person who would have to deal with the "fall outs" that may happen when they find out they weren't invited. Your mom would also have to deal with them. I think you should talk to your mom about who to invite or who not to. Remember, it might be easier to avoid certain people at your party than to have to avoid their hurt feelings the rest of your life.
i have really bad breath, people can smell it for like 2 metres. what is wrong with me? i eat healthy, try to floss, use mouth wash and clean my teeth but it doesnt work! What could be causing this and how do i stop it? :(
This usually has to do with an intolerance to milk or dairy products, such as cheese and ice cream, etc. You need to STOP eating these things. You will notice a HUGE difference in your breath when you do.
im a 16 year old girl and recently got in trouble for sneaking out of my fathers house. I went to hang out with a really good friend of mine...when we were hanging out my dad called his cell phone...my friend immediatly took me back to my street...when i walked up to my drive-way there was a cop sitting in it...i walked inside to see my step-mom, father, and lee county sheriff. The cop left...and the lecture began...but it was my step-mother yelling...my father just kind of stood there. So i was told to pack my things and get ready to go back to my moms house...then my step-mom called my friend(kyle) nd yelled at him and told him to get back over to my house...before he arrived 2 lee county sheriffs showed up...after they questioned kyle they let him go...nd i returned inside...my stp-mother said that i would not be returning to their house...i went home the next morning after church...a few days later my mother was talking to my father on the phone...he then said the same thing my step-mom had said..."she's never coming over again" Now hearing it from my sob step-mom is one thing...but hearing it from my dad is different...im his only blood related child nd his "little girl" nd he turned his back on me for breaking one rule at his house! i have never done anything like this at his house before...but for him to basically shun me cut deep. I havent spoken to him since sunday which has been almost a week...my father usually calls me 2-3 times every 4 days...i have not received one phone call...i love my dad soo much...but i dont know how to deal with the fact that he doesnt want to be in contact with me...please help...i need my father in my life!
Everyone makes mistakes and does things that they wish they hadn't done. I am sure this is one of those for you. I can tell you that with time, the harsh feelings will soften. You scared them to death by doing that. If your dad will answer your calls, you should ask him if he will meet you somewhere for lunch or something (or just talk over the phone). Tell him that you want to talk to him and apologize. Tell him how much he means to you and how important he is in your life. You can't take away what was done... but a heartfelt apology can go a long way. Parents also really love hearing how you feel and hearing that you appreciate them. If he won't answer your calls yet (he may just need to calm down a bit more), you could try writing him a letter. Sometimes it is easier to express yourself in writing anyway. If he is used to being so close to you, it is probably eating away at him to NOT talk to you, too. Just remember... parents are just people and no one is perfect. Don't worry... it sounds like he loves you very much and you will get him back soon!
i am a 17 year old female. I have recently been considering emancipation. My home life is decent finacially but as faras the relationship my mother and i have, it isnt the greatest. Shes an alcholic and is currently trying to get herself straight. She has never been a good parent. Ive been pretty much raised by my grandmother. She often lashes out at me for no reason and in always blaming me for alot. She accuses me of lieing all the time. She calls me names, and im tired of the abuse. I know you have to provide proof that you are able to tke care of yourself. I was wonder if anyone could help me out with the steps of doing that.
I think the process of emancipation is different in each State. I don't know where you live. You could Google the process in hyour state, if you haven't already. It IS possible to do at your age... but it is quite a process. I know that you have to file for it (fill out some paperwork and sent it to the court house... then a judge will decide). I know that you have to show proof that you are financially able to support yourself.
The other person that answered you had a good point, though... you are SO close to the legal age of 18. I would think that by the time you get yourself emancipated, you would probably be 18 or at least very close. It might not be worth the effort at this point. It might be better to just avoid your mother by being involved in a lot of activities or friends... or even school work at the library until you are legal and can move out.
In the mean time you could also work, save money and map out a plan for what you will do and where you will go once you are "free". If you haven't already, you need to make sure you have a place to live (and not just a friend... you need to be able to support yourself since you can't always rely on others)
It's a shame that you have to go through that. I hope that this will serve to make you a stronger person and capable of making better decisions than your mother has. Good luck! I would love to hear how this turns out for you.
so im surrounded by people who cause problems in my life who are very difficult to talk to soooo....who should i talk to when there is no body to talk to??
