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Hi my name is Alex. Im 17 and going to be a Senior in high school. I am extremely outgoing and spirited. i love to laugh, smile, and have a great time. i am a huge sports fanatic. my friends tell me a lot cuz im a great listener as well as an advice giver, especially on love, family, and friends. hope my advice can affect you in some way :)

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how do i get more guys to be my friends?? i have like none i im not sure if any boy would be my friend i mean ya i do hang out with the popular group or whatever you wnt to call them but they never put me in thier profiles and like i feel left out like if someone hangs out with someone for one night they are automatically their friend but unlike me i take a whole year

two words .... BE YOURSELF. eventaully they will come to you. dont stress about it. im sure your a great person with tons of personalities. make convo and they will come to you. i mostly only have guy friends so im telling you from experience ... be yourself and they will love you for you. and if they dont they there not worth your time :)

I went away with my friend a couple of weeks ago, and she was being a jerk, and now I don't really wanna be her friend anymore, what do I do?

if your having doubts then y waste your time ?!?!
you dont need friends who make you think so much .. hehe

I really think my life is worthless. I'm nothing special and i feel like such a waste. The only person who i can talk to, who keeps me going, who i have spent 3 years of my life being dedicated to, and loving .. could care less about me. I

f i can't have him i don't want any body else. I feel no point in living. I truely love him and he's the only reason i get up in the morning. I feel like just ending my life now, but i could no way do it, and i would never. This sounds immature and child-ish. But it's not. My feelings will never change.

What can i do to make everything better?

dont say that your feeling will never change cuz they will. eventually some amazing person will step into your life .... so dont think your life ends here cuz it doesnt. be optomistic. you only have one life to live . dont waste it on someone who doesnt care about you. they dont deserve you.

hope this helped :)

Hi, I'm 13/f and i weigh 136.5 lbs. I kno im overweight and i need 2 kno what i can do 2 help me loose weight. I cant really run a far distance without my knee or mi ankle starting 2 hurt.. So, is there any way I can loose weight without running??? Pleeze help!

i just lost 15 lbs. on the south beach diet. its fun and not hard. and it doesnt make you sick or take you away from good food. try it and look into it . it helped me :)

My boyfriend just imed another girl and told her she was cute. Now he told me it was because he was trying to get her to break up with her boyfriend who was a jerk. WTF? Now hes saying he loves me sooo much. What should i do?

i dont think it means anything honestly. i kno my guy friends who have girl friends will tell me im cute but are madly in love with their g/f's . i dont think it means nething. if it happens again with the same girl then talk to him .. but if it doesnt i think you should just let it blow over. he could be actually telling the truth .. just give him a chance :)

hope this helped :)

me and this guy are sorta together... but not bf/gf... weve done some stuff together... and we hang out a lot, but recently hes been making a lot of excuses not to... but how can i tell if im being used... guys points of view too please!! thanks

well if your doing stuff and he doesnt want a relationship he could just want to use you for sexual reasons. he could be one of those guys who just wanna do stuff and leave. which rlly sucks. all i can say is talk to him about it.

and in the future ... if you want to avoid situations like this ...dont do stuff with a guy whose not your b/f yet. some dumb guys will take advantage of that and just use you.

hope this helped :)

i wasnt sure which category this should go in so i just put it in this one. anyways..does anybody know who to get a rid of nervousness? i have it really bad that i think im going to throw up!

i HAD the same problem ... but then 2 of my friends passed away in a car accident and i realized that i cant keep sitting back and watching life pass be4 my eyes. i need to go out there and do what i want. i cant be shy or nervous nemore. if i do then im gonna look back and regret it and its gonna hurt me in the end. so instead of contimplating calling the person you like call them. instead of sitting at home on a friday night cuz you didnt call your friend to hang out ... call them . if you wanna skydive... then skydive.

dont be nervous ... just try and get your mindset into you only live once .

