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Q: I get so embarressed when my family talks to people about how I can sing I found out my mom listens to me sing while I'm in my room she said she sits by my door and listens to me sing and I know this because I overheard her telling some people about this at church I love to sing I wish I could get up and song in front of anyone my family always tells me I sound like Christina Aguilera but I really don't know if there just saying that because there my family and I love Christina Aguilera or if there telling the truth this guy told me this once god blessed me with the talent to sing he said I shouldn't waste it and he also told what would Jesus want you to do my fear is I won't sound good and people will make fun of me I can't even sing in front of my mom or dad the only 3 people I can sing in front of are my 2 older sisters and my little brother I the being having a voice and not be able to sing can some please help get over this fear.
I've had that same problem, trust me, I was freaky nervous. I was never able to have the courage to sing or act. So, one time my Friend(12/M) and I (13/F) wanted to join the Talent Show. I was pshyched about everything, until it was time for auditioning. My friend told me I sounded really really good and that I'll be fine, but I coudn't so we blew off the Show. My Friend and I walked home after the Show and I came home hummning to one of the songs I heard. Out of nowhere I came into my room with my bedroom door wide open and started singing. I was so lost in the moment that I didn't care who was passing by the hall. Then, the next day my neighbor was talking about me at school on how I was talented. Not even a week EVERYBODY at my school found out I could sing I was freaking out. Then, drama came I signed up, when my drama teacher saw me she suddenly said, "let's do a musical." I was the first person to get up from my chair to yell out, "NO!" it was embarassing. I was scared to act too, but I turned out to be a great actor and got the lead. Since then, at school all my friends would listen to me sing at the basketball court and they would join me. It made it better making new friends, try and come out of your shell and just try. Experience is always the first step. Break down the wall, and take risks. It's whatt I did, and I felt much better about it. I hope you do too.
~MC~

Q: I really want to learn to be an actress to see if I want to pursue acting, can somebody give me some tips/advice or a book(or website) that teach me a bit about acting? BTW, I don't have much experience with acting.
In 5th grade, I took Drama for the first time. I'm going into 7th grade next school year, and I only learned REAL experiences in 6th grade. To be honest with you, try to read your characters lines multiple times then see what it might mean to you as a character or you. Then, just take a deep breath and try and connect yourself with the character. I learned this in Drama and I followed what my teacher said and I got the leading role. You can buy book in Amazon too. When acting don't overly act where you might sound really chesy, just take a deep breath and connect. Just remember that. Hope I've helped you.
~MC~

Q: hey! am from iraq, why i cum so quickly when am having sex!
Everybody is different. You're cumming so quickly because you're easily aroused. It's okay to be different, there's nothing wrong with different. I'm not too sure if this is correct, but I know that is one of the reason(s) why you cum so quickly when having intercourse. Hope you found your answer.
~MC~

Q: Hi, I'm 14/f
I've had a huge, and I mean HUGE crush on this older guy for years now. We're talking I forget my own name around him! Now he has a girlfriend and he really likes her. They're long distance, so he calls her every night & he always has this huge cheesy smile every time he's on the phone with her. I am, surprisingly, not jealous of her at all. It's normal to be at least a little jealous when I think about something like that, right? But all I can think of when I think about him with her is happiness for him & I'm glad that he's happy with her. That's all I seem to care about. I don't like being so calm about all of it. I don't want to cause problems either, but it drives me insane that I'm not at least a little jealous!

So my question is: Is it possible to make yourself jealous? If so, please share! I don't want to give up on any chance I might have to be with him & by being so calm it seems like i AM giving up! Someone, anyone, please help me. Anything will be appreciated.

