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Pregnant and sad!
Im a month pregnant. Im 19 and so is my boyfriend. well before me being pregnant he was with another girl. then he broke up with her to be with me. the problem is that he hardly text's me, on Saturday he goes to his party's and don even sends me a text. when i complain to him he tel;ls me "You should of had texted me" He dosnt look to have time for me. But if it were his friends and his girls i know 100% that he will be there. I been stressing so much and he knows im pregnant and only asks for the baby once in the conversation. he tells me he's very happy that im going to have his kid. In person hes a different story hes always hugging and kissing me. On Facebook their friends are always tagging him "in the lake having fun with so and so" this bothers me a lot. I don't know what to do anymore , im tired of talking to him. What do you think i should do ? i don't want my baby to feel the stress.
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I had a coworker that had the same problem, guys love to know when a girl NEEDS them, so let him feel that you don't! Focus on your baby! Take baby classes, yoga, pilates, anything to get your mind off, trust me when you stop focusing on what he is doing and who he is with and take care of yourself and your baby I promise you he will come back. If he asks you why your being so distant and blah blah ,tell him you are not going to play games, that you are taking your new life seriously and don't need to carry burdens you don't have to. Remember you are not HIS mother. Guys have issues with commitment and maybe he's just getting it all out of his system till the baby comes, you never know, every guy is different. But you must be strong, remember you are going to be a mother, and girls have FULL control in a relationship, you just have to know how to play your cards correctly. Be happy your preggo!! CONGRATS!<3 @(ᵕ.ᵕ)@
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Don't stress yourself. Babies feel whatever your're feeling. You wouldn't want your child to be upset before it's born would you? you cannot force your boyfriend to give attention. He'll come around soon enough. Boys aren't used to this, especially if its their first child. They don't know what to expect. So acting like they do not care is sort of their wa of coping with the pregnancy. We females, are different. But in all honesty, sit him down and really talk. Tell him your're both grown adults, and you both have a baby on the way. You both need too take responsibilities. And if he still doesn't come around? then you nor the baby needs to be around that type of negativety. Let me know whats going on currently !
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Well, this is your first baby. Maybe he's enjoying the time being before the baby is due. He wants to enjoy the life of being a "free man" because right when the baby is due, he's going to fatherhood and it's going to change everything. If he doesn't texts you often, maybe you should text him once in a while. If he asks you what you need or whatever tell him. This is hard for both you because you're not going to have as much freedom as you guys used to have. Talk to your parents about this. If they don't know you're pregnant you need to tell them! They're your parents and they care what is best for you. Just make your boyfriend sit and make him listen to you how important you guys' baby(ies) is/are. If he doesn't care then, it tells you he doesn't give a crap about the baby he gave to you. Hope your well.
~MC~
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