i hope this helped :)

so i was at the park last night with a couple boys and my best friend. well, this one guy named josh came and sat really close to me and then put his hat on my head. he pretty much only talked to me, and was the only person who'd let have some of his drink. when he left he gave me a hug for a couple minutes. we flirted a whole lot before he left. my best guy friend who was there and my best friend both think he likes me. i dont know what to think. could you help me?

let it all play out . if he likes you then next time you hang out he will flirt some more. let him make the first move. give him your number but let him call you first . see how that goes .

hope this helped :)

I've liked this boy for a year now. Actually, loved him. We've gone out three times. The bad part is..hes NOT a good kid. He's done somethings waayyy out of the ordinary. But it seems even if he was mean to me or something, I'll always love him. All three times it didnt work out. He dumped his girlfriend because she didnt wanna go far with him and i told him that was rediculous. The thing is, when i talk to him sometimes he'll make me uncomfortable by saying its not him after i talk to him. If i tell him i still have a lot of feelings for him..he'll tell everyone and then maybe go out with me. Then everyone would hate me for it. I'm just so confused i really need help to get over him and stop thinking about him.

you hafta to keep remembering all the things that make him not worth you being with him. all the times hes made you sad or mad . if someone like that is making your life an emotional rollercoaster than you dont need him .

hope this helped :)

i am MADLY in love with my best guy friend. we're like brother and sister and i LOVE him. i dream about him, think about him.. i can't help myself, i've never had a guy be so nice to me. but there's nothing i can do about it because he's madly in love with my best friend and i've decided not to do anything about it. how do i get out of this hole i fell in? i LOVE him. i don't know what to do.. please someone tell me if this is ever going to go away :(

awww i kno exactly how you feel except the guy i used to like is going out with some other chick not my best friend. it sucks . it rlly does. you wish its you and its not and you contimplate y ? y ? y? but all i had to do was sit myself down and think .. hmmm everything happens for a reason. if he's going out with her and hes happy then so be it. i had to come to the conclusion that i had to get over him. im still not over him but im pretty damn close. just got to be ok with it. and maybe some miracle will happen and hell end up with you. but dont waste your time on liking a lost cause .. ok... cuz i did and it wasted a year ..

hope this helped :)

I heard that if you have six small meals a day, then you lose weight. If you do, what should you eat, and how often?

Thanks in advance!

six small meals are the same as 3 reg. meals. eat stuff wit lo carbs and calories and you'll be fine.

I'm 14/f
I think im fat and I wanna lose weight. I don't eat breakfast or lunch and barely dinner. All my friends are worried about me and try to get me to eat but I just say i'm not hungry. My question is, is this that serious and that unhealthy? Thanks!

yes this is not good at all, instead of not eating, u should go on a special diet. the south beach diet is the best. u should try it.

I'm seventeen and I'd like to get a job, but I am clueless on some places to apply. My previous job was VERY stressful, so I want a job where I'm not under a lot of pressure. I don't want your typical teen job (food places/restaurants, grocery stores, or movies.) Clothing stores, little shops, and tanning salons are more of the kind of job I want. Office jobs wouldn't be too bad either. Any ideas on where else I should look into?

well, i heard that sometimes mall stores are hiring ppl, and you could be an intern at an office too. hope this helped!!!

does anyone know where i can go to get surveys/quizes for my xanga for free???

quizilla.com i think has some

My boyfriend & I haven't really talked about the subject of "love". We've known eachother a while & we were friends prior to dating & I think I love him. I know 13 is young so I'm not sure. Is there anyway to bring it up to him? Will it just come up in a conversation one day? There have been certain things he's said that leads to me thinking that. For example, we got into this big fight (just a few weeks ago ... yes, we were dating) & I said "Do you hate me?" and he said "no, the exact opposite... do you feel the same way?" and I said "ya." Does that sound like he was talking about love or just the common liking we have for eachother?

to be honest you just hafta take it day by day . eventually that subject will come up. dont stress or pressure it. if he does in fact love you he will say it one day . but makes sure he says it first ... its always cuter that way .. hehe

im a freshman in like two weeks. i want to ask if its really going to be as bad as some people say it is (acedemically & socially)

thanks for the advice!!
x3 dw33bi3

im going to be a senior and i can tell you this much :

TO AVOID THE TYPICAL FRESHMIE TORTURE :

1) dont stick out like a sore thumb by wearing a backpack that will knock you over in a second (meaning its huge)
2) dont ever tell someone your a freshman first unless you kno that they are not a junior or a senior.
3) dont cut in the lunch line if you know there is some senior or junior in front of you.

also .

