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A year and a half ago I moved out of my mother's home. She was a terrible mother towards me, she used to force feed me junk food to purposely make me gain weight (I was an overweight child) so she could torture me mentally and say I was abnormal and fat and different. She used to hit me up until I was 16 when I moved out to my Dad's, and she used other ways of torturing me both mentally and physically, including constant death threats and making me feel small and encouraging me to commit suicide during a dark depression when I went up to her for a hug.
She also used to use all of Dad's child support money on drugs and when she couldn't get her fix she'd hit me when I was a small child and I wouldn't eat until she begged my father to give her more money.
She also once spent a year's worth of child support on a car.
She's okay towards me now. She buys me all the things I NEED and clothes and she's bought me a laptop and other things I need. She also takes me to the doctor when I need to be taken and when Dad can't take me, and we go out for dinner every Sunday night.
My Mum is friendless. So now she sees me more of a friend than a daughter, and she's been telling me things...
One was that she used to work in a brothel. She told me she worked as a 'receptionist' but she gave me a small hint that told me she was a prostitute.
Another, was that she used to have affairs with married men. She wasn't even sorry about this, she laughed and said the men's wife's deserved it 'because they were ugly'
I told my Dad about all of this yesterday. He was disgusted and is going to be having a 'talk' with her for telling me. When he found out she had been a hooker (He never knew during his and my mum's relationship, this was after he kicked her out of the house) he and my mum agreed to never tell me. It was the family secret, she had begged every member of my family to never tell me.
He also told me about the affairs she had. He and her only spoke about it once, but apparently she used to always dump her perfume over the wife's pillows (She used to have sex in the marital bed...) so the husband would get into trouble.
She also went back to her hooker days when I was a child, after Dad kicked her out of the house and when she spent all her welfare money PLUS the extra large amount of child support my father gave her. She also slept with a lonely old man and he bought her a house plus is leaving all of his inheritance to her. And she's slept with taxi drivers to get out of paying the fare.
I always knew my 2 cousins plus a few of my aunties were hookers (yep, runs in the family) but I never knew she was one too until a few days ago. I always had a feeling, but it was never confirmed.
Now, the question is, do I still speak to this whore? I forgave her for everything she did to me as a child, she still denies it to this day that she ever abused me and calls me a liar, but I let it all go.
My sister (as I said before she has a different mother) said what she did in her past doesn't matter, but my mother should not be telling me these things.
Dad also said I should still speak to my mother because once again, it's all in the past. Even though she has been a hooker during my lifetime, none of it has been 'confirmed' but as I said, old guy bought her the house and there have been guys around and extra money, and times where I've been dumped at friend's houses unexpectantly.
So I don't know what to do. On one hand she's my mother, and she's been caring so much for me lately and has been doing so many positive things for me, and shown me support, and she's said I'm the only person there for her (as I said she has no friends and doesn't speak to family)
But on the other hand, she's led a lifestyle I find absolutely disgusting. If it were anyone else I'd cut off ties immediately. I'm so ashamed to be her daughter - I'm a hooker's daughter. I feel disgusted and right now I just want to throw up and cry at the same time. She's also had affairs with married men as I said, and she sees NOTHING wrong with it.
What the hell do I do? She doesn't know that I know the full story behind her being a prostitute, she told me the same story she told my father, and like my father, I found out she was a hooker from someone else. Should I just pretend I never found out, or do I confront her?
I'm so disgusted and angry. I'm a hooker's daughter. I'm so angry at her for making me that. (link)
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confront your mom and tell her that you know even though it may be hard like nike says just do it.
you may want to go to a therapist.
Jeremiah 29:11
for i know the plans i have for you plans to give you a hope and a future plan to prosper you and not to harm you.
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what are some excuses to say when someone asks you were you bought something and you don't want to tell them? (link)
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dont tell them it was a gift because then they are going to say ask the person that got it for you and then everyday they ask you you will have to say idk.
So thats not a good idea. You should say you got it online or you can throw them off subject by saying oh your hair is really pretty or something like you should go to this store they have really cute tops
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so i have curly hair and i went to the salon the other day and the lady cut my hair to short. i guess she didnt realize how much it would curl up. so now i have a little patch of curly hair on one side of my face ive straightened it but it look funny. does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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well.... you could but extensions on your bangs or
you can just make a new trend but if i were you i would just stick with my first idea
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