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Problems with boyfriend
Okay, so I've got a boyfriend, Ross and we just started dating a few days ago. He's kinda shy when it comes to talking so we have silent kinda ackward converations. How do I fix that?
And all my friends, when we see him in the hall they'll start calling his name really loudly and pushing me right into him and saying stuff like " hey lovebirds " and its really getting on my nerves, I mean hes my boyfriend, I know who he is.
And, one more, Im on a volleyball team for my school and the coach and my dad are good friends. Well one of the schools rules is no PDA ( if you get caught breaking a school rule you get kicked off the team, plus im sure she'd tel my parents and I don't want them to know about him just yet ) so if we hug, hold hands or if he puts his arm around me we have to do it secretley so it takes all teh romance outta it.
Urg, can you guys help me please?
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Okay, well about the shy awkward conversations, there are a few things you can do. It is natural that one of you too is going to be shy, and if it's going to be him, you have to be the ice breaker. It he is quiet, start conversations. If it still seems awkward, try to loosen things up. When you're with him, maybe hug him or something. Act closer and get him to be more comfortable around you. Hopefully if you are loud and outgoing, it will rub off on him.
About your friends, I get you. My friends did that to me when I first started going out with my boyfriend. I could tell it was weird for both of us, so I finally told my friends to stop. I suggest you say something like "look guys. You know things are a little awkward with Ross (if you've told them) and you doing that makes it worse. Could you lay off a little?" Something like that, and I'm sure they'll understand.
So for the volleyball team, it may take the romance out of your relationship, but that's only in school. You two should hang out on weekends or after school, and you can be as romantic and affectionate as you want then. Don't worry about being romantic in school, because school isn't really the place for that. I hope this helps, and best of luck to the two of you.
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Your relationship with him is ackward and silent and a little shy because you both just started dating. It's suppose to be this way, so if you both date for a while longer, the shell will eventually break. So I say don't really rush it, make it as comfortable as possible. And try making your conversations about what you like and what he likes. You both have a lot to talk about, you just have to approach the conversation to it. And you can ask him what he likes and he might be shy and not say that much, but you can break the shell by telling him what you're interested in. It's ok to be the talker at first.
I think your friends are being your friends. They laugh and tease you about your new boyfriend and sure, it's annouying, but I think it's out of love for you. It's their way of saying that you both are a cute couple. So I'd probably just let that go. They'll eventually grow up, don't worry.
Well, I understand your last problem, but I think the romance shouldn't really happen in school anyway. I know you both are just starting this, but maybe you shouldn't really worry about the romance just yet unless it's happening right now. And if it is, then you'll have to just tell your parents now. I don't really know another way you can fix it, but I think it's ok to tell your parents about your new boyfriend.
Just try taking everything slow, it's really going to be ok, good luck with Ross!
-TheTeenGirl
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