hey there, I'm Lauren.
i have amazing friends who i love.
especially my best friend taylor. he's the bomb.
i love answering advice, so ask me a question some day.
i love dealing with other people's problems so i'm not focused on my own.
i dont usually have problems with people; i'm generally a nice person.
i'll probably like you.
xx Lauren
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hey ok well..i really need several opinions on whats going on with me!! so like back in the beginning of october/end of september(?) my b/f broke up with me. and i was really broken up..i wasnt even ready to go with anyone for a long time. i really liked him, and he really liked me too but we broke it off because we dont live in the same place and it was getting hard. so about the first of the year i finally hooked up with a guy i'd been liking and who'd liked me for a long time. we've been together for 10 weeks and i love him to death and he does to me too..but lately i've been having a problem.well my ex b/f i dont know what it is but absolutely everything about him bugs me to no end! like not only the things that would bug any ex g/f, but also things like how he is so nice and his eyes are so pretty and really really blue. his name even bugs me. and the most annoying thing is that there is no real reason that he bugs me. then all the sudden lately i cannot get him out of my head. i keep thinking of all the times we had. the way he used to (and still does..) look at me. i think of how we used to cuddle. he annoys me to no end, but at the same time it's like everytime i think back now...i get some kind of feeling. a feeling as if i miss him. what do you think is going on? do i still like him and can't admit it to myself..oh and, how do i know if he still thinks of us like that?
thank you sorry it was long but i will rate high for good thorough answers... (link)
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Okay. About how you find him annoying, I think I know why. I've never had a long, intimate relationship, but I did go out with this kid who I really, really liked. I thought everything about him was perfect, until we broke up. Once I didn't like him anymore, I only found flaws in him. Most likely, you never realized how much your ex annoyed you because you liked him so much. Now that you don't like him as much, you find things about him annoying.
I think the feeling that you miss him is because you do miss him, but that is completely normal. Everyone who has a good relationship, whether it be friends or bf/gf, will miss different aspects about it. I lost a best friend whom I had been friends with for so long, and as much as I hate her, I miss her. I know it's not exactly the same, but you probably do miss some of the things you did together because you spent a lot of time with him.
I don't think that you still like him, but you may have feelings for him. I'm sure you like your bf a lot more, but you just miss your ex. It's perfectly normal to have feelings like that, so don't worry.
I think the best way to tell if he feels the same way is just ask him. But do it casually. Just talk to him and be like, "I was thinking of some of the good times we used to have." See what he says to that. If he just replies like "oh" then maybe he doesn't feel the same way, but chances are we might say something like "yeah, me too," and you would know then that he misses you too.
Just be careful about who you tell these feelings too and who you talk to him around, because you don't want your boyfriend to get the wrong idea. I hope this helps! Good luck with everything !
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okay. so i am DIEING to go on spring break with one of my friends, my parents dont know her very well but im sure they will like her.. the thing is i got in trouble last weekend because i was at a party where drinking was going on but i wasnt drinking and they know that. so im grounded up until spring break.. so i dont know if theyd exactly let me go. also this girl invited me to go with her a little bit ago and she hasnt said anything latley and i dont wanna like invite myself again if she doesnt ask me about it. what should i do about everything? thanks (link)
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Well, you need to mention this to your parents. But wait until they're in a good mood. Once they seem happy with you, maybe after you get a good grade or something, bring us the subject. If they're happy with you, they will be more likely to be okay with you going on vacation with your friend. I'm sure they trust that you weren't drinking, but they are probably upset you were in an environment like that. Now, as for your friend. Just casually mention it to her. Be like I am so excited for spring break, and see what she says. If she doesn't say anything, just ask if she's still going away and if she still wants you to go, she will most likely ask you again to ask your parents. I hope this helps!
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sometimes i jsut dont want to talk, and people notice that im not talking. I dont know waht it is but I just dont wanna open my mouth and its depressing. People always think im sad but i just really would rather not talk, i feel like i dont want people to hear me( which is weird cause ive wanted peopel to hear what i say all my life)
please halp (link)
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Okay. Well, I totally get what your saying. Sometimes I just feel like I don't want to talk, and all of my friends freak out. They're like, are you okay? what's wrong? And there's one excuse you can always use. If you don't feel like talking and everyone is bugging you about what's wrong, just say you're tired. Everyone will believe that, and then they'll leave you alone. I also know what you mean about not wanting people to hear you. Sometimes it's like you're afraid that what you mean to say might come out wrong, and you don't want to get embaressed. Well, if you have something to say, just say it. If it comes out wrong and everyone laughs, just laugh it off with them. Being able to laugh at yourself is a very good quality to have. Well, I hope this helps!