Thanks for reading & answering in advance!
I honestly don't think that you can make yourself jealous. Someone has to make you jealous. Maybe, your calm because you really like this dude and that all you want for him is to be happy. Maybe, you're not at least a little jealous because you DON'T see them practically together. You could probably ask him if his girlfriend could come visit for the holidays and see if you get jealous when you see them together. You're not worrying because you have him and his girlfriend is somewhere far away. You'll be jealous when he focuses on his girlfriend more often. hope this helps.
~MC~

Q: He broke up with me for his ex girlfriend and then yesterday he told me he left his ex girlfriend because she is too up tight for him. He wants to be friends now. But I still like him... A lot! I don't know if I should be friends with him because he doesn't feel the same way. What do I do? Be friends with him or don't? P.s we were friends before we started dating and personally I thought we got along better when we were dating.
Take this slow. If you want him back accept his request. Then, start hanging out, if he confesses his feelings for you then he likes you. Try and flirt with him, but not too much, he'll push you away. Be yourself. Or you can play hard to get. Tell him you can be his friend, but when there is a group hang out pretend you don't see him just say hi's and hey's to everyone, but him. If he notices then, he likes you because he's watching whatever you're doing. If he texts you wait 3-5 minutes, then reply. Your reply should be short, that way he thinks you're doing something better. Then, if he asks you a question while you're talking to someone else, be all flirty, but don't say anything to him, pretend you don't hear him. REMEMBER, don't do this all mean, you're trying to get him back not push him away. Either way, hope this helps.
~MC~

Q: Im a month pregnant. Im 19 and so is my boyfriend. well before me being pregnant he was with another girl. then he broke up with her to be with me. the problem is that he hardly text's me, on Saturday he goes to his party's and don even sends me a text. when i complain to him he tel;ls me "You should of had texted me" He dosnt look to have time for me. But if it were his friends and his girls i know 100% that he will be there. I been stressing so much and he knows im pregnant and only asks for the baby once in the conversation. he tells me he's very happy that im going to have his kid. In person hes a different story hes always hugging and kissing me. On Facebook their friends are always tagging him "in the lake having fun with so and so" this bothers me a lot. I don't know what to do anymore , im tired of talking to him. What do you think i should do ? i don't want my baby to feel the stress.
Well, this is your first baby. Maybe he's enjoying the time being before the baby is due. He wants to enjoy the life of being a "free man" because right when the baby is due, he's going to fatherhood and it's going to change everything. If he doesn't texts you often, maybe you should text him once in a while. If he asks you what you need or whatever tell him. This is hard for both you because you're not going to have as much freedom as you guys used to have. Talk to your parents about this. If they don't know you're pregnant you need to tell them! They're your parents and they care what is best for you. Just make your boyfriend sit and make him listen to you how important you guys' baby(ies) is/are. If he doesn't care then, it tells you he doesn't give a crap about the baby he gave to you. Hope your well.
~MC~

Q: I am 17, f and am moving into college August 25th. My mom has been begging me to get a job for a while, I have tried to only be turned down every time because I am not 18. Well, she just filled out an application for a job in my hometown and expects me to travel home on weekends to work if I get the job. I told her I don't think I can handle getting used to college life that quick, get good grades, make new friends and travel to and fro to go to work on weekends and I even told her that I don't think I would be able to come home that much because I have to keep a 3.0 to be able to stay in my major, yet she still filled out the application.. herself. I can't come home to work on weekends, while trying to do reading work or writing a paper. . I even told her that I will look for a job sophomore year so I will at least be used to college life then or even wait til second semester at school to get a job on campus. Granted, I don't even know if I will get the job or not but she's so stuck on me getting a job that she went as far as filling out an application.. for ME. What do I do?
Well, you're mom just wants what's best for you. Maybe she filled out that job application for you in your hometown because she's trying to hint that she's going to miss you and she wants to see you very often. Maybe, spend some time with her, then you ask her to cancel that application she filled out. Tell her that you love her alot, that you'd visit her on holidays or when you're not busy doing work to keep you're 3.0. I'm sure she'll understand, you know how our moms are like. They gave birth to us and they can't let us go that easily. So spend time with her, hang out, do things that both you guys enjoy doing and just be there with her until you leave. Wishing you the very best
~MC~

