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What do I with myself???
Ok...I am a 22 yr old parent of two young children. I live next to my parents. Trying to move to Tennessee. I am a full time college student also... My dad is 50 and acting like 20. My parents are getting a divorce soon, dad brings his other girl to my house all the time, I have said I dont want to get in the middle of things. I dont really talk to my mom anymore b/c she thinks I am on my dads side. He wont tell her he is seeing someone else. My dad has alot of medical problems. Well mom wont pay insurance and he has to wait for disbilitly check to come in to help out. Now he has no insurance, I feel like my mom doesnt want anything to do with me, my dad is doing his own thing. I feel traped. Like I cant move away, that I need to stay and try to help him. Why am I feeling this way??? I want to leave and start over with no drama. I love my parents both so much. I dont know what to do anymore.
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It sounds like you are a very sweet and loving person. They should feel very proud of you. It is natural for children of any age to try to protect their parents. For example I have known children, whose parents are physically abusing them, to protect their parents from getting in trouble. You are an adult now, with a family of your own, and you have the responsibility to protect yourself and your children. You don't want your children growing up in that environment and learning that all of that "drama" is normal and okay. You could either put your foot down and tell your dad that he cannot bring his new girl over to your house anymore... or you could move away where you will be able to make a fresh start. Your parents are capable of taking care of themselves. It is not your responsibility to handle their problems. If it were me, I would just move away so that I wouldn't be tempted to get "sucked into" that drama anymore. But you need to decide what is best for YOU and YOUR KIDS!! Good Luck!
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Well i know how it feels to be trapped. My parents fight a lot and they never divorce. It's not like your situation but i know how you feel. Talk to your mom and try to reason with her. Tell your dad you don't like his lifestyle and make him come clean to your mother. Then if that doesn't work...just move away. My dads a diabetic and he is 68 :| he never takes care of himself so i have to. I'm only 15. But your 22 and you have two young children to take care of. They are your main priority. So make sure they are safe, well educated and most of all happy. Your parents should be old enough to discuss their own problems and deal with there medical problems.
Hope i helped.
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