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I'm Ashley, I'm currently studying nursing in college and hoping to deliver babies one day :) I'm terribly obsessed with my best friend and sister. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few years now and I am busy being 21 and juggling 3 jobs :)

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17F

So I like this girl from work. She is just a very refreshing person to talk to and be around, not to mention I think she's incredibly beautiful. It started off with pure infatuation but has calmed down a bit. So I have a couple questions I need answered.

1. She is 21 and I am 17, is that too much of an age difference? I turn 18 in August
2. She agreed to go to prom with me as a "friend" but she already had her prom so is there something more there? She seems into it. Already got her dress, wants to go pick out corsages...
3. Should I make a move? I already told her how I felt and she said on occasions she felt a little more for me than just a friend but isn't sure if she could be in a romantic relationships with a girl (she has hooked up with girls only) I was thinking maybe if I take her on a date, it could open up her mind


Any other comments, just make them :)

1. Be smart about sleeping together and know the age of consent wherever you are from. Aside from that, a couple years difference isn't a big deal.

2. There could be something more there. Don't put too much pressure on the night and see how it goes.

3. I would try to ask her on a date to talk about prom, and shop together. The best dates are small fun things that you do with your friends. Aside from that, she's going on a "date" with you to prom, so there is nothing wrong with getting together before then!

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I have been talking to a friend of my brothers for a few months now. We have been hanging out for the past couple weeks. The first time we had sex was almost four weeks ago. I haven't gotten my period since, and I have been feeling a little nauseous. I told him over the weekend that I might be pregnant and he told me he's not ready for a baby and it's bad timing because we are not really dating, but he would be there for me if it's definitely his kid. My brother found out about us hanging out and he told me to be careful because he said he's really shady and he doesn't want him to hurt me. I don't know whether to believe my brother or not because he really seems like a great guy. I don't know what to do. If I am pregnant, I'm horrified that he's going to leave and my family is going to disown me. And I don't know whether or not to take my brothers warnings seriously. I just need a little advice. What should I do about both of these things?

Go buy a pregnancy test and take it to put your mind at ease. If it's positive, make sure you talk to the guy AND your brother. There's plenty of options from there, but make sure that you take the pregnancy test so you can stop stressing about it.

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So i am 15 Years old, and people in my year have started becoming more sexual. There is a guy i know and like who wants to do more than kissing but i am too insecure about my vagina to do anything. It hangs down alot and im worried he will be grossed out. Help:(

Boys are pretty dense. If HE is lucky enough to see your privates, then he won't be worried how it looks. Don't be afraid to voice your insecurities. If he doesn't make you feel better about them, than you shouldn't get sexual with him.

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Im 13, I'm a girl , The story starts in year 9 (8th grade) when i first gave a hj , i was dating this guy for a week, 1 week later , when i was still dating this guy, i gave another guy a hand job during a R.S lesson.then me and this guy broke up.
a month ago i was peer pressured/begged/forced into giving a guy i had spoken to once a blow job , he hasn't spoken to me since.
today a guy friend came round and we were watching a movie and we started making out , he then put his hands down my pants and fingered me, i let him and he did it 9 times , i also gave him 3 hand jobs. I'm still 13 , I'm turning 14 soon . does this make me a slut?

You're only a slut if you feel like a slut. However you can easily get a slutty reputation if you keep letting boys use you. I was in a similar situation at 13 and when you get older, you'll look back and wonder how you could do that.

Just remember, its important to keep yourself happy and healthy, not the boys. If you feel nasty after hooking up, don't hook up. Boys will respect you more if you say no and you'll be able to get a quality guy instead of someone who is only into getting some.

Good luck! Please let me know what happens!

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if my teen daughter sends a picture of herself to a guy she knows in her underwear and bra, should i allow her a new cell phone or no?

Depending on your carrier, you can block picture messaging, call your phone carrier and ask them about it.

And I wouldn't do it because shes abusing the privilege of having a cell phone. She's underage and could get in a lot of trouble for these pictures as well as damage her reputation. Its important to make sure that she understands the repercussions.

