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Im a month pregnant. Im 19 and so is my boyfriend. well before me being pregnant he was with another girl. then he broke up with her to be with me. the problem is that he hardly text's me, on Saturday he goes to his party's and don even sends me a text. when i complain to him he tel;ls me "You should of had texted me" He dosnt look to have time for me. But if it were his friends and his girls i know 100% that he will be there. I been stressing so much and he knows im pregnant and only asks for the baby once in the conversation. he tells me he's very happy that im going to have his kid. In person hes a different story hes always hugging and kissing me. On Facebook their friends are always tagging him "in the lake having fun with so and so" this bothers me a lot. I don't know what to do anymore , im tired of talking to him. What do you think i should do ? i don't want my baby to feel the stress. (link)
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I had a coworker that had the same problem, guys love to know when a girl NEEDS them, so let him feel that you don't! Focus on your baby! Take baby classes, yoga, pilates, anything to get your mind off, trust me when you stop focusing on what he is doing and who he is with and take care of yourself and your baby I promise you he will come back. If he asks you why your being so distant and blah blah ,tell him you are not going to play games, that you are taking your new life seriously and don't need to carry burdens you don't have to. Remember you are not HIS mother. Guys have issues with commitment and maybe he's just getting it all out of his system till the baby comes, you never know, every guy is different. But you must be strong, remember you are going to be a mother, and girls have FULL control in a relationship, you just have to know how to play your cards correctly. Be happy your preggo!! CONGRATS!
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Ever since i was born, i was always the shy girl and quiet. I've been trying to changed and asked God to change my life. But i am still the same girl. I am 23 years old, im a women now. I have been hurt so much. I cried almost every night because my heart in pain. I graduated from high school in 2008 and have not have a good job. Beside now i am a housekeeper. which is my worst night mare job ever. my dream is to go to college but i cant passed testes to get in.I have been tried about 10 times to get into school. And i couldn't cuz of my dumness. I have no friends. No one likes me. I dont know why. all i ever do is being sweet nice and innocent. Every day im thinking about dying. I am really hurt. The longer i live the more hurt i get. The only people love me are my parents. My siblings are not even like me. They always ignored me. I have a phone but no one ever call me. I am hurt and lonely. So, what is the best way to die? What kind of pills should i take? Please tell me. (link)
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FIRST OF ALL, you attract what you think of, so you need to get your head out of your ass. You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you, enjoy your own company before you seek a relationship. There is nothing you can't do, with today's technology there are so many opportunities you can search and get into, find something your passionate about or try something you wouldn't normally do. Get out of your comfort zone, search for a community college, you have to take an English and Math PLACEMENT exam, to place you in the right classes, study as hard as you can for the placement test, and if you get a low class who the fuck cares, you know you tried your hardest. Plus, there's always financial aid, get out and have fun girl! Enjoy life and the right people will come in your life. @(ᵕ.ᵕ)@
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He broke up with me for his ex girlfriend and then yesterday he told me he left his ex girlfriend because she is too up tight for him. He wants to be friends now. But I still like him... A lot! I don't know if I should be friends with him because he doesn't feel the same way. What do I do? Be friends with him or don't? P.s we were friends before we started dating and personally I thought we got along better when we were dating. (link)
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You are young and should not worry too much about finding someone to love you, and instead love yourself the way you want to be loved and you'll attract much more positive people in your life. Always remember that you are important and what may please one might not please someone else. The thing with guys, is that they always want what they cannot have, and by this, i don't mean be 100% unreachable, i mean, DO YOU. Do things that make you happy, erase negativity from you life, talk to him but don't give him even 70% of your attention. Have priorities, enjoy his company (not physical) talk to him, yeah flirt here and there but don't let him know how much you are in LOVE with him, or how much you desire him. Keep some mystery, make sure you are the best person you can be in all aspects, confidence in a girl is killer! Knock him dead with who you really are @(ᵕ.ᵕ)@ BE HAPPY.
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Please help me;
I have been with my boyfriend for four months, but I fell in love with him well over a year ago. I had just gotten out of an extremely abusive relationship: my ex-boyfriend beat me, starved me, raped me, and every single thing that came out of his mouth was a lie. I suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from what I went through with him. Before that ex, I had another boyfriend who also lied about every single detail of his life and fed me lie after lie, and also robbed me of plenty of money to feed his drug addiction. So, I was really happy to be in a relationship with my long-time crush... For the purpose of this question, I'll call him Bob. I love Bob with all my heart, and I tell Bob everything and never keep secrets from him. He insisted that he does the same with me, but I have caught him in the occasional lie before.
