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I think I'm pregnant
I have been talking to a friend of my brothers for a few months now. We have been hanging out for the past couple weeks. The first time we had sex was almost four weeks ago. I haven't gotten my period since, and I have been feeling a little nauseous. I told him over the weekend that I might be pregnant and he told me he's not ready for a baby and it's bad timing because we are not really dating, but he would be there for me if it's definitely his kid. My brother found out about us hanging out and he told me to be careful because he said he's really shady and he doesn't want him to hurt me. I don't know whether to believe my brother or not because he really seems like a great guy. I don't know what to do. If I am pregnant, I'm horrified that he's going to leave and my family is going to disown me. And I don't know whether or not to take my brothers warnings seriously. I just need a little advice. What should I do about both of these things?
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I agree with everyone on here by making sure if you are or arnt pregnant first thing. If you are pregnant dont worry im sure your family wont disown you, but do not just throw your brothers advice to the side because no matter what usually your siblings have your back no matter what. But, what everyone isnt telling you about being pregnant and not being together with the father, being so young the father probably will not stick around, but DONT WORRY you can do it by yourself. Go to family court regardless if the father stays or not because you want to establish visiting rights and support. You can go to your local social services and get help from them. I am a single mother and my daughters father has nothing to do with her what so ever that is why family court helps. But, just because you take thewm to court it doesnt guarentee the father will do visitations or pay support its a very sticky situation. Dont hide anything from your parents or your siblings family is the only thing you can count on. Let me know if iv helped and if you need anything else on this topic i am very knowledgable on single parenthood. Single meaning you are not married.
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First find out if your pregnant. Get two home pregnancy tests. Take the first one, hopefully it is negative, even if it is or if it is positive test again in two weeks. If the results are the same then believe the results.
The biggest reason for a woman to miss their period is stress any type of stress. Worry over being pregnant is certainly enough stress to cause you to miss a period. You don't say whether or not any protection such as a condom was used. If you did not use protection that only increases the stress.
Hopefully you are over the age of 14, you did not give your age. IF you are pregnant and over the age of 14 one worry you don't have is being forced to do anything you don't want to. By federal law anyone over the age of 14 has total medical confidentiality over their reproductive systems. This means your parents have no say in forcing you to have an abortion or not to have one. It will be your decision.
Now should you decide to have the baby and to keep the baby you need to see a lawyer. The father, and possibly his parents until he becomes of legal age, have certain responsibilities to your child. The lawyer will explain what these responsibilities' are and do the legal paperwork to have the court orders issued to see to it that he or his parents provide the child support and other support required by law to the child.
As to your parents disowning you. Every girl feels just as you are feeling. It is extremely rare for a parent to disown or kick their child out of the house. Remember regardless of all else it is their grandchild you are carrying if you are pregnant.
Will they be upset with you? Yes I'm sure they will. Will there be some yelling and screaming? Very likely though when the yelling and screaming is over they will focus on what is in the best interest of you and their grandchild.
The one thing I do not recommend is you and the boy getting married if that is even possible in your state based on your ages. The boy does not sound like good husband material and shotgun weddings as they were once called never last and you can be hurt physically and mentally if you do marry him at what I assume is your early ages.
Last, yes you do have to tell your parents if you are pregnant, It is not good for you or the baby if you try to hide your pregnancy. If you are going to go through with the pregnancy you need regular check ups to make sure you and the baby are healthy. Remember you and that boy made the baby the baby did not ask to be made. IF you decide to go through with the pregnancy then you need to do everything you can to deliver a healthy baby even if you do not plan to keep it.
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Before you worry about all of that which could cause you to miss your period take a test. If it's negative in 2 more weeks of you haven't had your period take another test. Believe your brother he is looking out for you. I don't agree that your family is going to disown you but don't hide it if you find out you are indeed pregnant be honest and tell them. Good luck.
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Go buy a pregnancy test and take it to put your mind at ease. If it's positive, make sure you talk to the guy AND your brother. There's plenty of options from there, but make sure that you take the pregnancy test so you can stop stressing about it.
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