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I have been dating this girl for a couple months now and took her virginity. She said she doesn't regret having sex with me, but regrets the decision she made due to her religious views. I can see the sadness in her eyes and it kills me. I have this sick feeling in my stomach as if I should have not let this happened. I really like her but now I feel as if I will always be the guy who she relates to the bad decision she made. I really dont know what to do.
Ive attempted comforting her and making her feel better, in which I do believe I did help her out a little bit, but I still feel sad that she is disappointed in her self.

What can I do?
How can I help her?

Just be there for her. Make sure you talk when she wants and express your understanding. She's confused because shes been taught that sex is wrong and its hard for her to justify things to herself. Make sure she knows that you are there for her no matter what and that if she doesn't want to have sex again, you'll still be there.

You'll do great, obviously youre important to her and you've got to make sure she knows how much she means to you! Good lucky!

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I am a shy guy. I dont know why I am that way but I lack this confidence to initiate a talk with any girl. Too many questions come to my mind and its gone.

One thing that bothers me is what is the usual or normal duration of an intercourse excluding the time spent on the fore-play.

I am curious because first and the last time I had an intercourse, it lasted merely 1 minute. Is it a normal duration as a first timer or how is it.
What effect does masturbation has or will have on this duration?

What are the possible solutions to enhance the duration of intercourse?
How can I improve my confidence?

Its normal for your first couple times to be quick and its important that your partner knows that and understands that building your stamina together is important.

If you masturbate before, typically you'll go longer. But it isn't always about duration, focus on your partner during foreplay and get them off.

Use thicker condoms, if you aren't using condoms, use them. They will desensitize your penis and make the sensations less intense. Another method is to pull out during sex when you feel your orgasm building and just kiss or fool around without penetration. Try to think of things that turn you off when you get close, its not always effective but you can try it.

Ultimately, experience is the best way to improve duration. Sex is still new and it takes some adjustment for you before it gets a little less exciting!

Good luck!

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I work in a laboratory. Here one of our great benefits is getting free health care! They are now offering the IUD to women for birth control for free. I would like to know what the good and the bad are on this? I am currently on the depo and have been for over a year, before that I took birth control pills. Any info would be great! Thanks(:

As a former depo user, I'd try to stay away. I ended up gaining a lot of weight.

As for an IUD, I hear great things as long as you use a back up method. I have had two friends who didn't use condoms with it and ended up pregnant because the IUD shifted. It is important to use condoms for that reason!

Good luck!

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Hi there.

I'm 19/F and I'm in college to become a Labor and Delivery Nurse. A classmate of mine got pregnant at 16 and had a daughter named Katelyn. When she was around 7 months old, she would bring her to my house and leave her with me for weeks, and weeks at a time. I woke up with her whenever she cried, I fed her healthy, ect. I fell in love with that little girl. Well, just recently, when she was a year and a half, that girl brought Katelyn over again, and she stayed for two months straight. I tought her her colors, numbers, and body parts.



Ever since then, I have fell in love with kids. I've been lookin online but so far no luck. Anyone know where I could find a job babysitting? I have my own transportation, I have a very reliable, flexiable schedule, ect.


Any ideas?

I have been nannying privately for 2 years and I find jobs through the job board at my college, they're a great source. I also got a job in the campus daycare where I networked and began doing night time sitting which gave me some good references.

However, when I really was starting to go into regular sitting I started using the child care websites like sittercity .com as well as care .com. Personally, I have more luck with care as opposed to sittercity.

Good luck and make sure when you interview to be completely honest and professional!

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18/f
Okay so I'm seeing this guy and we slept together once. Now, I don't want to do that (and he knows) . The farthest I wanna go is making out, but it makes me SO wet. How can i get the most of making out and not go back on my word about sleeping with him?!

It's important to reinforce that you won't go further, even if he knows it. Make sure you control it from just making out, and if it gets close to going past, stop making out and find something else to do!

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when you shave down there, how do you make it not itch??

Whenever you shave down there, use a face wash after to prevent ingrown hairs. If they still occur, use aloe Vera to sooth the itching.