It would be impossible to get away from EVERYONE in your life that is causing you problems. Your goal might be to change the way you interact with them... but that is a different topic, I guess.
It sounds like you need a fresh start with fresh people. You obviously can't just pick up and leave everything for a new start somewhere else (though maybe it feels like you want to?) I would suggest starting small.
Could you join a new group somewhere (take a class through the REC center in your town, perhaps, for whatever you are interested in) or start volunteering to do something for someone. Figure out what you like to do... maybe you could volunteer to walk someone's dog or even go to a pet shelter to help out? You could go to a senior center (nursing home) to vounteer. It doesn't always take a lot of time... even if you just have an hour, once a week... you could make a fresh start with someone. Start with ONE person that you like spending time with and talking to.
It might sound scary if you are kind of shy (I know I am... I get shaky at the thought of starting something new. I have found, though, that once you start it isn't as bad as you thought. I just started delivering meals on wheels in my town one day a week. I was very nervous. I just did the deliveries for the first time today. It was actually fun.). The key is finding something that you like to do and then finding just one person that you like.
Good luck!
Is it horrible for me to hate my sister?
We have never really gotten along before. I am 21 and she is 19. We have both had very different up bringings. I was raised by my grandparents and she was raised by my mother.
She is a very attention seeking person and will do what others tell her or do or say things to fit in a crowd.. She doesn't work, throws in all her jobs because she doesn't want to work.
She has very minor 'operations' (its just like having a pap smear) and writes it all over face book for everyone to see. She never even finished school.
where as I, I have always worked since I finished year 12. In good jobs to, first in a lawyers office now in a doctors surgery. I have also studied through TAFE.
My grandfather who raised me passed away suddenly in August. He was only 58 and was never sick before, he suffered from a stroke and was in a coma for 30days before passing.
Now the problem is my sister is putting all over face book that she 'misses and loves her poppy' Um hello... she never had anything to do with him for 4 years!!! Every time our parents told her she had to come to nanna and pops house she would make herself vomit so she didn't have to go.
She's never really had anything to do with me before either. This isn't the only things that are contributing to my feelings of hate towards her.
Should I confront her and tell her that I wont don't want anything to do with her anymore and that she should stop writing things about my pop whom she's had nothing to do with for 4 years? Other wise i'm going to end up doing something childish that I will regret!
Thank you
I think it is okay for you to not like your sister. We can't chose our family. Most family members at least have things in common because they grew up together. Since you two didn't even grow up together, you don't even have that.
The other thing you have to remember is that you cannot control another person's behavior. You can only control your reaction to it. So by confronting her and "telling her to stop" whatever it is that upsets you, you will only make her mad. It won't solve any problems.
Try to look at it from her point of view... She may be jealous of you for some reason and is seeking the attention that she felt like she was lacking before? It doesn't sound like she is purposely trying to sabotage you in any way?
It doesn't sound like you want a relationship with her right now in your life. I think that is okay. A relationship with anyone isn't fun if its forced. While I don't think you should confront her and tell her what she is doing wrong (because it wouldn't help anything), I think it would be appropriate to tell her that you need some space right now. Tell her that you feel frustrated and need some time to yourself. If she asks why, you could tell her how YOU are feeling (NOT what she is doing), but do it in a calm fashion. Don't let her have the control to take away your happiness.
how do i get rid of arm fat/flab?
There are two things that are important to attain your goal, in my experience:
1.) Weight training to build muscle tone
2.) Running!!!!
Let me explain... you can build muscle all you want, but you aren't going to see it unless you get rid of the extra fat. Cardio exercises (running is the best) are wonderful for burning fat!
Build up slowly and work up to running a few miles a day. Then, do several different types of arm exercises using free weights or machines. A good work-out is about one and a half hours long. It keeps the heart rate up long enough to really work. Do this 3 to 4 times a week at least and you will start to see results!
i am 16.My friend lives 10 minutes away from me. we both want to start excersiseing after school together three days a week at her house. My friends mom thinks its a good idea and has even offered to drive me home sometimes. i told my mom about and instantly she said no. Shes always making comments about me being overweight but whenever i try to do something about it she is always my obstacle. Like what the hell does she want me to do? what do i do?
