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ex b/f...
hey ok well..i really need several opinions on whats going on with me!! so like back in the beginning of october/end of september(?) my b/f broke up with me. and i was really broken up..i wasnt even ready to go with anyone for a long time. i really liked him, and he really liked me too but we broke it off because we dont live in the same place and it was getting hard. so about the first of the year i finally hooked up with a guy i'd been liking and who'd liked me for a long time. we've been together for 10 weeks and i love him to death and he does to me too..but lately i've been having a problem.well my ex b/f i dont know what it is but absolutely everything about him bugs me to no end! like not only the things that would bug any ex g/f, but also things like how he is so nice and his eyes are so pretty and really really blue. his name even bugs me. and the most annoying thing is that there is no real reason that he bugs me. then all the sudden lately i cannot get him out of my head. i keep thinking of all the times we had. the way he used to (and still does..) look at me. i think of how we used to cuddle. he annoys me to no end, but at the same time it's like everytime i think back now...i get some kind of feeling. a feeling as if i miss him. what do you think is going on? do i still like him and can't admit it to myself..oh and, how do i know if he still thinks of us like that?
thank you sorry it was long but i will rate high for good thorough answers...
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Okay. About how you find him annoying, I think I know why. I've never had a long, intimate relationship, but I did go out with this kid who I really, really liked. I thought everything about him was perfect, until we broke up. Once I didn't like him anymore, I only found flaws in him. Most likely, you never realized how much your ex annoyed you because you liked him so much. Now that you don't like him as much, you find things about him annoying.
I think the feeling that you miss him is because you do miss him, but that is completely normal. Everyone who has a good relationship, whether it be friends or bf/gf, will miss different aspects about it. I lost a best friend whom I had been friends with for so long, and as much as I hate her, I miss her. I know it's not exactly the same, but you probably do miss some of the things you did together because you spent a lot of time with him.
I don't think that you still like him, but you may have feelings for him. I'm sure you like your bf a lot more, but you just miss your ex. It's perfectly normal to have feelings like that, so don't worry.
I think the best way to tell if he feels the same way is just ask him. But do it casually. Just talk to him and be like, "I was thinking of some of the good times we used to have." See what he says to that. If he just replies like "oh" then maybe he doesn't feel the same way, but chances are we might say something like "yeah, me too," and you would know then that he misses you too.
Just be careful about who you tell these feelings too and who you talk to him around, because you don't want your boyfriend to get the wrong idea. I hope this helps! Good luck with everything !
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