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ok so in 5th grade like 3 years ago me, my bestfriend,her brother and my guy friend played truth or dare at night. we did alot of dirty stuff like kissing the guys and letting each other see our private parts. im moving to 8th grade now and i have a new bestfriend i met last year. she is trustable but i feel like i should wait more to tell her about that night. i only told her we played truth or dare and we did stuff i wouldnt like to talk about and i have a feeling she knows what it is . is it okay to do that stuff ? im still a virgin , but i feeel like others done worse than me so i dont feel that bad . what should i do about the trust issues help me ! teenks (:

If you and your new friend are close there should be no judging and like others have said you were young and made a mistake. Once you feel comfortable telling her and the time is right, it'll just happen and you'll feel a lot better :)

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ok this question is for my best gal friend :](jen for this website)

jen broke up with her boyfriend about 1 month ago and she feels she is ready to move on. i support her in finding a new guy. how should she go along with showing interest in a new guy? jen is interested is one guy in school but she isn't sure if he is single or not...should she ask? or just let things go....?

She should get to know him and once she feels comfortable, just ask if he's single. and depending on his answer, proceed from there. If he says he's single, just act more flirty.

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i like this guy. i shouldn't say like because i haven't had much of a chance to get to know him. i thought everything was going good. he flirted with me in school. and we hung out at sporting events. than he kind of stop showing interest in me and more in another girl my age who im calling sam for now. im not very close with sam but i say hey when i see her and ive never had a problem with her....until now...i find her irritating and conceited. i don't know, i think it could just be jealousy but im not sure. what should i do?

well, if you weren't really close with her, you can just pretend not to notice her, and ignore the little things that annoy you. continue to be nice to her even though she annoys you.

and if you really like this boy, keep talking to him and see where it goes, it can't hurt to keep talking to both of them!

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Okay so hi =)
I'm 16/f and I need some sex advice as the topic says.
My boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other (sort of) last month and I want to do it again BUT the right way this time. You see when we tried to have sex before, it didn't go in all the way. It kind of hurt but for the most part it was an uncomfortable feeling. Probably because I'm not used to a penis being in there I assume. My question is how can I make it more comfortable for us next time and more enjoyable? Any real help would be useful.

A lot of foreplay before hand helps make things easier, and use lubricated condoms! Also, make sure you're in a comfortable position, even try being on top because you'll control the speed, and how deep it goes in!

Also, since it was your first time, it was uncomfortable, you get used to it more after a couple of times.

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Okay so long story short, my brother is a drug addict and he has been through so much and it has had such an impact on my life. numerous times he's been brought back to life and i've seen him be taken away by the cops and he has spent years in jail. it all started when i was about 13 and i am 18 now, he is 23. I want to get a tattoo the symbolizes my love for my brother and how i support him and even how strong i had to be through all of this. it has had such an impact on my life and i already have one tattoo on my ribs so i just want a smaller one now. so any ideas would really help i just can't think of anything to symbolize what ive gone through with him, i almost considered strength in cursive on my neck but i want something more than that, something more meaningful

One of my girlfriend's got 3 flowers intertwined which each one symbolized her siblings and their initials would made within her tattoo, it looked really cute.

I have the infinity symbol with my brother's initials on my ankle.

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What's YOUR view on long distance relationships?
xx

I'm in a super long distance relationship, and I have never been happier. I love my boyfriend, and we only see each other every couple months, but we trust each other fully and I know he's not cheating or anything. We talk on skype everyday.

I'm not saying it's easy, or that I don't have my doubts, I just think you need to certain type of person to be in an LDR, and if you can handle it, it is well worth it.

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One of my best friends got a colored tattoo about the size of a fist on his shoulder and said it cost $250, the place was really nice and they charged by the hour. I'll be getting one on my hip that's about one inch by 4 inches in black and grey tones. Any predictions on the cost? The parlor was rated 5 stars in multiple reviews that I found, it's not the same one my friend went to. I've already emailed them but I haven't gotten a response.

The base cost is $50 because you pay for the needle. You should just go to the parlor and ask the artist to give you an estimation.

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I cant really get my hands on any KY jelly, so what are some other lubes I can use to give a hand job?

Vaseline and Vegtable oil.

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i'm 15 and i was just wondering i really think that the male penis is disgusting, i felt my boyfriends through his jeans and cringed in repulsion. i really thought it was gross ya know, is that normal?

A lot of my friends had the same reaction.

The whole idea is kind of disgusting at first, you just kind of get used to it as time goes on :)

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