Sometimes parents have a reason for saying no that you don't understand. Perhaps she doesn't quite trust this friend or doesn't trust that you just want to exercise? Is it possible to approach your mother very respectfully and ask her what her feelings are about this subject? Maybe you could say something like, "Mom, I know that you want to see me take better care of my body. I feel like I want to start doing that by exercising a few days a week. It is important to me to have someone to work out with to use as a support system. I know you don't want me to go to __________'s house to do that. Would it be okay if __________ comes here instead?"
Maybe if she knew that you were really serious about the exercising, she would reconsider? You could even ask her to work out with you? You may not think that she is the ideal "work-out buddy"... but 1) it could be the start of a different relationship with her... which could help your cause, and 2) she may eventually want you to give her a break and, therefore, let you you do it with a friend instead.
I've been taking YAZ for about 2 years now and I haven't had any bad side effects. However, reading about the lawsuits against YAZ and it's possible side effects scares me.
What other brands of birth control pills are good?
Birth Control is a very personal choice and we all make different choices for different reasons.
I, personally, love the Nuvaring. Many people feel uncomfortable with the application part and taking it out because you have to literally put your fingers inside of you vagina to do both of those things. But if you are okay with your fingers being in there, it is pretty fool-proof. You can't feel it once it is in (and your partner usually can't feel it either during sex). It can't come out on its own. The chemicals in it work locally or just in that area. That is great because you don't have chemicals running throughout your whole body. Last, it is really nice to only have to think about it once a month! It is equally effective to the Pill.
I skipped a period last month and this month when I got my period it is brown blood. From what I understand, my skipped period was due to dehydration. Is it possible that this is blood that has been sitting in my uterus (or whatever) so it's brown with age? Not a medical emergency, just curiosity. Thanks.
This seems like an obvious question... Could you be pregnant? It is not uncommon to have a small amount of brownish discharge at the very beginning of pregnancy. They usually call this "implantation bleeding". That means that when the fertilized egg implants into the uterine wall, it can cause a small amount of bleeding. There can also be a lot of cramping during this period of time. You were right about the brown blood being old blood. If it is brown it means that the bleeding stopped but now the old blood has to come out.
There are a lot of other things that would cause a missed period or an abnormal period. There are too many to list here, but you would have to be VERY severely dehydrated for that to be the cause. I doubt that it was. (Being that dehydrated is SO bad for your body. Do I have to say "shame on you?" :-) )
First, make sure you are not pregnant. Then, make sure that you don't have an infection in there. A simple yeast infection, if left untreated, could cause this problem. Assuming that everything checks out okay, you could wait it out a couple months and see if it "fixes itself". Your body should "self-regulate". If it does not fix itself in a couple months then I would recommend seeing a doctor.
I can't say good-bye, though, without nagging about how important it is to take care of yourself! Please drink a lot of water and eat healthy foods! Okay, enough nagging! :-)
I really need ideas for Youtube videos and tutorials!! help me!
Go to a public place and start randomly asking people "Are you smarter than a Fifth grader" questions. It is always humorous to see how people answer those!
You could do a whole series of these "episodes" because there are so many types of questions that you could do!
I have to babysit my little brother whos 10 what else can he do but sit around all day.
Maybe you could go for a bike ride with him or take him to a skate park if he likes to skateboard. You might offer for him to bring a friend if that's an option. He might like to go to the movies. He might like to play a board game with you or you could sketch some drawings with him. You could also play catch with him in the backyard or the park.
I'm 5'7'' and weigh 127 pounds. According to height and weight charts i'm considered a small frame, but compared to others around me about the same height, i feel i weigh more. I'm going to Florida in a few weeks with people and would like to have a better stomach. Suggestions?
I know i need to eat better and exercise but i'm looking for like a daily schedule as far as eating and exercising.
The best thing that you can do to flatten your tummy is RUNNING! Start slow if you are not used to running or else you will injure yourself. Then if you get injured you will be out and won't be able to run at all for awhile.
Diet is important but you need to eat a balanced diet. Don't cut the carbs. Write down everything that you eat and look up the calories. It doesn't sound like you need to lose any weight... just tone up, right? So you want to consume the same amount of calories that you spend. If you are running a couple miles a day, you should be able to consume 2500 to 3000 calories per day (assuming you are moderately active the rest of the day too).
So, you could do lots more than just running if you want to build muscle tone everywhere. But to keep it simple... watch your calories, eat a healhty, balanced diet, and RUN!
Good luck!