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He Broke up with me for his ex. Now he doesn't want his ex.
He broke up with me for his ex girlfriend and then yesterday he told me he left his ex girlfriend because she is too up tight for him. He wants to be friends now. But I still like him... A lot! I don't know if I should be friends with him because he doesn't feel the same way. What do I do? Be friends with him or don't? P.s we were friends before we started dating and personally I thought we got along better when we were dating.
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You are young and should not worry too much about finding someone to love you, and instead love yourself the way you want to be loved and you'll attract much more positive people in your life. Always remember that you are important and what may please one might not please someone else. The thing with guys, is that they always want what they cannot have, and by this, i don't mean be 100% unreachable, i mean, DO YOU. Do things that make you happy, erase negativity from you life, talk to him but don't give him even 70% of your attention. Have priorities, enjoy his company (not physical) talk to him, yeah flirt here and there but don't let him know how much you are in LOVE with him, or how much you desire him. Keep some mystery, make sure you are the best person you can be in all aspects, confidence in a girl is killer! Knock him dead with who you really are @(ᵕ.ᵕ)@ BE HAPPY.
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I think that its hard for anyone to have a friend and want a relationship with them. What you have to think about is, even though you have said 'I probably wont end up with him but he is what I want right now' but have you considered the toll it will have on your friendship when you finish? You don't know if it end mutually or end badly, but you should be prepared to break up on a bad note if you are both stressed and confused with your lives at the moment. He may be a really nice person, and just going through a rough time but you have to remember that he has left you once before for someone else and can easily do it again. He may just want you when he doesn't have anyone else because he wants comfort from his best friend with a bit of harmless flirting, but you can't get upset if he finds other girls to be in a relationship with because it sounds like he does see you more of a friend than a girlfriend which is probably why this situation is so confusing. If I were you I would forgive him like you have, but I wouldn't exactly be falling head over heals to get back in to a relationship with him.
You just have to be there for him, be caring, be a great friend to him and see how it goes. There may be a chance of a relationship but you have to be ready to cope with any outcome that happens. Its best not to flirt either, because even though its harmless, it could cause confusion. You need to go slow with this and be patient. If he gets in to a relationship with other girls, make sure you're always there for him all of the time and he will notice. Good luck.
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Take this slow. If you want him back accept his request. Then, start hanging out, if he confesses his feelings for you then he likes you. Try and flirt with him, but not too much, he'll push you away. Be yourself. Or you can play hard to get. Tell him you can be his friend, but when there is a group hang out pretend you don't see him just say hi's and hey's to everyone, but him. If he notices then, he likes you because he's watching whatever you're doing. If he texts you wait 3-5 minutes, then reply. Your reply should be short, that way he thinks you're doing something better. Then, if he asks you a question while you're talking to someone else, be all flirty, but don't say anything to him, pretend you don't hear him. REMEMBER, don't do this all mean, you're trying to get him back not push him away. Either way, hope this helps.
~MC~
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It's all up to you. He wants to be friends and you want a relationship. Does he know that you still want to date him? You have to give him time because right now I think he's trying to figure out what he wants. And right now he just wants friendship. Now you can wait for him to come back to you or you can be friends with him, but look for other guys. It depends on how you both want to move forward. But make sure he knows how you feel. If you think you guys are better off as a couple, TELL HIM.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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