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i used to like this guy right? but somehow he found out and now i dont like him anymore. he wont talk to me and everything is so uncomfortable. what should i do? (link)
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okay .. so what you're saying is he won't talk to you because you don't like him? well, since you don't like him anymore, just try and shoot for being friends. What I mean is, like, try talking to him again, and find out why he is mad. Just be like, look, we need to talk. I'm sorry if you thought I liked you, but I don't anymore. Just let him know, coming from you, that you got over him but you want to be friends. Telling someone how you feel is always uncomfortable and awkward, but it's worth it in the end. I know this may not be the best advice, you're in a tough situation, but try it. Good luck .. I hope this works!
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Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And I love him so much nobody would ever understand. Everything reminds me of him and he's always on my mind. Today he confessed that I'm all he ever thinks about no matter what he's doing. That means that he thinks about me a lot because he's always playing football or basketball or soccer or working out. My friends say I'm obbsessed, but I just can't help it. Is there anything I can do that will take my mind off of him or at least tone down my thoughts about him a bit?
Thanks so much! (link)
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There isn't much you can do, but just consider this. He loves you as much as you love him, but don't center your life around him. The old saying "love hurts" is true, and if you spend all of your time with him or thinking about him and something happens between you two, you don't want to feel like you've lost everything. I might suggest that to take your mind off him for a little while at least, plan a girls night. Go out with your girl friends, and just hang out. Don't talk about him, and just try to concentrate on having fun with them. I hope this helps.
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Ok I have a great bf and love him but my ex bf who is also my best friend got a new gf and idk why but it hurts..i mean it shouldnt but it does cause i keep imaging she's so much prettier and better IDK WHY!! is this normal? thanks (link)
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It is DEFINITELY normal. Everyone goes through this with their ex's, so don't worry about it. The best advice I can give you is to think more about your boyfriend than your best friend. What I mean is when you're feeling a little hurt and jealous, think about your boyfriend. You said he's great, so just imagine how lucky you are to be going out with him. You may still have feelings for your ex, but you like your boyfriend more. You're not abnormal. Just don't let these feelings show because your boyfriend will become jealous or hurt, but don't worry about it. I'm sure you're just as pretty as that other girl, and if you really need a confidence booster .. he dated you first !
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Okay, so I've got a boyfriend, Ross and we just started dating a few days ago. He's kinda shy when it comes to talking so we have silent kinda ackward converations. How do I fix that?
And all my friends, when we see him in the hall they'll start calling his name really loudly and pushing me right into him and saying stuff like " hey lovebirds " and its really getting on my nerves, I mean hes my boyfriend, I know who he is.
And, one more, Im on a volleyball team for my school and the coach and my dad are good friends. Well one of the schools rules is no PDA ( if you get caught breaking a school rule you get kicked off the team, plus im sure she'd tel my parents and I don't want them to know about him just yet ) so if we hug, hold hands or if he puts his arm around me we have to do it secretley so it takes all teh romance outta it.
Urg, can you guys help me please? (link)
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Okay, well about the shy awkward conversations, there are a few things you can do. It is natural that one of you too is going to be shy, and if it's going to be him, you have to be the ice breaker. It he is quiet, start conversations. If it still seems awkward, try to loosen things up. When you're with him, maybe hug him or something. Act closer and get him to be more comfortable around you. Hopefully if you are loud and outgoing, it will rub off on him.
About your friends, I get you. My friends did that to me when I first started going out with my boyfriend. I could tell it was weird for both of us, so I finally told my friends to stop. I suggest you say something like "look guys. You know things are a little awkward with Ross (if you've told them) and you doing that makes it worse. Could you lay off a little?" Something like that, and I'm sure they'll understand.
So for the volleyball team, it may take the romance out of your relationship, but that's only in school. You two should hang out on weekends or after school, and you can be as romantic and affectionate as you want then. Don't worry about being romantic in school, because school isn't really the place for that. I hope this helps, and best of luck to the two of you.