1) freshman year is the easiest year no lie. just read the books and complete your hw . its that easy . beware of junior year .. its your hardest .

hope this helped some ..

good luck with high school .

get involved early. go to sports games. be spirited .. you wont regret it :)

I'm a LONER,a LOSER,a complete chatter box, and people think I'm anoing,I don't have any cool clothes either,Ialso don't stick to anything a start for exsample:baseketball,music lessons...! How do I make friends or even have them to want to be friends with me and maybe get a guy too like to go out with me? P.S. I'm 13 years old, Female,and super shy.

heres a couple of things first :

1) your not a loser
2) who cares if your a loner?
3) chatterboxes rock!
4) you dont need cool clothes to have good friends
5) you dont need a popular hobby to have good friends either

ok all you need to to is strike up a convo. try some tv show, music, a movie you saw, what you did this weekend. theres bond to be some reaction to the convo that makes you say something next. believe me it sounds gay but it works.

dont ever and i stress on the EVER try and change yourself physically or mentally just ot have friends or a b/f. be yourself. believe me youll get friends and eventually a guy will like you for you.

alrite :)

hope this helped

Im downloading some music into my IPOD mini and i was just wondering, what are song good songs i can put on it. I like everything except country and techno.i still like dance music tho.. So just gimme some songs people! THanks!

April Sixth- Dear Angel
Fallout Boy- Of all the Gin Joints in all the world
Something Corporate- Space
Acceptance- I miss you
Relient K- Sadie Hawkins Dance
Senses Fail- Bloody Romance
Armor for Sleep- My town
Brand New- Jude Law and a Semester Abroad
From First to Last- My heart your hands

hope these helped ya!

OK for the past couple of days i have kind of had feelings for, well my kind of friend. WE have been playing night games for the past couple of days and i know that he likes me by the way he acts. How do give signs that i want to hook up wiht him but it shouldnt meen anything? Anybody know! I rate high for actual answers.

first make sure that you brought up in a convo that you like friends with benefits or no strings attached. if he knows you like that then go in for the kill. mess with him, touch him, etc. if you see that he starts picking up the signs maybe you should repeat the friends w/ benefits thing so he remembers.

hope this helped a lil :)

I have had my girlfriend for 2 and a half years.... she recently had a crush on someone else who she had been spending quite alot of time with lately.... she didnt tell me about the crush, and he also happened to like her. Instead of telling me, she flirted with him, and she told him she liked him and he kissed her. She said she pushed him away and said that she couldnt kiss him because she loves me. She continued to hang around this guy hoping that situation would blow over. It didnt and he kissed her 2 more times(She kissed back a little bit before pushing him away these times) and continued to spend time with him. I didnt find this out until one of the guys friends told me about it. I confronted her and she told me the situation i had just described. She says she is really sorry and that she didnt want to hurt me and she loved me and didnt know why she kept up with this other guy. She then called him telling him that she cant ever speak with him again. I am very confused on whether or not i should break up with her because I love her so much. On the other hand im scared this could happen again. Should i break up and throw two and a half years down the drain or try and fix this up. She also seemed very sincere in her apology.....

the problem with your partner going with someone else once means that they are prone to do it again. once they "cheat" even for the lamest reason they can do it again. the whole mindset behind it is that they went looking for someone different. they actually hung out with someone different.

im not saying that you shouldnt give her another chance. but you should strongly think about this. she kissed another guy... remember. do you think you could continue to be her b/f knowing that she did?!? if you can then more power to you. if you cant ..well you kno wut to do

hope this helped :)

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