Q: Hi, I'm 13 and... 5/6s? I'm turning 14 in November, and I'm going into 8th grade. My problem is, I've never liked wearing makeup or nice clothes before 7th grade. But in the middle of 7th grade, my attitude sort of changed drastically about how I care about how I look, and I started to look and feel a lot better. I always look back at pictures and think, "I must have been a really weird kid!" And, I'm not being judgmental about myself, I really was a weird kid. So, anyways, a couple days ago, I asked my mom if I could start wearing makeup. She said it was fine with her, as long as I didn't wear a lot, and she helped me pick out some stuff. So, I tried it on today, and it made me feel really, well, beautiful, and good. But, I'm starting to get nervous when I go back to school. I'll look and be so different... I don't want my friends to think I'm becoming a prep and dumping them, and I don't know how people will react. I KNOW I shouldn't care, but I'm naturally shy, and I'm just nervous and I don't like change. So, should I wait another year like my BFFs mom is making her do, or should I just man up (wrong word choice) and be brave? I don't know what to do! Please help!
Hey, look if you feel beautiful wearing make-up, I'm sure you're friends won't mind if you wear make-up. Think about it, only you're friends would care if you wear too much make-up that makes you look like clown. Wearing like really light eyeshadows, the ones that matches your skin tone, but makes your eyes glow would be perfect. If you like wearing eye liners, put them on close to your eyes, so they stand out and show how beautiful your eyes are. A little mascara would help too, so your eyelashes doesn't go down it stays up. Blushes would help stand out your cheek bones and give you a healthy glow. If you're not a fan of lipstacks, wear Smashbox lip glosses they are really cute and the shadings look like lipstick, but they aren't. Make sure you wash your face afterwards otherwise you'll start breaking out. I'm just trying to say is that, feel free to express yourself, if your friends don't like it, I guess they never were your friend were they? Good luck, hope this helps.

Q: ok im 13 f and i really want a new wardrobe because ive been starting to stop wearing hollister and aeropostel and start moving on to like forever 21 wet seal etc. so i really want more clothes but my mom thinks i have enough clothes but i really want newer clothes since mostly all my shirts say hollister and aero and stuff like that. but she still will say no but i really want to have a better style and not as boring especially for winter? what are some ways i can get her to get me newer clothes and go shopping??
If your mom thiinks and tells you that you have enough clothes to wear, why not sell them on Facebook, or put up posters about the shirts you want to get rid of. Make money out of it if your mom isn't willing to buy you new clothes. After all, you worked to earn the money after all. If you're interested in Forver 21 make sure you get some bright, not too flashy color clothes for the winter. If you want to start new for Christmas get a few red, or green T-shirts or get a red, or green tank tops to go with your Tee!! Good luck! :D

Q: Once when I was dancing to a song from a kids show, my mom came in and watched me. I wasn't doing anything but what the people from the show were doing (it was a Scooby Doo movie) and my mom told me I was dancing like a slut. What do I do to make her less mad at me. Because if I ever object at anything then she says she bets that if i ever were offered drugs, i would take them. She does an impression of me that sounds whiny and really really mean. I wouldn't do that but she doesn't seem to understand that.

She compares me to my "perfect" siblings and If they yell at me she always blames me for it.

My question is: what should I do to gain my mother's approval?
Well, from what I see here is that, you're mom is kind of against you. With too little information, is there something you've done for her to hold a grudge? I've been through what you're going through. To get your mother's approval is just be yourself. If you stand up for yourself and say what you feel and tell her that you're not going to tolerate then, maybe she'll understand. You're probably a free spirit who likes to share things about yourself, you don'tt care what people think. Look, make changes and if your mom really thinks you dance like a slut, maybe she's just saying that. Some, parents say things they don't really mean. Bond with your mom. Ask her what you did wrong, if you know already apologize and ask to restart and turn over a new leaf. You're goal is to gain that respect, and trust from your mom, which you need to give to her first. It might take a while, but it'll be all worth it. Hope this helps.

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