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OK so my best guy friend, well all my girl friends say that he likes me, and they say I like him too, which is true. But im way too scared to tell him(for reasons .. i just cant) and i wish he would just tell me ! what should i dooo?
PS-im going with him to a semi formal dance this saturday. (link)
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Well, I totally understand why you're scared. I'm sure it's not just about rejection, but also because he's your best guy friend and you wouldn't want to risk ruining what you already have. What I can suggest is ask a friend to find out if he likes you, but casually. Have one of your friends be like, so it seems like you like (your name). do you? .. see what he says. If you don't want to do that, wait until the dance and see what happens. Maybe he'll make the move and tell you that he likes you, and if not I heard of one other way. I once read somewhere that a way to let someone know you like them without flat out telling them is be like oh I had a dream we were dating. Isn't that weird? See what his reaction is. You can probably tell by his reaction how he feels about you. I hope this helps, and if anything happens at the dance, let me know! Good luck
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okay so i am in 6th grade and tomorrow me and my boyfriend are planning on hooking up. It will be my first time, but the only problem is that i don't know how! i know what it is and all, i just don't know how to do it so that it's feels nice for him also. If you could please give me some pointers on how to do it, that would be greatly appreciated! i rate 5's! Thanks! (link)
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Okay, well I'm sure we can all assume that hooking up is making out. And although others may disagree, I do not think you are too young. A lot of 6th graders hook up. Well, no one can tell you exactly how to do it, but don't be nervous. If you're nervous, your boyfriend can tell. Although that shouldn't matter to him, it will be embaressing for him too. I wouldn't know, but I would guess maybe this is his first time too? If so, then don't sweat it. He won't know if you don't know what you're doing, and there's no such thing as a bad kisser. There are only different ways of kissing, and different people prefer different ways. I'm sure everything will go fine, and let me know how it goes! Good luck, and all I can say is remember to close your eyes!
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Ok so here it goes this may be long and im sorry if it is. Ok Im 15/f and my boyfriend and i have been going together off-and-on for almost 2 years now. I love him soo much i just cant seem to get him out of my mind.The last time we broke up was the worse,and i started dating other people well about 4 months later so did he and it really hurt me alot. Well we actually stopped talking and i lost my bestfriend of 11 years over it. Well a few months past and we still didnt talk and he finally called me oneday and we started talking again but i had a boyfriend. I finally broke up with the other guy and me and my ex got back together. Well last weekend he went off to his uncles house and promised he would be back by 7 but he wasnt...so another guy thats bestfriends with my cousin called and i needed a way to my dad's house and he was nice enough to run me and my friend down there. We never touched like as in kissin or huggin or nothin. And i like the other guy but not like that and my b/f thinks that i cheated on him but i honestly didnt. Everytime i tell him he doesnt say anything and he throws it up in my face alot. What should i do about this?
My friends tell me hes bein to controlling and to dump him...but i cant see my life without him in it.What should i do?
Ill rate 5's for any answers!!
Thanx,
Jessica!! 15/f (link)
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Well, although he does seem controlling, I don't think you should dump him if you really love him. But does he know how much you care about him? You need to sit him down and say "look, I only got a ride with him because you weren't here, and I hope you would trust me enough to know I would never cheat on you because I love you." Something like that. Although it sounds bad, a good way might be to make him feel guilty. I hope everything works out, and I'm sure it will. You're friends don't understand how you feel about him, so don't let them make the decision for you.
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does anyone know who the song "boom boom boom boom" is by? or any other songs by that band? thank you. (link)
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Boom Boom Boom Boom is by the Venga Boys. They are more of a party group, and some other songs by them are we like to party, Just as Long as I Got You, and Shalala Lala.
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ok, well i have this unique hairstyle(its not super wierd like a punk or goths, just different) and my parents hate it. they wont accept me for who i am and its gotten tot he point were i cant ignore it because there starting to crack jokes about me and insult me all the time. i dont want to change because i like myself and i have alot of friends who like me but my parents dont accept my personality. how should i deal with this problem (link)
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The best thing I can suggest is try talking to them. I know this sounds so lame, but just tell them how you feel and that it hurts your feelings, even if that's not necissarily true. They will feel bad thinking that they hurt you, and in time they will realize that you are your own person. Don't worry much about it because they'll accept it, and until then you have your friends for support.