Bob and I live together. Bob goes to work on the weekends while my job gives me weekends off, so today I have the house to myself while he was at work. I was fishing through my things upstairs when I came across a box with letters and things of Bob's. I was reading the letters from his incarcarated friend, who is a mutual acquaintance, when I found underneath the letters was a medical examination form of Bob's from when he was evaluated at his rehabilitation program a few months ago. On this form, I found out that Bob has Hepatitis C. It didn't say how long he had the disease, but the form was from just before we started dating, so he had known he was infected when he entered a relationship with me.
My ex, the one that robbed me, had admitted to me that he had Hep C a few months ago; Bob had calmed me down and assured me it was impossible to get it from sex. I wasn't worried then, though, because I'd been tested since dating that ex and knew I didn't contract it from him. Bob knew that he himself had Hep C at the time, and still didn't tell me. We are both IV drug users, and I normally don't share needles with anyone but we have shared needles on occasion; I trusted him and figured he would have told me if he had a disease I could contract from his blood. Once I found out he had Hepatitis C, I did some research and found out that it is possible, though uncommon, to get Hep C through sex, and more common ways included sharing toothbrushes and razors (which we do occasionally as well), and of course through sharing needles. So there is a very high chance that by now I have contracted the virus from him. He has shared needles with me, knowing that he had Hep C, and knowing that there was a high chance I would get it as well. I am heartbroken by this.
My question is.. How do I go about confronting him on this? I don't want to get aggressive right off the bat, because he'll get aggressive back and accuse me of snooping through his things. I plan on being honest, as I always am with him, and telling him I was looking at the letters when I came across the medical form. I don't know what to do. I love Bob to death, but he blatantly lied to me and let me use his needles when he knew he had the virus. I am so sick to my stomach from this. I know there is a high chance that I now have Hepatitis C. I have read that it can be passed onto children, can lead to serious liver conditions, and is normally permanent or chronic. So if I have it, this is something I will have to deal with for the rest of my life. To me, it is something I'd want to tell my partner, especially since we are IV drug users. Should I continue to stay with Bob, even though he lied to me about this? Is there a nicer way of confronting him, so he will not be immediately defensive? I just don't know what else to do; hopefully someone here can help me out with some advice. Thanks for your time.
P.S., I am f/23 and Bob is m/30. (link)
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What i feel i receive from you is so much negative energy! But this is a serious case, before you go on blaming him, yelling and making everything much more greater, go get tested. Take care of yourself first, YOU are important! Without yelling at him, sit him down and tell him what happened, you were tempted to snoop (for whatever reason it may be) and talk to him, DO NOT YELL, guys hate that, you are not their mother. If he gets offensive and starts pointing out how you don't trust him because you snooped, bring him back to the subject, when guys are guilty they usually find any excuse to backfire. You are so young! you need to live your life, be happy, and you will attract positive people and positive opportunities in your life. @(ᵕ.ᵕ)@
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im 21 have a younger brother 18 a younger sister 12 my dad had an affair on my mum when she was 3 and left to be with this other woman. they hve been together 7 years now. i fell preggers and told her and the first thing she said to me was that she wanted to have a baby too well 4 months later she came out and said she was 3 months preggers this was supose to be my time to shine with the glow and the big belly at now 7months my nana didnt even care about me any more she was all over my step mum like a rash, she was never there for us other kids she never got us prezzents or visited us. and she was already buying stuff for this baby and shes always at there house. anyways she has now had the baby and i feel real weird my son has a aunt 4 months younger then him i really didnt think my dad wanted more kids but nows he is saying im not goin to make the same mistakes what does he mean by that r we screw ups to him? he use to smack us as kids well me and my brother my sister was too little he reacon hes not going to smack this kid and he is going to do everything different. i dono what to think whats ur input???? (link)
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Well, before anything, CONGRATULATIONS!! :D, and what's her deal? It sounds like she does these things to overshadow you. But, don't let any of this negativity take impact on you! Live life, enjoy your baby, raise your baby in a positive environment, your father is a grown man and is living HIS life, you should not worry too much about THEIR life, and pay attention to yours! @(ᵕ.ᵕ)@ Make sure your happy
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So my boyfriend and I had sex with a condom and I know I shouldnt worry of any pregnancy but I am still scared I could be ? Should I worry?? (link)
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Good question!
Ok, if you are young(under 18), its always rough your first couple of times, there is never an 100% with condoms or any other contraceptive, unless you have your tubes tied, but you DON'T need to worry about that! Meaning, there is always a chance you could be, if you don't have professional guidance with your sex life, seek some. Now this does not mean tell them every aspect of it, but be responsible, have check ups, take pregnancy tests, ALWAYS use a condom, and if you are over 18, consider birth control, I don't recommend this unless you are responsible and very informed. If you trust your parents, talk to them, if not, stick to a professional. Always remember, practice safe sex. @(ᵕ.ᵕ)@
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