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my hair is really curly that it almost gets frizzy. i want my hair to be curly because it looks like crap straight, but i want it to be less all over the place. is there anyway i can get neat curls instead of wild ones??
thanks!! (link)
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If you shower at night, I would suggest showering in the mornings before school. That way, you can blow dry your hair. While you're drying it and once you're done, add hair spray. That should work.
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Alright So..
Me and Alexis have been best friends since 5th grade. And all of a sudden this year shes changed.(we're in 8th grade now) . Like she hangs out with Seniors(Um Ew?. Thats like hanging out with my brother) And she has smoked and drank. And it bugs me. Like we still do sleepovers sometimes and talk at school but its all differant. And now Alexis, my friend Karie, and my friend Holi have this thing called "KAH" which stands for their names and they think their the shit. it pisses me off.. and now i feel like i dont have a best friend..
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Wow. The exact same thing just happened to me, with those initials and everything. Two of my best friends completely ditched me for someone who is so bad to hang out with, so I get where you're coming from. If you've already tried talking to Alexis about drinking and such, and she hasn't changed, then you might as well let her go. Look, I'm sure that's not at all what you want to do, but I did that and I feel much better now. I got away from these girls because no one likes them, and there had to be a reason. Don't completely ditch Alexis though because you don't want anyone to hate you. You don't want it to be awkward. Also, I'm sure you have other friends who share your interests and don't think drinking and smoking is right as you. You'll be much happier if you stick with your other friends and make closer friendships with them. I hope this helps, it worked for me.
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how can i tell what people in the world are honest and good?
and why is everything always about sex lately?
its so fckd up.
i rate high. :]
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One good way to tell whether someone is honest or good would be other people. I don't mean to gossip about them, just find out from their friends or former friends what they're like. If no one has a problem with these people, they're most likely good friends to have. And about sex .. yeah I know what you mean. Don't fall into the trend if you're not ready. Just wait until you think the time is right and let everyone else learn from their mistakes.
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okay... I have this friend (lets say her name is Kelley) and shes really cool and stuff. I have another friend, (lets say her name is Jen) who I used to be really good friends with. Now Jen is a lot more "popular" than me and kelley, but she was pretty nice to us up until a few months ago. First, we had always sat at the same table together, and now she is sitting with the kids who are really mean. She didnt say anything to us or anything, and she just sort of ditched us. I was okay with that, maybe she just wanted to meet new people or something. So anyways, Now we have to do a community project for school. Kelley and I are making blankets for children in a homeless shelter and jen wants to deliver bears to the hospital. Shes all mad cuz we wanna do something else so she just switches groups. Shes seemed really selfish to me because she was saying "what kids would want some stupid blankets" and was sayin that "oh this will take too long." She calls us her "little friends" all the time because she thinks her popular friends are more important or something.
So I really dont know what to do. She doesnt know that me and Kelley are mad at her, and I have just kind of avoided her. On the other hand, I dont want to be mean either.
Should I give Jen another chance? Or should I just stay away and be friends with Kelley? (link)
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Maybe Jen used to be a great friend, but she obviously isn't now. I know it's going to be hard, because this recently happened to me, but just don't hang out with her. Keep everything on good terms, but don't go out of your way to be nice to her. Kelley seems nice, and I think you should just stick her with her. When Jen realizes the mistake she made, it'll be to late and you and Kelley are better off without her.
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ive always been the type of out going person that you ever saw frown. i was the type of person that got along with EVERYONE. but that kinda changed when i started hanging out with my new best friend for the past 2 years. she is sorta well emo i guess you can say shes always depress and stuff now depresses me easy i wish i could be like i used to but i feel like im turning more into my friend and i wanna be the old me again. idk if i need to stop talking to her or what. i mean lately i havnt been talking to her as much just because she like always gets on my case about grammer in stuff and im like wow your not my teacher your my friend geese but yah beside the point i was jus wondering what you all would do about this. i want to be the happy person i used to be, instead of the person i am now that snaps at any minute :-( i hate it (link)
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Okay. I can relate. My best friend, well former best friend, gave me the same problem. I turned into someone I did not want to be when I was with her. However, now we're not friends and it's a little bit disapointing, but I feel myself turning back to the old me. I don't suggest you ditch your best friend, but try and hang out with other people too. Also, when you say you snap at any moment,when you feel you're about to do that, think of positive things. When you feel negative towards everything and everyone, just try and see the positive in the situation. It really works.
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